when we already doing what is necessary

How the crows handle stress

Kaz Brekker
- without Inej, he’d kill a man. He already did that in SoC. He’d do it again if necessary
- but if Inej is there, I can imagine that she’d calm him
- remember that time when Inej was kidnapped? Kaz is stressedt

Jesper Fahey
- [insert gambling here]

Wylan van Eck
- Flute? Flute.
- he uses music for stress relief
- bombs are an alternative

Nina Zenik
- stress eater

Inej Ghafa
- she’s the stress control master
- we bow before her
- i aspire to be Inej Ghafa


// In which the first date with Antonio Alejandro Bartholomew IV occurs //

part 2 of the sugar daddy series (part 1)

*Warning Contains Mature Content*

enjoy and see ya next chapter in san fransisco - drea🌿

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anonymous asked:

Do you have a compilation of issues with Catholicism? I searched some tags on your blog and couldn't find much. I feel as if the Catholic church puts a bit too much emphasis on man and not enough on God, but I'd like to have some solid arguments instead of just a feeling. Thanks!

Here (finally) is a masterpost for all the asks I’ve received about this topic! I’m about to unintentionally ruffle quite a lot of feathers here, with having quite a significant amount of presumably catholic followers. Therefore, as always is my goal, there will be LOTS of scripture references to back things up, and everything I link to I do so because it also is saturated with additional scripture. Always, ALWAYS going back to what the Bible says.

I would absolutely agree that the Catholic religion puts a dangerous, even dire, amount of focus on the efforts of man, and we will see that as we dive into their claims vs. the scriptures. The false teachings of Catholicism will be in bold.

Grace plus works doctrine – Paul plainly addresses this problem in Galatians. The people were adopting what Paul calls “another gospel” which was grace plus works. This is what Paul says, “Are you so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh?” (Galatians 3:3) Let’s look at that verse again, Paul is saying it is foolish to think that having been begun being justified by God’s grace that your human works will complete that. He says that is foolishness! Our good works are not what save us. It is God who saves us. From the moment we believe we are completely justified because of what Jesus did in dying on the cross. That chapter goes on to use Abraham as an example, and I would absolutely advocate reading Galatians, especially chapter 3. Ephesians 2:8-10 says, “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” God created us to do good works, however, the Bible is clear that good works are not what save us. Otherwise we could parade our own goodness, we could say “Look at all they good I’ve done, I’m definitely getting into Heaven.” That’s not how it works. Salvation is because of everything GOD has done for us. The Bible consistently teaches that “Salvation is determined by faith alone, and demonstrated by faithfulness to obey God’s will alone” (John MacArthur).

You can lose your salvation – Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Once we are Christ’s, that is it. We are secure. Jesus died for past, present, and future sins. The sins of those who believed before Jesus came, the sins of those who believed while Jesus was on earth, and the sins of those who would live after His resurrection. Jesus conquered sin, every sin believers ever have committed or ever will, and by believing in Him we are no longer slaves to sin or the punishment of it. If there is nothing you can do to earn your salvation, there is nothing you can do to lose your salvation. Were salvation able to be withdrawn, we would have no peace, we would spend our lives in fear that we had not done enough. The Bible has already said that no one is good enough, but God’s grace is sufficient and it is everlasting. Romans 11:29, “For the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable.”

Baptism is necessary for salvation – Again, works based theology that does not line up with scripture and that is what salvation by baptism is. When the proper context is applied to the passages that appear to mention physical baptism alongside salvation, we see that the “salvation by grace through faith” doctrine stands. Because this is such a weighty topic, I’m going to link to an article that is rich with scriptural references. [x]

Confession – Confession is a part of repentance, but confession to man is not required for salvation. John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” God is the one who forgives us and the only one who is able to cleanse us. Our fellow Christians are called to hold us accountable, but the forgiveness of sins as it pertains to eternal life is something only God can absolve.

We are born sinless – The Bible says that we are sinners by nature. Ephesians 2:3 says, “Among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.”

Mary was sinless – Where does the Bible say Mary was sinless? The Bible says, in Romans 3:23, “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.” The Catholics claim there are exceptions to this verse, that this is just a generalization, but where does the Bible say that? There is nothing to support that view. There is never an exemption that says “this person didn’t need salvation.” The Bible says that we are all depraved sinners, slaves to the law, and in need of salvation.

Praying to Mary and the saints – The simplest answer I have for this is there is absolutely nothing in the Bible to suggest it is permissible to pray to anyone but God. Mary is a created, sinful being, a human, just like us, just like every saint. There is no power Mary or the saints possess except that which is given to them by God. Neither does the Bible make allowance for praying to angels. Praying to Mary and the saints takes the focus off of God and elevates the creation to a place of reverence reserved for the Creator. “Who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.” (Romans 1:25) The veneration of Mary and the saints is idolatry. More about that can be found here [x]

Purgatory – The Bible is clear that there are only two options for the afterlife. Matthew 25:46, “And these will go away into everlasting punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.” There is no middle ground, no point after death which you can choose Heaven over Hell. Additionally, the idea of sacraments is baseless. You cannot pay off your sin. Not to mention prayers for the dead are useless, as Luke 16 tells us that each person bears the consequences of their decision and one’s eternal destination cannot be altered by others.

