which does not happen often for someone so in control of his actions

Juvia isn’t a stalker

This is an old, very frustrating argument for Gruvia fans that shouldn’t even exist anymore. This post also shouldn’t exist because I am refuting something Juvia didn’t actually do, but this is what it’s come down to, sadly. The bottom line is that Juvia can not redeem herself for an issue that Mashima-sensei, the author, doesn’t believe exists (aka the non-existent stalking).

I. The amount of times Juvia watched Gray and why

Juvia did not stalk Gray EVER, but she did hang in the background. He and the guild had been the enemy. If she had walked right up to Gray and his friends, there would have been a backlash. It’s natural that she was afraid because of the damage she helped inflict. Despite this, she formed an affinity to Gray and Fairy Tail which she carefully approached to the best of her ability.

As it also shows in her memories, Juvia had a well-established history of being shunned because of her rain which further led to her tentative approach. Additionally, given the rejection and shunning of the past, Juvia lacked the developmental opportunity to refine social engagement. There was no malicious intent in her actions. She was afraid of being rejected again, so she kept her distance. 

And in fact, Juvia and Gajeel’s presence in Fairy Tail DID cause a backlash. Laxus and the Raijinshuu did get angry when they found out two former Phantom Lord members who had attacked the guild were allowed to join.

Yet, both Juvia and Gajeel made up for their former transgressions already against the specific members they had targeted by protecting them. Juvia protected Gray from Simon, and Gajeel protected Levy from Laxus. That was supposed to be their redemption…IT WAS THEIR REDEMPTION. As stated in the first paragraph, in bold this time: Juvia can not redeem herself for an issue that Mashima-sensei, the author, doesn’t believe exists (aka the non-existent stalking). 

Ultimately, Juvia did approach Gray when he was by himself to ask what he thought about her joining Fairy Tail.  This was their first direct meeting after they met in Chapter 56. Indirect encounters include chapter 67 where she observed from afar and delivered a bento and chapter 75 where we see her watching Gray and the rest of team Natsu at the resort.

It was at this point that Juvia approached Gray properly when she finally caught him alone, and they went to get drinks together. It’s supported by the manga that Juvia joining Fairy Tail would have caused a backlash, as even Gray was wary of her joining because of the things that they did, but he personally did not mind her joining.  Juvia then spent the rest of the arc openly helping Gray and his friends in the Tower Of Heaven. 

At the end of the arc, when Erza asked after Juvia, Gray was the one who knew her name, and where she had gone. Once team Natsu returned to FT, Juvia became a member, and Gray was quite happy about it. After chapter 75 Juvia has never in the manga followed Gray without his knowledge again until chapter 416, where she came to apologize for what happened to Gray’s father. 

When Gray seemed dismayed that Juvia had followed him to his parents grave, she immediately apologized

In fact, Juvia has apologized a few times within the series when she thought she upset Gray, including in 413 Days when she apologized for fearing that she ruined Gray’s day of mourning. But, in fact, Gray ended up also apologizing to her, because he thought it was his fault. He profusely apologized to her in chapter 416 as well while sobbing in her arms.

II. Gray’s feelings

If Gray was so uncomfortable and disliked Juvia’s presence, the above scene would not have happened. He appreciates and is grateful for Juvia always being next to him, which by default completely annihilates the claim that he is disgusted by her. This is obvious because we see the change in their relationship throughout the course of the manga, on panel. I repeat, Gray likes the fact that Juvia is always by his side and wants her there.

Furthermore, Juvia’s comedic advances and Gray’s reactions (which have actually become softer/changed) are exaggerated on purpose. Japanese love this type of humor use in their mangas. It’s meant to be lighthearted, not give off an awful message regarding a pairing. As with many shounen, panel space is often limited for character interactions, so “dramatic” presentations are necessary for conveying points. Mashima-sensei has only ever portrayed Juvia’s love as a positive thing for both characters. Her love for Gray has saved not just Gray’s life, but also the lives of others on multiple occasions. 

While it’s true Mashima-sensei loves using Juvia for comic relief from time to time, it’s important to not let the jokes outweigh the serious moments. In reality, we are not supposed to put so much stock into comedy. Adding to the fact that Juvia’s fight with Meredy proved her love for Gray to be genuine, there’s another factor some people seem to miss.  

In the final chapter of the Tartarus arc, Juvia was about to give up on her love for Gray because she believed she did not have the right to love him anymore. She truly thought it was for his sake, and was prepared to be hated by Gray forever. An obsessive person or crazy stalker would never do this. But Juvia did, expecting this would ruin any chance she had with Gray, and was positive she would be loathed. However she knew confessing what she did was the right thing to do and came clean. Here, Mashima-sensei is showing the difference between an unhealthy obsessed individual and someone who’s love is selfless as they put the other person’s feelings above their own. Above all, Gray didn’t let Juvia give up on him. He embraced her, thanked her, and cried in her arms.

Chapter 499 speaks for itself, so I really don’t see the need to touch upon it other than the fact that the Japanese raw text confirms that Gray does see Juvia as more than a friend, aka, a love interest. As if his actions in the chapter and prior to weren’t enough. Double suicide in Japan is one of the most romantic acts of love based on samurai history.

III. The definition of a stalker

  • a person who harasses or persecutes someone with unwanted and obsessive attention.
  • a person who harasses another person, as a former lover, a famous person, etc., in an aggressive, often threatening and illegal manner.

Neither of the above definitions describes Juvia’s character. Juvia would be the last person in the world to harass or threaten Gray in any way. The two times she watched him were harmless and there were justified reasons behind them. Back to the definition; Juvia doesn’t need to do any of these things, because she is Gray’s friend, and at this point, so much more than that. She’s a partner, they go on missions together, socialize together, and have even lived together. 

Real cases for stalking often involve the stalker having control over their victim, sometimes employing fear in a desperate attempt to maintain control, which Juvia has NEVER done. Admiring someone from afar is not the same as stalking them, especially when you don’t have the courage to talk to them. That’s why Juvia quickly threw the bento in Gray’s hands without trying to be noticed. She wanted to do nice things for him, but couldn’t do them directly out of nervousness. That’s not what stalkers do. And of course, as stated above, Juvia was about to give up on Gray. Stalkers aren’t willing to give up their ties with the person.

Juvia does not need to “stalk” Gray. She stands proudly by his side with no reluctance from him.

And even more importantly Gray has never expressed any adversity to Juvia’s presence. If anything, he has expressed the opposite. Gray of his own accord hangs around her. And Gray had mentioned once in 338 that he would say no to the things he dislikes from then on. Yet he had never said no before, nor after that statement. In fact, he contradicted his own statement later on by eating the bread Juvia offered him, and holding her hand in comfort during the Tartarus arc.  

We also have to keep in mind Gray falls under the tsundere character trope, which means his actions often contradict his words, and as stated above, his adverse reactions are often played off comedically, because he is not being honest about his actual feelings. Juvia’s earnest feelings towards Gray usually cause the cool and collected character to lose his composure. That’s the joke. 

IV. Conclusion

Juvia is often labeled a stalker while we look past Gajeel crucifying Levy or Jellal trying to murder Erza. All of these things occurred at the beginning, but have ceased to be current habits. That’s character development. It’s one thing to not like a ship because of the dynamic. But it’s a double standard to hail the development of one ship and ignore another. People simply cannot move passed Juvia’s first impression, and that is sad.

Every pairing has its shtick, such as Natsu touching Lucy inappropriately and breaking into her house, and Levy hitting Gajeel often. Humor is completely subjective, that’s true, however it’s obvious what Mashima-sensei intends to fall under the umbrella of humor, and that absolutely includes Juvia’s antics and Gray’s reactions to them. Saying they aren’t meant to be funny is just being purposely oblivious and contrary. You don’t have to think it’s funny to know it’s meant as a joke. Gruvia gets condemned by the fandom the most when it comes to their particular aspect of humor, and that is unfair. 

This is a fictional world, they are fictional characters, and they do not have to meet real life standards. Many of the characters within Fairy Tail have quirks or perform actions that are not acceptable in reality. Fairy Tail itself is a fantasy manga. The world and the characters are exaggerated for the purpose of drama and comedy. This fantasy world is also based on Japanese humor and storytelling conventions, and ignoring this fact can lead to misunderstanding characters. 

Juvia has not watched Gray from a distance without his knowledge since before she joined Fairy Tail. That was at least 8-9 years ago in both our timeline and the manga time line (counting the 7 year time skip). No one in the Fairy Tail universe, nor Mashima-sensei, seem to think Juvia’s actions from her introduction need to be addressed or redeemed, because it is a non-issue that only certain parts of the fandom can’t let go of. She will not vocally apologize for a problem that doesn’t exist. 

Gray, especially, has gone so far passed his initial relationship and dynamic with Juvia. It’s sad that so many fans are concerned on Gray’s behalf, but never truly take Gray’s actual feelings or words into consideration. He cares for Juvia, he almost definitely loves Juvia romantically, and he is grateful she is by his side. He’s willing to go above and beyond, including sacrificing his life for her (twice) just to ensure her safety. Those are not the feelings of someone who is a victim of stalking. 

Character Analysis: Shiro

[ Lance ] [ Hunk ] [ Pidge ] [ Keith ] [ Allura ] [ Coran ]

Just for entertaining meta-ish purposes I’m going to do these in the order that the characters are introduced in the show. So that means we’re starting off with Fearless Space Leader. 

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Jake English fucking loves booty shorts, guys. Also: Dirk Strider.

I really could not believe it when I heard some people say Jake wears booty shorts because Dirk is a Predatory Gay and made him do so, but here we are. In any case, it took me forever to realize this, so it’s worth pointing out.

Jake uses his clothes to express his inclinations more than maybe any other one of the kids. Jake himself foreshadows his future inclination towards gear that shows off his ass…ets:

Frankly, I don’t think much else needs to be said there? There’s a canonical reason Jake dresses the way he dresses, and that reason is that Jake likes tomb raiders and sexy-looking action heroines, and he wants to be a sexy action hero and look sexy doing it. That’s really all there is to it.

…Or it would be, except that unlike Jake’s relationship with fighting, Jake actually experiences struggles and complications relating to looking sexy, and becomes insecure and vulnerable due to the way people treat him as a sex object.

It’s no surprise this happens. Jake has a list of sexual/romantic voyeurs and aggressors, and his discomfort and trauma in this area is an integral part of his character. 

Early on, Obviously, there’s the AR, who’s lasciviousness is so well-documented I don’t think it’s worth repeating here. 

But Dirk breaks it down nicely for us. Dirk himself makes no appearance on this list, seeing as he had no control over the AR and never even remotely speaks to Jake that way when they talk to each other.

Brobot is often accused of being a sexual aggressor as well. This belief is based on two quotes from the story:

This one, from AR. The thing is, AR is known for being pretty hyperbolic and overly sexual about pretty much all situations–kind of like a 13 year kid would be, you know? 

What Jake himself says about the Brobot’s actions is much more indicative of the nature of the Brobot’s actions. Specifically:

Jake describes the Brobot as tender. And Tender is a specific word with specific, almost memetic meaning in Homestuck:

A meaning that only a juvenile teenager LIKE the Auto-Responder would consider sexual. Or at least, someone similarly trapped in immaturity.


Yeah. I know fanon is really pervasive about this idea that the Brobot was on the list of sexual aggressors, but the only real implication the canon itself makes is that it was doing tame proposals and handholds like this. That’s what Jake is referring to. It becomes problematic for him, but only because of the AR’s taunting and the fact that he and Dirk can’t figure out how to talk about it. 

