where people come from

Hi Lou,

I have read the recent rants about Felicity’s voice this season and i realize that many people dont understand where we are coming from and that is why they cannot understand where we are going.  Felicity’s story line is that she is ooc this season. She is not herself. All the weirdness that is going on with her storyL is not an inability to write an episode it is something called DELIBERATE.  They mean to silence and back burner her so they can build her character to a boiling point.  Currently F and O are not a thing. They work together the best way they know but honestly they know their dynamic is not the same and that has to show in the writing. The distance has to be represented for us to understand where we are at and so we can see our characters grow. She has a huge SL coming up.

That adult  conversation  SA mentioned is going to be juicy. I believe that for the first time we will hear Felicity’s true feelings on her and Oliver not being together.  They have to be completely honest about the state of their relationship before they can move forward and that is something we haven’t seen yet. Atleast on Felicity’s part more so. What they have going now is a false dynamic built out of respect for each others decisions. Buried beneath all this facade is all the hurt, love and deepest desire to be with each other. They dont know who they are to each other anymore and thats why oliver is waiting for her to let him in. He has done everything from the moment they broke up to show her he wants a life with her and she has done nothing but resent him. Any movement forward has to come from her this time. She has to want help to receive it or else he risks losing an already fragile dynamic between them. So for those saying he doesn’t care that couldn’t be further from the truth. He just knows her well enough and Oliver respect people’s choices when he loves them dearly. He is worried for her but he also recognizes she doesn’t share her life with him anymore…they dont talk about her because she doesnt allow them. Felicity is always fine when asked.

Felicity is the one who needs to grow, break, say her fears and move forward. He can stretch his arms out but she has to be the one to take it. Until then we can’t have a reunion folks. Goood news is that it is coming. In less that 6 episodes I’ll say and then we can breathe with understanding and appreciation for the writing.   I know its hard. I endure it just like you all. I am impatient sometimes too but the proof is in the writing. Remind yourself every once in a while. It is coming!

Reply: 

Hi Kay, lovely to hear from you. :D

I do agree that people have unrealistic expectations of what a friendship between Olicity should look like now, and are blaming Oliver in a large part for that. The thing is, they’re broken up, and right now, they’re not even really friends because Felicity doesn’t want them to be friends… and frankly I think that’s uber hard for Oliver as well. When you’re still madly in love with someone, it’s uber painful to be their friend. You can wish them well and do all that, but being their bestie… well, I don’t know anyone who’s managed it in my life, not when they’re still so clearly in love. So, instead, there are masks and distractions. 

But like you said, all that will come to an end at some point. And then they both would have earned their relationship with one another and have the tools to make it last. 

It’s going to be epic. :D 

So, I have about 800 nicknames, but KL is the one that’s been most used since middle school. KL is shorthand for Kati-Lara. Kati because that’s what my parents have always called me and Lara because that’s my real first name and when I was young my classmates and friends needed a way to distinguish me from the thousand other Kati(e)(y)s in our age group.

I rarely introduce myself to people as KL, because they inevitably find it confusing that a) my name is NOT Kay Elle (or Kale) and b) my first name is actually Lara not Kati and c) my middle name is actually Katrina not Kati.

Where did the Kati even come from? the people cry. Why didn’t your parents just call you Lara? It’s the same number of letters as that horrendous misspelling of Kati and clearly easier on literally no one! they wail as they gnash their teeth. You have never been able to buy chintzy tourist crap with your name on it, have you? they sometimes observe later. Because seriously, what ridiculous spellings.

I DON’T KNOW!!! I generally shout back in response to the first two while waving my arms to show that the third is an absolutely accurate observation.

Anyway, it came up again today and I finally texted my mom to ask her about it. Turns out the Kati part my name is not part of some sort of elaborate sphinx riddle meant to trap greedy explorers, it’s just because it’s easier to sing.

Songs and books, books and songs, that is still what little KLs are made of. (Also, you better believe I still have that copy of the Katie the Kitten Little Golden Book. It’s very important!)

Kamigami No Asobi recap, episode 2: You’ve Met the Best, Now Meet the Rest

As I understand it, this anime was based on a visual novel, which explains a lot; shows adapted from games have to either pick one of the routes or make up their own, and they simply can’t focus on everyone with multiple endings.  As such, some characters are going to get the short end of the stick.

It’s time to meet those characters!

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I watch … a lot of youtube. As a college kid, it’s how I avoid work and remain sane when I don’t have time to play my video games.

