what men know about women

why are there all these posts n articles n stuff that are like “girls can have short hair!” “girls can wear suits!” but all the women shown are still always only feminine, and whats actually being said is “girls can have short hair and still be feminine!” and “girls can wear suits and still be attractive to men!” like whenever women want to do something men (and sometimes other women too, but men are awful at this) have to find a way to make it Still Okay, Still Acceptable to them, instead of just letting women be! women dont need to fit any standards of femininity or beauty to do something, and they certainly don’t need mens approval

I’m seeing a lot of young transgender or non-binary people out there freaking out or going completely silent and removing all their info from their bios in light of the recent news in America. And I get that, I really, truly do.

But I also want you guys to know that it’s safe to come talk to me if you’re feeling pressured or scared or angry or whatever you’re feeling. If you’re comfortable with talking to me, go for it. :)

Secondly, if you’ve spoken to me about your gender for whatever reason, and are feeling scared about someone else finding out or you being being outed for any reason, please know that I will never reveal anything we have spoken about, anything you have sent to me or asked me about (as an anon or not) to anyone. What we discuss is private, and unless you give me permission to respond publicly or speak about it to others, it will stay between us. Always.

Random Questions For Women

Here is a set of random questions for women, conveniently categorized. Have people send you random numbers (there’s 140 of them) or simply answer them yourself. Answer in a text post or film a video. Please reblog.

GENERAL WOMANHOOD:
1. Do you like the color pink?
2. Did you play with Barbie dolls as a child?
3. How easily do you cry?
4. What food do you eat thr most of when you’re sad?
5. How often do you experience boob sweat?
6. How moody are you when you are you are on your period?
7. Have you ever thought you were pregnant because your period was late?
8. Have you ever been on the pill?
9. Would you ever want to have children someday?
10. Have you ever given birth? If not, would you ever want to?
11. How good of a cook do you consider yourself?
12. What is your favorite thing to cook?
13. Can you sew?
14. Do you consider yourself a feminist?
15. How do you define “girl power?”
16. Have you ever wished you were born a male?
17. Breastfeeding or formula?
18. What is your opinion of equal pay?
19. Are you pro-life or pro-choice?
20. Have you ever experienced any sexism? If so, please explain.
21. What is one thing about women you think most men don’t know?
22. Complete this phrase: I’m so glad I’m a woman because______.

LIFE EXPERIENCES:
23. Have you ever been a Girl Scout?
24. Have you ever been a ballerina?
25. Have you ever been a cheerleader?
26. Were you ever voted as a homecoming or prom queen?
27. Have you ever hosted a sleepover?
28. Do you belong to a sorority?
29. Have you ever kept a diary or a journal?
30. American ladies: did you vote for Hillary Clinton?

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE:
31. What is the longest your hair has ever been?
32. Have you ever cut your hair super short?
33. What hairstyle do you wear the most?
34. Have you ever dyed your hair?
35. What is the heaviest you have ever weighed?
36. How muscular are you?
37. Are your ears pierced?
38. Do you have any piercings anywhere besides your ears?
39. Do you have any tattoos? If so, of what and where?
40. How often do you wear lipstick or lipgloss?
41. How often do you paint your nails?
42. Have you ever worn any fake eyelashes or fake nails?
43. How often do you shave/wax your legs?
44. How white are your teeth?
45. What do you think is your best physical feature?
46. What do you think is your worst physical feature?
47. Do you have a “look” (i.e. a mad/annoyed/upset stare)?
48. How good are you at communicating through facial expressions?

