which was actually acceptable

The interesting thing about the Hogwarts Houses personality theory, from where I’m standing, is that it seems to be based on motivation, rather than what’s strictly considered by the academic world to be personality traits. (It’s interesting because motivation is considered fairly changeable by personality researchers, while traits are more fundamental/biologically based and hard to change. Makes Dumbledore’s I sometimes think we sort too soon that more plausible. And painful.)

Anyway, let me give this a go:

Gryffindors are motivated by what they believe is Right. They’ve got a very clear idea of justice, of the way things should be, and if that isn’t the case they are willing to fight for it. Gryffindors have principles. They will go to war over the things they believe in. But this also means they might just as well become fundamentalists. As someone put it, a gryffindor will happily fuck you up if they believe they’re doing the Right Thing.

Huffepuffs are motivated by loyalty. They put personal relationships above abstract ideas. Huffelpuffs will follow you into battle not because they believe in what you’re saying, but because they are your friend. On the other hand, this may also lead to a my master right or wrong kind of situations, where they stop thinking about moral principles and just trust the person they’ve chosen as a friend. 

Ravenclaws are motivated by rationality. They value cold logic and hard facts, and are unlikely to be swept along by passionate speeches or emotional pleas. They’re the type to consider the benefits and disadvantages for all when making decisions. Again, this can be potentially scary, because -for example- Ravenclaws would kill you without any hesitation if they believed it could prevent the death of others.

And finally, Slytherins are motivated by self-interest and ambition. They’re moral relativists, who don’t believe in the great Right or Wrong (the way Gryffindors very strongly do) and wouldn’t hesitate to do things others would consider morally wrong as long as it’s in their advantage. Sounds evil, but it isn’t necessarily so: it means just as much that a Slytherin can be charming and loyal - being hated and despised isn’t exactly a good thing, is it? It all depends on what kind of ambitions they have - and how smart they are, of course.

Seen like that, Ravenclaws and Slytherin are quite close to each other, both being cold rationalists, with the difference that Ravenclaws think firstly of the good of all, while Slytherins think firstly of the good for themselves. And Hufflepuff and Gryffindor are quite close too, both led by their emotions, but while Gryffindors are loyal to ideas of right and wrong, Hufflepuffs pledge their allegiance to people they believe to be worth following.

Put shortly: Gryffindor: belief in ideas; Hufflepuffs: belief in people; Ravenclaw: belief in rationality; Slytherin: belief in themselves.

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Requested by anon

You weren’t sure what you thought would happen…perhaps that James would throw a fit and attack him when he found out…but you much preferred the actual outcome in which James rather easily accepted it and yet made it clear that any harm caused to you would be something that not only you would hex Sirius for but that James himself would hex him for.

exitromance  asked:

Killing Stalking isn't real, but people get so offended by fictional characters they just have to attack people who enjoy it. I kinda still wish that ks was a smaller, lesser known fandom so it would receive less hate.

I don’t get how some people say some really shitty things to real people over fictitious works. It happens in every fandom for the most part which is what is actually horrifying but ig it’s just accepted as a part of fandom culture so it would’ve happened either way with killing stalking. I’d rather the antis make a fool out of themselves since we, as a large group of ks fans, understand that what they say is bull shit rather than they target an individual or a smaller group of killing stalking fans who might actually take in the horrible things they say.

2. Battling Negativity

Sitting down to meditate for the first time in over 20 years was a bit daunting. In the past I had assumed meditation was all about trying to escape from reality - negative thoughts were the enemy and the idea was to blot them out in order to reach a state of bliss. This time around I had done a fair bit of reading* before I started which helped me to understand that the actual idea was to accept reality rather than trying to avoid it. Thoughts were not the enemy they were just a phenomenon that I had to understand as part of my experience. But how could I accommodate all of the negative thoughts that kept flying at me? I didn’t like them or the way that they made me feel, and if I accepted them I was also accepting the terrible stories I was creating about myself. Surely it was only natural to push negativity away or try to battle it with positive thinking.