Markiplier, in the past 6 months, has slowly climbed his way into my heart. He loves all of his fans (and he knows the impact he has on them), he constantly praises them, he constantly makes appropriate jokes. He cares about how lgbtqia+ and poc feel in his community. Even recently, his language has become more trans friendly. I’m so proud to watch him grow.

And I watched his respect video. 

I’m slightly disappointed in him but I understand where he’s coming from. Markiplier doesn’t like it when people dehumanise other people. And he’s right in that, we shouldn’t dehumanise Felix. We should call him out on his bullshit, without separating him from humanity. It gives people the ability to say “well I’m not like that” because we took  the humanity away from the situation. 

However, Markiplier… my beloved youtuber… focused on that because he thinks everyone should get respect no matter what theyve done. He sorta defined respect in his video as being a bit like the golden rule and I just CANT agree with that. 

That doesn’t work. People are allowed to be upset and angry. People are allowed to fight and scream and yell. People are allowed to dislike other people. 

For instance: I hate a person. Despise them. He makes everything about sex. It’s awful to have conversations with him. I avoid him. I don’t talk to him unless I have to. I purposefully act like I don’t hear him when he tries to talk to me when I have my headphones on. 

That’s not the golden rule. I would hate to be avoided and ignored. But this person doesn’t leave me alone. They are a cis male who thinks they can get in my space and talk to me with language that is inappropriate (in my opinion. I don’t mean the sex, that’s fine, it’s the messy details that are always involved. I don’t care what a penis ring is used for). 

I know a friend who takes the subway and literally doesn’t let any cis male sit by her. She takes her bag and places it in the seat next to her anytime she sees a guy glance her way with a leer. That’s not the golden rule and it shouldn’t be. She does NOT have the respect the guy that looks at her like she’s a piece of meat. 

I do NOT have to respect the guy that won’t leave me alone. 

I think that this video, while showing how caring Mark is, also shows his naivety and his privilege. 

nyti.ms
‘Sanctuary City’ Mayors Vow to Defy Trump’s Immigration Order
City officials, from New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, New Haven, Syracuse and Austin, Tex., said they were prepared for a protracted fight.
By Liz Robbins

Martin J. Walsh, Boston: “To anyone who feels threatened today, or vulnerable, you are safe in Boston. We will do everything lawful in our powerful to protect you. If necessary, we will use City Hall itself to shelter and protect anyone who’s targeted unjustly. They can use my office, they can use any office in this building. They’ll be able to use this building as a safe space.”

Bill de Blasio, New York: “We’re going to defend all of our people regardless of where they come from, regardless of their immigration status.”

Rahm Emanuel, Chicago: “I want to be clear: We’re going to stay a sanctuary city. There is no stranger among us. Whether you’re from Poland or Pakistan, whether you’re from Ireland or India or Israel and whether you’re from Mexico or Moldova, where my grandfather came from, you are welcome in Chicago as you pursue the American dream.”

Ed Lee, San Francisco, with Sam Liccardo (San Jose) and Libby Schaaf (Oakland): “We will not give in to threats, or political grandstanding. Together, the Bay Area will stay true to our values of inclusiveness, compassion and equality, and united against any and all efforts to divide our residents, our cities, and our country.”

During dinner, my uncle revealed another weird autobiographical story. We were talking about the chemistry of bananas, and I brought up the fact that isoamyl acetate, responsible for the distinctive scent and flavor of banana, is the same chemical that’s found in honey bee attack pheromones.

My uncle explained that isoamyl acetate is used when testing the safety of gas masks. They make small glass vials in cardboard tubes that you can crush in an enclosed space, and if you smell banana while wearing a gas mask, there’s a leak. Apparently, he used to buy dozens of these little vials, and then go somewhere in public to covertly smash them, just to watch people try to figure out where the intense banana smell was coming from.

No reason. Just for the hell of it.

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#TeamEunTak

I really do believe that at least part of the problem of people distrusting science has to do with how we as scientists portray ourselves.

We have actively created a system where we derive authority from being seen as better/smarter/more competent than everyone else and then when people ask why they should trust us we respond with a very condescending version of ‘because SCIENCE IS FACT’ or something along those lines.

Like, consider how that would feel from the outside? Here are a small group of people who you have never met/interacted with who sequester themselves in impenetrable ~elite institutions that you can’t access and don’t feel party to who then tell you that what they say is fact because they’re smarter and better educated than you. And if you ever try to question them (no matter how reasonable your objections may be/seem to you) they condescendingly pat you on the head and say something like ‘don’t worry we know better. you can’t possibly understand what we do.’

