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heres a cool tip: if you dont want to say a slur during a heated, emotional moment, then dont sAY SLURS, PERIOD. when have you ever said a word thats 100% not in your vocabulary when you’re emotional? i curse a lot around my friends, but i try not to around people i dont know or authority figures. but if im mad and emotional, sometimes a “FUCK” just slips out when i dont want it to, because FUCK is part of my regular vocabulary with my friends. i’ve accidentally cursed around strangers or teachers and been embarrassed about it, because i say that shit in regular conversation with my friends. but i never say derogatory slurs, so guess what: they never slip out when im angry. if the words aren’t in you to begin with, they can’t accidentally slip out

in any case, your motivation for not saying slurs shouldn’t be “oh im worried i’ll accidentally say it in wrong company and embarrass myself” it should be “this word is very hurtful to a group of people, and i care about being a compassionate and kind human being who doesn’t hurt people”

MBTI types and C.S. Lewis Quotes

INTJ:
- Reason is the natural order of truth, but imagination is the organ of meaning
- Into the void of silence, into the empty space of nothing, the joy of life is unfurled

ENTJ
- Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching
- Feelings, feelings and feelings. Let me try thinking instead

ISTJ :
- It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it
- Failure are finger posts on the road to archievement

ESTJ:
- Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God you do learn
- It’s wonderful what you can do when you have to

ISFJ:
- Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back everything is different
- Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward

ESFJ:
- Love is unselfhly choosing for another’s highest good
- Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less

INFJ:
- There are far far better things ahead than any we leave behind
- Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… it has no survival value, rather it is one of those things that gives value to survival

ENFJ:
- Eros will have naked bodies; friendships naked personalities
- Affection is responsable nine-tenth of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives

ISTP:
- An explanation of cause is not a justification by reason
- What draws people to be friends is that they see the same truth. They share it

ESTP:
- Life is top deep for words, so don’t try to describe it, just live it
- Do not let your happiness depend on something you may lose

ISFP:
- The sweetest thing in all my life has been the longing to find the place where all beauty come from
- A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words

ESFP
- Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point
- We are mirrors whose brightness is wholly derived from the sun that shines upon us

INFP:
- Faith is the art of holding on to things in spite of your changing moods and circumstances
- We are what we believe we are

ENFP:
- You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream
- When we lose one blessing, is often most unexpected given in its place

INTP:
- If I find myself desires which nothing in this world can satisfy. The only logical explanation is that I was made for another world
- Friendship is born the moment when one person says to another: “What? You, too? Thought I was the only one”

ENTP:
- Hardships often prepare people for an extraordinary destiny…
- No man who bothers with originality will ever be original whereas if you simply tell the truth you will become original without ever noticed

What Writers Can Learn from National Novel Writing Month.

It’s October 1st, and that means that it’s Pregame Season for National Novel Writing Month. What better way to kick off that season than with another entry in my What Writers Can Learn Series? This time around, I thought I would do something different. I’ve written about Sense8 and Batman, but why not write about the lessons writers can learn from National Novel Writing Month itself?

So here are five important lesson I’ve learned from National Novel Writing Month. Hopefully you can do a better job of implementing them than I do.

Write Every Day

When you have to write an average of 1,667 words every day for a month, it can make a huge difference if you don’t write even just one day during the month. With that in mind, you either develop this mentality or spend part of your month writing a pile of extra words.

This is an important skill even when you don’t have a 50,000 word goal to meet in just 30 days. Every writer needs to work on writing every day, even if it’s just a sentence or two.

Be Creative

During National Novel Writing Month, your story is going to go through some changes from what you first expected. This can be a problem for the planners, but that doesn’t have to be a bad experience. Let your creative juices flow. Come up with something unexpected to keep your story alive. Don’t worry about the plan that you had. Sometimes that plan has to change.

Let Your Story Flow

Your story will have a rhythm and flow of its own. Listen for that rhythm. Follow the flow. Let the stream of your story guide your way. Don’t follow it blindly, but be aware of your story as you write.