I closed my eyes and tried to focus on my breathing as instructed, and sure enough all the thoughts I had been trying to suppress jumped straight up and started clamouring for attention like hyperactive toddlers. Worse than the thoughts themselves were the judgements I was making about them: “Why am I thinking this? What’s wrong with me? What does thinking like this say about me? I bet nobody else has these thoughts. Everybody else would just be able to sit here peacefully and meditate.” All the books and articles told me that this was also perfectly normal and that it’s our self-critical reactions to the thoughts that are the real culprit (leading to self-doubt, anxiety, low moods, anger and so on) rather than the thoughts themselves. Thoughts were just harmless stories that the mind plays out to occupy itself. In order to suffer less from them they don’t need to be battled, but they do need to be faced, and our relationship with them changed. So I persevered…

My first few attempts followed a pattern like this: focusing on my breathing … mental chatter distracting me away and sending me on long trains of thought … taking an age to realise I had got carried off by my thoughts … harshly judging myself for not being able to maintain focus on breathing … feeling like a failure … going back to the breath … repeat repeat repeat. Some sessions felt like 95% trains of thought and 5% focus. Disheartening yes, but again the books were telling me that this was all to be expected and that however well or badly I felt the session was going was pretty irrelevant, I was doing myself some good just by watching how my mind was working. It wasn’t about achieving a goal but just practising and practising in order to build up mental muscle, like going to the gym. No pain no gain. And every time I noticed that my mind had wandered from my breathing it was like flexing that muscle and strengthening it.

Despite the early stumbling blocks it didn’t take long for me to start to see a gap appearing between my thoughts and myself. I was noticing my thoughts arise, observing them and the impact they were having on me, and then watching them disintegrate. It was deeply uncomfortable at times but the idea started to filter through that I was not my thoughts and that attaching to, or identifying with them (particularly the negative ones) was the cause of all the problems. Just this revelation provided such a sense of relief that I redoubled my intentions to continue with meditation and establish a daily practice. If my thoughts were not me then I didn’t need to take them so seriously. If they came and went without me doing anything about it (I didn’t ask them to come or even to go) then I could start to see them as just events occurring in my brain that were interesting and observable rather than deeply meaningful or a cause for concern.

Anxiety** tends to arise from a thought about the future - typically a ‘what if’ thought. Attaching to this idea and ruminating on it can cause tension and stress. An uncontrollable future event that our logical mind sees as a ‘problem’ that it needs to ‘solve’, coupled with a strong desire to control these events, allows a vicious circle to build which leaves us trapped in our anxious mood. Letting go of our need to control the future goes a long way towards relieving anxiety - and the first step is to go right back to the initial ‘what if’ thought and see it as just another thought, no more true or important or meaningful than any other. Once this process is set in motion it becomes easier to take thoughts, feelings, stories and concepts less personally. 

None of this happens overnight of course, building mental muscle is just like any other exercise regime: the benefits are a cumulative thing. But also like exercise, those benefits are noticeable very early on and can provide further incentive to keep going. A tough session with lots of swirling thoughts might be the equivalent of doing an extra-tough workout with all the corresponding benefits. 

The changing relationship I had with my thoughts started to filter through to my everyday experience. I was becoming more relaxed and able to cope with the normal ups and downs of life without getting carried away by streams of worrying thoughts and feelings. Thoughts were no longer my enemy and I devised a particular way of encountering them in my meditation practice that has carried over into my daily life. When a thought appears, no matter what it is, how annoying, recurring, uncomfortable, ridiculous, infuriating, pointless, boring or whatever I try and treat it in the same way: First I Acknowledge it (it is happening whether I like it or not - there it is), then I Allow it (different from acknowledgement, it has arrived so now it needs to be allowed to do its thing), and finally I Accept it (crucially without judgement - acceptance of thoughts, like all aspects of reality, is the key to finding ease of being). It’s not an exact science, but letting thoughts in, letting them exist, and accepting them without judgement allows them to pass more freely. Let it in, let it be, let it go. 

Initially using meditation as a coping strategy for dealing with anxiety and battling those negative thoughts has opened up a whole new way of perceiving the world to me, and introduced me to that annoying buzzword of ‘mindfulness’ which is what I’m going to focus on in my next post. 

Thanks for listening.


*My early reading included books by Ed Halliwell, Mark Williams and Eckhart Tolle along with numerous web articles. I am still a voracious reader on the subject along with continuing my daily practice.

**Once again I can only talk about my own experience of anxiety. It can be vastly different for each individual, and meditation is not always initially appropriate. 

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The Blacklist Rewatch: Berlin Conclusion
You can turn away and run from it. You can hide from it. And if you choose to do that, I’ll fly away. Or you can face it and confront it. Engage it. And maybe, maybe… you prevail and rise above it.

