which explains the lack of quality

Small talk falls on the other end of the continuum; it is speech that prioritizes social function. Think of this exchange: “How’s it going?” “Oh, pretty good.” There’s not zero semantic content in there — presumably “pretty good” excludes “dying at this exact moment,” so that’s some information. But the primary function of those speech acts is social, not to say something but to do something, i.e., make contact, reaffirm shared membership in a common tribe (whatever it may be), express positive feelings (and thus lack of threat), show concern, and so forth. These are not unimportant things, not “small” at all, really, but they are different from communicating semantic content.


Small talk — particularly in its purest form, phatic communion — is a context in which language has an almost ritualistic quality. The communication of ideas or information is secondary, almost incidental; the speech is mainly meant to serve the purpose of social bonding. It asks and answers familiar questions, dwells of topics of reliable comity, and stresses fellow feeling rather than sources of disagreement.

anonymous asked:

Whats the difference between a pastel ivory and a blue eyed lucy other than eye colour?

Genes! Blue eyed leucistics have a variety of morphs that composed them, all in the umbrella of the “BEL Complex”; stuff like mystic, mojave, russo, lesser, butter, etc.
Pastel ivory is a pastel homozygous yellowbelly. They lack the exact qualities that necessitate a leucistic, hence the soft pastel lavenders and yellows, and of course, eye color. There are, however, Black eyed leucistics, which are homozygous/“super” fires. ^^ hope this explains it!

INTJ vs. INFJ

Snape (INTJ) vs. Dumbledore (INFJ) !! Keep this in mind when you read the description below 

@twiqss somehow your ask got deleted, but here’s your response! 

INTJ vs. INFJ: Summary of Differences

INTJ: Ni-Te-Fi-Se

INFJ: Ni-Fe-Ti-Se

INTJs make decisions using objective logic (what’s objectively logical or efficient?). They also consider personal values.

INFJs make decisions using group-oriented values (how will this affect others?). They also consider personal logic

 How They’re Similar: Perceiving Functions

 INTJs and INFJs are both dominant Ni users. Ni is convergent intuition. This means that both types perceive the world by continuously reading between the lines and synthesizing new ideas into singular understanding. They are generally more interested in ideas than tangible things or experiences. 

Manifestations of dominant Ni include innovation, future oriented/visionary thinking, interest in the big picture over the details, speaking with purpose and insight, and a level of certainty about people or concepts that is difficult to explain (they often say that they “just know”).

These types also share inferior Se, which manifests as a lack of trust or interest in the physical world. This means both types can get caught up in their own heads, as well as not appear physically engaged or present in reality. At times they can be surprisingly agile, observant, and adaptable, but these are by no means their defining qualities. 

How They’re Different: Judging Functions

Decision-making is where INTJs and INFJs diverge.

INTJs decide primarily based on what’s objectively logical and efficient, while INFJs decide based on criteria related to the wants and needs of other people.

INTJ Decision Making: Te-Fi

INTJs seek logic, facts, truth, efficiency, and objective understanding. They “just know” using their dominant Ni, and then apply straightforward logic to bring their vision or understanding to life in the most efficient way possible.

Te: They tend to be blunt and direct. They generally are not worried about saying something offensive, because the truth is the truth. They are decisive and use logic to follow through with their plans. They can work steadily on a project for long periods of time without losing focus. Combined with the “just know” tendency of Ni and the “obvious truth” objective judgment criteria of Te, they are usually confident that their decisions are “correct.” Their advice giving style is simple, direct, and to the point.

Fi: INTJs also have deeply held personal values that they stick to with conviction. However, what differentiates them from higher Fi users it that INTJs only hold values they believe make objective sense. They use themselves as their point of reference for judgments about people, so unhealthy INTJs tend to have a hard time understanding why things that don’t offend them personally could offend other people. They are private about their emotions and usually aren’t quick to “open up”. They tend to be emotionally subdued (at least outwardly), and prefer to work through their emotions alone.

INFJ Decision Making: Fe-Ti

INFJs on the other hand tend to seek harmony, cohesion, morality, goodness, and understanding about people. They use their intuitive understanding and apply it to problems related to individuals, groups, and even ideals for humankind.

Fe: They are generally idealistic and good-natured. When healthy they seek harmony, cooperation, and strive for moral good that will benefit all involved. They are highly empathetic, being able to physically “feel” the emotions of others, and are good at intuitively reading people. They are quietly emotionally expressive and generally like to work through their emotions with other people. They are great listeners.

Ti: However, INFJs also look for internal logical consistency to make decisions. Things have to make sense to them. This can lead to a tendency to overthink - especially about the actions and motives of others. If unhealthy, this can lead to crippling anxiety. They are great mediators, being able to “feel” each side’s emotional experience and then determine what makes sense to move the situation forward.  They often give off a “dreamy” vibe of being lost in thought. 

Quick comparisons:  

INTJs are more interested in logic, while INFJs are more interested in people. 

INTJs reference themselves for value judgements, while INFJs reference others. 

