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The Outbursts of Everett True was a comic strip that ran in papers from 1905 to 1927, wherein the aforementioned Everett True regularly beat the everliving shit out of rude people as a warning to anyone else who might consider being rude. Men have not only been taking up too much room on public transport for about as long as public transport has existed, but the people around them have been irritated about it for at least a hundred years. The next time someone tries to claim that manspreading is a false phenomenon, please direct them to this strip so that Everett True can correct their misconceptions with an umbrella upside the head.

You know what? I really wish people were as hyped about Sonequa Martin-Green being the first Black woman to lead in a Star Trek series as they are about the D*ctor Wh* casting. But then again, most feminists don’t care about non-White women so it’s to be expected that most of you guys don’t care about the fact that she’s making history too. And when you factor in Michelle Yeoh, you get it doubly so. Last time I checked, this is a pretty big deal for the sci-fi genre too. 

What’s strange, to me, is people thinking that the D*ctor Wh* casting gives hope to all little girls when we know that’s not true. This issue is just so very layered and complex, but there is something particularly troubling about the fact that people think a White woman should be the symbol all little girls should look up to, regardless of their race. It’s so very arrogant to believe that little non-White girls will be represented by this woman that looks nothing like them. It’s very arrogant to think that little non-White girls should look up to the new Doctor as their new hero, especially knowing this casting is only a win for White women and White women only.

This is the cast of the hit TV comedy Brooklyn Nine Nine:

It is a well-rounded cast.  The characters are different people with different dreams and goals and personalities and priorities, and they work together.


These two are Amy Santiago and Rosa Diaz, two Latina women:

Although they are both Latina women, they are very different characters.  Amy is a nerdy, easily-excited perfectionist and Rosa is a blunt, tough-as-nails badass.

If I were to ask “what’s your opinion of the Latina character on Brooklyn Nine Nine”, you would have to respond with “which one?”.


These two are Captain Raymond Holt and Terry Jeffords, two black men:

Although they are both black men, they are very different characters.  Captain Holt is strict and humourless, Terry is a musclebound teddy bear.

If I were to ask “what’s your opinion of the black man on Brooklyn Nine Nine”, you would have to respond with “which one?”.

A lot of people don’t like “tokenism” in fiction.  And, it’s true, if you’re adding in a black character just for the sake of representing all black people in your fiction, it can be an example of poor writing.

But, when you watch Brooklyn Nine Nine, none of the characters above feel like token characters.

Now, if I were to remove Amy Santiago from the show, many people might think of Rosa as the token Latina.  And, as the only Latina, many people might think that she was there to represent all Latina women. They might say “Is that really what you think all Latina women are like?  That they all wear leather jackets and grunt in monosyllables and beat people senseless?  What a terrible stereotype!

If I were to remove Captain Holt from the show, many people might think of Terry as the token black man.  And, as the only black man, many people might think that he was there to represent all black men.  They might say “Is that really what you think all black men are like?  That they’re all vain, overmuscled behemoths, tamed into domesticity?  What a terrible stereotype!”.

It is precisely because the show features multiple examples of each of these demographics that they escape stereotyping.  If you see one Latina woman who exhibits aggressive traits, you might think that all Latina women have anger management problems.  If you see two Latina women, though, and one is aggressive and the other isn’t, you would not reach that conclusion.  It would be impossible for someone to watch an episode of Brooklyn Nine Nine and come away thinking “ah yes, now I know what all Latina women are like” or “ah yes, now I know what all black men are like”.

It is fine not to approve of tokenism in fiction.  It’s fine!  Including a character purely to check that character’s ethnicity or gender or disability or sexuality off of a checklist can be terrible writing.  Token characters can perpetuate negative stereotypes, or even help to create new ones.

But, if you don’t like token characters, the answer isn’t less diversity.


It’s more.

you know what’s sort of fascinating. the word “feelings”. i think about this a lot. about how it comes as sort of a mocking idea, a shadow of reality. oh, did i hurt your feelings? 

men, of course, don’t have these things. these dirty moths that bang around inside of heads, these girly feelings, these gay feelings, these not-cool-bro feelings. men are drinking a beer and watching tv and not traumatized by anything, not even her and her hair like a noose. when they want to crack open and tell their best friend that they are a million mirrors, all reflecting empty: instead they say nothing. they turn angry. angry is not a feeling. angry is a better place to be, the top of the roller coaster. nobody says you’re a fuck up if you’re angry. it’s sort of brave. at the bottom, because you come down, eventually, we all do, you wake up and people ask. what happened to you. is all this because of your feelings?