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Someone finally did it. They broke down the Patronus Test to its full 38 questions. I won’t lie… I really like this.

the did/osdd/multiple/median/etc. community is so messy like. theres huge problems on both sides of the community

you have one side that is incredibly misinformed, mostly younger people discovering themselves and figuring out what this whole community is about but will adopt and use any term they see that fits without knowing actual accepted medical and psychological terminology, which causes a lot of confusing between systems in the community. especially with people thinking that people with bpd can have facets and not understanding the difference between two disorders. these people tend to easily get manipulated by older people in the community who are also misinformed. then they stick with the terminology with heard initially, believing it to be fact, without taking any of it with a grain of salt.

then on the other side we have people who are either slightly or extremely anti-self diagnosis and insist psychologists/psychiatrists are the most valuable asset to people like us (many still acknowledge the abuse in the system though) but seem to think therapy and “getting help” is whats most important when for most people this is just not an option. Many of them also seem to think that the young people on here who identify as systems are “kids testing out their new roleplaying characters” (sorry for not remembering where i heard that) because they tend to be misinformed. Not to mention the total disregard for systems who have delusions that intersect with their beliefs about their own bodies.

These issues tend to push so many people out of the community and push more and more systems into confusion, and it kind of needs to be addressed. don’t get me wrong, im self diagnosed, and anti-psychiatry, but i think the science behind this all matters, as does our own input. 

Whether you have did/osdd or just id as a multiple/median etc. we’re all systems and we all need to stick together and work together. We already have enough problems with neurotypical people not believing us for who we are and not supporting/helping us, we do not to fight within our own community. 

attempts to visually portray straight, lesbian and gay couples as ~similar and equal~ are always so awkward.

straighties must be centered and in full embrace, but there’s this special etiquette for straights kissing other straights of the same sex: DO NOT LET THE BODIES TOUCH. just bend in an unnatural way, like when you’re kissing that rich grandma you hate. (better still if there’s a little space between your lips.)

clothing is another red flag. gender MUST be exaggerated. it’s ideal if the men are carbon copies of each other. the women playing lesbians must be especially feminine with long hair, high heels and short skirts. better hide your boner, whoever designed this.

for straights to be able to visualize us as similar to them, that is, non-threatening (which they call “equal”), any traces of visible gayness must be eliminated. the only thing that can suggest lesbianism or gayness is the kissing part, which is merely a symbol for acceptance and equality, devoid of actual feelings or passion.

that’s what true equality looks like: everyone looks comfortably straight, and gay kisses are just a performance meant to evoke positive feelings in the liberal, open-minded heterosexual viewer who identifies as a progressive. most important of all, you never have to see actual lgbtq people being affectionate or sexual.

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You know, this was the first time that we’ve seen Hook of the present days treating Emma the way he did in Camelot, rather than being the dark one.

From spoilers we knew that this episode will represent a change of his tactic from pulling “tough love” on her (which I was 100% supportive of) to actually accepting her.

I thought what could be the thing to make him flip, and I also consider the possibility that he was playing her in order to know her plans. But the answer was much clearer than that. He simply changed the way he treat her because for the first time since they returned to Storybrook he actually sees his Emma there in front of him.

Like he said, the person who saved him was Emma! The one seducing him in her house and later on the ship was not. Back there he could see her manipulations, he saw she wasn’t the same. But here, at that moment when she saw his life was at stake, she reacted like the Emma that he knows, the Emma that he loves.

This was all that he needed for her, a sign that she’s still there, that it’s still her. And for that person he would do anything in the world! Including being with her as the dark one. 

There’s been plenty of meta about Dean potentially having deeply rooted internalized homophobia, which would be an obstacle to accepting his bisexuality. But has anybody actually talked about Cas’s own version of that?

“She’s a Nephilim, an abomination.” That’s what Metatron says about Jane in 8.22, Clip Show. It is anathema for angels to have children with humans. And if that is the case, it’s not a stretch to think that any angel/human action is considered wrong and sinful by angelic standards. It’s even less of a stretch because of the vehement disdain and disgust Metatron has for Jane – Metatron, on Earth for literally millennia, is so disgusted by the offspring of an angel and a human that he calls Jane by nothing but abomination. 

So think about it. Cas knows that it’s not just against angel law (”She’s the offspring of an angel and a human? I thought that wasn’t allowed.”) but that socially, he’d be screwed. The family that he still believes in would definitely reject him if they found out he was in love with Dean Winchester, and not only because it’s Dean Fucking Winchester. Because it is so WRONG for angels to have any feelings, much less loving ones, much much less toward humans. Some angels (looking at you, Uriel) have a borderline racist view of humanity while others are more tolerant but still (like Hannah) consider love and affection to be ‘for humans’ and not for angels. 