FASHION STYLE:
49. What is your favorite fashion brand?
50. Do you wear skirts and dresses at all? If so, how often?
51. What is your dress size?
52. Do you wear any high heels or stilettos at all? If so, how often?
53. Have you ever worn high heels casually?
54. How often do you wear a bra?
55. Does it matter if your bra and panties match or not?
56. Which are you more likely to go without: a bra or panties?
57. How much of your underwear is white?
58. Have you ever worn a skirt or a dress without any panties underneath?
59. What is the shortest length of skirts and dresses you are comfortable wearing?
60. How expensive was your prom dress?
61. What clothing item do you own the most of (if shirts, be specific to what kind)?
62. How much jewelry do you typically wear?
63. How much makeup do you typically wear?
64. Do you like eyeshadow?
65. Do you carry a purse?
66. What is your preferred way to carry a purse: In your hand, on your elbow, or on your elbow?
67. How big is your closet?
68. Have you ever looked through your closet an thought “I have nothing to wear”?
69. Have you ever worn the same outfit more than once?
70. One-piece swimsuits or bikinis?
71. Have you ever worn a mismatched bikini?
72. Do you like tube and halter tops
73. Do you like crop tops?
74. Are you comfortable showing off a little cleavage?

WEDDING CRAZE:
75. Have you ever been a bridesmaid?
76. Would you ever want to get married?
77. For how long have you thought about your wedding?
78. How much of your wedding do you already have planned out?
79. Indoor or outdoor wedding?
80. Would you want to have a lot of bridesmaids or just a couple?

DATING & RELATIONSHIPS:
81. What is your current relationship status?
82. Do you consider yourself a hopeless romantic?
83. Are you a virgin? If not, which gender did you lose your virginity to?
84. What personality trait are you most attracted to?
85. Have you ever been on a blind date?
86. Has anyone ever tried to set you up on a date?
87. Do you kiss on a first date?
88. How often do guys hit on you?
89. Have you ever kissed another woman? If so, did you like it?
90. Have you ever dated another woman?
91. Is sex before marriage wrong?
92. After how long would you start to consider a relationship to be serious?
93. Would you rather your lover give you chocolate or flowers?

ENTERTAINMENT:
94. What celebrity do you most admire?
95. Do you like romantic comedies? Any favorites?
96. Do you have a favorite romantic movie?
97. Who is your favorite Disney princess?
98. What is your favorite Disney song?
99. Do you watch The Bachelor or The Bachelorette?
100. Have you ever watched Sex & The City?
101. Have you ever watched any shows such as Project Runway or America’s Next Top Model?
102. Do you read romantic novels? If so, do you have any recommendations?
103. Beyonce or Taylor Swift?
104. Oprah Winfrey or Ellen DeGeneres?

A PILE OF RANDOMNESS:
105. Are you named after anyone?
106. How many male friends do you have?
107. Have you ever called your female friends your girlfriends?
108. Have you ever called a non-lover a term such as honey, dear, babe, or darling?
109. Have you ever dotted your I’s with a heart or a smiley face?
110. How many items do you own that are of a floral print design?
111. Name five things you always have in your purse.
112. Have you ever lost anything inside your purse?
113. Have you ever carried a spare pair of underwear with you in your purse?
114. What is the most amount of money you’ve ever spent in one single shopping trip?
115. Do you consider shopping a sport?
116. Have you ever used your cleavage or a bra as a purse?
117. Coffee or tea?
118. Can you do the splits?
119. Do you do any yoga?
120. Have you ever been told that to have cute handwriting?
121. How well can you write in cursive?
122. Have you ever successfully been on a diet?
123. Do you or have you ever belonged to a book club?
124. Have you ever talked yourself out of a driving ticket by using your looks?
125. Have you ever drank a non-alcoholic beverage out of a wine glass?
126. Showers or baths?
127. Have you ever tried using a toilet while standing up?
128. Have you ever been considered the mother of your group of friends?
129. Do you own any sex toys?

RATINGS:
130. From 1-10, how feminine do you consider yourself?
131. From 1-10, how much are you like your mother?
132. From 1-10, how much do you look like your mother?
133. From 1-10, how much are you like your father?
134. From 1-10, how polite are you?
135. From 1-10, how cute do you consider your laugh?
136. From 1-10, how strict are you about manners?
137. From 1-10, how much of a neat freak are you?
138. From 1-10, how much of a hopeless romantic are you?
139. From 1- 10, how healthy do you eat?
140. From 1-10, how much do you like decorating for holidays?