women, of course, are only these terrible creatures. ruled by it like werewolves. howling and sad and animalistic, chewed up by them. sobbing as a way to escape, because nobody knows how to handle feelings. this make us weak, flimsy, a bed to lie down on but not sleep, you’ll catch feelings. when it is a bad day, when it is a bad life, when we are complaining, it is because of our feelings. this is how we turn mouse-quiet too, learn to mask anger lest it be mistaken for that-time-of-the-month feelings. we cry over our best friend but we don’t cry in a funeral, unsure how to look strong and sensitive, hating ourselves at seven for crying in front of the neighbor, baby feelings, loving ourselves at twenty for holding it in when he sneers oh, does misogyny trigger your feelings? hating ourselves again when we feel a little colored out of the lines, holding our passion in like a breath, quietly sifting crazy feelings that maybe aren’t so crazy to begin with.

feelings. feminine connotations. impolite in proper society. when they ask how you’re feeling, you say “fine.” don’t cry, it will spoil the cake. don’t be so whiny, it won’t happen anyway. don’t feel, it’s not your place.

how to win an argument is easy. “oh, i’m sorry, did i hurt your feelings?” a spat word. a word that drips with venom, a word you shove the plate away with, no thanks i’m not hungry. empty of them. feeling is being in contact with the world, being stroked by it, having things get into skin and lips and behind eyes. strength is the opposite; the unsoft, the untouchable, the ethereal above-ness, no wound can utter the name of you. 

i’m in my feelings. yeah, i have feelings for you. open word. gaping. an already-forming bruise.

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Our Current (2/15/17) Women’s Champions

the First Japanese woman to become the NXT Women’s Champion

the First African American woman to become the Smackdown Women’s Champion

the First Latina woman to become the Raw Women’s Champion

yall: “nobody wants a guy with a tiny dick” “short guys are ugly” “if your voice isnt deep dont talk to me”

every trans guy ever:

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Bette Davis // Judy Garland // Joan Crawford // Marilyn Monroe // Audrey Hepburn // Barbra Streisand // Angela Lansbury // Natalie Wood // Vivien Leigh

Loving a strong, independent woman is not for the faint of heart…
You need to be self-assured and confident in your own masculinity because she will not fawn over you to give you constant gratification or cry down the phone to you begging to see you because she misses you… She is not the type to ask for your help or advice on how best to do something, so if you’re in love your own opinions and the sound of your own voice then this isn’t the woman for you.
She is spirited and confident and will embark upon projects and adventures without consulting you; you can either tag along for the ride or not, it makes no difference to her. So if you need to be in control of every decision in a relationship it’s best you call it quits now… She’s not a perfectionist or a control freak, in fact you’ll find her both reasonable and forgiving - but she’s also nobody’s fool so if repeating the same behavior and apologizing every time is the most amount of effort you’re willing to put into the relationship she won’t keep you around very long…
But the joy in loving a strong independent woman is knowing that if she chooses you it’s because she loves you – NOT because she needs you. A woman like that learned to rely on herself and stop needing people a long time ago so if she’s with you it’s because she admires and respects you for who you are as a person and not for what you can offer her. If you’re a man who can truly handle being a woman’s equal… then you just might be man enough for a woman like her….

Watching some of the 1960s Jetsons episodes made me want a bby Kara on Krypton cartoon before I remembered that later everyone dies. 

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heres a cool idea: how about dont send hate to abuse victims who are afraid of women because of their female abuser(s). not every woman is a goddamn saint or angel. there are terrible shitty abusive sisters, mothers, girlfriends, wives ect just like theres terrible shitty abusive brothers, fathers, boyfriends, and husbands. how much of a thick fucking skull do you have to have to make a victim of an abusive woman feel like shit for being traumatized??

and i just want to make it clear go ahead and keep posting girl positive posts thats fine im not shaming that what im saying here is:

DONT SEND HATE TO OR SHAME ABUSE VICTIMS LITERALLY FOR BEING TRAUMATIZED

anonymous asked:

"Men want objects. Women want PEOPLE." You REALLY need to stop hanging out within your confirmation bias bubble man. It's starting to like seriously fuck with your objectivity. If you can't see how sexist generalizing all men as being assholes while saying all women are decent and morally superior, you've seriously lost yourself. You need to take some time to think (I'm legitimately worried here, this is not trolling, I'm seriously concerned for your mental well being).

You do realize that I’m a cis man, right? And that I reblogged that post from another cis man?
Why is it that we can read something like that and fully comprehend that this wasn’t about us and you can’t?

That being said: my mental well-being is not at stake, fear not.