INTJs will criticize your logic, INFJs will criticize your morals. 

INTJs are closet softies, INFJs are closet nerds. 

INTJs can be independent to a fault, INFJs can be idealistic to a fault. 

INTJs have strategic vision for efficiency, INFJs have strategic vision for peace. 

I watched all of “13 reasons why” over the last week because I got hooked on the storyline and like, everyone who watched part way through is saying “all her reasons were dumb and unrealistic” but no really they weren’t all trivial, there was some really heavy shit esp toward the end and a few of the smaller things were supposed to just add up / were further explained later, so I don’t think it was a “lack of realisticness” issue beyond some of the dialogue being corny and contrived cuz it’s just.. not great lol it’s only slightly better quality of production than riverdale which I couldn’t even get 3 episodes into (watch the get down instead of either of those shows) but the problem I did truly have with it were some of the ways they chose to show things that were careless and needlessly graphic + the not-thorough / nonexistent warnings for visceral rape scenes. 

I do also feel like there were a couple characters they were trying to redeem that shouldn’t have been redeemed like (rape mention) I do not care if that justin kid was poor and bryce helped him when he was being abused by his mom’s boyfriends, I’ve been in those same hard situations and I still don’t defend or cover for sexual predators lmao. it also doesn’t matter that he “eventually came around” he and large chunks of that whole group (courtney too I got no sympathy for courtney) covered for a rapist for months. 

politico.com
A psychologist explains what may be wrong with Trump supporters’ brains
The popularity of the GOP front-runner can be explained by the Dunning-Kruger Effect.

This will probably be my only or one of very few Trump posts. Why? It’s not because I don’t hate the man more than any politician in my lifetime. It’s mainly due to the fact that he’s a textbook troll. And anyone who’s been on the internet for a while knows you don’t feed the trolls. Also, I know almost no Trump supporters that I’m aware of, so I have almost no one to convince. And finally, the people who support Trump won’t listen to any kind of argument I would put forward anyway. Basically the only thing I would be accomplishing is to give him airtime, which is what he wants. So this will be my token Trump post for this election.

The Dunning-Kruger effect explains that the problem isn’t just that they are misinformed; it’s that they are completely unaware that they are misinformed. This creates a double burden.

Studies have shown that people who lack expertise in some area of knowledge often have a cognitive bias that prevents them from realizing that they lack expertise. As psychologist David Dunning puts it in an op-ed for Politico, “The knowledge and intelligence that are required to be good at a task are often the same qualities needed to recognize that one is not good at that task — and if one lacks such knowledge and intelligence, one remains ignorant that one is not good at the task. This includes political judgment.” Essentially, they’re not smart enough to realize they’re dumb.

King of the Superficial

@owynsama Hey, this is your exchange gift  for the @usuknetwork Summer Festival! :D It is me, Drones, and I took your prompt about anything to do with actors and ran with it! Like I’m not kidding, this got way out of control and I hope you like this actor au XD Some thanks goes out to Mana, Mera, Jo, Kc, Kii, and Sam as well for helping me out with technicalities!!((I would tag but I don’t wanna confuse anyone ^^;;))

Summary: Arthur is the star is a Supernatural-esque show called Faerie Tales, and Alfred is the star in a Doctor Who-esque show called Journey Through Space! A popular ship fandom-wide is the characters each of them play in a wild crossover Arthur refuses to take part in. For years Arthur has been unable to determine why Alfred was always so kind and nervous around him, but maybe at one con, he’ll figure it out. ;)

O~o~O

“Can I ask you a question?”

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“It was you who bumped into me.”

But it was HIM who was looking for her and approached her first!

“You were always acting like you wanted to kill me. I am curious about why the winds changed.”

This is such a pertinent question, not that So would answer it because he probably can’t pinpoint the exact reason himself, but it isn’t something that would be abrupt or came out of nowhere either. From the moment he met her, each of their numerous interactions has deepened the connection between them. Contrary to some opinions, he isn’t in love with her, not yet. What draws So to Hae Soo is a combination of gratitude, sympathy and curiosity. It’s a start for any relationship, isn’t it? Because how can you be caring without being curious in the first place? And he is beginning to care which is basically a point of no return for him because he is someone who cares and feels too much, while completely lacking the capacity to hide it. A quality which makes him the diametrical opposite of the polite, but reserved Wook and the original 4th Prince in the novel who was the epitome of cold, reserved, suspicious and calculating. When you look at So’s and Hae Soo’ developing relationship like that it also explains why he saved her from the beating - he owns her and feels grateful to her. And now he begins to actively look for her and approach her motivated by curiosity about this woman who treats him like no one else, without any fear or prejudice; who doesn’t judge him, who understands him and knows how to console him, who even stopped him from hurting himself and is so nice to him, and no one has ever been so openly, genuine kind to him. She must seem almost surreal to him. so of course he becomes so utterly intrigued and captivated by her.

“I didn’t say I saw your face. I kept my promise.”