Brain Ghost Dirk makes some comments to this effect, however–likely reflecting the way the AR has messed with Jake’s head and successfully made him conflate the way the AR sees him and the way Dirk sees him. Even after the AR stops being an active presence in Jake’s life, it still makes its impact known through BGD’s characterization. 

We also have no reason to believe Dirk even knows Brain Ghost Dirk exists, let alone has any active say in what he says or how he acts, either. BGD is, after all, predominantly Jake’s brain–and thus a reflection of, at best, how he THINKS Dirk sees him. 

Note how even though Jake fully expects Brain Ghost Dirk to make lascivious and leery comments to him, he never expects Brain Ghost Dirk to try to touch him in a way he doesn’t want to be touched. On top of that, In fact, Jake makes a point of noting that Dirk is more conscientious towards him than either the AR or Brain Ghost Dirk:

And then, of course Jane literally threatens Jake with sexual slavery (while corrupted by an evil supercomputer):

So yeah, Jake is pretty uncomfortable with being seen as sexy by the time Aranea gets to him. It wouldn’t be unreasonable if the idea of being seen as sexy–or even just wearing short shorts–was ruined for him completely.

It wouldn’t even be unreasonable if his image of Dirk was tarnished, even though Dirk wasn’t really responsible for what was happening any more than he was. 

But different people respond to trauma differently. And once Aranea objectifies him completely and renders him a tool–literally lightning him up and making it so ALL EYES are on him right when Jake feels most exposed and vulnerable, Jake responds in a pretty peculiar way.

With his Hope powers unlocked, Jake could theoretically do anything. Send hordes of angels to attack, make himself invisible, bring Grandma back from the dead…given what Jake actually ends up doing, it doesn’t make much sense to imagine arbitrary limits on his power. Because what Jake does when he needs to feel safe is make his imaginary friend real.


Again: Making something fake real is, by definition, pretty much the hardest thing to do–both in real life, and to convey compellingly narratively. 

Even Jake teleporting his grandma from the past and reviving her to come protect him would be more reasonable a storytelling move than Jake being able to create matter and a personality out of thin air. You would only need Time and Space powers to theoretically pull of that absurd feat, so it would technically be possible to accomplish.

Making your imaginary friend real, though? That’s completely impossible for everyone, everywhere. Except for Jake English. 

But Jake English can do anything, which means what we actually does reflects not only what he wants, but what he wants MORE than anything else possible to him. 

And what he wants is Dirk Strider, coming to his rescue and keeping him safe from his latest aggressor. Kinda like Brobot always protected Jake from feeling unsafe when he was threatened:

Brain Ghost Dirk even calls himself Jake’s boyfriend, and this is after Dirk broke up with him and he worried about not being able to love anyone:

And right before Dirk breaks them off, while Jake is in trickster form and completely uninhibited, he confesses feelings to Dirk and makes a point to note he was willing to be romantically involved with him:

And luckily, as for his relationship with his shorts, Jake had a good pal give him some advice and boost his self-confidence:

And over the course of [S] Credits, Jake apparently patches things up enough with Dirk that they’re living together and can comfortably fight for fun like he always wanted. On top of that, he’s recovered his confidence in his image enough that he can act out the sexy superhero fantasy he loved so much:

Both his relationship with Dirk and his relationship with his body are sorted out, and Jake’s now happy and comfortable with himself. How it happened, exactly? Who knows–there’s as many different ways it could’ve gone down as you can imagine. But the fact is, it did. And it was laid out this way from the beginning. 

What’s the exact nature of Dirk and Jake’s arrangement? Not really relevant. What we know is that they’re living together, that Jake was always willing to have a relationship with him and that never stopped being a thing, and that Jake trusts Dirk with his safety over literally anything else.

What we know is that they’re best friends and mutually romantically interested in each other, whether or not they decide to pursue that. 

We also know Jake always liked dressing sexy so long as he was safe and didn’t have to worry about people dehumanizing him. And in this new world, he can do that as much as he wants, too:

Anyway Jake English is the best character in Homestuck and he’s happy with his boyfriend Dirk canonically, and he’s also happy and comfortable with his body while doing it because that was never the issue when he was with Dirk.

Tomorrow I should be following this up with one last Jake post–this one talking about how Jake is way way smarter than everyone thinks he is. You know. Except for Dirk, who explicitly knows Jake is smart. 

After that, we can move on to Roxy. If you’re interested in my writing, I’m also working on a youtube series aiming to make Homestuck understandable to a broad audience you can find here. Next episode should be dropping before the end of the weekend. 

See you again soon. Keep Rising. 

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       Traits & symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder in Bum

Hello there! I’ve been meaning to do this post for so long, but decided to wait for the season to end instead.

Since so many people have their doubts on whether Bum has an accurate portrayal of BPD or if he even has that disorder, I’ll try to explain that over here as best as I can, coming from an actual person diagnosed with BPD and a psychology student.

We are gonna go through the DSM V criteria along with other traits that I consider worth mentioning.

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Why are Bellamy and Clarke so afraid of love?

There’s an undeniable comparison to be drawn concerning Bellamy, Clarke and their individual approach to the notion of love. Bellamy blooms in the presence of affection. Clarke yearns for company and support; her lovers are her solace. Both require love to power through, and yet there is a noticeable absence of verbal clarity in their love. Why has Bellamy never told anybody that he loves them? Why does Clarke find herself blurting out her confession as her lover dies in her arms? What are they so afraid of? What does love mean for these two?

Both Bellamy and Clarke have been conditioned to perceive love as something extreme. To love somebody carries an incredible amount of weight – to cross over to that side in a relationship implies something drastic would have to happen. So first, let’s discuss what is the reasons behind their intense ideas of love.

Bellamy Blake: “I adore those who adore me first.”

It’s no secret that Bellamy is a lover at heart and has so many emotions he’s been conditioned to control and repress. His idea of love is one that is quite cyclical and paradoxical. I often describe Bellamy’s situation as a catch 22 of sorts: he loves people with such fervour that it burns, but he too needs love as a fuel for his own. So what comes first, the way he loves people or the way in which he is loved? And why is his love so strong? Well, his early attachment to Octavia is the source of his passion. Being that young and having a responsibility so heavy, Bellamy’s care and love and protectiveness had to be extreme. His idea of love amalgamates a fear of failure and, of course, overpowering sense of duty. Because Octavia was of paramount significance to Bellamy (all stemming from my sister, my responsibility), his idea of love was cemented as one in which this form of intrinsic protectiveness was required. 

This mantra he’s lived by is very matter-of-fact: basically, you don’t want to know what would happen if something bad were to happen to Octavia because she is your responsibility. That overwhelming idea would have frightened Bellamy so much, forcing a suffocating form of love that leaves no chance for anything bad to happen to Octavia. This was the first time he was given the duty of care and so, very early on, Bellamy’s conception of love was one much more amplified than anybody else’s. Bellamy was raised raising another. He was giving more than he was probably receiving at times. So where’s the love to fuel his own?

It’s anywhere he can find it. Think about it: the look on his face when Clarke told him she needed him, the way he acted when she ran to him and pulled him into a tight embrace, his reaction when Octavia told him ‘I love you, big brother’. He flourishes when he feels love because it’s just about the one emotion he exudes and yearns for in return; it’s the emotion he knows is geared towards him as a person rather than the skills he possesses. He feels when it’s there, and he gravitates towards it because it’s something he desires so badly. He adores those who adore him, and in the circumstance that he is put first, as a priority, it shakes him to the very core. But why does he not explicitly state his love?

Clarke Griffin: “Love is my solace.”

Clarke surrounds herself with love constantly, as it is the source of her liberation. Her will to survive pervades her identity at times and it’s so overwhelming for her. So she reaches out for support, for somebody who bleeds the same, or somebody who being around can free her of her worries. Being constantly singled out for the decisions she has made in the past to ensure the 100′s survival wears her down, it seems, and so the company she seeks is often through romantically and/or sexually-bound relationships. Because love is so paramount to her; because it elevates her in every way possible and gives her the strength to power through hardship…it carries a lot of weight. To love someone, that is. 

With Finn, it was almost as if he symbolised an escape for her. He was somebody she could be herself around, somebody who kindled within her a sense of passion and security, and he offered a companionship that she could not seek elsewhere, as the co-leader of her people. The fact that their most intimate scenes took place away from the dropship i.e. away from her duties only further shows this. With Lexa, Clarke found a kindred spirit and somebody she truly connected with. She saw they bled the same, they carried the same burdens, the same guilt, the same sorrows – Finn and Costia and their leadership roles being prime examples. Lexa was her guide, her lover, her oasis, her eye in the storm. She found inner peace when she was with Lexa. 

But we have observed the recurring pattern with Clarke and her love dying before her very eyes – to love someone is to kill them, she must think. Her idea of love, much like Bellamy, is heightened because of this. And so an important question to raise is: Why does she only confess at the very last moment?

What do love confessions mean to Bellamy and Clarke?

Conceptually, to both Bellamy and Clarke, love is a line they cannot uncross. The state they both remain in, regarding relationships, is one that does not verbally express affection. They show and don’t tell.

Bellamy and Clarke are absolutely terrified of the idea of mortality. With Bellamy, we know fear manifests wherever his love does. With Clarke, she directly associates her love with death. So to tell their loved ones ‘I love you’ psychologically reinforces the inevitability of death. Because of that inherent fear of failure in Bellamy’s love, and the automatic associating of love with mortality in Clarke…it would be in both Bellamy and Clarke’s nature to firmly hold this idea that love confessions are a time limit, love confessions are a reminder. To confess, to make it known to the world automatically endangers their loved one. It’s a psychological belief: it’s almost as if Bellamy and Clarke feel that if they keep their love for someone a secret from fate itself, it keeps these people immortal, and untouched by death.

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Their mentality towards love is something along the lines of ‘I can’t let the world know. I can’t let fate know. Love kills, so if I never say it, I am not putting them in danger.’ To Bellamy and Clarke, confessions have a ring of finality to it that implies that Earth can take them away at any given moment, and they are so fearful of that, they push it to the back of their minds. They show their love through their actions, but never explicitly through their words because not only would that reinstate to the world and destiny itself that this person is irreplaceable so please don’t take them away from me, but it personally reminds both Bellamy and Clarke that one day, their loved one will depart from this world, and they will have no one. People who are special to them, time and time again on Earth, have been harshly taken away from them so they’re now incredibly protective over the last few they have left.

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When Clarke confesses, it sounds like a farewell. The last thing she ever told her father, Finn and Lexa was ‘I love you’. And she blurts it out, too, because there’s nothing left to do: fate got to them before her love could. Since Jake’s death, she’s grown to reaffirm her affection for her loved ones before they die, in hopes to lull them into their passing. To give them the comfort of knowing she always felt the same. With Jake and Finn it was gentle yet distressed, but with Lexa, something more interesting happens. She says it, breathlessly, but the desperate look on her face as Lexa departs gives it away: Clarke’s idea of love can sometimes be reversed, and she confesses in hopes that maybe she was wrong all this time, maybe her love was actually the key to their safety. Maybe if she confesses they won’t leave her, after all. But it’s a hopeless kind of belief, and even Clarke knows this.

And with Bellamy? Someone who has always had a fear of death, a fear of the unknown, the inevitable? Love is a force he cannot reckon with, and he’s battling between choosing to perceive mortality as a reason to confess or as a reason to avoid confessing. It’s a fight between hopelessness and relentlessness. (It also comes from his emotional repression, which I talk about here.) He knows deep down that time will run out, but at the same time, he struggles to unlearn the idea that announcing his love puts a death sentence on the person.