Duder, if you honestly believe that I’m of the mindset that ANY particular brand of person is better than another you probably have not actually held a conversation with me.
We can change that, though! My askbox is open if you’d like to something other than put me on blast!
Feel free to hit me up! or if you really feel threatened the “Unfollow” button is but a point-and-click away!

WHY DO ALL THE DIRECTORS KEEP DOING THIS WITH JENNIFER LAWRENCE. 

WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU

JENNIFER LAWRENCE IS MY EXACT AGE. PEOPLE WHO ARE TWENTY-SEVEN ARE NOT MARRIED TO JAVIER BARDEM. 

JAVIER BARDEM IS FORTY-EIGHT. JAVIER BARDEM IS LITERALLY OLD ENOUGH TO BE MY DAD. AND JENNIFER LAWRENCE’S DAD. 

IT IS 100% DEAD CERTAIN THAT THIS STUPID MOVIE IS GOING TO PRETEND LIKE THERE’S NOTHING WEIRD ABOUT JENNIFER LAWRENCE AND JAVIER BARDEM BEING MARRIED. IT’S NOT THAT THEY COULDN’T BE MARRIED, GUYS. IT’S THAT IT SHOULD BE WEIRD.

IF THEY’RE THE ‘IDYLLIC’ COUPLE?  THEY’RE GONNA DO THE SAME BULLSHIT STUPID THING EVERY MOVIE JENNIFER LAWRENCE HAS BEEN IN POST-THE HUNGER GAMES, WHERE THEY PRETEND LIKE SHE’S FORTY-FIVE. 

MOVIES ARE NOT HIGH SCHOOL PRODUCTIONS OF DEATH OF A SALESMAN, OR EVEN COLLEGE PRODUCTIONS OF WHO’S AFRAID OF VIRGINIA WOOLF, WHERE WE ALL POLITELY APPLAUD FOR THE TWENTY-ONE YEAR OLD PLAYING A SIXTY YEAR OLD BECAUSE IT’S SHOWING HER RANGE SO WELL. 

IT’S SO SEXIST. NOT ONLY ARE THEY GIVING THESE PARTS CLEARLY WRITTEN FOR MIDDLE AGED ACTRESSES TO JENNIFER LAWRENCE–WHO, TO CLARIFY, ALTHOUGH WE ARE THE EXACT SAME AGE AND I GOT CARDED AT A RATED R MOVIE LAST MONTH, HAS A BABYFACE AND LOOKS LIKE SHE COULD STILL BE PLAYING HIGH SCHOOL KIDS–WHICH IS BAD ENOUGH, BECAUSE UGH, MIDDLE AGED ACTRESSES FAMOUSLY CAN’T GET WORK IN HOLLYWOOD, ESPECIALLY FOR ROMANCES LIKE EVERY STUPID MOVIE SHE’S BEEN IN WITH BRADLEY COOPER.

 (A MAN WHO IS 42. NOT QUITE OLD ENOUGH TO BE MY DAD, BUT NOT YOUNG ENOUGH TO BE ANYTHING TO ME BUT ‘KIND OF CREEPY UNCLE.’) 

AND THAT’S ANOTHER THING. IT’S GROSS TO ME, TO SEE AN ACTRESS IN HER TWENTIES PLAYING ROLES THAT THE DIALOGUE INDICATES ARE FOR MUCH OLDER WOMEN–BECAUSE IT’S ERASING THE REALITY OF WHAT REAL WOMEN ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE, WHEN THEY’RE IN THEIR FORTIES AND FIFTIES AND SIXTIES, BECAUSE IT’S REINFORCING THE IDEA THAT THERE ARE NO FEMALE PARTS THAT SHOULDN’T BE PLAYED BY A WHITE WOMAN IN HER TWENTIES, AND BECAUSE IT’S NORMALIZING THE GROSSNESS OF THE MIDDLE AGED MAN’S FANTASY THAT HE COULD HOOK UP WITH A TWENTYSOMETHING AND NOT ONLY WOULD SHE BE INTO IT, NONE OF HIS FRIENDS AND NEIGHBORS WOULD GIVE HIM THE SIDEYE ABOUT IT. IT’S WHAT LEADS TO STUPID MALE NOVELS ABOUT CO EDS FALLING IN LOVE WITH PROFESSORS. IT’S THE LITERALIZATION OF STUPID MALE FANTASIES ABOUT A WOMAN WHO IS JUST LIKE YOUR WIFE, BUT YOUNGER AND SEXIER AND MORE INTO YOU (ALSO SHE NEVER NAGS YOU ABOUT THE DISHES.) 

I HATE IT SO INTENSELY. 

and that’s why i wrote this post all in caps. thank you and good night.