Why the hell would you trust them? 

No one likes being told that they’re not smart enough to understand something, and no one likes feeling excluded from something they’ve essentially been asked to accept sight unseen. 

I don’t really have a solution to this, except some vague notion about working harder to portray scientists as people working a job, rather than geniuses who are above it all. 

And like trying harder to understand where people are coming from when they question science. And remembering that being better educated than most doesn’t make us smarter than most. It just makes us better trained in certain types of thinking.

I just think we need to keep in mind what we are asking of people. Which is to put a whole hell of a lot of faith in us.

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princess rover + development

Laboratory tests in Peru have found that both of the unusual body parts are comprised of both skin and bone. After x-rays of the skull, they concluded that they could not have come from a human being. They came to the same conclusion about the unusual hand. The x-rays clearly show that the fingers inside the hand are comprised of six bones which mean that it cannot have come from a human being as humans only have three bones in each finger.

Now that most people have been assured that the artifacts are genuine there has been a great deal of speculation about where they could have come from. Some people have suggested that the skull and the hand could have been left on Earth by an alien visitor to the planet. Others have suggested that the artifact might come from a form of ancient humanoid. This theory has a certain amount of credibility as the remains of extinct forms of ancient humanoids have been discovered in Peru before. It is hoped that the mystery will be solved in the early part of 2017 when the two body parts will be sent to a specialist laboratory in the United States for radiocarbon and DNA testing.

dex has red hair

i have red hair too, which is pretty awesome. and also horrible, sometimes, because being ginger affects so much more than the just the pigment of your hair. so anyways here are some facts about dex and his hair bc i can relate:

  • he’s so pale
    • he’s so pale
    • even when he kind of manages to get a little darker after a sunburn fades, he’s still paler than everyone else’s normal skin tone
  • he does not tan. ever.
    • yeah sure, he may work on a lobster boat all summer, but buddy, i promise you, he’s not gonna come out of it looking nice and bronze
      • (why do people write fics where he comes back from the summer with a killer tan??? no bro, he probably just looks like a lobster. it sucks)
    • his skin just slowly gets pinker until he has a terrible sunburn, and then sometimes if he’s lucky it will turn out a little tanner when it fades
    • he probably uses at least spf 50, lbr here
      • actually, nah probably higher than that if we’re being honest
      • and he has to apply it like every hour
    • ugh and oh my god, he probably gets splotchy sunburns!!!
      • SPLOTCHY SUNBURNS ARE THE WORST
      • basically you think you’ve put sunscreen everywhere and spread it evenly but NOPE
      • random blotches of your skin will just be bright red while the rest is ridiculously pale and you look like you have some sort of disease-ridden rash
      • it has probably happened on his face and it’s the saddest thing
  • he has freckles for dayssssss (especially after the summer because they come back in full force during that season)
    • freckles everywhere
    • in the most random places
    • some are on his lips and on the back of his knees and his elbows and just very odd places
    • its a never ending cycle of freckles fading while new freckles form
    • he kind of gets a tan through his freckles??? 
      • bc he has so many and as they fade they kind of blotch together and make him look tan, but when you look really close you’re just like, oh, those are just tiny dots bunched together, not the actual pigmentation of your skin
    • he has. SO MANY. freckles on his shoulders
      • if you are of the male specimen, you probably go out shirtless in the summertime, and the sun hits you really hard on your shoulders, and thus, so. many. freckles. there.
      • (this is literally the most prominent place of freckles for redhead boys. please ask my brother and all of my cousins)
  • “does the carpet match the drapes?” ;)
    • why do people ask this
    • he gets this all the time, and it’s not just from people hitting on him
      • PEOPLE JUST GENUINELY WANT TO KNOW FOR SOME REASON???
    • and it’s super awkward
    • especially when they don’t match. bc um. a lot of times they don’t. just so you know.
    • “haha, firecrotch, huh?”
      • will wouldn’t find this funny even if it were accurate
  • back to the sunburn thing, it’s nice in the winter when he doesn’t get fried!! JUST KIDDING BC BLUSHING IS A THING
    • yeah anytime he gets remotely embarrassed or flustered, his face is the color of a tomato okay
    • even if he’s not actually uncomfortable, it still happens
      • “dex, nice shirt, man.” ➝ red face
      • “dude, nice assist!”➝ red face
      • *accidentally bumps into someone* ➝ red face
    • anytime nursey says anything ever, his face is red. i promise you this. i know this to be true
  • HE NEVER WEARS RED
    • or pink or orange, for that matter
    • (but i mean he goes to samwell so the red thing is kind of hard)
    • he unintentionally gravitates towards green and blue clothing bc his mom probably accidentally instilled in him that they compliment his hair as a child
      • this is so real. this is the realest, most relatable thing
    • going to samwell was probably super weird bc he had to start buying spirit wear and stuff and when he did, he realized he didn’t own any other red clothing
  • people always make irish jokes or assume he is irish, especially around st. patricks day
    • dex has no idea if he is irish
  • people always ask if another redhead they know is related to him
    • no
  • he has heard every “ginger” joke under the sun
    • no one has ever actually bullied him for it
    • but everyone makes the same jokes
    • will basically mouths the words as people say them bc he knows them so well at this point
    • he’s not actually bothered or offended, it’s just like… dude. he’s heard this before. you’re not being original
      • it’s very boring and a little irritating
    • but if he gets annoyed or doesn’t laugh people think he is a bad sport, so!!! he laughs them off even though he’s very disinterested and wants to tell them to maybe get some new material so they can actually say something remotely humorous next time
    • and he totally knows its not a big deal at all, bc some people have to deal with racist or homophobic jokes, and this doesn’t remotely compare. it’s just… very eye-roll inducing.
  • he gets horrible bruises for the stupidest shit, and sometimes just randomly and he’s not sure where they came from, bc ya gotta love that sensitive skin!!
  • oh and back to the ginger jokes thing, someone always makes a comment about that redhead temper!!
    • which is kind of unfortunate, bc dex kind of does have some temper issues
    • those jokes do not make him less angry either
      • (dex, seriously man. just chill for a sec)