And together: To one another, Bellamy and Clarke will not accept the other’s mortality. While everyone else has left them, they are each other’s constants, and they have remained and survived through it all. They have this delusional mentality, particularly Clarke, that the other’s death is simply not a narrative existing in their universe. Likely crafted from the trauma of loss, they simply will not accept that their death is inevitable. Clarke is adamant that Bellamy will always come back to her (re 4x06: No, you will) because heaven knows what will happen if someone as dear to her as Bellamy were to die. The same occurs within Bellamy, to a certain extent. We saw it in 3x02 especially: when Clarke is in danger he will not stop until she is out of harm’s way because the idea of her death absolutely frightens him.

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Conclusively: resulting from their past experiences, both Bellamy and Clarke find immense difficulty in stating their love, in fear that it will rouse harsh fate itself – that if they were to confess they would be periling their loved one. Their fear of the end is what stops them from confessing, and they both, in the face of the apocalypse, have begun to try and unlearn this deeply-rooted mentality; that love does not equal death, but rather strength.

sui-senka  asked:

In IxFPs, how does a person know they have Ne-Si or Se-Ni (healthy and unhealthy) and how would it affect their Fi and Te? what would they act like?

(Gif: Anne Shirley, Anne with an E. INFP.)

When self-typing, it’s important to think about HOW you process information (where does it come from? what kind of focus do you have? on the sensory world or the unseen? do you judge by ethics or logical principles?), WHAT you can express with no difficulty (your feelings? your logic? your ideas? what you saw?), and WHY you do what you do, more than your behaviors.

Healthy Ne: I foresee different potential outcomes and come up with a generalized plan but can change tactics without much trouble if one of my ideas falls through. I believe in my ability to innovate. I often read between the lines and intuit what people’s motives or intentions may be, but leave room for my views to change with additional information. I have trained myself to find creative ways to make a point without being offensive, by provoking others to think or see something from another perspective. I recognize when my own views are self-contradictory, but my open-mindedness encourages continual growth. I have learned to separate my ‘imagined’ motives from people’s genuine motives; I recognize that my extremely high expectations for reality are not always realistic, but that’s okay – I can have fun wherever I go.

Unhealthy Ne: I abandon people when I lose interest in them, and fail to enjoy what I have in a quest for something more and better. As a result, I do not put much effort into my friendships and often do not realize how much I liked having someone around until they are gone. I am easily distracted, scatterbrained, and often abandon projects once my interest in their potential fades (poor Te). I assume that I know everyone’s motives and true intentions, and refuse to listen to their explanations, preferring instead to stay to ‘my side’ of things. I do not much care that I self-contradict all the time and become angry and defensive when others point out how inconsistent I can be. I justify being flighty, irresponsible, or unrealistic rather than focus on maturing myself. Real life often disappoints me, because it is so dull.

This naturally flows into the other functions, some of which may or may not be healthy all on their own (of course, Enneagram also plays a role, so don’t forget to factor that in – I’m not knowledgeable enough on Enneagram to speculate in depth, so you’ll have to do your own research).

Unhealthy Ne + Fi/Te: Since (unhealthy or emotionally stinted) high Fi tends to dig in its heels and become defensive over its actions, when paired with Ne you have an explosive combination of whimsical imagination and defiance, often with an interplay of subjective personal experiences (Si - well, that’s not how it happened TO ME!!) that ignore other people’s different experiences.

Unhealthy Ne + Ti/Fe: Since (unhealthy or emotionally stinted) high Ti tends to dismiss people as cogs in a greater faulty system, when paired with Ne, you have an extreme tendency toward detached arrogance and carelessness toward other people’s feelings, often with nitpicky subjective personal preferences (think Sheldon Cooper and his BUT THERE’S TWO PICKLES ON THIS SANDWICH AND THERE SHOULD BE THREE).

(Gif: Gilbert Blythe, Anne with an E. ESTP.)

Healthy Se: I engage casually and easily with the environment, noticing swift changes and able to react in a timely fashion. I am comfortable in my body, and in new spaces, with no needed time to adjust. I have learned that others are not as physically confident or aggressive as I am and respect their space, while urging them to try new things and instilling confidence in them through my easygoing methods of engagement. I am objective in my observations, and am good at collecting experiences. I have learned to experience all life has to offer but also to appreciate what I have and hold onto the things that matter. I have learned to move on with grace when I lose interest, but still value others while doing it, and pause to think how this will impact my future before I act rashly.

Unhealthy Se: I have left wrecked friendships and relationships in my wake in my continual quest for new experiences. I lose interest in things once I conquer them and I often over-indulge my senses by spending more than I have on things that will not matter and that I will lose interest in over time. I live so much for the moment that I give no thought to how I might look back in five years and regret my actions today. I stubbornly refuse to look beyond the surface of anyone or anything and either over-rely on my “gut instinct) (Ni loop) or ignore my hunches altogether in favor of immediate action.

This naturally flows into the other functions, some of which may or may not be healthy all on their own (of course, Enneagram also plays a role, so don’t forget to factor that in – I’m not knowledgeable enough on Enneagram to speculate in depth, so you’ll have to do your own research).

Unhealthy Se + Fi/Te: Since (unhealthy or emotionally stinted) high Fi tends to dig in its heels and become defensive over its actions, when paired with Se you have an explosive combination of someone acting on all their feelings, all the time, without thought for how this will play out in the future, sometimes with take-charge Te bossiness and/or emphasis (GET IT DONE) along for the ride.

Unhealthy Se + Ti/Fe: Since (unhealthy or emotionally stinted) high Ti tends to dismiss people as cogs in a greater faulty system, when paired with Se, the result can sometimes be bullying / aggressive physical behavior, sometimes aimed at provoking an emotional reaction (Fe) from its targets. This often comes along with detached arrogance or carelessness toward others’ feelings, and a fatalistic futuristic attitude (we’re all screwed, I’m screwed).

This goes for all types:

To determine health levels:

  • Ask yourself how much control you have over this function (all)
  • Ask yourself how skillfully you use this function (all)
  • Ask yourself how defensive you are over this function (all)
  • Ask yourself how often you question your perceptions (Ne/Se/Ni/Si)
  • Ask yourself how often you question your motives (Fe/Fi)

Functional health means attaining a balance between your functions, where you are self-aware enough to realize and admit to your faults, where you can objectively assess your attitudes and behaviors for maturity, admit when you are wrong, take responsibility for your mistakes, apologize when you need to, resist bullying / shaming behaviors toward those who disagree with you, accept that no one is responsible for your behaviors, mistakes, and choices but you, and utilize your functions for fun as well as at work / schoolwork.

- ENFP Mod

anonymous asked:

do you think Mabel and Dipper fit the messiah/machiavel trope? cuz I do, and it makes me cry

Okay, I’ve never heard of this trope before so I had to do a bit of research. What I’ve gathered is that the trope is a type of teamwork, usually in the political sense: the shining charismatic leader and the vicious, cunning enforcer who supports the leader and/or their cause. The Messiah is the light and the Machieval is the shadow behind that light. The Messiah usually adheres to morality (like Jesus whom the term originates from); the Machieval favors expediency over morality (like Machiavelli whom the term originates from). Which all does sound like the kind of dynamic Dipper and Mabel have. Outside of the dynamic, I’d even say the individual titles, Machieval and Messiah, fit their characters too.

The Messiah in a narrative context is usually “the visionary, the leader, the savior, the person who may be literally god touched, or just god touched in the sense of the charisma, depth, and power of their vision or capacity to lead/embody that movement.”

Mabel is a natural born leader, there’s no doubt. Its easy for her to reach out and connect with others on an emotional level, and even inspire others to change for the better. She’s incredibly charismatic and charming, and her power even at 12 years old is enough to attract the attention of Gravity Falls’ villains, the gnomes and Gideon, who are insistent on making her their Queen. Seemingly effortlessly she can inspire others to help make her visions (trying out her idealistic version of management running the Mystery Shack, creating and constructing an entire sock opera in a week, etc.) a reality. All qualities of a good leader.

But a Messiah is more than a leader; they’re a savior. Mabel is also capable of seeing the good in others and offering forgiveness even if there’s no real evidence of this being true. She deems Pacifica and Robbie worthy of redemption. In NWHS she looks into Stan’s eyes, the windows to his soul, and judges him to be a good person worthy of being trusted and forgiven, despite all the bad things he’s done. After hearing Ford’s story in AToTS, Mabel basically instantly forgives the man and starts seeing him as another Grunkle she loves dearly, and wants nothing more than for Stan and Ford to forgive each other as she has forgiven them. When Dipper wants to rush into adulthood and becomes blinded by the supernatural, Mabel keeps him a child and reminds him of what’s truly important.

And like a Messiah, Mabel strives to be a good person. Yes, she’s flawed because she’s human. She can be aggressive and self-centered and impulsive. She can be blinded by her infatuations. She avoids emotional confrontation and would prefer to live in optimistic denial when she’s scared and life gets hard. But Mabel wants and tries to be a good, kind person. She goes out of her way to compliment others or brighten their days. She tries to do the right thing in any given situation, often playing morality police to Stan and Dipper. And when she’s wrong, she usually acknowledges that and apologizes. Mabel truly genuinely cares about other people and doing the right thing, and that’s more than most people can say.

Symbolically, Mabel takes on a Messiah-esque pose when she lets go of the button and essentially allows the universe to decide her, and everyone else’s, fates. In Weirdmaggadon she is literally seen as an icon of hope, inspiration, and guidance for Dipper and Gideon, and possibly Wendy and Soos as well. Her being alive and representing doing good, striving to be a good person despite her flaws, and having the ability to defeat Bill on her own (who is basically the “Devil” in this story) is what motivates them all to help find her and save her during the apocalypse and thus save the universe. So, yes, I think we can all agree that Mabel fits the Messiah trope quite well.

The Machiavel is a “term given to people who function in pragmatic, vicious, cunning ways. This is the person who holds the knife to the throat or the guns under the table. The one who blackmails, bribes, and does all the things that should never have to be done but must be done for the things they love.”

Dipper is not at all afraid to get his hands dirty to get what he wants and usually won’t hesitate to do what (he feels) must be done in a situation, even if that’s an immoral action. He’s a guile hero, ambitious, relying mostly on his wits, cunning and pragmatic with a grayscale sense of justice, all qualities that are very Machiavellian in nature. There are many, many examples of Dipper favoring expediency over morality shown in canon.

Like in Fight Fighters (lying and cheating to win a fight), Boss Mabel (ripping people off for money), The Golf War (cheating and sabotaging his sister’s competitor by manipulating others into doing what he wants) Sock Opera (making a literal deal with a demon to get what he wants), Society of the Blind Eye (using a memory erasing gun to erase the society member’s memories to prevent them from erasing anyone in town’s memories again, essentially committing the action he’s condemning the society for), A Tale of Two Stans (coming up with the idea to use the same gun on gov agents despite knowing the potential consequences the memory erasure could have on the agents’ sanities), the Stanchurian Candidate (mind-controlling his great uncle for political reasons, an action that’s literally compared to that of a villain in the show), etc. 

