When you realize when Kurt got to Tibet and asked for Jane it probably went something like:
He finally gets to that mountain top. Hot. Sweating, not knowing if this lead was right or not. He doesn’t speak the language but he knows that wouldn’t be a problem for Jane. When he sees one of the Buddhists, he starts trying to describe who he’s looking for: A woman, a tattooed woman.
Jane’s there to be protected, and here’s an outside man looking for her. His questions would be met with silence, not because they don’t understand, but because they’re keeping Jane safe. But finally, in a moment of sheer desperation, Kurt manages to get out:
“She’s my wife.”