wow this got really long and i could go on forever and ever but yeah basically this is the gist of it. also i’m aware some of this can apply to lots of people but anyways hooray for redheads!!

anonymous asked:

Do Japanese people understand the meaning of soulmates? Because I saw some tweets and people were confused and even disappointed. Like wtf? Anyway can you please write your own understanding of being soulmates?

I’m probably not the most qualified to answer this, so maybe @fencer-x wouldn’t mind chiming in a bit? But from what I know and have seen it looks like the concept of soulmates in Japan isn’t that different from the West. I don’t really feel comfortable getting into how extensive the Japanese understanding of soulmate is.

For what it’s worth, I have seen zero negative response on my TL. So, I’m not sure where those people are coming from.

As for me, personally? I feel fandom, as a general whole, not just any specific fandom, has sort of taken the idea of soul mate and made it something concretely romantic. However, the concept is that of someone who perfectly completes you, is your other half, and while that often has a romantic end, it’s not in the definition. A soul mate can be a romantic partner, most often the concept is used romantically, but it can also be a best friend.

Have you ever heard the What’s A Soulmate? audio? That’s basically my perfect definition of a soulmate.

As for Kubo’s use of soulmate and it being related to the rings Yuuri and Victor exchanged, that’s a pretty heavy romantic implication. The ring exchange scene itself is already clearly romantic and to try and say it’s just friendly is pretty ignorant, imo, especially with the knowledge that there is no discrimination of love in the YOI world. To say, on top of that, that those rings are a symbol that Yuuri and Victor are soulmates? That’s the romantic concept. Flat out. They are two pieces of one whole, souls meant for each other, a perfect union.

So the blog has reached 1000 followers somehow?? Yes, hello, hi- um, the blog has been a bit silent lately due to me suffering with exams but I hope you’re enjoying yourselves?? (I’ll probably be more active here from now on, since exams are over now, so hooray for productivity!)

With that said… I’m not sure what to do to celebrate? A stream? Raffle? Something else?? I dunno, feel free to hit me with suggestions! Seriously, haha. I’m much too indecisive ;v;

And that’s all! Thank you for following me, it really means a lot that people want to see more of these weird kids ;v;

it is WILD how many people who claim to be feminists or even take on the ‘sjw’ label with pride, and people who fall under several other oppressed groups STILL fucking hate fat people and cannot, for the life of them, understand where we are coming from on posts made for fat people.

i’m in my self-made internet bubble of fucking rad fat people and sometimes i forget how nearly everyone, even people who claim to fight for equality for everyone, fucking hates us.