1.) life is too short to worry about if you’re gonna annoy the other person by double texting them, just fucking doing it. odds are they didn’t see your message or forgot to respond and that doesn’t make you annoying. (people double text me all the time and I love it because usually I just completely forget that they said something to me)
2.) you’re gonna be heartbroken. I know your heart feels so heavy but imagine how good it’s gonna feel when you finally receive the love you gave back and how good it’s gonna feel for it to not go to waste. the right one is out there, it just takes some time. but for now, keep picking up the pieces. it’s not your fault, remember that.
3.) if you see someone sitting alone, just go fucking sit by them and ask how they are.
4.) ask how people are, all the time. ask about them, ask what’s going on and have them update you. sometimes all people really need is just to talk and to know that someone does genuinely care about them
5.) don’t comment something negative on someone’s appearance if they can’t fix it within ten seconds. your words stick to people like glue. make sure what sticks is positive. this goes for yourself too, you’re slowly killing yourself by beating yourself up over these small things. relax. breathe. you’re so much more than you think.
6.) you’re gonna have some really bad days and when you do, you’re gonna hurt people. that’s inevitable, but make sure you’re letting the people you hurt know that you’re sorry. it’s okay that you had a bad day and took out your sadness on people, it happens. but please make sure you’re doing more good than harm to them.
7.) always always always tell the people you love that you’re thankful for them and that you appreciate and love them. sometimes people go so long without hearing how loved they are and they’re completely unaware. say it before it’s too late.
8.) writing, whether you’re good at it or not, is always a great way to cope. so is talking about your problems. don’t be scared to express your feelings, bottling them up only makes you explode in the long run.
9.) listen more than you talk. once you start listening more you’ll realize that people really do say some pretty fantastic things.
10.) be kind to yourself. life is way too short to be filled with so much sorrow about things you cannot change. yes, life sucks complete asshole sometimes but you’re living and that’s enough. you have so much light inside of you that you need to pull out. and I promise you, even if you see darkness there is light in you and everyone else can see it. friend, you are the brightest light in the darkest of rooms, you light up so many lives and it’s about god damn time you start see it.
ten things I’ve learned so far in 2016 // ig writingmyself
one thing that rly upsets me is the self deprecating mentality that is so rampant in the art community.
It’s nobody’s fault! it’s just an unfortunate thing that exists and it’s something I rly want to change by spreading positivity.
If you’re not sure what I’m talking about, you know how you might see an artist being complimented and they’ll reply with “it’s not that good though,” or they’ll post a piece and say they don’t like it or say they drew something wrong etc.?
That’s what I mean by self deprecating. It’s something I picked up when I was young and impressionable and it’s not easy to break out of. But I’m trying!
it’s like. it’s a mentality where you feel like you’re not allowed to be proud of what you create because if you are proud, then people will think you’re self centred or stuck up. And that’s not right at all!
While it’s true you do need a certain level of humility to improve as an artist - you can’t get better if you ignore your mistakes, after all - that doesn’t mean that you cannot be proud of your successes!
Here is me telling you that I want you to be proud of your work, it’s okay if you have off days and it’s okay if your work isn’t where you want it to be.
But when you get things right, even if it’s something small like drawing a good ear, I genuinely want you to be proud of that. You are allowed to be proud of that!
The sort of art community I want to see is one where young artists can receive support and given encouragement, instead of one where a negative mentality is the norm.
I fully understand if you’re struggling with this mentality right now. It’s not your fault, it’s an environment that affects everyone, I just want you to know that it’s okay to be happy about your art.
It’s really important to me that you all know that I am here for you if you need advice, and that there’s nothing I want more than for you to be happy about what you create.