I’m sick of feeling self-conscious every time someone brings up the burden of student loans. I dread being asked what I plan to do after graduation about paying them back. Sometimes I lie. Sometimes I make up a line about praying I find a great job or can pay off my loans by working for the government.
But I’m sick of lying. I’m sick of feeling ashamed for being privileged.
I am in graduate school and am debt free. I have Baby Boomer parents who work hard and did much better than they ever expected in their careers. They wanted to pay for my college and graduate school. They demanded to pay for my college and graduate school.
I work hard. I earned partial scholarships in college and graduate school. I work a part-time job, babysit, and go to school full-time. I am earnestly applying for jobs and I look forward to a career in public service.
I want to stop lying about the suits I buy for my internship. I want to stop saying they are hand me down’s from my cousin. I want to be able to say thank you when I receive a compliment on them. I was taught that you should always dress for the job you want, not the job you have. I want to be taken seriously at my internship and look professional—and I have the resources to buy nice-looking suits and have my hair professionally highlighted.
I’m tired of justifying my address and the backlash I receive when I tell people I am a student and live in a high-rise apartment. I’m tired of the looks my doorman gives me when he hands me my package (of work clothes) delivered from J.Crew.
So stop making me feel like I’ve done something wrong. Stop making me feel like I am less deserving. I didn’t ask to be born into this kind of circumstance and I’m tired of being judged for it.
I’m not asking for sympathy, I’m asking for people to lay off. There is always enough money in my bank account and I’m not sorry that is my situation. I understand the value of a dollar. I am not wasteful. I understand the overwhelming financial burdens of others and I highly encourage people to openly bitch about it. That blows. But your situation doesn’t change my situation. I am responsible and fortunate for the resources I have. I’ll respect your background if you respect mine.
When people speak against sexism, racism, fat phobia, rape culture etc.. and you feel the need to take that personally and say shit like “apparently being straight and white makes me a bad person.” You are LITERALLY proving that you are a fucking bad person. Not everything is about you, people do not have to give a fuck about your straight white privileged ass when they are speaking about their own experiences and oppression. The god damn white whining I see on this website (and the rest of the world really) by straight white men only furthers my belief that they are babies incapable of analytical thought or empathy. Grow the fuck up.
Oh well, let’s stop the world for little Brayden and Mackenzie and their malnourished diets.
This is why I no longer work customer service. I am old and cranky and I do not have time for women like this. The customer is NOT always right…and by that same token, neither is the service worker. Why? Because we’re humans and humans make mistakes. If you ordered red peppers and they put green peppers on it instead, oops! They made a mistake. They are really sorry about it. At least, they would have been really sorry about it if you try not to act like a total cunt because something went wrong.
You can tell a lot about someone on a date by how they treat customer service workers around them. I have legitimately walked out in the middle of a meal because this dude was being an asshole to the waiter who brought him a regular baked potato instead of a baked sweet potato. How hard is it to say “oh hey, I ordered the sweet potato” as opposed to “Are you hard of hearing? Do you understand English? What is so hard about getting my order correct?”
This garbage woman is obviously of the second tribe. And she can run smack dab into every closed door from here to Kingdom Come.
If you honestly think you're oppressed as a cisgender white male on tumblr I have a solution that will end it once and for all:
Log out of tumblr.
The fact that you equate criticism of cissexism, white supremacy and misogyny as oppression is really offensive to the people who actually suffer because of the culture that’s been established on the foundation that being white, cis and male puts you at an advantage over all else.
I can’t log out of being a black trans woman. Whether i engage in these conversations or not, I will always have to deal with the fact that I live in a society that is hostile towards black women and trans people.
So enjoy the privilege of logging out of your oppression and stay out my inbox. Thanks.