what society hates

I hate what is expected of me
I hate what society thinks I should be
I hate explaining me
I just want to be
—  t.m.

I need to get something off my chest.

I know I said before that I personally don’t like the stereotypes yaoi has or the way fujoshis portray gay couples

But lately I feel like all the bashing against them or straight women who watch shows with LGBT characters in general is uncalled for

Usually, they simply enjoy the ship like any other ship(Of course excluding the ones who call it sin) and even learn to support the LGBT community along the way?

Meanwhile straight men who enjoy lesbian porn and content in general still treat the LGBTQA+ community like shit, only like lesbian couples for their sexual fantasies and even sometimes claim they dislike real life LBTQA+ women?? Yet I don’t see long ass posts bashing them or people giving them names with awful meanings like fujoshis?

Also, whenever there’s a show with a gay ship straight men spend their time bashing the shippers (and the show if this ship becomes canon), meanwhile straight women react to lesbian ships with neutrality and even positivity most of the time, if not always?

This feels like yet another way to hate on women…

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It’s OK to go No Contact with your family. Or not.

It’s ok if you want to go no contact with your family.

It’s ok if you don’t want to or you can’t or you don’t think it is the right time.

Either way, abuse is never ok.

The thing about society is it sends us a lot of damaging messages, from the standard of beauty to what we need in terms of things to how we should treat each other. Society is not teaching us that, beauty is something we are entitled to judge for ourselves, We do not need more things to be happy and the way we treat each other works both ways. Society as a whole does not adjust for bad parents. It does not see or recognise mental abuse from the people who are expected to love us the most.

“You are oversensitive”
“I am always walking on eggshells around you”
“You over complicate things”

Your family is rude. They want to continue to be rude to you. Being rude to you makes them feel good about themselves. Society does not like rudeness but, society does not recognise that your family does not apologise or hold themselves accountable for their behaviour when it comes to you.

“You are so difficult”
“You make everything harder than it needs to be”
“You are so selfish”

Your family lies. They want to continue to project an image of perfection. They want what happens behind closed doors to stay there and out of the public view. Society sees our behaviour in public. Society does not see what happens in the privacy of our homes. Society only see’s the false smile, not the tone and the words that are hidden by it.

“I never said that”
“It’s all in your head”
“Normal people wouldn’t be upset by that”

Your family wants to convince you, you are crazy, that you are the problem. They enjoy feeling like they are better than you. They enjoy the sympathy they get from their friends and other family members who do not know they are invested in a lie. Society accepts a level of mental illness in the individual. Mental illness in groups is the stuff of horror movies, families of cannibals and murderers, inbred and grotesque and obvious. Society does not see dysfunction on a family wide level. That personality disorders can be genetic or learned or both.

If you have been scapegoated by your family, you are a worthwhile member of society. What they hate about you is everything they are missing from themselves. You are honest. You have a good moral code. You love deeply. You are strong.

Society needs to evolve, it needs to change.

You have every right to stand up and be counted. You have every right to hold your family accountable. That is something they will never do, they will never hold themselves accountable. They will never admit wrong doing and they will never ever apologise. They will not have empathy for you or for anyone and they will never love anyone but, themselves. They will never stop. They will hide it though, in order to be accepted and they will value you solely for the fact that you are the only one they can truly be themselves around. You will be their outlet, their emotional punchbag, the stepping stool to their pedestal. All so that they can be a convincing member of society the rest of the time.

You will probably find the most empathy and understanding from those who had good parents and are good parents themselves. You will also find it with those of us who have also woken up to our dysfunctional families. Everyone else is too invested in the lie that is the expectation of society and not the reality of their own situations or faults.

Going No Contact is not about punishing them, it is not about hurting them.

No Contact is about protecting you.

If your husband or wife or friend or boyfriend or girlfriend were putting you down, belittling you, withholding affection, withholding necessities, celebrating your mistakes and sabotaging your achievements society would tell you to walk away.

So when those people come, those well meaning members of society who will say:

“Life is too short”
“You only get one mum/one dad”
“They will be dead one day”
“You should really try to make amends before it’s too late”
“You are being so unfair”
“They miss you terribly”

Remember they are nothing if not, a product of society.

Remember that you do not have to explain yourself to them.

Remember that, the people who mentally abused you, who are lacking the characteristics that make up a fully functioning human being,  have no right to be a part of society at all.

Most importantly remember that you are not alone.

It's Not Wrong to Dream About Prince Charming

You know what I hate in society? People telling girls it’s wrong to fantasize about a perfect guy. That it’s wrong to have these unattainable standards that men have to live up to. I understand, every human has their flaws and men are included in that. But my Prince Charming is out there and you can’t tell me what I can or cannot expect in my future husband. Maybe he will have flaws, a lot of them. But they won’t be anger, stubbornness, or pride. My true love will not call me names, tear me down, or make me feel less than he is. My future love will be only love and only kindness and only gentleness and loyalty and patience. He will not raise his voice at me for no reason and he will not wrongfully punish or abuse our children. Maybe this man doesn’t exist in the modern world. Nobody is perfect. But I will hold every man I ever meet to this standard of what a man should be. And if they don’t measure up, that’s their loss, not mine. Not all men are monsters, but I’m done kissing frogs hoping they turn into a prince.