You will also want to keep your eyes open for themes and symbols as you proceed.

Dream Big!

You are already making a grand dream. 50,000 words in only 30 days is an epic undertaking, and you need to be a dreamer. However, as a writer, you need to understand that there is not much to writing just 50,000 words. As a writer you will write so many more words in your lifetime. Dream about those words. Let them fill you with passion as you work through the many stories that will fill your mind in the coming years.

Be greedy for those stories.

Keep Writing

The most important lesson you can learn from National Novel Writing Month is to never stop writing. No matter how many words you have to write, you can always reach that goal. Whether it is a paragraph for school or the next great American novel. You can reach that goal. Never stop writing.

Planets in the 4th House

Commonly referred to as the House of Home, the 4th house is well known in astrology as representing the past and what is familiar to you. The 4th house reveals our roots, and how where we came from affects where we’re going. 

Sun in 4th: Your home life needs to be at peace for you to be at peace. Whether that means you are a peacemaker, or you just walk away from any bad situation at home, your soul needs to be at peace. You latch onto the things that make you feel alive, yet you are comfortable with. Your nostalgia gets the best of you at times and you can find yourself stuck reflecting on your past all too often.

Moon in 4th: Even if you don’t get along with your family, you may find your family life being emphasized all through out your life. You likely spent lots of your childhood with your mother or a motherly figure. You keep everyone’s feelings in mind when you do anything, careful not to upset anyone. You may pretend to enjoy being alone, but secretly, you always wish someone, usually a lover, was with you.

Mercury in 4th: The emotional nature of the fourth house is lightened with this position. You will want to discuss issues and topics you have a strong stance on as often as possible. You may want everyone to know what your opinion is; yet you like to seem unbiased even when you have chosen a side. Words are your weapon.

Venus in 4th: Whether your feelings towards your family are pleasant or not, you always strive towards tranquility in your household. Feeling comfortable in every situation is of great importance to you. You may have a tendency to push away the people who try to get close to you. You tend to have an idealized image of what should happen in your life, and don’t enjoy coming to the terms of the reality of the situation. 

Mars in 4th: You may feel as if you will never be truly satisfied. You aren’t in touch with your emotions, and tend to not enjoy tapping into them. You are deeply concerned with satisfying what you think needs to be done, and go to extreme lengths to do that. You have to care for yourself as you tend to not let anyone in who wishes to nurture you. 

Jupiter in 4th: You want your future to be larger than life. You may want everything to be bigger and better than you had as a child. Your parents likely had a lenient approach to parenting with you; or on the flip side, you may have had strict parents, so you want to create a childhood that is free for your kids (if you have any) to explore and have fun.

Saturn in 4th: You may be ‘bad’ or uncomfortable with nurturing. Your childhood may have been lacking in warmth; you may have isolated yourself in your home. You may carry emotional baggage from childhood. You may have a feeling of personal inadequacy that was derived from your home life. Liz Greene describes this placement as ‘authority without love’.

Uranus in 4th: You may feel detached and like an outsider in your own family. You may have felt unimportant in childhood. You want to take care of others while also being able to take care of yourself. Independence is of great importance to you, and you are usually unwilling to give it up. You tend to be very good at keeping your emotions at bay.

Neptune in 4th: You tend to be a pushover, though you hate it. You may feel as if you tend to let people use your vivid imagination for their own benefit. You put other people’s feelings ahead of yours every time. You are also highly intuitive, able to read the situation and can easily direct someone as they navigate the issue.

Pluto in 4th: You may be notorious for being moody. Nostalgia is your ghost, and you spend much more time reflecting on the past than you should. You keep your emotions to yourself, and you may even have a fear of letting them show. You resist and resent change as it scares you to stray from where you are comfortable. 

Fever

Summary: You’re sick, and Bucky wants to take care of you. Steve is a sassy shit.