Now remember that not only is this the environment that Cas lived in since his creation, but that he’s been brainwashed multiple times just to keep him from being too close to Dean humanity. If the notion that loving a human were as bad, foreign and frightening for an angel as being bi would be for a man so influenced by his father and situation as Dean, it’s perfectly understandable why Cas wouldn’t make a move either; he’s already so estranged from his family and it’s probably a deeply internalized feeling for him, that the love he feels might actually be wrong after all. 

10. 

SEE IT’S PARTY TIME THOSE EDITS WERE TOTALLY RELEVANT YES THEY WERE. 

I would also like to point out that my exaggerations about Suzuran’s inner monologue weren’t even that far off. 

She’s throwing a party and giving a speech to the whole circus troupe and what she chooses to say is “Another performance is a big success! The audience really loved the show! And we weren’t interrupted but those aWFUL PEOPLE FROM THE JINJA.”

THAT IS THE FIRST PLACE HER MIND GOES. 

But Karen knows what’s up. She knows what you really mean, Suzuran. She knows.  

At first I thought it was Sakura being embarassed, but no it’s Syaoran isn’t it? How did they dress him? I’m going to love this aren’t I. Oh man. Oh man. 

Oh my god. 

I LOVE CLAMP. 

THE PROPHECY. 

THE PROPHECY HAS BEEN FULFILLED. 

Just a quick note

Any confessions regarding the recent Terrorist attacks in France and  comparing them to the actions of a character from a nearly 4 year old game will NOT be accepted.

Any confessions comparing a certain character from a nearly four year old game and calling him derogatory to terms which relate to an actual race/religion in this world will NOT be accepted.

We do not wish to cause any discomfort to people to the people who lived in the countries affected by this and we also are not going post inflammatory confessions about Muslims.

Thanks for reading.

Senior Mod Commander and Mod LC

New Theory

Guys, I was talking to my uncle and my sister about this season of TWD. My uncle brought up the subject of Rick’s bread and how the season is going a bit slow so that we would get used to the new characters and he’s right, especially when my sister claimed that Rick shaving his bread is like going back to season   one. And that’s where it clicked.

 In season 1, we were introduced to new characters that are now part of the group who the Grimes (Lori and Carl) survived with and with everyone believing  that Rick is dead, since he’s been hospitalized and induced into a coma…which is actually similar to Beth. 

Everyone will settle down, already accepting that she is dead (besides Daryl, obviously) and then she will awaken and find Morgan just like how Rick did. It’s really fishy that they haven’t shown Morgan since Coda and that has to mean something. 

The music box from “Them” is also significant like how Daryl fixed the music box and when Maggie and Sasha got a hold of it they just believed that it didn’t work anymore, so they gave up on it…just like Beth…and then the music box played, surprising them both since it was completely random. And then there’s Daryl who been mourning for so long…longer than his own brother Merle. They wouldn’t show that for a while for nothing if it didn’t mean anything. There’s just so much foreshadowing from the episode ‘Clear’ to Judith’s 'death’ to her gunshot wound to Lizzie and even more.

Beth Greene is alive.

Up and Coming

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Tony had been legitimately incredulous when he’d been approached by Strucker. Given the man had a hate-on for him, he was thus, admittedly, sort of paranoid with the offer in question of a person, a non-American person that he had to sort out documentation for without touching any shady contacts at that, was presented. 

Also, he seriously could not afford for SHIELD’s loyalists to catch wind of his… work at the moment either. Sure, there were HYDRA in SHIELD, bust most of those weren’t his, and the few that were were incredibly carefully placed and helped him cover any little slips that would alert the bigger part of the factions. It was better they treat him like the free agent he preferred to be seen as.

Which, hilariously, is what made him actually accept the offer of the girl. He figured, after some consideration, that it was some kind of ploy to out him and set SHIELD on his head. He could definitely live with that. 

Still, she was… young. Painfully young, a teenager, really, and now that he was face to face with her, albeit with her coming off a rather long flight, he had no idea what to do with her. They weren’t in public, thank god, but he couldn’t very well stick her in the normal places where Tony Stark, or even Iron Man, went.

“So hi. You’re, uh, younger than I expected?”

demon lawyers!

So in a world where demon summoning is a widespread and socially accepted phenomenon (the extent to which this is actually true in this AU seems to vary between stories but w/e) there would totally be professional demon lawyers. Not “demons who are lawyers” but “people who perform a lawyer-like function pertaining to demons”. They would study language and logic and demonology, and they would advise clients on how to word their deals to minimize the demon’s ability to screw them over. Maybe even negotiate directly with the demon on a client’s behalf, if the demon would accept that. Given the high stakes involved in bargaining with demons, this would probably be a lucrative (if dangerous) job.