The authority of the Pope – “I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed.” (Galatians 1:6-9) As mentioned before, the different gospel mentioned is specifically a grace plus works doctrine. The Bible is very clear that anyone who touts a message that is contrary to the Bible is not of God. The Pope holds no doctrinal authority over anyone. God’s word, the Bible, is given to everyone the same, and all Christians have the Holy Spirit dwelling inside of them specifically to help, guide, and discern. God’s Word stands, and anyone who preaches contrary to that is preaching a lie, a false doctrine, the road to Hell.

Other “scriptures” – The Catholic church has implemented additional books in their teaching, adding to the Bible what does not belong. They have taken the perfect word of God and added books that contradict and/or detract from the truth of the Bible. The books of the Bible were not something that was chosen lightly, nor was any random text considered scripture. That which is part of the Bible MUST be scripture inspired directly by God Himself. There were guidelines and certain qualifications that had to be met for books to be part of the Bible, and that resulted in 66 books – no more, no less. Psalm 12:6-7 says, “The words of the Lord are pure words, like silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times. You shall keep them, O Lord, You shall preserve them from this generation forever.” Additional information on the inspiration/preservation of scripture can be found here [x][x]

From comparing the Bible with the core Catholic doctrine, it is evident that Catholicism is a false religion, the rejection of God’s Word, and the rejection of God’s Word condemns you to Hell. I meekly, humbly, honestly, implore my catholic friends to read the Bible, search for the answers in the scriptures. Don’t take my word on this, it doesn’t matter at all what I say. God’s Word is Truth.

Attracted To The Enemy (Part 1)

[Gang AU] [ Warning: Violence + Language + Suggestive ]

Jay clenched his teeth together to keep from cursing when he stepped in a puddle of unknown liquid. Loco and Kiseok laughed seeing their leader get angered so easily. “Why did we have to come here? We are higher than them.” He had been in a bad mood and it didn’t help to be called to an abandoned warehouse in the middle of the night. 

“They have the upper hand, therefore they get to choose where we meet.” Kiseok was second in command, therefore he would take over for Jay when he wasn’t in his right of mind. “They finally got that helmet wearing mercenary’s location down to a  twenty mile radius.”

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So the question for me is not whether or not Yousana be endgame but if it is endgame, will it feel earned.

I wrote a bit before about how I hated that the ship went from a slow burn to will they won’t they.  I felt like their relationship at the beginning of the show was very well written.  We see Yousef attempt to interact with Sana four or five times and her looking away or not responding before we get to the carrot peeling scene.  I felt like there was a lot of build up that lead to their first real conversation and it paid off very well.  They started talking some more, and then with the introduction of Unnecessary Drama™ in the last clip of episode five, they stopped talking at all.

They’ve had all of two full blown IRL conversations this entire season.


Yes, they did talk some over facebook before she unfriended him and they did play basketball, but they haven’t talked in four episodes.

So I thought back to season 3 and not once did Isak and Even go nearly half the season without talking to each other at all.  They didn’t talk much in episodes 6, 7, and 9, but they did still talk a little bit in those episodes.  If we’re just counting full blown conversations that happen in real life on the show (and not smaller interactions like “you left your hat in the cafeteria” or Isak staring at Even as he walked past), Isak and Even have maybe 12 to 13 conversations.  And between all of those we have the smaller moments Even giving Isak drawings or Isak watching Romeo and Juliet.

I’d be surprised if Yousef and Sana got half as many conversations.

That’s really frustrating to me because they are such interesting characters.  They have great chemistry together, and there’s a lot that could have been explored in the story.  If they had focused on the religious conflict instead of a boring as fuck love triangle.  Religion is something that people have debated about since people have been around so there’s no way they could have just run out of things to say on the issue.  For example, some people say that Sana should marry a Muslim boy so that she can raise her kids Muslim, but others could counter argue that kids should be left to choose their own religion.  That is something that could be discussed on the show.  I don’t think that it will be though.

“Oh, but the love triangle is actually really smart because we see how Noora and Sana are actually really similar but Noora is more accepted because she has blond hair and blue eyes and is ethnically Norwegian.”  Okay, but we already got that contrast between Sana and Noora in other ways.  We saw how Sana reacted when Yousef and Noora were just talking or when Noora asked about him.  We see how Noora’s friends ask about Noora’s issues with William but do not seem interested in Sana’s problems.  We heard the pepsi max girls call Noora pretty just after they trashed Sana.  The Yousef and Noora kiss was not necessary and, again, it led to these characters not talking for four fucking episodes.

I think that what I like the most about season 4 is all of the potential, and what I dislike the most about it is how a lot of that potential got thrown in the trash.  I’m hoping that in the next three episodes at least some of it will be digged out and dusted off and used in a compelling way.

Those who are Broken | Chapter Thirteen

 Everyone has a soulmate. Except the Broken.

Word count: 1587

↬ Having a mental breakdown. This chapter is shorter than I wanted it to be. The next time you’ll see me is in the next chapter, or answering asks if there are any. ya girl TOTALLY got everything in check. send help

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You never really questioned anything. Whether it be the shit hand you had during the poker game, or why your parents abandoned you. You gave up questioning why, and just accepted it. However, as you lied in bed in complete darkness, you couldn’t help but question why? Why did he kiss you and say nothing of it? Why did he act like what he did never happen?