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Marvel POC Week : Day 1: Favorite Female POC » Cindy Moon/Silk

anonymous asked:

If Ketch's new orders are to eliminate the Americans hunters, then she's going to have to kill Mary, and they have a thing even if they say they don't have a thing, Ketch it's, actually, the one who looked like he knew about the thing but was too insecure or oblivious about it to tell her anything. It'd be... i DONT know, if that's the case I hope Mary kills him before

I’m not really sure I understand what you mean there, but yes, I do agree that Ketch and Mary are having very different reactions to their (unforeseen) night of fun. I think that episode revealed a lot about who Ketch is and what he wants, but, since this is Buckleming, I’m not sure it was intentional, and how seriously should we take it. For instance, we now know with some certainty that Ketch is colour-blind, in a sense - that when we’ve seen him being rude to women, it wasn’t about them being women, per se - Ketch seems to operate in a world where the only people worthy of respect are those who do his job, and do it well. And, even more unusual, he doesn’t seem to mind if someone - even an outsider like Mary - is better than him. When she corrects him in front of Mick, who, after all, is supposed to be his boss, telling him they’ve killed eight shape-shifters, and not seven, Ketch is not annoyed in the least. Instead, he’s admirative. Considering he’s an alpha male who kills and tortures people for a living, this tells us a great deal about how his mind works.

(Mary’s attitude in that scene tells us a lot about her as well - here she is, the failed daughter, the failed wife and the failed mother, doing the only thing she knows how to do and doing it whit a proud smile on her face. I’d say there is a parallel with Dean in there somewhere, Daddy’s blunt instrument and all that, but I’m not sure it’d be appropriate - after all, we know Dean wants out, in some way; that he doesn’t want to be that person, never has. Mary, on the other hand - despite her insistence in pointing out she can ‘have it all’ is not, in fact, having it all. Whatever she says, she’s deliberately chosen hunting and killing over her sons, and she’s having a whale of a time. This is not a moral judgement: I’m simply trying to understand the character.)

Like - when Ketch was talking to Dean, he never showed his hand at all, in a way. But when Mary told him she once left hunting behind because she wanted a normal life, David does an excellent job to convey what would be pity on someone else’s face and is, instead, a kind of half empathy on Ketch’s. I have this feeling that while he was trying to make Dean his (if not sexually, than professionally, even if the subtext supported both readings), here Ketch is acknowledging he himself belongs to Mary. In that whole scene, he behaves like a subordinate - flattering without being unctuous, polite without being distant. And when he says out right that he understands and respects her unusual and ‘unwomanly’ choices (“Mrs Winchester, I believe you’re drawn to danger.”) - I believe that’s when something inside Mary woke up and decided that, after all, why not? They’re adults, and they’ve got a room, and look at this gorgeous man. In a way, he is to Mary what Crowley was to Dean - a bad influence, sure, but also genuinely attached to her within the limits of his capability to feel anything, and also non judgemental in any way and completely hers.

(In fact, I can see Drowley beginning in very much the same way during that ‘summer of love’ Dean and Crowley shared: I have no problem whatsoever in seeing this exact scene play out - Crowley offering Dean a drink in this same amused, friendly, slightly subservient way, and Dean suddenly ignoring the glass and catching Crowley’s tie in his hand instead; and pulling.)

The thing with men, though, is that - and it could be cultural, or biological - I really don’t know - very often they assume sex will change things. Since sex enpowers them but sullies you, you sometimes meet this power shifting attitude - as the old movies told us in greatest detail, women have control over men as long as they don’t sleep with them; but once the deed is done, the thing is reversed, because, as I said, sex makes men stronger and women weaker.

(Exposed to the dangers of gossip and pregnancy, that is; cheaper and dirty now their virginity is gone.)