In Headhunters, Mabel remarks that Dipper is her sidekick, and this is sort of true. Dipper usually plays more of the supporter/enforcer role than the visionary like Mabel, which is an interesting perspective for a main protagonist and narrator of a story to have. Mabel generally has the ideas, and Dipper generally helps make them happen. He’s usually the one that constructs a plan to make sure Mabel’s idea is a success in situations where they work together like that. He’s strategizing and cheering her on behind-the-scenes when she’s up front in the spotlight working her magic. And he’s planning to tear down anyone who gets in their way. The episode I believe that embodies this dynamic best is Golf War.

Mabel wants to beat Pacifica at golf. Dipper supports Mabel and her goal. He decides manipulating the lilliputtins and cheating is the best course of action for Mabel to win the match. Mabel disagrees at first, trying to play morality police to Dipper, pointing out cheating is wrong, but Dipper convinces her to trust him against her better judgment. They go through with his plan. It backfires. Mabel says that rivalries are stupid and offers Pacifica friendship, and so forgiveness. Dipper does not apologize to anyone, nor acknowledges that what he did was wrong. Throughout this whole episode, you have Mabel as the leader, the public figure, the one playing the match, and later the savior as she deems Pacifica worthy of forgiveness, and Dipper as the enforcer, the planner, the one standing off to the side, the one ensuring Mabel wins and doing whatever he feels is necessary to achieve that. The Messiah and the Machiavel

And in fact, their physical positions on the castle emphasize this dynamic as well. Mabel is in the center like the King (or Queen), addressing the lilliputtins after being told Dipper’s plan, and Dipper is standing a little behind and beside her, closer to where the knight’s stationed (even borrowing the knight’s trumpet to garner everyone’s attention to Mabel).

Dipper and Mabel balance each other out, which I’m not sure is something that plays into the Messiah/Machiavel trope exactly, but is a large part of the twins’ dynamic. Mabel lets Dipper know when he’s taking things too far, and Dipper lets Mabel know when niceness isn’t gonna cut it, when someone doesn’t deserve her kindness. That’s not to say that the two are flat out opposites, however. The Messiah, like I said earlier, is still human. They have moments of selfishness and cruelty as Mabel does. And likewise, the Machiavel has moments of selflessness and kindness as Dipper does. Neither is one extreme or the other. Mabel may have a bigger heart than Dipper, but that doesn’t mean Dipper doesn’t have a heart at all. He does. He’s just more cynical and pragmatic (and arguably angrier) than Mabel is. 

Nor is it true that Mabel is always in the light and Dipper is always in the shadows. Generally you see them more in this way, but Mabel is capable of stepping back and happily supporting Dipper when he has an idea too or wants to take the lead, which is part of what makes them a good team. Mabel isn’t as ruthless as Dipper and Dipper isn’t as big-hearted as Mabel, so they can’t take on each other’s tropes in a reverse dynamic where Dipper is the leader and Mabel the supporter. But they’re both human, and they both try to help each other make the best choices.

So, yeah, I guess Mabel and Dipper fit the Messiah/Machiavel trope for the most part. This wicked fanart from Boss Mabel really shows that kind of dynamic between them too, with Mabel in the boss chair (the throne of sorts) and Dipper standing a little behind and beside her again like a bodyguard or second in command, whispering in her ear.

Interrogation as Torture

Interrogation is probably the scenario that comes to most Western people’s minds when torture is mentioned. The belief that torture can be used during interrogation is heavily ingrained in Western pop culture whether the story believes it ‘works’ or not.

I’m going to go over some of the most common misconceptions about what bringing torture to the interrogation table does and does not do.

Tell the Truth

‘Care must be exercised when making use of rebukes, invectives or torture as it will result in his telling falsehoods and making a fool of you.’ Japanese Kempeitai manual found in Burman 1943

The use of force often has the consequence that the person being interrogated under duress confesses falsely because he is afraid and as a consequence agrees to everything the interrogator wishes.’ Indonesian interrogation manual, East Timor, 1983

Intense pain is quite likely to produce false confessions concocted as a means of escaping from distress.’ CIA Kubark Counterintelligence Manual 1963

I can’t prove conclusively that in the history of the world torture has never ever once produced accurate information. Overwhelmingly often it does not. There are several reasons why.

Torture produces a lot of lies. Both people with information and people without information have a good reason to lie under torture. And they both do. The person with information does not want to give it up. The person without information needs to say something to make the torture stop.

Humans are bad at telling when someone is lying. When tested even people who think they’re good at spotting lies can’t do it consistently. It can be almost impossible to tell who is hiding something and who genuinely doesn’t know what’s going on. A person under torture might have already told the truth and started lying when the interrogator didn’t believe them. Which is exactly what happened to Shelia Cassidy when she was tortured in Chile in the 70s.

Pain and stress destroy the human memory. Experiments with willing volunteers have repeatedly shown that stress, pain and lack of sleep make it difficult for people to remember. A 2004 paper using US military survival school as the ‘high stress situation’ which simulated capture and interment as a POW (C A Morgan et al, International Journal of Law and Psychiatry 27, 265-279) found that between 51-68% of soldiers identified the wrong person as their interrogator. Interrogations had lasted four hours with the interrogator shouting at and manhandling the volunteers. The low stress group identified the wrong person 12-38% of the time.


Torture results in loss of public trust. Most police and intelligence investigations live or die on public support. People coming forward voluntarily with accurate information. People reporting on suspects. In the long term torture actively recruits for the opposing ‘side’. According to the IRA this is exactly what happened in Northern Ireland when the British used torture. It also happened in Aden and to a lesser extent Cyprus.

Torture in short produces more lies than truth and in such a mixture that it can be hard to tell which is which. Because of the pain it causes torture can make it impossible for victims who want to tell the truth to actually do so accurately. And because of the effect it has on communities it often makes it harder to gather accurate information through more reliable sources.

Accuracy in torture is so poor it is ‘in some cases less accurate than flipping a coin’. (No that isn’t exaggeration, that’s a quote from D Rejali who literally wrote the book)

The Ticking Bomb

The famous ‘ticking-bomb’ scenario is a fictional situation (it literally came from a novel, written by a suspected torturer) where a disaster (such as a bomb attack) is known to be approaching and in order to save innocent lives the characters need more intel fast.

So they start debating whether to use torture.

Depending on the story and the characters they sometimes do torture. Usually if they do it gives them information they then use to save lives.

There’s another problem, aside from the total lack of accuracy for information that comes from torture. Torture takes as long or longer than other interrogation techniques.

According to the CIA’s own records detainees were put through several days of sleep deprivation before interrogation. The Senate Torture Report (testimony from Ali Soufan) estimated that their torture techniques took 30 days.

According to British records and accounts from the IRA during the Troubles a single torture session by ‘walling’ (sleep deprivation, white noise and stress positions combined) could last between nine and forty three hours.

I’ve selected the following quotes to give an idea of the time frame for short tortures used in interrogation. Both are from Northern Ireland by Irish men detained by the British. Emphasis is mine.

‘One powerfully built RUC detective would keep me pinned in a position while the other one would hold my elbow then press back on my wrist. And that could last for an hour or possibly two hours. And it’s excruciatingly painful, to the extent that I remember after three or four days I would simply go unconscious-’ Tommy McKearney

When I was taken away from Girdwood to be interned, I thought I had been there for about eight days, but it was only three. I later realised I was only being allowed to sleep for ten minutes at a time.’ Joe Docherty

Interrogation always takes time. And that time is measured in days not minutes.

Sanitised Portrayals

‘NO useful information so far….He did vomit a couple of times during the water board with some beans and rice. It’s been 10 hours since he ate so this is surprising and disturbing.’ Senate Torture Report, from quoted emails SSCI 2014, 41-42

For me this is one of the most noticeable differences between torture in pop culture and torture in reality. Torture in films and books is always sanitised.

I don’t mean that it isn’t gory or isn’t gory ‘enough’. Blood seems to be a cinematic staple and seeing the hero beaten and bloodied in a dingy lit room has become standard in a certain sort of action story.

What I’m talking about are the body fluids and products we’re trained to think are less acceptable. Vomit. Urine. Mucus. Faeces.

I can think of several movies where a ‘good-guy’ gets beaten to a bloody pulp on screen. I can’t think of any where they piss themselves. But losing control of bladder and bowel function seem to be pretty common in real life. A lot of the eyewitness accounts I’ve read about systematic torture mention the smell of urine and shit.

Vomiting is something I don’t see mentioned as often in survivor accounts but I think it’s very likely to occur frequently because a lot of common methods of torture produce nausea.


The ‘Tough’ Interrogator

 

It may be only later, outside of that specific environment, that the torturer may question his or her behaviour, and begin to experience psychological damage resulting from involvement in torture and trauma. In these cases, the resulting psychological symptoms are very similar to those of victims, including anxiety, intrusive traumatic memories and impaired cognitive and social functioning.’ Psychologists Mark Costanzo and Ellen Gerrity.

Those techniques [CIA ‘enhanced interrogation’ techniques] are so harsh it’s emotionally distressing to the people who are administering them.’ Dr James Mitchell, psychologist involved in the CIA’s EIT program.

We are where we are- and we’re left popping our Prozac and taking our pills at night.’ Anonymous torturer quoted in Cruel Britannia

There’s a growing body of evidence that torture has a negative psychological effect on the torturer.

The evidence is for the most part anecdotal, based on patterns emerging across interviews. Torturers, funnily enough, don’t show up in droves for psychological studies. But there is a pattern. One of substance abuse, addiction, PTSD and suicide.

The cause of these symptoms in torturers is the same thing that causes trauma in people who witness horrific things. It is well known that seeing violent attacks on others can cause trauma in witnesses.

Humans are empathic creatures.

There is a measurable, automatic response in the brain to seeing others in pain. We can not control it and we can not stop it. Even when we are told that the other person is anaesthetized our brains still respond to their perceived pain.

This, combined with the destruction of normal social interaction and dehumanisation, appears in a very real sense to harm torturers.

If you’re planning to use torture as part of an interrogation scene it’s worth noting that some torturers do believe torture is a useful way to get information, despite the evidence. Some of them cling to the idea that they had to torture, that what they did was useful and saved lives. Some of them seem to overplay the value of torture in order to justify their own actions and jobs.

None of that makes them immune to the effect of torturing another human being.

Disclaimer

[Additional Sources-

‘Torture and Democracy’, Princeton, D Rejali (Only order this if you’ll be at home to pick it up, at over 850 pages it’s a monster)

‘Accuracy of eyewitness memory for person encountered during exposure to highly intense stress’, The International Journal of Law and Psychiatry C A Morgan, G Hazlett, A Doran, S Garrett, G Hoyt, P Thomas, M Baranoksi, S M Southwick, 2004 (This team have actually done a series on high stress situations and the effects on memory. Charles Morgan is the first author on this set of papers.)

‘Audacity to Believe’ Cleveland, S Cassidy

‘Why Torture Doesn’t Work: The Neuroscience of Interrogation.’ Harvard University Press, S O’Mara (Highly recommended, reasonably accessible for a layman)

‘Cruel Britannia: A Secret History of Torture.’ Portobello Books, I Cobain (Very good history, although the author doesn’t seem to understand many of the techniques he writes about)

‘What are you feeling? Using Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging to Assess the Modulation of Sensory and Affective Responses during Empathy for Pain’, PLoS ONE, C Lamm, H C Nusbaum, A N Meltzoff, J Decety 2007 (The experiments in this paper include brain scans of people seeing photos of a needle and a hand in various different positions, some of which would be painful. There wasn’t much change in brain response if the volunteers were told the hand couldn’t feel pain.)]

fridahidle  asked:

What are some real life examples/situations that someone can use or visualize to determine whether they use Ti or Te?