“Thanks for the bandage,” he said, lifting his wrapped hand.

That was all he said. He got up, and walked out. You wanted to wrap your hands around his neck and strangle him to death.

What the hell?

Who does that?

What kind of stupid, selfish, fucking piece of shit—

You groaned in frustration, turning to your side. The window, where Jimin would climb through, was right across the room from you, hidden behind the white curtain. Mocking you. Telling you that the fucker on the other side of that window kissed you, and left. Never bothering to bring up the kiss again.

The kiss. You barely had time to understand what happened. The kiss was short, but it was just enough to cause you to feel what you’ve been feeling since you first began to feel in the elevator. The typical feelings that you still weren’t accustomed to. However, ever since he kissed you, it seemed that everything you felt grew ten times more. You could now confirm that if you were anywhere near him, you’d explode.

Maybe you could suffocate yourself. You know, grab the pillow, place it over your head, and just press hard enough for you to have trouble breathing. Simple. You wouldn’t feel anymore—feel so damn frustrated with not only yourself, but with Jimin, too.

Upset, you grabbed the second pillow next to you and threw it at the window. The pillow flew right past the curtains and right out the window. Your mouth dropped as you watched the curtains flutter to a close. You jumped out of bed, running towards your window. Pushing the white curtains aside, you stuck your head out and looked down. There, several floors down, you could faintly see your red pillow.

You tried not to let out a loud stream of curse words, but when you looked back up at his window, you couldn’t stop the small, flow of whispering curses. You brought your head back into your apartment, turning around and heading towards the front door. You slipped on a pair of shoes and left your apartment. You took the elevator to the main floor, exiting the complex, and made your way around the building where your pillow would be.

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CS FF: The Journey is Half the Fun

Summary:  Emma and Killian encounter many obstacles on their way to their honeymoon destination.

Rating: T

Note: I’m trying to take comfort in the fact that Captain Swan will live on in fanfiction.  As long as inspiration comes and interest remains, then I will continue to write.  We’ll never get to see their honeymoon, so I thought this would be fun to write.  Hope you enjoy it!  ~Steph

…The Journey is Half the Fun: Part 1/1…

Killian and Emma sat in the airport, awaiting their flight to Honolulu, Hawaii for their long awaited honeymoon.  

“Love,” Killian began, turning to his wife, “I don’t understand why you can’t just poof us to our destination.  It would be much safer than traveling in that flying tin can you call an airplane.”

Emma laughed.  Killian had never flown on an airplane before and didn’t trust that it could remain in the air without magic.

“I told you. I only use magic when it’s necessary.  Plus, flying is very safe.”

Killian took her hand in his and leaned in close to her, whispering in her ear. “Aye, but it is much slower.  Just imagine what we could be doing right now if we were already in Hawaii.”

Emma felt a shiver run down her spine at the lust in her husband’s voice.  He kissed below her ear and then her neck, eliciting a giggle.

“Killian, we’re in public,” she managed weakly.

“My point exactly,” he said, moving to her lips.  "We could be in the privacy of our own honeymoon suite right now.“

He was certainly persuasive and it was tempting not to waste anymore time after everything they had been through.  She allowed him one final kiss and then pulled away.  She lifted her hand to caress his cheek and met his eyes.

"I would like nothing more than to get you alone, but this is our chance to be a normal couple for once.  Just newlyweds on their way to their honeymoon.”  She paused and then smiled. “Plus, sometimes the journey is half the fun.  I’d say it was with our relationship, wouldn’t you?”

Killian cocked an eyebrow and shrugged. “Definitely only half, love.  I wouldn’t consider battling villains and being separated by curses and death all that fun.”

Emma laughed and placed her head on his shoulder, squeezing his hand in hers. “Maybe not. But it led us here, so I wouldn’t change a thing.”

Killian nodded and dropped a kiss onto her head. “Aye, me neither.”

After a few moments, Killian glanced at the flight screen before them.

“Swan, what was our flight number?”


They were flying to California and then Hawaii.

Killian gestured at the screen with his hook. “I know I’m new to this flying thing, but I am going to assume cancelled isn’t a good thing.”

Emma’s eyes widened. “What?”

She looked at the screen and saw that indeed their flight was now listed as cancelled.  Emma jumped up from her seat and went over to the attendant at the desk.  She returned a few minutes later.

“So bad weather in California of all places has forced our flight to be cancelled.  We can’t get on another one until tomorrow morning.”

Killian cocked a brow and grinned.  "You’re right, love. This is fun.“

Emma groaned. "I wish things could be easy just once.”

“You said you only use magic when necessary.  I’d say this qualifies.”

She sank back down into the chair beside him.

“I meant went battling villains and breaking curses, not dealing with cancelled flights.”

Killian sighed heavily. “Alright.  What now then?”

“They gave us a voucher for a stay in the hotel next door.  So I guess we just wait it out until morning.”

Killian waggled his eyebrows and smiled.  "Well, love, I do believe I can think of a way to pass the time.“

Emma laughed and kissed him.  "I knew you would.”

