“I don’t see color” when referring to race is not good. You shouldn’t mush all races and ethnicities together in a big blurry ball. You should acknowledge their differences. Acknowledge that poc face unique problems. Acknowledge white privilege. Acknowledge that the US oppresses poc. “I don’t see color” doesn’t mean you’re not racist, it means you’re ignorant.
i said i was going to let this go for now, but i’m nothing if not ridiculous so here’s this post instead. i decided to get my thoughts about this whole pride game thing out in words. you agree or disagree or ignore this or whatever. if you wanna talk about it in a civil way feel free to message me.
so when the whole “hockey is for everyone” month was announced, i was skeptical. you can play is a good organization in theory, but it doesn’t actually do much. having players periodically say that they would be okay with a gay teammate does nothing but make the people who say it feel better about themselves without having to take action. it’s not going to actually make the nhl a safer, more accepting place. but i think that’s a conversation for another day.
as the actual pens hockey is for everyone game approached, i was cautiously optimistic? because it seemed like a way for teams to say that lgbtq+ fans were welcome in the game, that the players would do something small to make the sport as a whole feel welcoming.
as a queer fan of hockey, that isn’t something i’ve ever seen even talked about, much less prioritized. so even though i’m kind of jaded on the whole YCP thing, the prospect of the team i love saying that i am welcome, and so are other people like me, actually did mean something.
and then the game happened. and every single player on the flames (with the exception of one maybe? i’ve seen different things from different people) wore the tape for warm-ups, even though it wasn’t even their home game. fleury wasn’t the starting goalie but he put rainbow tape on his blocker. i was so excited. but on the pens side, cr*sby, l*tang, and sh*ltz didn’t even use the tape for warm-ups.
i’ve seen a ton of people saying “oh sid has his supersititions, maybe he has anxiety you don’t know why he chose not to use the tape.” which, okay, i get that. i have anxiety and it sucks. but we have no evidence that sid has anxiety and it kind of bothers me that people feel like that’s a good excuse?
for me, this was an opportunity for one of the most famous (if not the most famous) active hockey player to show that he supports his lgbtq+ fans. and he chose not to, even though literally all he had to do was what most of the rest of his team was willing to do. i’m not asking him to use the stupid tape every game for the rest of his career. i just think for this one game specifically organized to show support for lgbtq+ fans and players, could’ve been an opportunity for him to show support in this very small way.
geno did it! he donated his suite to local GSA organizations. a dude from russia who faces enormous pressure from a homophobic government to be the best, decided that he would be willing to do something for a game he didn’t even get to play in. but sid didn’t even put the tape on his stick.
and yeah i’m upset that sid didn’t. i’m a huge fan of the pens in general and sid in particular (obviously lol), and it sucks and it hurts and it makes me sad that he didn’t take the opportunity right in front of him to show his support. and i’m entitled to feel that way.
should i be surprised that a rich white straight man is a shitty ally for lgbtq+ people? definitely not. does it still suck? yeah. and maybe that’s my fault for expecting too much. and maybe i’m making too big of a deal out of this. but whatever. that’s how i feel and i’m not going to pretend otherwise. the end.