Hi there! We came together and put together our thoughts on this –

Ti-Mod:

In a way, because Ti is my dominant function, it’s also one of my hardest to describe. I usually only recognize it for what it is in contrast with the Te users in my life. To wit: I know a Te dom, and we disagree a lot. During a disagreement over Star Wars the other night, he says:

Te-dom: “When everyone goes to see Episode 6 in December - “

Me (Ti-dom):” Episode 8. The next one is episode 8, Episode 6 is Return of the Jedi.”

That’s what my Ti is like. I want things to be exact and specific. True, that’s also my Si talking (details, specifics) but mainly from my Ti, especially in debates, it’s very important to me to be precise and exact; in fact, it’s more important to me to be specific and certain of what I’m talking about than to actually win or  even complete the debate.

In the workplace, I want to be thorough. My  bosses constantly need me to be in ten places at once, and I go crazy not being able to thoroughly complete each step in the process of the task at hand, to be exact and know that I have followed every rule and completed every part of what’s at hand. I get teased for being so precise; I don’t just want to get the job done, I want to get it done exactly and precisely right. I can’t just put the bottle of wine back in the general area of the wine, it has to be in the exact spot that type of wine is supposed to go.

To paraphrase from my favorite show, “(my) logic does not resemble (most) earth logic” (Buffy). I have systems of understanding for how things work. I can’t just watch a TV show or a movie, I have to figure out how that show or film fits into an overall system of analysis about how things work. I don’t just watch an episode of Buffy, for example; my mind goes into overdrive trying to process the symbolism in it, the philosophical underpinnings, or even something simple like what this interaction between my personal OTP or ship indicates about their relationship. I struggle to sleep a lot at night because my brain goes into overdrive as soon as there’s no immediate task in front of me, with trying to analyze what happened with this and that. There is just no shutting it off; I even try to analyze my dreams while I’m having them. I’m at times so matter-of-fact that I take everything literally and don’t sense when people are just joking.

These are all various ways in daily life that I use my Ti.

Te-Mod:

Te is Hermione telling Ron, someone she hardly knows, that he’s saying it wrong and then pointing out the correct way to do it. Why? Because it’s right. It’s seeing something incorrect and correcting it. As simple as that. Te is Gwen being anxious that Peter is always late because there are times set and plans in motion and they aren’t to be broken. It’s concrete and it’s happening.

Dominant Te, especially, is blunt and to-the-point. It is immediate action and rectification of problems. When given tasks at work, I instantly draft my to-do and size up the scenario. A strength of Te, especially at work, is assessing a situation very quickly and just acting. Exerting upon the environment a logical system of events or actions and utilizing lists to keep on top of tasks and priorities keeps things straight and narrow. While some may not like lists or to-dos, I find them imperative to success. I also see that some might not immediately take action or execute a plan (versus taking some time to do extra planning, etc.), where my Te allows me to do so confidently. I like being in leadership roles and typically volunteer for them. I prefer to have authority and like to lead.

When faced with something new or unknown, Te is proactive. More often than not I consider past plans or strategies I have seen and then implement them (Si and Te working in tandem.) Depending on the situation, a to-do list (obsessed, maybe?) will be drafted or a schedule will be created. Then, as quickly as possible, the plan will be implemented. Just as important - research and references. I like to discuss the problem with someone knowledgeable or resourceful if at all possible.

In general social situations, Te is Spencer Hastings constantly correcting her friends’ grammar and steamrolling her plans onto them and expecting them to adhere. I think I definitely have controlling behaviors and I tend to lead. Most of my friends are more go-with-the-flow than I am and sometimes this can lead to conflict. I tend to face conflict head on, pushing the envelope where others may like to cease for harmony. Making new friends is pretty easy for me, though there are certainly different levels of friendship. Making base-level friends – that is, friends who are more like acquaintances – is simple. Sometimes this is something that is simply productive. Making good or best friends takes something special in common and then, once I trust someone, we typically become close very quickly.

Dating is something that I find to be interesting across personality types. While I think dating can be fun and interesting, it’s somewhat stressful for me. I don’t want to waste time dating someone if it’s going to be unproductive or not yield results. I like to give 100% or none at all, which is something generally true about me in anything. I like to be able to commit to something completely, whether it be at work or in another aspect of life.

In terms of understanding vs. execution for the sake of execution, I do like to understand how something works or why it works but if that’s not an option I’ll just do what needs to be done for the sake of the project. This happens often at work, where I’ll need to figure something out and will simply follow the necessary steps but won’t have the time to really get into the depths of the why or how.

I may stop to analyze something for fun, trying to dissect and understand, but most often I am only going to see that the object or system works in the way that it is meant to. If something breaks, I’ll fiddle with it and most likely refer to research or a manual (my Si maybe?) and try my very best to fix it before just ordering another or seeing if someone else knows the trick!

Hopefully this helps! If you have more specific questions we are happy to answer as well!

Soulmate!Jihoon

Originally posted by amillionwon

  • a/n: anon requested a soulmate Jihoon with some ridiculousness added into it
  • Soulmate au where you will occasionally do or say what your soulmate does or say
  • Jihoon assumes he must have murdered a whole village in his past life to be cursed with this
  • “WHAT THE FUCK” is his everyday sentence
  • Just wants to finish his English paper but he can’t really do it when his fingers are moving around the keyboard typing what he thinks is fanfiction
  • “goddammit”
  • After about five minutes he gets his control of his hands again and has to erase the full blown fanfic that is displayed on his screen
  • Was playing a shooter game with the guys when all of a sudden he stood up and started running and all the guys are laughing because they have never seen Jihoon run in his entire life
  • One time you were sobbing because you hadn’t slept in 24 hours and someone drank all the milk and Jihoon did not have a fun time
  • Jihoon is blubbering (but he’s not crying) his voice is coming all choppy and whining and Jeonghan is videotaping Jihoon screaming about how sad he was that someone drank all the milk
  • The boys have so much dirt on Jihoon to be honest
  • And Jihoon doesn’t really do anything embarrassing to be affecting you
  • but Jihoon sleeps a lot, which means you often fall asleep on the bus or in class (which you don’t mind at all) but it’s not entertaining when you’re falling asleep at work
  • once in class screamed “GET THE FUCK OUT SEUNGCHEOL”
  • you got scolded by the teacher after class about how inappropriate that was and that blaming it on your soulmate is not a legitimate reason
  • for some reason, Jihoon can’t fathom why you trip a lot and why does he have to experience the trip along with you
  • literally is walking in an empty hallway before he tumbles to the ground screaming “Fuck”
  • one night, a night that made Jihoon’s heart flutter, he couldn’t sleep at all and he didn’t know if you couldn’t sleep either or if his restlessness was keeping you awake,
  • but suddenly a small humming tune spilled from his lips, he quietly hummed the sweet tune and in just a few minutes, the tune disassembles from his mouth and he slips into a slumber with a smile on his lips
  • once petted Soonyoung’s head while cooing about how cute of a puppy he was (obviously he’s assuming you’re petting a dog)
  • luckily it was only soonyoung there and he threatened the poor boy that if he told anyone what happened, he’ll make sure he never lives
  • has to be careful when he drinks something because you like to be spontaneous with your actions and the last time he spilled hot coffee on himself
  • basically carries his whole closet with him because of you
  • Jihoon will sometimes use his soulmate as a scapegoat to be mean to the other members
  • *slaps Seungcheol*
  • “sorry that was my soulmate”
  • *moves the chair so Soonyoung falls when he tries to sit down*
  • “it was my soulmate”
  • “No one cares Wonwoo. Sorry that was my soulmate again”
  • “YOU LITERALLY SAID MY NAME JIHOON STOP LYING”
  • Jihoon finds you
  • He finds you because he wants to censor you and your flamboyant actions from ruining another one of his sweaters
  • Remember how you wrote fanfic while he was trying to write his English paper, well Jihoon thanks the lord for google doc’s change history because he’s able to go back and replace all those words he previously deleted
  • Searches by the paragraph to find you
  • Finds your tumblr
  • Accidentally spends 100 years stalking your tumblr (SOMEONE AT MY NEW JOB DID THIS TO ME BUT WITH FACEBOOK ASDSDKJFH)
  • Also finds your other social media
  • stalks you once again on all of them
  • “dude Jihoon that’s just creepy”
  • Doesn’t care though because wow are you really his soulmate, you’re wayyy out of his league to be his soulmate is what he thinks
  • Gets scared because initially he was just going to outright say “I’m your soulmate” but after seeing your face and everything you post, he’s all nervous now
  • Creates a tumblr and befriends you
  • You only know him as @ woozi and that he likes and reblogs everything you do
  • But then Jihoon gets really addicted to Tumblr and starts reblogging his own things and then you follow him and start reblogging his stuff because damn he reblogs aesthetically pleasing stuff
  • Flashback to that late night when he couldn’t sleep and was humming that tune, well he decided to compose a little melody with that tune and you FLIP OUT when he posted it on his tumblr
  • “WHERE DID YOU HEAR THAT TUNE”
  • When jihoon first got that message he didn’t really know how to respond so he just says it straight
  • “I’m actually your soulmate”
  • Before Jihoon knows it, he’s screaming and jumping everywhere (curtesy of you on the other end)
  • You two finally decide to meet at a nearby café, and although you don’t know what he looks like, he knows what you look like already
  • The moment he steps into that café, and his eyes land on you drinking coffee, a smile tugs on his lips because wow were you more beautiful in person, when you look up and meet his eyes, it just kind of clicks
  • When you two are together, everything just feels like it’s fallen into the right place for Jihoon, your crazy actions and words he doesn’t mind any more
  • When he’s with you, everything just fits, all movements and words fit together so perfectly, it’s like the reason for burst of actions/words beforehand was because he needed his other half
  • Together, random actions/words seem to cease
  • The more comfortable part of the relationship took a while to develop since Jihoon is more shy and introverted
  • But once he hits that point, boy is he savage as fuck
  • “I hit soonyoung today, I told him it was because of you”
  • “What the fuck Jihoon”
  • “He was annoying me, I also may have accidentally spilled coffee on some of the guys”
  • “LEE JIHOON”
  • The first time he said ‘I love you’ he didn’t really say it to your face
  • you were sitting at home watching television when suddenly you just start talking
  • “I don’t know, it’s hard to explain what I feel with her. I like her. I want to be with her a lot. She makes me happy.”
  • There’s a pause which you can only assume is the other person talking.
  • “Love her?” You can actually feel the hesitation in his voice, “Yeah. I guess I do love her”
  • Your heart really swells at that statement and you can’t help but smile the entire day until he walks into your apartment
  • And you know how stubborn he can be, and how he would never admit it to your face
  • When he gives you a weird look, asking why you look soo happy
  • You just rest your head onto his shoulder
  • “I guess I do love you too”
  • Jihoon is bright red now and he’s cursing the lords for having you hear that but at the same time, he’s kind of relieved you found out that way because he was secretly afraid his lack of affection would take a toll on you
  • Soulmate Jihoon, despite catching you into your fanfictions early, loves you even though he doesn’t admit it a lot. His small affections of holding your hand, and forehead kisses make up for everything. And the fact that you take all the rap for his wrongdoings towards his member, makes him know that you indeed are his soulmate.
Character Development Breakdown: Kagome Higurashi

Introduction

Kagome’s development really has an impact on pretty much everyone she meets, herself, and the story itself. She starts out as a kind girl, that’s a bit spunky, but… falls victim to a lot of the things that teenagers her age do. Her idea of ‘love’ is only what one would know from books or TV shows, her ideal guy is the “prince” that every girl wants, until they realize that even the prince has his flaws, as does Kagome. That’s only naming a few.