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I Never Want to Lose You {Mark x Reader}

Hey I have a request! Mark is in a relationship with a tough girl who’s a soft person when they’re alone. She gets hurt when he’s on tour but he’ll be back in a week. During that week she couldn’t contact him and when he comes back, he finds her at the hospital. Happy please? - Request by cho-humnah

(h/t) = hair type

(h/l) = hair length

(h/c) = hair color

(d/h/c) = dyed hair color

There is something about (Y/N). She acts like a tough person. She always makes herself seem so tough. People always question she can seem so cool and level-headed in the most difficult of situations. But (Y/N) in reality, is just a big softy. The only person who gets to see this side of her is her boyfriend of 3 years, Mark Tuan. Yes the Mark Tuan from GOT7.

They were alone in the bedroom of (Y/N)’s bedroom of her small but comfortable apartment. The were cuddled up into each others arms. Mark running his left hand through (Y/N)’s (h/t) (h/l) hair. At this point (Y/N) was being lulled to sleep, until Mark spoke up.

“I miss your (h/c) hair. When is the (d/h/c) going to wash out?” Mark spoke. “I don’t know. Maybe next week.” I answered. “well I won’t be here to see your beautiful hair. I have a concert in Bangkok.” Mark said. “Why do always have concert and other stuff to do? I want you to be here with me at all times Mark.” I whined.

Mark stopped running his hand through my hair, “As much as I would love to stay here with you Y/N, I just can’t. I have people and my fans counting on me. I wish you would realize that.” “I do realize that Mark, but I feel as if we never get time to be a couple anymore. Even when you have free time, you sometimes don’t make an effort to spend time with me.” 

Mark moved away from me and got off the bed. “Look Y/N, there are times that I need to spend with my others friends and family as well.” “I know, but I want to be as important.” I said siting up on my bed. “You are as important.” “Sometimes I don’t feel like I am Mark.” I said with so much sadness in my tone of voice. “I’ll see you when I get back Y/N.” Mark said walking out my bedroom. 

I could hear his footsteps walk to my front, listening to it open. I heard the front door close but could no longer hear Mark’s footsteps anymore.

Mark’s POV

It’s been about a week since Y/N and I have talked to each other and I miss her very much. I couldn’t contact her at all because of the busy schedule but I plan to make it up to her once I get. 

I feel bad that I had just walked out on her when she was feeling alone and let out. I should have comforted her instead of just leaving. I plan on making it up to her. I will show her that I do love and that she is very important to me. I get butterflies just thinking about her.

After our final performance, I got a call from Y/N’s older brother telling me that she had been in a car accident. I got a plane ticket to the quickest flight back home so that I could see her, leaving the rest of my members behind.

When I got back to Korea, I called her brother to ask what hospital she was in at the moment. She was at Severance Hospital. I rushed there as quick as I could. When I entered the hospital, I asked fro what room Y/N was in and rushed to go find it as soon as possible. 

When I found the room, I barged in looking for Y/N. “Mark is that you?” Y/N asked with a very horsed voice. “Yeah it’s me.” I said pulling her into a tight hug. “You’re not supposed to be back until tomorrow.” She said. “I know. As soon as I heard the news, I can as soon as I could. You’re very important to me and I never want to lose you.” I said , loosening the hug a little. “Thank yo Mark.” She said. “I love you Y/N.” “I love you too Mark.”


“By the way, what happened?” Mark asked. “I was driving home from the grocery store and there was a crazy driver that ran a red light and crashed into me as I was driving.” Y/N said. “Did you get his license number?” BamBam asked. “We are ready to kill anyone for you Y/N.” Yugyeom said. “I don’t think that is necessary.” Y/N said, shivering at what the boys might do. “You guys you have to think of a plan first.” Jinyoung said. “Y/N is right guys. It is not necessary right now. We wait until Y/N gets better before we can kill whoever caused this.” Jaebum said with fake sympathy. “You’re right. Y/N can help help when she is all healed.” Youngjae said. “I already planned out the blueprints. Let’s look over it.” Jackson said. 

“Guys! We are not killing anyone!” Y/N yelled.

Sorry it took me a long time to write. I had writers block, along with some homework and other things as well. I hope you like it.  Requests are open

Morgan Rielly - Part Six

I spend the rest of the afternoon hunched over the dining room table. I stare at my laptop and my notes until I’m sure my eyes are about to bleed. And when I finally finish I drop my glasses onto the table beside me and rub at my eyes harshly, not even caring about my makeup anymore.

               A glance at the clock makes me nearly fall out of my chair. It’s just past ten at night. A jingle outside my door catches my attention. After sitting in complete silence for six hours it’s amazing what you can hear.

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anonymous asked:

I find it amazing that so much work for the original tinkerbell film was done and that they even advertised it and yet it was all scrapped. Even the character designs changed drastically. Still to this day I wonder why was this necessary. I liked the orginal character designs more and the tree in pixie hollow looked better when it was purple. Much more unique and unsual.

Yeah, it’s kinda weird… i mean, movies are scrapped all the time, but usually they do that early, not after they’ve already been heavily advertised.

I honestly really like what we got design wise, but yeah, i really loved the idea of Neverland being more stylized and colorful than the Mainland, and Pixie Hollow being even more so than Neverland… they should have kept that

audacityinblack  asked:

I feel like social justice movements at large should make more of an effort to distinguish safe spaces from activism and education spaces. They serve different purposes, have different needs, and need different rules. People may be confusing and oversimplifying them.

