when will cis lesbians like Arielle Scarcella stop inserting themselves into a conversation that is NOT ABOUT THEM just so they can rant about their dating preferences and call it erasure
trans ppl are not demanding that you have sex with all of us. it’s not about you personally offending us by denying us sex. it’s not about force, coercion, or manipulation. it’s about calling you out on transphobic language. it’s about the fact that we don’t feel comfortable with cis people reducing our identities to our genitals. it’s about the fact that many of us feel EXTREMELY disconnected to our genitals, and having genitals that you feel uncomfortable with and then having someone tell you that you are un-fucakble (or only fuck-able) because of a part of your body you already didn’t like is a HORRIFIC experience.
trans women literally get MURDERED by people, and men with internalized homophobia use the “trans panic defense” to justify it. stop making it about you. nobody actually cares who you date or fuck, you’re just being asked to be aware of the language you use because it’s contributing to a problem that is much larger than you. it’s contributing to transphobia, to assaults, to death.
can y’all just take like.. 30 god damn seconds and THINK about why people are so upset with you right now? can you pause for a minute and acknowledge that maybe trans people telling you that you’re being transphobic means something? can you imagine a world in which everything isn’t centered around you, stop playing oppression olympics for a bit, and try to learn something?