-Searching for You

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Don’t listen to them, being you is more than enough.

Something that’s so Tiring™ about being a lesbian is despite media now being more accepting of independent and strong woman, they’re still expected to end up with men, no matter how well they fare on their own. At the end of the day, they have to end up with a guy because we live in such a male-driven society it still is seen that a woman has to end up with a guy to get her happy ending. We grow up with this idea of having to have men in our lives otherwise we can’t truly be happy and it sucks and makes us so insecure over our identity. Lesbians get the short end of the stick since we’re literally what society hates: women that don’t, and never will, need men in their life. Our mere existence tears apart the image they’ve spent years of bloodshed and abuse building up as a male-dominant world.

i can honestly say i never see as many ugly clothes as i do on school sales

anonymous asked:

I'm legitimately crying right now. My younger sister told me a few minutes ago that boys would never catcall her on the streets like they did her friends. She's thirteen, and she said, "Is there something wrong with me? Do even they think I'm ugly?" I explained to her that catcalling is insulting, that they're not complimenting girls when they do that, and she still said, "But I'm still not good enough to be insultingly told I'm beautiful by a boy." It's so fucked up and I'm just sobbing rn :/

This.

This is why our society is so fucked up.

This is why we need to fix the way we teach the children of our generation.

Can you guys get out of your fucking fantasy world and open your eyes to the actual shit that’s going on?

This girl is a thirteen year old, and she already thinks that she’s not good enough to be insultingly told she’s beautiful by a boy. Let me repeat that, this wonderful, human being, has to go through thinking that she’s not good enough to be insultingly told she’s beautiful by a boy.

I need you to read that sentence, then read it again, because it doesn’t take a genius to see how fucked up this is.

Don’t you dare think that this is the girl’s fault, and don’t tell me that by thinking this she is reinforcing misogyny. This is our fault. We are supposed to be the new generation, the brand new world, and our generation thinks its okay to catcall girls on the street?

And you know what the fucking problem is? Its that that’s not enough, its that we also had to go and fucking teach them that they had to be grateful for it.

Anon, if you read this, you grab that girl and you tell her she is the most fucking beautiful person in the world, and she will still not believe you, but you say it again and again, and maybe someday, someday she will hear you.

And all of you, you do this as well, and you do it nicely, don’t you fucking dare insult anyone, don’t you think you are paying someone a compliment by telling them you would bury your face in any part of their body. You go and tell a girl she is beautiful without expecting anything in return, because society keeps telling them they are not.

If a girl gets scared about you telling her she’s beautiful you move on, you don’t go back and try to fix it, you don’t keep telling her how you are not a creep and shit because that will only scare her more. This is not about you. You tell her she is beautiful and you move on because otherwise there is nothing that will make her believe it.

Because if we think for a second you are expecting something in return, we feel used, we feel once again that all we are is something for society.

Even better than saying you are beautiful? Point things out. You have a lovely smile. You rock those shoes. I love your earrings. Those small things count more than anything else. 

If you think this is not your business well guess what you are fucking wrong. Not doing something is making a decision. By not doing something, you have already taken a stand.

I have said many different things in here. You choose whether to hear me out or not. 

We always bark that society is so fucked up because it holds men and women at such a high body standard and how cruel that is but yet people don't like Adam Driver because his chin isn't "proper" or his teeth aren't straight or he has a slight overbite. Who actually gives a fuck! He's a successful actor who is really good at what he does. So why should all these hypocritical assholes bash him for not being the "perfect Disney prince," then go take a selfie, slap a god awful filter on it, post it on Instagram with the caption "society sucks" with cute little grass emoji's and shit trying to look cool and nonconformist. Fuck that guys. Come on.
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Request: Hey! I loved you past two Bucky fics and I saw you wanted requests? Idk if you write sexual themes but I saw a text post that was like “the only thigh gap I care about is the one when I’m spreading your legs” and idk it though it was funny and kinda cute and though of Bucky😂🙈 you totally don’t have to write that though just a suggestion😂

Pairing: Bucky x reader

Rating: m

Warnings: smut, cussing, some small self-disappointment in physical features??,uhhh…

Word count: several.

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I don’t care if what I want to do with my life isn’t practical or realistic. I don’t care if I am going to struggle, live paycheck to paycheck, or be unstable, in order to chase my dream. I don’t care if people fake a smile, roll their eyes, or try to change my mind, when I tell them what I want to do with my life. Why? Because one day I am going to die. And I would rather spend my entire life fighting to do what I love, rather then settle for something that won’t truly make me happy.