okay, i was in the car with my sisters (who are both cishet), and one of them asked, “how lgbt friendly is our town?”
i responded immediately with, “not at all,” at the same time my other sister responded with, “well, it’s not *that* friendly.”
i was asked by both of them as to why i was insisting that no, our town (which is extremely small and can be summed up by the school, btw) is not lgbt friendly. i told them that so many kids threw around the f and d slurs, as well as calling people gay as an insult, and also, they make those “did you just assume my gender/i identify as an attack helicopter” jokes. keep in mind, i’m genderfluid and a lesbian, so yeah, these things are both *pretty* harmful to me. (granted, i’m not out to my family, so them not listening to what i had to say wasn’t (too much of) a problem, but that’s not the point.)
my other sister, who said that our town was *kind of* lgbt friendly, said, “well, yeah, but you’re going to find that in every school. what i mean is that no one - or at least most people - is going to get turned away for being gay.”
and you know what?
throwing around homophobic and lesphobic slurs and making homophobic and transphobic jokes is not “lgbt friendly,” no matter how normal it is. these things harm lgbt kids (i.e., me), and drive anyone who wants to come out further into the closet. i’m out as a lesbian to all my friends, but i would never dream of coming out as genderfluid to them, and you know why? it’s because they laughed at (not even made - laughed at) those “did you just assume my gender?” jokes. i’m fucking petrified of being myself around others because of these jokes. (goddamn jokes).
so no, our town is not lgbt friendly. i don’t give a shit that *most* people won’t get kicked out of their homes for being gay. as long as gay, trans, and nonbinary kids are being ostracized and pushed into the closet, our town is not lgbt friendly.
if you aren’t lgbt, you need to hold yourself to *way* higher standards than you are now. just because you wouldn’t kill your friend for being gay doesn’t mean you’re a good ally. if you throw around slurs (yes, even jokingly), if you call people gay as an insult, or if you make any of the “attack helicopter” jokes, you’re a shitty ally and an even shittier human.
(yes, cishets can reblog this - in fact, it’s encouraged.)
While we’ve been talking about people in general in your world, there may already be a few individuals who you want to focus in on, whether they’re a protagonist or antagonist to a story, an important political player, or someone who just has a lot going on with them in the world, which may impact the world directly or who gives your world a lens to look at it through.
Today, dig into those people, consider their place in the world and talk about what roles they play and their importance.
They’re of course products of their surroundings, from upbringing to current circumstances. They may have some dynamics in their life which have been determined long before their birth such as feelings about their race by the rest of the world, or just who their parents were.