Yes and no. I think the main mistake people make with safe spaces are:

  • Believing that there is such a thing as a safe space when in fact there are only safer spaces. 
  • Believing that what makes a space safer is removing demographic groups from it. 

In reality, removing all men from a women’s safe space may make that place safer because there will be less sexism and sexist violence there, but there will still be ableism, transphobia, racism, etc. It is only significantly safer for people whose only problem is sexism, in other words: ablebodied, cisgender, straight, middle class, neurotypical white women. 

What effectively makes a space safer is a clear policy against sexism, ableism, transphobia, racism, etc. and a good strategy for what to do when someone does do something sexist, ableist, transphobic, racist, etc. That strategy should not rely on disposability (’just kick everyone out who does a bad thing’) but on transformative justice, healing together. In many cases that means temporarily taking the person who has done a bad thing aside to talk things over with them, so that those who have been hurt can continue whatever they were doing and do not have to bear the burden of educating the person that did something wrong. 

Keeping out a demograpic group is sometimes a necessary strategy in addition to a clear anti-discrimination policy, but it is not what makes a safer space. 

Now, about safe spaces, activism and education: 

What kinds of activity we do defines how much safety we need and this is a spectrum, but every activity requires some degree of safety. 

When the purpose of an activity is healing work, processing violence we have experienced, etc. we need a very safe space. Preferably composed of people we already know and trust. This may be invitiation only.

When the purpose of an activity is in-community education, we need a space that is reasonably safe in terms of rules and that allows for some level of ignorance, flaws and imperfection in those that need to learn. (again, safer spaces are not disposability spaces that kick out anyone who does a bad thing). 

When the purpose of an activity is an open debate that included ‘our opponents’, we need to recognise that ‘open’, like ‘safe’, is not an achievable goal. A space that is open to racists is not open to anyone but the strongest people of color who can struggle through the pain of having to debate their right to exist. A space that is open to transphobes is not open to most trans people, etc. A space where anything goes isn’t safe for anyone and actively attracts people trying to normalize despicable views that should never be normalized, like nazis. We always need to be concious of where we draw the line and who we exclude when we create an ‘open’ debate.  

Finally, there are times when we need to accept that our activity is inherently unsafe, for example when the purpose of an action is to achieve through illegal action something which can not be achieved through legal action. People who are more likely to experience police brutality (people of color, trans people, etc) will be less able to participate in an action where a police confrontation and arrest is likely. Illegal activities are also by definition ‘invitation only’ because we don’t need snitches. In these cases we need to accept that this activity is inherently unsafe and inherently ‘invitation only’ we need to remain aware of that and make sure that who we value in our community does not become linked to participation in that illegal action. 

Type Four - The Romantic

Romantics believe you can regain the lost ideal love or perfect state by finding the love or situation that is unique, special and fulfilling. Consequently, Romantics are idealistic, deeply feeling, empathetic and authentic; they also can be dramatic, moody and sometimes self-absorbed.

Focus of attention - What is missing

Life lesson - To reclaim wholeness in the present moment by appreciating what is here and now, feeling the experience in their bodies rather than over-indulging in the story of what’s happening, and accepting yourself as you are without needing to be special or unique

Speaking style - Fours are expressive of feelings, personal, self-focused and have a flair for originality. Others may perceive Fours as overly expressive, unsatisfied with responses and emotionally intense.

What Type Fours tell us about themselves

  • I long for what’s missing, distant or unattainable – the ordinary pales in comparison.
  • My deep sense of abandonment translates into a belief that I will never be fulfilled.
  • I envy and idealize what others have that I don’t.
  • Authenticity and meaningful experiences are essential to me.
  • My suffering sets me apart from others.

Relating to Fours

  • Appreciate their emotional sensitivity, creativity and idealism.
  • Reveal your own feelings and reactions; avoid being overly rational.
  • When they are upset, don’t take everything they say too literally since they may be expressing a momentary feeling.
  • Return to the present and be positive while acknowledging their experience of what is missing.
  • Seek to understand and empathize without necessarily agreeing.

Fours often experience a sense of longing, melancholy or envy for what’s missing. They seek meaning and depth in relationships, work, or their quest for personal creativity. Many are artists who excel at expressing universal human emotions. While they are good at creating an image, it’s most important for them to be authentic. Individualists at heart, Fours need time alone. To heal and grow, they must balance sadness with the capacity for happiness and satisfaction.

Basic proposition - You will feel loved, whole and complete if you can find the ideal love or perfect circumstance.

Strengths - Creative, empathetic, idealistic, capable of emotional depth, compassion

Challenges - Moody, withdrawn, self-absorbed, over-sensitive, demanding, unsatisfied with what is

Defense mechanism
Introjection – unconsciously incorporating the characteristics of a person or object into one’s own psyche

Fours use introjection to avoid ordinariness and maintain a self-image of being authentic. Positive introjection helps overcome feelings of deficiency by seeking value from an idealized relationship or experience. Using negative introjection, Fours tend to blame themselves for whatever goes wrong in personal connections.

Awareness practice
Observe your habit of mind or focus of attention with as little judgment as possible. Ask yourself the following questions, while noticing your feelings and how your body responds:

  • How have I focused my attention and energy on what was missing?
  • In what ways do I experience a sense of longing or envy?
  • How have I diminished or disdained the ordinary or mundane?
  • Do I feel pride in being special or unique, or feel shame in being less than my ideal?
  • In what ways have I felt misunderstood?