Word Count: 2268

Warnings: swearing, sick!reader, implied sex

A/N: (just gonna leave this here)  Please read this author’s note, as it’s important. Recently I’ve read some stuff about implication in fics that the reader is white, and it made me think about my own work. If any of you ever see anything in my fics suggesting the reader’s race, PLEASE LET ME KNOW SO I CAN IMMEDIATELY CHANGE IT! I would never purposely do something like this, cop to it & apologize if it’s already happened. Thank you!

Requested by @the-observant-fangirl & @buchonians 


“Achoo!” A loud sneeze sounds through your room, and you blow into the tissue angrily. You let out a sigh and adjust your sitting position on the bed, cursing under your breath as you discard the tissue into the wastebasket beside your bed.

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My #1 Language Learning Tip: Learn to talk around words you don’t know

Honestly, the most important thing in your target language isn’t to memorize all the vocabulary or grammar bits.

It’s the ability to describe and talk your way around words you don’t know because 95% of the time you can’t pull out a dictionary mid-conversation.

I literally use this in nearly every conversation I have in my non-native languages, but particularly in French. It was totally indispensable when I first moved to France 5.5 months ago, but it’s still something I do nearly every day.

Sometimes it’s just rephrasing slightly when you don’t have the right word and sometimes it’s launching into a longish, semi-convoluted explanation of a concept or object.

It seems really hard at first because sometimes you don’t feel as if you don’t even have the words for THAT, but remember that the most important thing isn’t always using the perfect words or perfect grammar—the most important thing is getting your meaning across. And sometimes you’ll have to create odd sentences to explain what you’d normally be able to say in a single word in your native language, and that’s totally okay and it’s honestly a super important skill to work on.

For me, even when I don’t have the right word, if I can still get my meaning across without a real problem (and sometimes learn the word I was aiming for!), then I still feel more confident in my language skills and speaking doesn’t feel so scary.

Even if you’re alone and you don’t have anyone to converse with, you can start by just describing random things around you without using the actual word. Definitely my #1 most used language skill.

hey idk if this is a relatable feeling or not but when you have a real word for a last name it is literally impossible to google anything about yourself or your family

anonymous asked:

Prompt: Medical kidnapping~

You stare at her wide-eyed, watching as she drums her pen against the clipboard. You struggle and pull, but the bonds will not break, they won’t even give. Every limb is held tight.

“Now, I just need to ask you a few questions for your intake,” she smiles, her voice warm and bright, yet so horribly artificial. She looks across at you, peering over her glasses.

“Whatever is the matter?” She asks as you try and scream through your gag. You try to argue your case, but it is too muffled to make out any more than a few words.

“Kidnapping?” She laughs. “This isn’t kidnapping, how can it be kidnapping if it is for your own good? This is to make you a better person, to fix everything wrong with you.” She coos softly.

“And who doesn’t want to be better? To be fixed? Only someone who was truly insane would say no to this!” She continues, sounding more like she was talking to a child than an adult.

“Now, I’m just going to give you a little shot and then we can talk all about the new home we’re driving you to,” she smiles as she walks to a tray and picks up a needle, slowly sliding it into your arm.

“You might feel warm, but that is perfectly normal. Nothing to worry about. This is all a natural part of the process.” She says. You feel the warmth hit you, the muscles in your arm drooping and becoming so heavy you can hardly struggle anymore.

“This is all part of the procedure, nothing to worry about.” She continues, “you might realize that you suddenly feel so very sleepy. But that is the usual way this works.” She coos. You blink heavily, she was right, you try to worry but just feel too tired to even consider fighting.

“And I’m sure you realize how your mind is becoming more open to my words, how the boundary between my words and your thoughts is becoming thinner until you can’t tell which is which. This is normal,” she continues as you sit there, you feel your mouth hanging open, everything feels so warm, so fuzzy it is hard to do anything but listen.

“Most patients often find that this shot helps erase some of their fears. Makes them calm,” she continues in her low airy whisper. “And this is okay, you don’t mind that you are calm, you like to be calm.” She explains, nodding her head. You feel your head nodding in response, it feels right to agree with her and too much effort to do anything else.