Kagome’s development comes down to, maturity, her powers, her marksmanship, her view on love, and her emotions, and yes, even her school. While the basis of her character is always a nice and kind girl, her niceness develops, along with her maturity and understanding. Her view on things improves and becomes more powerful and more focused, and due to her growth in maturity, it changes. Her niceness can often be her biggest flaw, due to her insecurity and her lack of confidence, and often being too nice, causes these two to make an appearance, even if there isn’t a hint of doubt in what she wants to do, those negative emotions come through and she has to find herself dealing with them.

The Breakdown

Maturity: Now while it might seem at the beginning of the series, Kagome is very mature, she does have her immaturity that comes with her age, ignoring her grandpa’s stories and the gift that she received from her grandfather being pieces of this, her stubbornness plays a role in this, though it might be because of Inuyasha, though she does try to play the peacemaker between the two.

Her adjustment to the era could also play a role in this, since that does take a while, and that’s a factor of the environment. Which, is key, because her time in the past has an effect on her in her own time, as we see, she picks up aspects of that time, which add to her character, and the more and more we come across her friends, the more we start to realize that Kagome… doesn’t quite fit into the group anymore, she’s changing so much because of her time in the past, all that experience, that her friends can’t keep up with her.

This, as stated above, also applies to the positives of her character, she’s a very nice character, that is also a victim of her own niceness, she’ll help those out even if it puts herself in danger or it hurts her emotionally, that changes as her confident and security with herself grows, but for much of the series, that actually effects her negatively, due to insecurity and a lack of confidence, these aspects are targeted in numerous arcs, with her often having to come to grips with them, when it does. To give something of an idea of this, think of the Kaou arc… “I’m not strong, I’m being kind!”, so often her niceness is one of her biggest attributes, it does wonder for those around her, but it effects her in numerous ways at the same time, it’s something that she has to find a proper balance, but first she has to obtain the confidence in order to do so, it’s when she does, she not only becomes more mature, but emotionally stronger.

Powers: Her powers are an odd one, because she doesn’t have any control of them, and they come out in bursts, Kagome’s powers were the key to Naraku’s defeat, that’d been brought up on numerous occasions due to her powers often being the thing that Naraku wanted nothing to do with, or when he did he had to find a means to get around them. Kagome’s powers go through an odd development, because she does learn how to use them, but it isn’t until later in the series that we learn that she’s being held back by the jewel itself, and Hitomiko’s training also plays a key piece in developing Kagome as a marksman.

Marksmanship: Speaking of marksman, let’s tackle that. This one I always hear about people wanting to see her practice with a bow, and get better, we never actually see her doing this. This never really bothered me, mostly because she has plenty of targets possibly on a daily basis and often when their in a real battle, so one assumes that to be the case, but that also has me asking “What about Inuyasha?” he rarely if ever trains with his own sword, he’s not the training type at all really (sure the anime often liked to throw in a lot of aspects about this), but he does very little training. Needless to say, her shot improves through the series, and as it should be, it’s a slow process, she grows better and better, but doesn’t become an expert overnight.

Love: As mentioned about, Kagome falls victim to all the things teenage girls do, her idea of love is basically what you would expect from a prince in a fairy-tale, or a character from a drama, he’s perfect, often too perfect. Yet, she ends up falling for a guy that has quite a few of his own flaws, and even more-so, she actually learns what love is, not that shallow approach that TV gives us, but the real deal. This one I don’t think gets a lot of love (pun may-or-may-not be intended, depending on your sense of humor). When talking about love, it’s always about her relationship with Inuyasha, but let’s move away a little bit from that, and focus on a few things, namely, her interaction with Inuyasha is her first actual romantic involvement with a boy.

And we get to see every bit of it, we get to see her reacting with his attempt to kiss her, that flusters her, we see her reaction to him when he comments on her scent and talks with her, we see her thought process when he hugs her and her conflicting feelings. We see everything, all Kagome’s thoughts from a person that “think” she knows about love, to someone that actually knows what it is because she’s experiencing it, and we see every bit of it happens, we get her thoughts on things, we hear Kagome’s monologues in the series more than just about anybody else, and with this subject, she’s often the one that’s setting the tone, in fact, it’s often because of her confusion, that both Inuyasha’s and Kikyo’s relationship (or lack-there-of) are presented.

Emotional: This one really branches into different areas, love, maturity and her confidence, but also her ability to understand people better, she becomes able to read people. I feel the thing that best exemplifies this, is her words to Naraku about his actions, she gets a read on him that nobody ever thought about, nobody really understood, even Kikyo, who was supposed to know Onigumo, and who thought she knew Naraku better than anyone, couldn’t actually get an idea of what Naraku and Onigumo truly wanted.

And this ability isn’t something that she naturally has, her ability to understand people comes from learning about them, through thoughts, actions and words, and that’s more because she actually cares about people, or doesn’t get cocky and actually learns from each of her experiences. The latter is important, because Kagome has to constantly develop, she has to constantly learn from her experiences, because if there was one time, even one time during the series that Kagome didn’t, Naraku would have won, the jewel would have won. But because she learns not only about others emotions, but her own, she’s able to beat Naraku time after time after time. It’s this part of her development that strengthens everything about her, whether it be love, her powers, and most definitely her maturity.

Education: This is a funny one, because really the only thing you have to do is consistently hear about her school (which we occasionally do), and graduate. This one is of course more of a slow burn, but we do consistently hear about her work, especially early on, because the idea is in place, and then it’s referenced when she either talks about it, or has to go to her time to study for a test or make up some work (though there was never a schedule set, I’m sure there was at least a day or week (normally, sans when something involving Naraku happens and has to be taken care of). Anyway, of course, she does pass, and she does graduate.

Impact & Influence

I’ll say this right now, nobody in the series has a bigger impact than Kagome does, her development not only develops her character, she develops those around her due to her actions and words. To really put things in perspective, I have to do a character breakdown, because it’s much easier to sort.

Inuyasha: Perhaps nobody is a better example of this than Inuyasha, most of Inuyasha’s core development is due to Kagome, whether it be trying to become stronger, trying to control his demon side, coming to terms with who he is as a person, without Kagome’s own development, and without who she is as a character, we really wouldn’t know the kind of Inuyasha that we do. With that in mind, some of Inuyasha’s development also leads to development for Kagome in the process as well as their relationship.

Kikyo: Kikyo isn’t so much impacted (though Kagome’s powers and emotional strength play a part in her staying alive longer), so much as it’s Kagome that really puts everything into perspective when it comes to Kikyo’s relationship with Inuyasha. It’s due to her impact on Inuyasha, that Inuyasha is much more open, and Kikyo is able to see a realer Inuyasha, not quite the real deal, but a lot more than she saw during her time with him. It’s often due to her misreading things, that a lot of pseudo-development (development only through Kagome’s misinterpretation) is made for the relationship, not everything she thinks is true, but it sets there relationship into perspective, only to course, really put the entire relationship into perspective at Mt. Azusa.

Sango: This one has more to do with Kagome’s experience with her own brother, so they relate to one another easily, and Kagome plays the role of the emotional support until Miroku steps in to fill that role. And of course, Kagome plays a large role in getting Sango to join the group.

Miroku: This one is difficult, she doesn’t really have a whole lot of interaction with Miroku, a lot of their interaction seems to be more based around respect, she played a role in him joining the group, but at the moment, I can’t think of a whole lot for him.

Shippo: Kagome takes on the role of the mother to Shippo, and naturally when you’re in that role, the child not only grows, but the parent grows as well, Kagome finds herself in a role for a very mature person, and those earlier on she might not be best suited for that role, through time and development, she fits quite well into the role.

Naraku: I’d say, Kagome had as much of a impact on Naraku as she did on Inuyasha, but not in the same way. It’s due to Kagome’s development, both emotionally and power wise, that Naraku has to constantly adapt, and find ways to defeat her, much like Kagome has to adapt, develop and learn, Naraku has to do the same. Both have to try to be one step in front of the other, and this is a constant thing, from the moment Kagome’s destroys his body, he has to do everything he can to avoid her, or a find a way to protect himself from her. Of course, when you have an enemy like this, you development from one another, a hero is nothing without a good villain, and a villain is nothing without a good hero, and that’s what Kagome and Naraku are, their enemies, that have to always be ready for when they encounter one another, if not ready, prepared or willing to adapt, you lose. Is it any wonder why Naraku constantly comes out the loser, regardless of how much he tries?

Sesshomaru: Now argument could be made that she didn’t, but personally, I think that she did have some influence on him. Not many people can claim they not only talked back to Sesshomaru, but not many people, not named Inuyasha, have been able to hit him and live to tell about it, and that is especially true for humans. Now of course, Rin played the biggest role in what Sesshomaru became, but before Rin, Kagome had something of an impact on him, she showed that not all humans were cowardly and weak, and much of that leads to, their somewhat awkward interaction with one another. I’d argue that it was Kagome that caused Sesshomaru to respect her, ever as a human, while Rin was the one that showed him to care about humans, or people in general.

Conclusion

Kagome, Sesshomaru and Inuyasha all share one thing in common (and a bunch of subsets of that thing of course), at the beginning of the series, they all have immature elements to their characters, at the end of the series, their all adults, having learned and developed along the story. InuYasha itself is a coming-of-age story. Kagome as the main character, starts out as a teenager, and ends up as an adult, ready to take on the world. Kagome develops faster than most teenagers her age, but that’s due to the massive amount of responsibility that she has to take on, and all the experiences that she goes through over the course of the series.

Everything from learning about herself, growing in confidence, finding love, taking on the role of a parent, finishing school, at the age of 18, she’s pretty much way ahead of where she should be in her life, and it took a lot of work for her to get there, and we literally got to see it all, she grew up over the course of the story, right in front of us.

Lifetime

hello everyone! this one is based off of the song ‘Still Into You’ by Paramore. send in requests! hope you enjoy!


Harry and you have been together through everything. Three years together can do that to you. We met when you were 19, him just turning 20. You weren’t always a ‘stable’ person. You are an independent woman, keeping to yourself, but when you were a teenager, things weren’t always easy. Nothing seemed easy in your adolescence, but when your parents are going through a divorce taking the life out of you, things are worse. It seemed that they were always unhappy, always yelling, always arguing, never around. Growing up, you never had that person to talk to when you needed to talk about anything. With the parents preoccupied with their own drama, you had no time to express your feelings, a trait that carried into your adulthood. 

Harry knew how difficult of a time you had when you were young; it was one of the first things you two talked about together. He knew when you would get antsy, he knew when you got anxiety, he knew when you got into your head. He also knew how to get you out of your head, relax, and express yourself. He usually did this by just squeezing your hand letting you know that he was with you and listening intently. Small gestures go a long way for you both, which is something that you hope never dies.

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Mystic Yandere Shit [Minor Trio]

Warning: a little bit of nsfw ahead… well, a little bit more than a bit but still a bit.