As idiotic as this concept is, it somehow persists and lasts, and I think you could see it unfolding in this last episode as well: how Ketch’s careful politeness changes to a sort of cockiness - look at him, sitting up against the headboard, completely naked, his legs open, his penis (still this ever-important sign of masculinity and power and all things sacred) in full display. Contrast him with Mary, already dressing, as if hiding her own nudity, and slowly putting her wedding ring back on like some sinful adulteress. But next, and, okay, for once they wrote an interesting thing, the relationship between them is reversed. Ketch tries to be dominant and mark some kind of point, and Mary shoots him down every time. Having sex was her decision, not his; she’s now deciding it doesn’t mean anything, and he doesn’t have any say in that; and when Ketch confesses, with some regret, that he’s okay with it because he’s not ‘built’ for that and he’s not, in fact, capable to care for other people, just like her, Mary’s almost needlessly petty in pointing out that, again, he’s wrong, because she can, and she did - with someone else, that is, and certainly not him. At that point - and, again, I like how David played this, because he tried to cover himself at first, closing his arms across his chest, but then he sort of - manned up, so to say, and got all alpha again, choosing to remain there stark naked despite Mary’s word and even playing a card he knew would upset her: “I notice you took my advice. You had a choice to make - your work or family ties…”. Ketch doesn’t finish his sentence, but he doesn’t have to. Mary may be a strong woman, and also an unusual one, but she knows her relationship with her sons is far from perfect, and also that she’s a big part of the reason why. Hearing Ketch pointing it out - yeah, that must have smarted a bit - and, again, instead of being a ‘good’ woman and take the criticism, Mary lashes out and defends herself. And this is when Ketch finally takes a step back, because this is the kind of people he’s been trained (or trained himself) to respect: a bigger alpha.

So, really, I don’t know how to read this whole thing. I think it’s a big character shift for Ketch and almost invalidates the idea he’s a psychopath, but, then again, psychopaths are hard to write, so there’s that as well. I still don’t know what to make of Mary, and if I like her as a person (I do like her as a character, though - good choices all around). And, finally, I can’t help but feel that, if you took their relationship and that entire dialogue and gender-bended it, well, here you go - Buckleming did manage to insert their usual bit of dubcon, and yay, because look at it - Mary’s clearly superior to Ketch in most ways (professionally and, very clearly, emotionally), so if this was Mark Winchester seducing wide-eyed, damaged and vulnerable assassin Ms Ketch, who calls him Mr Winchester and hopes sex will lead to something more even if, sadly, she’s not sure she can ever love anyone - yep. They never disappoint, do they?

Jane sitting around, thinking about every interaction she’s had with a woman and suddenly remembering that Feeling she got around them but ignoring it because she didn’t know what it was. And Jane being Jane she’d agonize over, trying to remember the first time she felt it, trying to compare it to what she feels towards men, thinking about the women she knows now. Then she’d probably feel like she’s perpetuating the male gaze when she’s looking at women because she might be attracted to women.

She talks to Xiomara about it and Xiomara, who’s more open minded than her daughter, encourages her to be honest with herself.

She goes back to Adam because she has more questions, like are bisexuals more likely to cheat? Adam, who has heard that stereotype many times, quickly shakes his head, “no.” Jane asks some more questions, which Adam happily answers.

She thinks about the first time Lina undressed in front of her, the way Jane found herself looking away, the way Lina laughed saying Jane was being silly. Because straight girls can undress in front of each other no problem. Jane thinks about anytime a girl smiled at her and how warm her face felt. But she always ignored that it was probably just her being a girl admiring other girls because she loves girls. But what if it was also that she Loves girls.

Then she finds herself reading articles about bisexuality. A lot of articles. And it just clicks. It makes sense. She’s bisexual.

im sorry but if you tell a man that porn is extremely bad and that the ppl in the videos deal with a lot of violence and sometimes even rape and that its all just fucked up and that it normalizes all kinds of shit and makes sex look different to people etc etc etc etc they be like ‘yeah…that sucks ur right….’ then watch 10 videos titled smth like Black Bitch And Blonde Bombshell Get Fucked By 6 Dicks at night like ..bye

Lover-Cares: A Solangelo Fanfiction

It’s those reflective days between Christmas and New Years, and it’s time to write some weird sex stuff because what else do I do in my spare time let’s be real. No but really, Nico actually discovering himself and more about his sexuality is oddly super important to me, and that’s basically it plus Will being an awesome supportive boyfriend. Just remember kids, it’s all about good decisions.