“And the calmer you are,” she continues. “The more you let my words into your mind. And the more my words go into your mind, the calmer you become,” she explains. “And this is normal, this is how it should be, this is how it makes sense. This is for your own good, after all, you realize that following my words makes you feel good, makes you feel calm.” She smiles.

“Most patients don’t realize how ill they were until a Nurse comes along and shows them how calm they could be. You’ve been so stressed and it wasn’t until my help you realized just how normal it is to be this calm. To be this relaxed. You realize now that you couldn’t do this on your own. When you have my words in your head, everything is just better, easier, more peaceful. You don’t have to worry your pretty little head about a single thing,” she grins.

“No need to worry, and no need to fear, I know this is best for you and you agree with me because you know that I am right. You know that your thoughts and my thoughts align perfectly on the matter. And that is what agreement is, us having the same thoughts. And, if our thoughts are the same on this, they are likely the same on other topics. We agree on most things. We agree that you need this help, we agree that this is better for you. You agree that you will come along quietly, you will agree that you will do whatever Nurse says.” She explains, still looking over her glasses.

“Isn’t that right? You agree with all of that, don’t you? Nod your head.” She commands gently. You feel your head nod in response without even needing to consider it.

“Now, I’m sure you want to sleep before we get home, so why don’t you take that nap right now?” She says as your body sinks deeper and deeper into the chair. She moves closer, you feel nothing but an artificial warmth through each and every muscle. She extends two fingers and gently slides your eyelids closed as your mind drifts away.

anonymous submitted:

“twenty one pilots is getting so much recognition now (which is so WEIRD but anyway) which means it’s at the point where people are complaining about “ugh now all these fourteen year old girls are obsessed with them and it’s ruining everything :(((” but like……….

the older people in the clique are always talking about how important the music is and how it changed/saved their lives and how when things are really really awful, listening to TOP reminds them to keep going and not give up - all of which is AMAZING and so so true, but doesn’t it make sense then that 14yo girls would like them?

DO YOU REMEMBER HOW HORRIBLE BEING FOURTEEN IS???

being at the height of your uncertainty and awkwardness and having society/people coming at you from all sides telling you what you have to be and what you have to look like and how you have to act…all while you’re too young to really know how to deal with it and ignore it and cast it aside as the bullshit it is. THE MOST HORRIBLE I EVER FELT ABOUT MYSELF WAS AT FOURTEEN. eleven years later i’m still not at a point where i like myself, but at least i’m old enough now to have worked through it…it’s fine it’s cool it doesn’t matter, i exist and i’m gonna try my darndest to keep existing.

and we all know that TOP attracts a lot of mentally ill people - tyler literally refers to “his people” as being the ones whose brains are a battlefield - and i know from personal experience that being mentally ill as a kid SUCKS. it SUCKS SO MUCH because you keep doing and thinking these things that you know don’t make any sense and yet you CANT MAKE IT STOP, and when you’re young, you don’t have the words yet to express what you’re feeling. what’s even worse is when you’re a kid (and especially when you’re a girl) people so often try to write off your mental illness as a plea for attention or you “trying to be cool/different” or “you’re just pretending to be like this because you read about it in a book somewhere.”

i think we can all agree that that’s completely HEINOUS. that’s disgusting and horrible and isolating. but isn’t that what the clique is doing when they say “what could fourteen year old girls possibly get out of their music”? short answer: it is. and it’s so invalidating of people’s experiences it should make us - the ones who know what it’s like to have messed up brains and no support from those around us - feel sick.

so i guess what i’m saying is this: being young sucks. being a young girl sucks even more. being a young mentally ill girl sucks the most. and if these fourteen year old girls find meaning or comfort from TOP’s music they should be welcomed in with open arms. because life is HARD dude, we all know that…so don’t begrudge people what gets them through the day, no matter how old they are.”

hey i totally agree with this. i’m so sick of the idea that once the music becomes renowned within the teenage girl demographic, it’s ruined. it perpetuates the idea that once a teenage girl likes something, it’s meaningless and silly and that’s extremely sexist, ageist and just all-round invalidating. who and what teen girls are passionate about is not of any less importance than what men are passionate about. young female fans are usually compounded with the idea of irrational excitement and being a “shallow” fan - not having a critical perspective of the music, which is absolute bullshit. 