˙·٠•●♥ V ♥●•٠·˙

  • He never looked like someone overly jealous or possessive. He always stayed calm, unless something really bad happened; you could see it during the whole Rika case: he was clearly obsessed. And you thought he’d never be like this towards anyone else… until you two started dating. He’d always be so peaceful, respecting your choices and opinions. Until this one time when you had to leave for a few days to visit your family: he wanted you to stay at first, but when you said you can’t, he asked you to take him with you. Even if you didn’t obviously know each other well enough for your family to let him stay at their place.
  • He was always affectionate, not in a bad way of course. But, as the time passed, he became clingy, which evolved into him continuously asking for your attention. He insisted on you staying at his place or started to stay at yours, at some point not even asking for your permission anymore. He was all over your life, no matter where you were or what were you doing: always creeping silently behind you, without a word showing to the world that you’re his with still gentle, protective hugs and small kisses.
  • In private though, everything started to change. Very slowly, so that you couldn’t say ‘no’ if something happened too suddenly. But you could notice him occasionally being less gentle, leaving marks there and there, one by one, starting with your cleavage and eventually leaving them high on your neck, where you couldn’t hide them easily. At first there were only slight hickeys, but as the time passed, they’ve became darker and bigger, sometimes you could suddenly find actual bitemarks around your shoulders and back. Along with those, there came bruises on your hips and thighs.
  • Much more than roughness though, V enjoys testing your body’s reactions, limits. He will happily tie you up and run ice cubes down your stomach. And if he’s feeling more risky, he will most likely leave the cubes in some not-too-obvious places, letting you cry from the pain caused by the freezing coldness. He’s the one to pour hot wax onto your skin and then suddenly tore it off or – if he’s more gentle at the time – tickle you with feathers, not letting you get away from him too easily. It may be pleasant to you… but keep in mind, if he senses danger coming out from your other admirers or you yourself, he will remind you as to who you belong to. He will leave on your body permanent scars, most likely burns either from acid or actual fire.
  • He loves the poses, the expressions you make. He wants to catch every single detail of your body. He used to blindfold you at first so that you couldn’t see him taking photos of your naked body, as it could upset you. But as the time passes, he’s not afraid of your reactions anymore and takes the photos no matter if you want it or not. You’re probably tied up anyway so you can’t do anything. He promises to delete them later… but he obviously does not. He has hundreds of those stored in a box, not letting anyone else see them.
  • If you want to leave, he’s even more clingy, persuading you with affection. If it doesn’t work, he’ll get nervous, saying that it’s not safe to leave, telling you over and over that you can’t. He’ll even throw his pride aside, begging you to stay, crying. But if all those things don’t work, he’ll get furious. If blackmailing you with the photos doesn’t help, you won’t even notice as he suddenly hits your face, making you fall. This will be the only time when he’s ready to beat you up so that you have no strength to leave, making you believe that staying with him will be the only way to stay safe. It’s obviously not.

˙·٠•●♥ Saeran ♥●•٠·˙

  • He looks mentally unstable at the very first sight so let’s be honest, it’s nothing surprising. The moment he shows in your apartment to take you away, it’s already obvious that he’s not normal. He’s been watching you for weeks and he knows everything about you, while you have no idea what to expect. He never explains anything, telling you about the paradise and no matter if you want it or not, you’re already in his trap. Because there’s no way he’ll let you out once he has you in his hands.
  • The deal is easy. As long as you do everything he says, you’re relatively safe. But his “do what I say” part may include… well, a lot. And I think in this state Saeran is actually the only one to force sexual things on you before you’re comfortable in the relationship: mostly because there were no “relationship” to begin with. As long as you’re obedient, he will be rather gentle, even caring. But he expects you to be completely submissive to his actions, otherwise he’ll force it in a veeery unpleasant way. And he likes it: he enjoys seeing you vulnerable or panicking.
  • He’s not the one to hurt you without a reason. But he may suddenly get angry at you and actually hit, cut, even shoot you when he’s too mad to control his actions. If he’s not, he will find a way to punish you anyway. And he knows very well how to make people suffer. What turns him on the most, is seeing you scared. He will torture you, humilate you in any way possible. And he’ll always say that “one day you’ll be grateful”. His point is to eventually break you.
  • He will have those short, guilt-filled episodes, more and more often as you get closer to the edge. Especially right after he hurts you more than he thought he would. He will panic, cry and apologize over and over, desperately trying to fix you, offering you ice cream and being incredibly gentle with you, at the same time scared of touching you, as if you could literally break from bare touch. Those won’t last long, but they’ll help you realize that he never chose to be like this. That he’s somehow a victim too.
  • Other than his “rough” times, he’s really craving for affection. Since he has literally no one, he will use you for it even if you don’t want it. If he’s not working, he will wrap arms around you, telling you in this low, harsh tone to stay still and quiet. He will make you sit on his lap when he’s working and nuzzle your neck. He will feel really desperate if he sees you scared of him in those moments, which may lead to those “guilt” episodes, but if you happen to return the affection, he’ll be more than grateful, treating you like a treasure.
  • He doesn’t even want to listen about you leaving. If he’s in the guilt mode, he may actually be as emotional as to let you out, but other than that, he won’t even listen to you if you start the topic. He’ll get annoyed instead if you keep pushing him, and even more if you try to get out on your own. He won’t punish you for this, not in the way he would for anything else: but he’ll either tie you down or sedate you so that you’re unable to leave no matter what.

˙·٠•●♥ Vanderwood ♥●•٠·˙

  • He needs a lot of time to even start dating a person he likes (unless it’s about one-night stands), so any more intimate moments will have to wait as well. But when he starts to feel comfortable in a relationship, he’ll instantly become very posssessive. He’s not the one to show public affection, he’ll for sure avoid it at all costs. But since it won’t be obvious that you’re taken, it will be very easy for him to get jealous when your admirers get too cocky. That will make him instantly call you over and take home, no point in arguing.
  • Controlling you is not a big deal for him. He’s older, he’s experienced, he knows life and dangers. But he’s really scared that someone could take you away from him, paranoid since he knows that his past may show up any moment and cause trouble. This causes him to be more and more cautious around you, to the point of not letting you do anything nor go anywhere on your own. It starts with frequent calls and ends with him following you everywhere.
  • The thing that will eventually trigger him is a real threat. If he senses danger, he will literally lose his mind, calling you over right away or bringing you to his place. He will probably take you somewhere far away from where you live, most likely saying that he wants to spend some time together. If you notice him acting strangely – which isn’t difficult, he’s really not like himself at this time – and try to refuse, he’ll take out the taser. In a second, he’ll be next to you, holding you as you fall limp into his arms; not saying anything, he kisses gently the side of your head. He’ll take you there no matter what, bonding your wrists and ankles carefully enough so that you don’t get hurt from it.
  • Once he has you under his eye, he will start to change. He’ll get more quiet and cold, spend all day nervously checking every single trait of danger. He will stop paying you attention, only making sure you don’t leave the house, either watching you 24/7 or literally enchaining your ankle to the wall so that you can move freely only to some range. You’d try to talk to him, realizing how scared he actually is, but it’ll be like talking to a wall. At some time, he will calm down a bit and focus more on you, but you’ll be most likely kind of broken at this point since it’s been weeks of being imprisoned by him.
  • He won’t be the one to yell at you for being ungrateful, but he’ll feel sad if you seem to not understand his intentions. He’ll try to persuade himself by saying it’s for your safety, because he’ll start to notice that something is really wrong with him. His mind will eventually deny it and he’ll act as if nothing happened, becoming almost careless in his actions. He’ll make everything look as if you two were living a normal life in this house, all lovely and domestic. But he won’t take the schackles off and ignore it if you try to persuade him to let you go.
  • He will be kind of trapped in his small world and, wanting you to be a part of it, he’ll start to train you to his liking. He’s always gentle at first, but he’ll grow up to being more and more strict. He’ll treat you like his property, always focusing on you more than himself. He doesn’t mind himself being forbidded from pleasure, but he knows very well how to give you everything you need. It may be kind of strange, as he has you naked and coming closer to the edge, while he’s so unphased by it, still having his gloves on. But the pleasure he gives you, is also an obligation: there’s always that little warning to never try to refuse what he gives.


Writing about Vanderwood was surprisingly difficult. But not beause I had no idea, I was just like… I started imagining all those things (angst this shit that’s what I’m feeding on) and it made me either feel like crying because he needs love or turned on bECAUSE ANGST THIS SHIT. The idea itself is just… aghh, can someone write it down as a fic??? Pretty please??? TwT

Saeran’s one was partly (and uncounsciously, I realized it later;;) inspired by a Wattpad fic I read a while ago. If anyone’s interested in it, creep to my ask box, I’ll try to find it for you.

Hope you at least enjoyed it;;

Yandere headcanons for RFA can be found here.

Reconciling GITF with the Ten/Rose arc

Or, “Why the Doctor was definitely a jerk, but not as much of one as we think.”

I’ve had this post rattling around in my brain for months, and @chiaroscuroverse‘s great meta in her author profile and subsequent replies, plus thinking about it for my own author profile, inspired me to finally get it written down. Like her, I don’t like the way GITF has skewed the fandom perception of Ten’s character. In an effort to reconcile his very out of character behaviour, a whole fanon has arisen that makes him out to be commitment-phobic and cavalier with Rose’s safety in a way that does not hold water if we remove GITF from the equation. 

But–much as I wish we could–we can’t just pretend the episode doesn’t exist. In light of that, how can we analyse GITF and come out at the end with a version of Ten that still fits in with how he acts in other episodes?

The first thing you need to know as I write this post is that I will not be looking at other episodes through the lens of what happens in GITF. I go the other way around. When you’re analysing texts, you should always depend on the stronger text to inform the weaker text. I assume that everyone who is still reading this post by this point agrees that GITF is a very bad representation of Ten’s character--so why do we use it as the basis of our meta, rather than finding ways to fit it into the character we see in other episodes?

This is a long post, so I’m going under a cut in a minute. But first, here are the bullet points I’ll be addressing:

  • Things we know as the audience that Rose does not know
  • Reinette going into his head is assault, not a sign of intimacy
  • Mickey’s presence on the TARDIS was not an attempt at space
  • Mickey is not a reliable witness of the Doctor’s behaviour
  • The Doctor’s drunk act when he arrives is just an act
  • The Tenth Doctor was no less protective of Rose than Nine
  • It was wrong of the Doctor to leave Rose and Mickey on the spaceship without any indication that had an idea of how to get back, especially after telling her he’d never leave her behind
  • My ultimate conclusion after considering all those points

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An ENFP Gone "Wrong”

I’ve noticed some general online frustration (and had a few conversations with various ENFPs that expressed annoyance) that there aren’t really any good examples of what happens when an ENFP “goes wrong” in film.

Psychotic ESFPs? Tons of them. ENFPs? Not so much.

So what does it LOOK LIKE when an ENFP is morally questionable?

I know there’s a ton of Closer fans on tumblr, so don’t get me wrong –  I love Brenda Leigh Johnson from The Closer. Love isn’t even a strong enough word. She is arguably one of the greatest TV characters since Columbo. She’s fabulous, but she is also a good example of what can happen when a FiTe decides to go “off the book” and “exact her own justice.”

Numerous times throughout the series, Brenda runs up against criminals that could get off on contingencies, or that she simply cannot PROVE did something truly heinous. Rapists, molesters, murderers, drug dealers. And, I can think of several instances where she decided to go outside the system and ensure the person was PUNISHED for their crimes, because she deemed it worthy of punishment, regardless of what the law said.

Two instances in particular stand out to me – in one, she chased a pedophile to Mexico, where she wasn’t allowed to arrest him, because he was outside of US jurisdiction. So what she did instead was got him to confess to his crime in front of the Mexican police – and because the underage girl he raped and murdered was from Mexico, they immediately arrested him (sickened at his crime, she took pleasure in telling him that Mexican prisons are much harder on criminals than State prisons – and when he begged her to take him back to the US, she refused, and left him to suffer).

