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As someone who grew up in a country with a diversity of different cultures (including the Indian culture), I just want to say that Jonghyun did not mock them - that’s almost how all Bollywood movies are like, and if you’re someone who isn’t exposed to them, then maybe you’re just being butthurt and/or self-righteous by making a huge deal out of this - but yes, he still shouldn’t have, in the words on people nowadays, ‘appropriated’ that culture in any way.

That aside (and no, I am not saying Jonghyun is right or fine to do that at all, that is a different discussion), he has already issued an apology.

This was pretty much the first thing he addressed since his concert ended. He didn’t wait and decide to speak up after the series ended. He didn’t let SM or his managers speak for him. He could have easily done all that - let SM represent him or talk about this AFTER everything, but no. He took it to his Twitter on the first night of the concerts and apologised himself. He realised he’s wrong and even assured that that bit will be taken out of the video. What more do you want from the man?

Okay, maybe someone found it really offensive or insensitive, and you have every right to be upset. You can point it out and tell him about it, but you have no right to bash him after he’s publicly apologised. You don’t get to put him on a pedestal and destroy him when he took the time to explain that he knew he was wrong and he would not make such a mistake again.

We are all humans. He is as much a human as you are. You are, by no means, superior to him just because you’re socially aware of such issues. Not everyone gets the same exposure. Everyone is ignorant in some way, and different races/countries/cultures perceive things differently. For example, in America, because of its history and racial diversity, you might learn that joking about skin colour is wrong, but in some parts of Asia, it’s perfectly normal to joke about it. 

For Jonghyun, he grew up in Korea. Maybe this wasn’t something he learned while growing up. I don’t know, but maybe. I certainly wouldn’t if I didn’t grow up in a racially diverse country and didn’t have Indian friends. Yes, the world is global, but everyone grew up with certain ideals and beliefs, and you need to be aware that just because it applies to you doesn’t mean it applies to someone else. 

You preach about the need to educate and to fight for what’s right. Yes, you’ve done that. He is aware and has admits that he’s wrong. Just because he’s an idol doesn’t mean you can go on and on about how he intends to hurt people or etc. He’s an idol, yes, but it doesn’t mean he naturally knows about everything and everyone.

To those who are hurt by what he did, you have every right to be upset. If you feel like his apology isn’t good enough, I’m sorry, but what do you expect him to do? Go down on his knees and beg until you forgive him?

He’s an idol and an adult, and I think the fact that he spoke up about his mistakes himself, at the first moment possible, is commendable. It speaks a lot about who he is as a person. He’s a human, like all of us. Everyone makes mistakes. Can you honestly say that you have never been accidentally/unintentionally ‘racist’ at some point in your life? How would you like if people bash on you even if you gave a sincere apology about a mistake you did not intend to commit?

We all know him. He’s a sensitive soul. Do you honestly believe he’s done this on purpose? He apologised. Give him a freaking break. He’s a human with feelings. Don’t be a jerk just because he’s an idol whom you expect to be a ‘PERFECT’ role model. Nobody is. People learn and change. 

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That’s definitely not the first thing that should have come to mind, Kuroo

(tho it looks like no one really minds

aside from bokuto that is)

As my tweet has exploded both on tumblr and twitter, I’m getting disturbed by how more than a few guys have responded by telling me that this tactic wouldn’t stop them, or that it would encourage them to hit on women more.  It disturbs me because you recognize that this tweet is expressing the distaste that women have for being hit on, you see how much it resonates with us, and your response is “haha that won’t stop me”?

First, it’s not on US to stop you, my tweet was a joke, and it got picked up so much because other women understand the place the joke came from and it puts humor onto our experiences, but it’s not meant to be THE solution, the solution is on you guys to not harass women.

Secondly, if you recognize this as an expression of our frustration, and your first response is “haha, I don’t care”, or even worse “if you try to stop us, we’ll do it more”, then you really are a villain.

And thirdly, this shows that at least for the dudes responding like this, it really isn’t about social awkwardness, or them not knowing this bothers us, it shows that even if they know, they don’t care.  Even if they get the message of “stop”, all they do is laugh and go “you’ll have to do better than that.”

This just illustrates how hitting on women is as much about power and control as it is about attraction or wanting a woman to date them, because even when they know we DON’T want to date them, even when they know this is bothering us, they don’t care.  All they care about is inflicting their will on us, on doing what THEY want.  And they throw the responsibility for their actions on us.  It’s up to US to turn them off, not on them to stop when they know we’re not interested, and if they don’t feel like stopping, it’s our fault for not doing better to dissuade them.

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#the writers really could not have been more CLEAR#as to what kind of man emma deserves and will end up with#killian is everything neal never was and of course never will be##so as an emma fan i am forever grateful she has killian#he’s so good for her and TO her#everything she needs#and deserves in her life

It’s normal to doubt yourself. It’s normal to worry about what other people think. It’s normal to regret not coming out earlier, or not coming out later. It’s normal to regret how you told people, and how people reacted. It’s normal to think your identity isn’t valid. It’s normal to worry about the present. It’s normal to worry about the future. It’s normal to worry about all of this. I did it, and pretty much every other trans person (and that’s a lot of people) did too.

Sometimes, after coming out, it can feel like people aren’t supporting you as much as they did beforehand. There is love and support out there, though.

You can do this. You’re a star shining your light on the world and you will be okay

I have spent a good many years since ― too many, I think ― being ashamed about what I write. I think I was forty before I realized that almost every writer of fiction or poetry who has ever published a line has been accused by someone of wasting his or her God-given talent. If you write (or paint or dance or sculpt or sing, I suppose), someone will try to make you feel lousy about it, that’s all.
—  Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

So I haven’t been swimming for years cos not having the time and just life getting in the way but i was a really avid one when i was younger, So there i was just swimming up a down and the life guard came up to me and said “Do you realize how fast your swimming??” and i thought he was mad so I was just screaming inside and he said “Well you sure do swim fast, Thought about being on a team?” and i legit just thought i was thrown into an anime I didn’t know what to say so myself being an idiot just said “ … Free?” and he replied “yeah its free you just have to show up” Long story short. I’m on a swimming team now.

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