Type Four’s journey is to realize that being whole and complete comes with acceptance and appreciation of what is here now, in the present moment – from the inside out, not from the outside in. Disappointments are part of the fabric of life, not an indication of deficiency of being.

Path of Integration

Mental: Melancholy > Idealism
Emotional: Envy > Equanimity

The aspect of awareness called the Inner Observer allows us to witness the internal patterns that drive outer behavior. The practice consists of focusing inwardly and becoming aware of the thoughts, sensations and other objects of attention that arise within us. As we become more present, our type patterns begin to relax and receptivity increases.

For Fours, take a moment to reflect on the following principles:

  • Wholeness already exists, here in the present moment.
  • Emotional intensity isn’t necessary for emotional fulfillment.
  • One’s value is inherent – it does not come from being special.
  • When we focus on what’s missing, we miss out on appreciating what we have.
  • Cultivating the happiness of others helps us overcome envy and longing.

As feeling types, Fours have an intense emotional life, which can lead to big ups and downs. They alternate between striving to win recognition from others and going deeply into their interior worlds. As romantic idealists, they seek a personal and meaningful connection to their work and others. But when things do not measure up, they easily become disappointed and tend to withdraw. On the other hand, when they are excited, anxious or full of feelings, they tend to “spill out” into their environment.

If you are a Four…

Your task is to establish balance with your emotions and your relationships, and to notice when you are amplifying your emotion with provocative or dramatic narratives. A focus on calm, steady breathing and listening to your body will help connect you to the vitality of your instincts. Expressive activities – dancing, singing, art, etc. – channel emotional energy while helping you stay grounded in your body.

Show of hands, how many people did ‘Mindful Education’ hit way too close to home for?

It seemed throughout the series thus far Steven has managed to maintain his innocence, and that itself hasn’t changed. But it also seemed like nothing bothered him- at least not too much. But we’ve been building up to this, and its been a long time coming. 

I think Bismuth was the first time Steven really started to realize that he (and the Crystal Gems) had done some things that were truly morally gray. ‘Us Vs. Them’ was nothing new to him, but it’s different when you’re facing someone that’s one of your own. That didn’t mean the fight wasn’t necessary, but it also doesn’t mean it was any easier to face. 

Jasper was obviously different- she’s been presented as nothing but a villain through the series. But Steven? Given the opportunity he still wants to help, because that’s just who he is. Thing is, you can’t give advise to someone who isn’t ready to listen. It’s not your fault that they aren’t taking the helping hand you’re trying to give, but it still hurts when they don’t. 

Eyeball was a combination of Steven’s most pressing issues (and possibly why she was imagined as the biggest of Stevonnie’s visions). He tried to take the tactic of saying he WAS his mother- not that Eyeball believed him at first. Then she cracks her gem, and lets him help her despite herself. This of course ultimately becomes his undoing. Because Steven managed to heal her gem, she finally believes that he is Rose Quartz and wants him dead. For someone who believes in helping anyone no matter what, and always believes the best in people, this is probably a pretty big blow for him. At the time he was obviously focused on staying alive, which happened to result in sending her spiraling out into endless space. It was necessary, but it was a blow on two fronts: He finally used his mother’s legendary abilities to do what she would have done (heal someone), but ends up doing something that might effectively kill them when things went wrong- which when it comes to light, is also something that she probably would have done.

And it doesn’t sit easy with him. 

Up until this point all Steven ever wanted to do was to be able to fill his mother’s shoes. We already had this:

I’m not Rose Quartz.

But what happens when you discover that the person you’ve been trying so hard to become did things  you would never, not even in your wildest dreams, do? Worse yet: What happens when you do those exact same things?

When you spend too much time trying to be someone else, you start to lose yourself.  Steven feels not only that he has to be Rose Quartz, but that everyone else expects him to be Rose Quartz too. Above all, he just wants to make everyone happy, even if it means sacrificing his own happiness in return. So if that means suppressing everything he’s feeling about what’s happened, that’s what he’s going to try to do. 

And that’s when Rose goes from this:

To this:

You can’t hold all that inside and function long term, you just can’t. 

It’s scary to face the parts of yourself that you don’t like, and even harder to face the things you’ve done that you’re not proud of. But your inner demons are part of you too, and if you don’t face them they will devour you. 

Worse yet they can hurt the people around you and destroy the relationships that keep you whole. If you try to constantly push down the things that are haunting you for the sake of everyone around you, you will only isolate and destroy yourself. 

Garnet Said it best:

To find balance you must understand your feelings. To understand your feelings, you must see them clearly without running from them.

And that is a lesson we could all do to learn.

And if you will indeed obey my commandments that I command you today, to love the LORD your God, and to serve Him with all your heart and with all your soul, He will give the rain for your land in its season.”
Deuteronomy 11:13-14

I don’t know what you are going through. God may have given you a promise but you still have yet to see it come to fruition and you’re starting to doubt if it ever will. 