In another, a man murdered several people at a gas station; the gas station was in “gang territory,” but “off bounds,” and he violated the rules. Since he had immunity for his crime (he was a witness against someone else, and the DA’s office “stupidly” offered him immunity), Brenda could do nothing about the murder – but she could drive him home, drop him off, and let the gang know about his actions, which made him a target. He wound up dead. In her mind, that was justice. He deserved to “pay for his crime,” and did.

In all these instances, her sense of moral indignation overruled what the law allows – and she didn’t care about the consequences nor the moral implications of her own actions because she saw it as “justice.” (Nor did she care about seeing them suffer for a long time; she wanted to ensure they never did it again - Te: stop them, forever.) Her Fi decided on a black and white moral code (what he did is unforgivable) and she used her Te to make it happen (in one instance, playing the Mexican criminal justice system, and in the other, ordering her subordinates to leave the man behind, ignoring their moral protests - she pulled rank on them, and forced them to commit a crime). If the law could not get them, she would let someone else do it – and in both instances, she ignored their appeals for her sympathy.

This could easily, in another ENFP character, become a villain, who is either controlling people, exacting their own form of justice, or committing morally dubious actions in order to fulfill their own sense of righteous rage – an EXFP villain is frightening, because their evil is often based in a sense of “I know what is right, and you do not, and I will PUNISH your sins” (see ESFP Daenarys in Game of Thrones as a good example; her form of “justice” is just as cruel and merciless as the slavers she replaced; she is in very great danger of becoming a tyrant).

Fi is an extremely black and white moral function; in a true villain, it can be totally immune to sympathy for its victims. Te has a habit, in any villain, of becoming a tyrannical force – of exacting their authority in such a way that it oppresses people, uses their power for nefarious ends, or is willing to sacrifice other humans either for a personal goal / gain or out of a warped sense of moral superiority and self-righteousness (bad Fi).

Unlike an ENTP villain, who wants to create chaos for its own sake “to see what might happen if I do this…” an ENFP villain will want to PUNISH – not to torture someone just to feed off their pain (that is bad Fe) but to make them pay for their sins. Te is often most interested in STOPPING something – and that may include enforcing their own moral code upon the masses (and punishing those severely who resist) or just … killing the problem.

Imagine, if you are an ENFP (or any other type, really) what kind of a villain you would be, if you acted on those enraged thoughts of moral indignation at the deeds committed in this world (someone should just kill that person… they should have every torture inflicted on them that they inflicted on that kid/animal…) – the moment of hearing about someone raping and murdering a little girl, and escaping justice. What lengths would you go to, and what would you DO about it, if you had no moral code of your own that prohibited murder and allowed your rage to fester? And what if you had the POWER to make anything happen that you wanted to make happen? Would your Te kick in and “enforce” your moral code on others… through violence?

In Ne/Te looping in particular, how would you stay “one step ahead” of the law and field off potential problems? Manipulate your way out of situations? Ensure you didn’t get caught?

There is your ENFP villain.

- ENFP Mod

Do Kyungsoo // Oblivious


Prompt:
While staying at your best friend Kai’s dorm on a visit, you accidentally overhear a conversation between the members that surprises you a lot. - ft. the other EXO boys being ridiculous 
Scenario: Fluff, comedy 
Word Count: 3,669

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itsaconquestofimagination  asked:

Mod Renne, could you possibly bless us with a part 2 to that mermaid!Kylo story you did. Cause it was fantastic 😊

Thanks Sara! Glad you enjoyed it :)


Kylo returned to the cave everyday after that, hoping that’d he see you again. Day after day he’d wait for hours until he grew frustrated and gave up, swimming away to carry on with business. He just couldn’t get you out of his head; he was almost beginning to regret not stealing you away.

What a beautiful human He thought wistfully, smiling to himself. Maybe if he kept on coming to the cave, you’d return one day. But, as his patience was wearing thin, Kylo decided to use a much more powerful mechanism to attract you to him.

It was thundering out when you finally fell asleep, mind so occupied that nothing but pure exhaustion could turn it off. Even though it had been a few weeks you just couldn’t stop thinking about the merman. Afterwards, you had even doubted whether or not it was real, or if it was just a memory of a dream. Though you swore you could still feel your lips faintly tingling, from the last kiss that he left you with.

Those thoughts melted away into a sea of impulses, and your body finally felt the relief of sleep. Eventually you dreamed, so vividly that it felt real.

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A-Z headcanon - Scorpio

I’ve been super into the whole A-Z headcanon/meme thing lately, and since I haven’t seen one for Scorpio yet, I thought I’d go ahead and do it. :)

More characters to come!

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A - Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

He likes to snuggle a little with you. If you want to stay awake and make light conversation, he’s fine with that, but if you fall asleep, then he’s perfectly okay with watching you for a while. (And sometimes he purposefully lets you catch him watching you because he likes seeing you blush and try to tell him to cut it out.)

B - Body part (Their favourite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

He doesn’t really have a favorite body part. He’s never given it any thought that one part of his body could be better than any others.
His favorite part on you would be your legs. He secretly loves when you wrap them around his waist. And overall he just finds them kinda sexy.

C - Cum (Anything to do with cum basically)

He cums inside of you. He’s never really made it a point to do that, it’s just what happens. And he wouldn’t understand the appeal in cumming somewhere else. That would just make a mess to clean up.

D - Dirty Secret (Pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

You, being a slut for him. Whether you say it, or show it in your actions, he loves the fact that you crave him so much. In fact, he’s always wanted to try calling you a slut during sex, but he doesn’t think you’ll like that very much, so he doesn’t ask about or attempt it.

E - Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?)

Not much. He’s not the type of god who can go sleep with someone easily (aka Leon and Teorus), but he is a male, nevertheless. So he has slept with a couple of goddesses before, but only because he had some alcohol in his system and was also having that urge.

F - Favourite Position (This goes without saying.)

Missionary. He prefers to have you underneath him, where he can be in control everything - just how he likes it. (Although if you wanted to try and dominate him/be on top, he wouldn’t stop you.)

G - Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

Definitely serious. Scorpio isn’t one to be goofy at all, much less in the bedroom. When making love, he’s fully into it, feeling all of it. He doesn’t want to waste time on being silly.

H - Hair (How well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

He does have hair in the pubic region, which is kept trimmed. It’s black just like the hair on his head, too.

I - Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…) 

If you ask him about it, he won’t tell you truthfully, but he really enjoys the intimacy of making love with you. He cherishes the emotional connection.
During sex, Scorpio doesn’t go out of his way to make the session especially romantic. He’s naturally a little more rough, but he’ll listen to the voice inside his head - your voice, and takes note of what you like. If you think about how you like it when it’s more intimate, he’ll try to inconspicuously slow his pace and make an effort to kiss you a little more.

J - Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon)

Scorpio’s not one for masturbation. In fact, he finds it kinda gross. Besides, if he’s in the mood, he’ll just summon you and drag you to the bedroom.
If you’re not available, he’ll just wait until you are. The second that happens, though, be prepared to get pounced on.

K - Kink (One or more of their kinks)

Gentle biting, tying you up a little.

L - Location (Favourite places to do the do)

He mostly likes it in the bed, but he’s certainly not afraid to experiment if you wanted to. If the two of you end up off the mattress, he’ll fuck you on the floor, against the wall, he’ll have you bend over on a table.
However, he’s not too adventurous. He’s not a fan of doing it in public or where someone could walk in on them. He likes for the both of you to be comfortable, and feel safe.

M - Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going)

He likes when you get feisty. If one of the other gods anger you, and you tell them off. That sassy side can really get him going. (ESPECIALLY if you aim it at that damn lion.) And he'd like for you to try being a little assertive with him.

N - NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

He won’t let anyone besides him see you naked; So no threesomes, foursomes, etc., he won’t do anything that’s very S&M, and anything that involves him having to wear some ‘ridiculous, human costume’ (role play) is off limits.

O - Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

He likes eating you out, making you pant and moan and squirm. It’s very enjoyable for him.
At first, he wasn’t sure what to think when you offered to give him a blowjob, but once you went to town, he was in bliss. Now whenever you offer, he accepts without hesitation. (But he does prefer to give you oral a little bit more than he likes receiving it.)

P - Pace (Are they fast and rough? Slow and sensual? etc.)

The Ruler of Scorpio can be pretty rough most of the time. He kinda loses control when it comes to you. Both in his mind…and his genitals. If you want it to be slower, then he’s happy to oblige, but otherwise, he prefers to take you as wildly as he wants.

Q - Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

Depends on the situation - If you’re both in the mood, then quick lovemaking sessions are completely okay. But if, for example, he’s in the middle of working and you get turned on, he can find it a little bit of a pain to have to stop and take care of you.
In reality, he needs to face the truth: he wants to satisfy you, and never sees making love to you as a waste of time. He can never tell you no when it comes to that.

R - Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

He can fool around in a bathroom, or some other vacant room if things heat up and urges need to be taken care of, but he doesn’t like really dangerous hookups like when someone could walk in at any moment. So he likes to take risks, but not too many risks.

S - Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

He has a lot of stamina. He will need to take breathers, but he can pick it up again pretty easily, and go all night. His passion for you just doesn’t cease, and it keeps driving him to bang you over and over.

T - Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?)

No toys. He doesn’t get them, thinks they’re (and the people that make them) are gross. And he’s confident that he doesn’t need them anyway.

U - Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Everything is fair game with the scorpion. Your body, the way you react to him, your explicit thoughts, etc. He will poke fun at it all. He loves bringing that blush to your cheeks.

V - Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make)

He mostly just pants, but occasionally a low, sexy growl will escape, usually causing him to close his lips to seal up any more. If things are particularly intense, he’ll let out a chain of barely-restricted grunts.

W - Wild Card (Get a random headcanon for the character of your choice)

He really likes when you dig your nails into his back. Not enough for it to be considered a kink, necessarily, but it is enjoyable for him. The gentle pain escalates things for him.

X - X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants)

7 inches. Decent girth.
(I’m not super educated in penises by the way, lol)

Y - Yearning (How high is their sex drive?)

Really healthy sex drive. He could (and probably would) have sex every single day if you let him.

Z - ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

Gods don’t sleep so…lol. But if he does sleep, it’ll be a while after you do. He likes to watch you doze peacefully.

Rogue (Lucifer x Reader)

Request: Lucifer and the reader are soul mates, she’s laying low until some rogue angels find her and want to harm her. Furious Lucifer ensues and fluffy ending.
Word count: 1728
Warnings: Blood and violence

Beta’d by the lovely @wayward-mirage


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Lucifer hated humans, that was a known fact, but there was one human he could tolerate. His soul mate, (Y/N). He loved her beyond words and would do absolutely anything to keep her safe. Eventually that meant letting her go, at least for a while. He was being hunted by pretty much every angel in existence, and if they found out about (Y/N) they would surely use her to get to him. She was warded with the enochian symbols on her ribs, but it was still risky to have her anywhere close to him.

“I love you, Lucifer,” she said with tears in her eyes as she caressed his cheek.
“And I you, but this is for the safety of both of us.”
“I know, but that doesn’t make this easier.”
“I know,” Lucifer mumbled and pressed a tender kiss on (Y/N)’s soft lips, memorising every part of them. He ran one hand through her hair and hugged her tightly. “I love you,” he whispered again before letting her go. She turned around in time for him not to see the tears spill, and left him.

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