WS is so stunned and baffled while HS is ranting, but not only because he would be shocked by her audacity to give him such a dressing-down, but because he realizes he was the reason for her beating and he is amazed that she would go to such length to keep her promise to him. It hits something deep in him because no one has ever been so loyal to him before. The sheer incredulity and disbelief with which he asks her whether she isn’t afraid of him is then replaced by shocked wonder at her answer.

“However, do not say I ‘belong’ to you ever again… I’m a person, not an item or an animal. How can you say I belong to you or anyone else?”

“Then… Should I call you my ‘person’?”

The humorous music actually belies the profound meaning of this whole exchange - when WS asks HS why can’t he say she belongs to him, there is a hint of vulnerabilty to his puzzlement. And when he gets her meaning, realizing that she isn’t really rejecting him, you can spot the relief in his eyes. The whole moment actually echoes So’s previous conversation with Wook who told him that no one BELONGED to him, that SHE did not BELONG to him, and that she is HIS (WOOK’S) PERSON. So it’s actually really lovely when So half-jokingly asks Hae So whether he should call HIS PERSON. What makes it even more poignant is the fact that he feels the need to ask her. When she leaves he even looks back over his shoulder after her; and this time when So smiles he doesn’t even stop himself because this happiness he feels around her no longer comes as a suprise to him.

anonymous asked:

I need your help. Whenever I get my period I eat like crazy and I can't help but to eat sugar too. I feel like I can never get full even though I am eating enough! It happens every single month and I end up gaining back everything that I lost. Any advice on how I can control this? Thanks!

Choose complex carbs. Fiber-rich foods are complex carbs that take longer for your body to break down and absorb, further curbing your cravings. Eat more whole-grain breads and cereals, and produce like legumes, fruit, and starchy veggies, which are on the complex-carb list.

Go for protein. By including protein at every meal or snack you help moderate blood sugar imbalances and slow the digestive process to keep from feeling hungry. Choose better-for-you protein options like eggs, chicken, turkey, fish, even peanut butter.

Maintain magnesium intake. Research indicates women can experience low levels of magnesium during PMS. Peanut butter, almonds, cashews, brown rice, sunflower seeds, and most beans are great sources of magnesium. It should be noted that chocolate is also rich in magnesium (which may further explain the cravings), but it’s also high in fat. If you simply must have chocolate, try to make it a small piece of high-quality, antioxidant-rich dark chocolate rather than milk chocolate, which typically has more calories and fat.

Relax and take a deep breath. Cravings can worsen in times of stress. By learning relaxation techniques and practicing them whenever you feel anxious or stressed, you can curtail the snack attacks.

Bring on the sunshine. The lack of sun can reduce serotonin levels, which leads to increased appetite and cravings. Get outdoors or let the sunshine in to raise serotonin levels and reduce sugar and carb cravings.

Get moving. Exercise boosts endorphins and decreases the appetite, but it’s not just scheduled exercise that can help. Being more physically active throughout your daily routine can also make a difference. Walk the dog, vacuum the floor, take the stairs, and simply keep moving.


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This is going to get a little emotional.

I’ve been living my days in quite a daze, lately. My situations go into extremes, I’m either really busy and enjoying life too much to bother with my blog or social media, or I’m in a slump where I’m feeling slightly depressed, and I end up spending my days on auto-pilot. I can’t ever seem to find the balance between. 

Right at this very moment, I received a Twitter DM from Katrina asking me if it was okay to post an entry she had written about me on Tumblr. I said of course. I read her post, and it instantly made my chest hurt. In a good way.

You see, lately I’ve been feeling some sort of emotional struggle about myself. I’m feeling lost. I’m questioning who I am, what I’m doing, where I’m going, and I’m feeling like despite all this, the constant good things that happen to me aren’t something I really deserve. And for some reason, these feelings were magnified today more than the others. Katrina’s post could not have come at a better time. It’s like the Universe sent out an SOS and she threw me life saver. 

And then I came to accept the truth of the matter: I had the “Imposter Syndrome”, a term which I randomly came about on the internet months before.

Imposter Syndrome is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.

– Wikipedia

I didn’t recognize it then, but looking back at all the missed opportunities because I was afraid of failing whoever I’d be working with, days where I felt so down about myself because I felt like I didn’t deserve any of the good things happening to me, and always using the phrase “I got lucky” when describing my achievements, even going as far as doubting compliments being given to me thinking people were just lying – it only started to make so much sense, I was dealing with this syndrome. And now that I’ve recognized it and have come to accept it, I can start getting better at how I deal with myself.

This has really affected me negatively, to the point where my work is getting affected by it. I want to apologize for the lack of quality posts on my blog lately. I’m working extra hard to get out of this slump and really get things back in order. I hope you guys will continue to stick around with me, because truly this blog and you guys are on my top 5 priority list. :-)

I hope everyone is having an okay Sunday, mine was spent with Gab, went to hear mass and then had dinner with his parents – which involved a little bit of talk on politics (They explained to me what the deal was on the whole DAP and President Aquino situation… You truly do learn new things everyday! Haha).

Have a great week ahead, my Wildlings <3