let me just reiterate what anonymous is saying…. being a 14 yr old girl with a mental illness is not easy dude. heck, being a 14 yr old girl without a mental illness is hard enough. 14 is a very vulnerable age where you constantly feel like everything’s out to get you. from around 12 - 15 i felt like i was constantly under pressure to act a certain way and music has always been something i’ve turned to for comfort. i started getting into top and /alternative/ music when i was 14 and the misogyny which seemed to be particularly strong amongst alt music fans was something that really confused me and i found myself having to prove that i was different from the “other teen girls” (whatever that meant at the time???) as if being a teenage girl was something that was embarrassing?

tyler and josh always describe the clique as being an inclusive group of people who support each other through thick and thin and yeah ideally the clique would be like that, and it is like that within certain /subsections/ (for lack of better word?) but unfortunately in reality, the clique as a whole is probably just as judgmental when it comes to accepting young teen girls into the fanbase which really really sucks. when i was 14 i wasn’t in the clique yet but i’d listened to their spotify discography probably about 100 times and it helped me, and continues to help me through so much and sadly in a sense, i’m kind of glad that i didn’t join the clique until later because looking back, i know that my experiences would be invalidated because of my age and gender. 

so in conclusion, teenage girls are fucking hardcore for staying so beautifully passionate about what they love despite having to deal with everybody’s shit, and anybody who invalidates and looks down on young female fans for no other reason than because they’re young and female, needs to get their head out of their ass. 

Why Subtlety Is the Best Way to Write Romance

You cannot force chemistry between two people whose dialogues with each other are not even romantic. So far, all the romantic undertones that come between Jon and Dany have nothing to do with the lines they are given, but within their gestures. It’s within the subtle tremble in Dany’s lips when she realized that Jon is going on that suicide mission. It’s within Jon’s gazes when Dany is not looking at him. If the writers are forcing Jonerys to us, they would have had Jon look back at Dany, or that they would have had Dany saying something more personal or more dramatic other than using her authority to keep Jon safe.

More so than not, I believe when people claim that the writers are forcing Jonerys, it’s really more of an acknowledgement of those subtlety and how even within those simple changes in tones and softening of the eyes, they realize that they are setting up romance between these two. Sharing a great chemistry result to that: when you don’t even have to use words to know that something is going on between these two. The GA picked it up so quickly, and I’m glad that the writers opted for subtlety in writing their romance.

And mostly because Emilia and Kit are totally nailing it.

anonymous asked:

Omg the yoongi drabble!!! Uhhh but i’d greatly appreciate it if you can write a scenario where yoongi is sleeping next to his gf (Other character) but y/n comes over seducing him, making him fuck y/n on the same bed that his gf is sleeping on PLEASEEEEE

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➾ yoongi x reader, smut (duh)

➾ warning: infidelity, unprotected sex

“You shouldn’t do that,” Jennie is fretting and wringing her hands as she watches you finish up your makeup in the mirror. You’re just applying your final coat of mascara, making sure there are no flecks of black under your eyes, but it’s futile because you know it’s going to end up all over your face by the time you’re done with tonight. “It’s wrong, and you know it.”

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C: Up to sophomore year of high school, I was bullied for my appearance. Ugly, fat, monkey, gorilla, you name it. Contrary to what some people tend to say, words do hurt and can scar you for life when you have been called those words so many times. I even noticed my family’s friends looking at me odd and praising my sister more for her appearance. She’s two shades lighter than me.

I honestly don’t even know if I’ve physically glowed up. What’s even more disturbing is that, if someone did compliment me on my looks or called me pretty, I don’t remember. I can’t remember the last time anyone has said something nice about my appearance. I’ve just been called so many horrible things and it’s making it hard to remember all of the nice things. Sure, personality is important, but it’ll just be nice to know that I can become beautiful on the outside too. I just want some way to know that I’ve either changed physically or that people were lying to me back then when they bullied me.