Thoughts on Shipping in Game of Thrones
So recently I’ve been noticing that there’s a lot of hate between the Jonsa and Jonerys shipping communities. I’m not calling out anyone or either side in particular, because there are people in both ships that are guilty of it.
First of all, I want to start out by saying that I ship Jonerys. And I’ve shipped it for a long time-ever since I got into the fandom, about four years ago now. At the time, I didn’t really know what Game of Thrones was and I’m not sure exactly why I started shipping them in the first place. I did think that it made a lot of sense narrative wise-after all, there are a lot of parallels between their arcs that other people have described before and to me it seemed like the logical conclusion to where the books were leading; fire meets ice, a song of ice and fire. And then when I got to know the characters more I thought that they were compatible that way too, and their personalities would complement each other nicely. I knew that a lot of other people didn’t ship it and I wasn’t really online at all at that point, so for the most part it was something I shipped quietly (but vehemently) but I didn’t really think that many other people felt the same way. I didn’t worry about whether or not it was canon; I just assumed that it would be. Having them meet seems logical and satisfying for the narrative itself, and although GRR Martin often doesn’t conform to typical novel archetypes there are some things that just make for a consistent book, and having them meet is a way to do that.
Now, that’s not to say that I don’t like Sansa, because I do. Sometimes I get frustrated with her, but I get frustrated with all of the characters at some points, even Jon and Dany. I think she’s a very complex character and I’ve really enjoyed watching her grow as a character. I want to see her become more sure of herself, and I hope that she becomes Jon’s advisor/close friend in season 7 because she truly has learned a lot. I’m so glad that she and Jon got to reunite in season six. I just didn’t really see anything between them that hinted at romance. I’ve always just seen them loving each other as siblings (and you can make the argument about Jon and Dany also being related, but Jon and Sansa grew up together and while I suppose romantic feelings could develop I’ve just never really seen it). All of their interactions in season six (even the forehead kiss) seemed like plausible things that could happen between siblings who haven’t seen each other in several years and thought they would never see each other again. And I know other people feel differently, and that’s just fine. People should be able to ship what they want to ship.
I can thank Game of Thrones, and especially Jon and Dany, because they got me through some of the toughest years of my life so far. I read the books, watched the show, and wrote fanfiction after fanfiction during a very lonely time and it helped me get out of my head a little bit. After a while the ship became something natural and ingrained, something that didn’t go away when I joined other fandoms-every time something GOT related came out it would be like I’d never left. And yes, I know that a happy ending isn’t realistic and I wouldn’t expect the show to end like that; I’m a writer, and writing these primitive AUs gave me ideas and a drive to write story after story, honing my skills until I was ready to start creating my own worlds.
Especially Dany, who was and still is someone I’m greatly inspired by. I loved the way she took her fate into her own hands and made her life one that she wanted to live-and for a teenager with anxiety, she was just the kind of character I needed to meet. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve started a conversation with someone new or done something even though I feel super anxious because if Dany could raise three dragons and conquer three cities before she turned eighteen (book verse, at least) then I can give a class presentation. And she was a flawed character too; she made mistakes but she always worked for the betterment of the lowest of the low. I even named one of my cats after her (the ultimate compliment I can give). I don’t really understand all of the Dany hate (although I may be extremely biased). But everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I respect that.
I don’t believe in sacrificing character traits on anyone’s part to suit the ship though, but I trust the showrunners enough to believe that whatever happens the characters will be preserved. It’s something that I ship not just because of the characters but also what it’s meant to me personally, and what I’ve discovered about them and myself by writing fanfiction. I don’t care if it makes me immature to imagine my own happy endings; the two characters will definitely meet in the show and I don’t know exactly how it will go down but no matter what I’d like to see them working together against the White Walkers. Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with shipping either ship. People shouldn’t read or post about what they don’t want to. If that’s immaturity, I don’t mind because it’s way too late for me to stop shipping it anyway.
But in any case, that’s my ramble.Update: I just got my jonerys sideblog up and running at blue-roses-in-a-wall-of-ice so feel free to visit me there! I’m planning on writing one shots for various AU prompts so feel free to submit things!