My advice to you: don’t worry. Love God. Love God today, with all your heart and with all your soul. He knows what you desire. He knows the cry of your heart. He knows what He said and He will be faithful to fulfill it. Do not worry that it hasn’t yet come. Do not worry and wonder when it ever will. This is what He is commanding you and this is what you should be focused on–Loving God. Serving God. Seeking God first. God is sovereign and He doesn’t need you to worry about what He promised He’s already taking care of. Your job isn’t to worry. Your job is to obey Him. 

He knows what your heart desires and He says He will give it to you IN ITS SEASON.

And what that means is it is not yet its season. Remember: obedience is necessary to obtain the promise. We so often want the rain NOW, but God is telling you to wait. The waiting season can be so difficult, I know. But it is in this season where God is preparing us to receive what we are praying for. It is in this season where He is molding us and teaching us to depend wholly on Him. This season is not simply about waiting for the object of our faith, but about who we become as we wait. So wait on God. Love Him completely. He knows when and how to give it to you–at the proper time. Do not be concerned with the why’s and the how’s. Be concerned with loving Him TODAY so that when it finally reaches its season, you will be prepared to receive it.

anonymous asked:

Sid/geno where they are professors ?!

oh nooooo this got very out of hand all of a sudden i hope u like it!! (send me sidgeno prompts here!!)

It was like a romance novel, Zhenya thought as he ducked his head as Professor Crosby passed, avoiding eye contact. He looked up just in time to properly watch him walk away, though, and mentally tacked on that it was a classic romance; the kind with pining, potential soulmates passing like ships in the night, with love left undiscovered in the words they didn’t say, and–

“He has a nice ass, Zhenya.” Sasha said, taking a sip of his coffee and unabashedly staring at Professor Crosby’s retreating form. “But, if I have to watch you keep composing poems about it, I’m going to lose my mind.” 

“I’m not composing poems.” Zhenya said, because he was composing prose, and that was something entirely different. “And, ass is better than amazing. I’m know; expert on good ass.” 

“You’re a Russian literature professor, not an Anatomy professor.” Sasha snorted. “Unless you have a PhD in ass you didn’t tell me about.” 

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anonymous asked:

My problem with no goodbyes and constant reminding of Sansa being Jon's 'sister' is the way they're going to transition into Jonsa. If it's true that Jonsa won't see each other again this season and S8 is shorter, how are they going to go from platonic/familial/maybe-attraction-tension to romance. I wasn't expecting obvious signs, but I wanted something more. At this point if someone views tonight's scenes as brotherly, it would be hard to refute and say it's actually foreshadowing romance.

If someone views the last episode as brotherly then that’s their prerogative lmao. It doesn’t affect me nor should it affect your shipping of them. 

The thing is Jon and Sansa’s chemistry have been brewing since Season 6 and we’re not the only ones to have noticed it. Whether they are endgame or not, the seeds have already been planted over a possible marriage/romance between the two characters. As shippers, we do expect a lot more, something concrete and tangible to sink our teeth in, but for the casual viewer, it’s not necessary right now. The seeds are planted and now it’s time to let them grow as Jon and Sansa learn how to be apart and what they mean to each other in that absence. 

Your question of how they’ll go from this relationship to a more explicitly romantic one? Well… Just by letting it happen organically when they return. They don’t need to force anything. If my predictions are correct, Sansa is going to find out about Jon’s parentage before he does, allowing her first the realisation that her feelings may not be so wrong. I believe she is going to be the most oblivious to romantic feelings. She’s never felt romantic love before, while Jon has likely recognised that his feelings for Sansa fall a little too closely to how he felt for Ygritte. So Sansa needs this confirmation from Bran that they’re only cousins for her to come to terms, which is why their time apart will be good for them. At least in my opinion. 

The reiteration of the word ‘sister’ just sounds like Jon reaffirming it to himself and trying to neatly categorise her in a box she doesn’t quite fit in, but that’s me with my shipper goggles on ;D

I have finished notes for another creative writing critique, I shall reward myself with more sappy DirkJake marriage headcanons! THE RIDE NEVER ENDS!

After the game, the kids have a few hang-ups about rings, but it’s not as severe as the shakes they get in the face of weapons, blood, or the occasional shock they get out of pulling their old god tier clothes from the closet, fitted perfectly to their adult size and as still clean as they day they rose off their quest beds. Depending upon your preferred timeline (*/Gill the Shill mode activated*), Jake’s <i>lascivious reverie</i> before being rudely awoken by Aranea leaves him with weird feelings whenever he looks at posters of Neytiri, and it takes awhile before he feels he can wear shorts above the knee or even think about seeing those sequels James Cameron keeps saying are coming, you guys, really. But nothing unique to Jake stops him lingering in jewelry shops, pondering. Not shopping, but thinking about it.

Money isn’t a question, it’s more about style. In his heart of hearts, Jake knows Dirk will think no less of him if he proposes with a ring so tacky it’s <i>made</i> of diamonds, but Jake wants Dirk to know he knows what he likes. And Dirk doesn’t wear a lot of jewelry, but keeps his appearance modestly simple. The anime spikes have become a quieter whorl now that they’re no longer adolescents and Dirk was forced to trade his shades for reading glasses after years of staring at computer screens through them took a toll on his eyesight. Funny that god tier magic didn’t clear that up, Jake thinks (never stopping to ponder how he’s still blind as a cave fish without his own glasses), but at least Dirk isn’t afraid of growing up to look like his brother’s childhood nightmares anymore. With the way Dirk still keeps his triangle shades in a reverent place on his shelves, Jake deduces he’d want something understated and classy, but with flair. Two bands, both made of elaborate gold knots that aren’t quite tasteless enough to resemble hearts, are snapped up the instant Jake sees them. The offer of an engraving is forgone but if Dirk were to accept, Jake decides on the spot to put “For my Prince” on their proper wedding rings. He still doesn’t know if he’ll actually propose, or how, or even if this is what he really wants or what Dirk wants, but if the moment comes he will be prepared.

Dirk keeps design notes in his sketchpad. He knows Jake fiddles with his hands while doing other things. He’ll pick his nails, ruffle his hair, click pencils, bounce his leg, he likes to be occupied. It helps him focus, and Dirk has learned to tune out the more irritating tics. After seeing the idea, he made Jake his own fidget cube as a present. Jake carries it everywhere. Now, he’s playing on the idea of a fidget ring. Twist the band, and little gears click all across the piece. Or, multiple interlocking bands of different metals to fiddle with and move around. Little thumbnails wind up in the corner of larger pieces, an intricate toy of metal and stone next to Dirk’s next animatronic art piece. But it’s never quite right, he thinks. It has to go beyond the idea of just a toy to play with, it has to be a work of art. Moreover, it has to be for Jake. Jake would accept an engagement ring of a coiled paper clip if Dirk were the one sliding it on his finger, but if it’s not made just for him, Dirk will never forget-

Wait, when did he start taking this so seriously?

The subject comes up at dinner, over movies, on lazy mornings, like a rabbit comes up from its burrow. Always when they’re alone together. If Roxy caught wind of it, she’d have the entire ceremony planned in a week, and she already booked the event space so there’s no backing out, you two! It just feels so formal, so official, so permanent. Is it even necessary? Nothing about us will change. And what about taxes?(“Jake, I do our taxes, remember?” Dirk says, and then they both look away, red but smiling) And they’re god tier, Dirk murmurs. What does that do to “til death do us part”?

We might ask Rose and Kanaya, Jake might say, the suggestion slid across as though it were the ring box in his sylladex. Dirk nods. A few weeks later, John and Roxy want to watch Shrek for some godforsaken reason, and the moment “I’m a Believer” kicks up over the credits Dirk and Jake look at each other, catch the other’s eye, and smile slowly. They stay that way until one of the Lalondes starts to turn her head their way.

Dirk settles on just asking, and saving his designs for a wedding ring. Jake, who’s never been one to be choosy about restaurants, starts evaluating finer establishments on nights they go out.

Starters from a few of my favorite books

Can be interpreted as fluffy, angsty, NSFW-ish, jealousy/possessiveness, violence, etc.

  • ‘ You obviously have an ego as swollen as a horse’s rigid dick. ‘
  • ‘ Maybe one day you will learn that it is not a fault to care. ‘
  • ‘ Can we stop talking about inconsequential crap and just order the food, please? ‘
  • ‘ Sometimes people have roots so corrupted, they shouldn’t try to plant them. ‘
  • ‘ _____ pisses me off so I won’t panic. ‘
  • ‘ You can count on me. And you’re damn well going to. ‘
  • ‘ I know what I’ve got, and I’m damned if I let you run. ‘
  • ‘ You’re what was missing. Not anymore. ‘
  • ‘ Who are we here to kill? Should I be worried that it’s me? ‘
  • ‘ I didn’t really want you dead. ‘
  • ‘ Just let me go get my gun so you can shoot me again. ‘
  • ‘ And in case you’re wondering, I’m glad I killed _____. ‘
  • ‘ You’re crying because you’re angry? ‘
  • ‘ You and me, we aren’t practice for the real thing. ‘
  • ‘ We haven’t even slept together and already you don’t trust me. ‘
  • ‘ I can probably protect you from ______, I likely can’t protect you from yourself. ’
  • ‘ You’re not hungry? Are you feeling okay? ‘
  • ‘ You fucked up, but don’t worry you’ll do that a lot. ‘
  • ‘ Why the hell did you brush me off like that? ‘
  • ‘ Why exactly do you think you’re entitled to be pissed at me? ‘
  • ‘ You’re not going to get me, _____. ‘
  • ‘ Tell me you don’t feel what we do to each other. ‘
  • ‘ When the job’s done, I’ll snap my fingers, and you’ll be gone. ‘
  • ‘ Are you here because I’m a necessary part of the plan? ‘
  • ‘ Say the magic words. ‘

Can we just talk about the fact that Spock canonically plays the piano beautifully?

But really lemme just take a minute here. Is it not enough that he’s already the most amazing, intelligent and beautiful creature in the galaxy? Was it really necessary to make him a proficient piano player as well? What are you doing to me, Gene Roddenberry?

Do you think he was ever at Christmas parties around all the drunk people with nothing to do all awkward  and just quietly slunk behind the keys when nobody noticed?

(I bet Jim notices like a proud husband and wants to make a big deal out of it but Spock won’t let him. I bet he loves to hear Spock play piano and tries to encourage him to do it whenever the opportunity presents itself.)

Who taught him? Did he learn by himself?

And if Sarek taught Spock how to play the lyre …
Did … did Amanda teach little Spock how to play the human piano?

Oh my God.