Enjoy!

Also read on AO3

Preview:

But in Nico’s mind he was first and foremost a wild creature of some sort—an animal, a silent hunter, a stalker of prey in a darkened forest. Perhaps he was more akin to the screech-owls that haunted his father’s throne room than to other demigods, dark and hollow-boned and able to fade quick and fast into shadow and night, striking prey and fear with equal flap of wing. And then there was Will Solace. Will Solace who was like a lanky tomcat sunbathing at a window, stretching and rumbling with contented purrs, who radiated sunlight and warmth and was distinctly and utterly male in a way that could make Nico’s head whirl and do silly things to his stomach.


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u know whats great about my culture, the men actually respect women? like the actual good men, we talked to this elder for a field trip and he was like, the reason why the women came in the tipi first is because i want them to be closest to my heart, they carry the gift of life and we must be good to our women and im just sitting there like FUCK yea respect women

is this real? are you really saying trans men weren’t raised as girls? are you really saying society’s constant constant CONSTANT misogyny had zero effect on trans men because they “knew they weren’t women”? what about the trans men who didn’t know they were men from the second they could talk? what about the ones who only figured it out in their adult years and therefore were, actually, socialized as women? (wow incredible right)

Tldr tumblr hates trans men part infinity

  • woman: *has opinion about thing*
  • different woman: *has different opinion about thing*
  • men: what's this??? The women™ never know what they want?? What's the point of even listening to them when they literally never make up their minds?? Ugh y'all bitches are confusing

NOT TO BE RUDE…but some of you should take my crash course on sexuality and relationships.

Since my post about Clarke’s heterosexual relationship with Bellamy, I’ve gotten A LOT of hate for it and I know it’s due to a lack of understanding, so I’m going to break it down for all 68 of you who have messaged me and also for those of you who may just not know. I’ve taken many sexuality classes and have studied it for five years. I know my stuff. I’m certified and trained regularly on the topic in case a student comes to me questioning their sexuality (not to mention, I’m a lesbian lol). If Clarke Griffin and Bellamy Blake are in a relationship, they will be in a HETEROSEXUAL relationship regardless if Clarke is bisexual. I know the ends and outs of sexuality/labels so here we go, take notes. Let’s start this lesson:

First, we must understand that “hetero-” and “homo-” are comparative prefixes meaning that in order to use these prefixes, we must be talking about TWO (or more) things; in our case, we will be talking about Clarke and Bellamy’s biological sex. Hetero- means “different,” homo- means “same.” Write that down and continue.

In terms of sex pairings, hetero- and homo- are ultimately descriptive comparative prefixes: you compare a group based on similarities and differences of sex pairings. We’re going a little deeper now; technically, you, as an individual, cannot be considered a homosexual or heterosexual because you are not a group, you’re a single individual however, you can label your preference! This is why we call ourselves gay, bi, lesbian, straight, etc. We can’t call ourselves homosexual unless we have a partner or group we are being compared to or with. We can only label by preference if we’re individualizing. Homo/hetero-sexual should never have an “s” at the end.

It’s not: “I’m a homosexual,” It’s not: “We are homosexuals.” 

It’s ONLY, “We are homosexual.” Homosexual is not a noun, it’s an adjective (this applies to “heterosexual” as well). It would be like saying, “the flowers are pinks.”

Clarke (my precious cinnamon roll too good for this world) is bisexual. Bisexual is a term used by an individual to label their preference in partners; in her case it’s men and women. Now, I know what you’re thinking: when talking about a biSEXUAL, it sounds a lot like a homoSEXUAL or heteroSEXUAL, right? If we can call an individual a bisexual, why can’t we call an individual a homo/heterosexual? Well, here’s why: The prefix “bi” is not a comparative prefix like homo- and hetero-, but instead, its a quantitative (numeric) prefix. 

So back to these preference labels: bi, gay, lesbian, straight, etc. If you are a female who is in a relationship with another female, you are not in a “lesbian” relationship; you are in a homosexual relationship. Your SEX (biologically) is the SAME (hint hint HOMO(same)SEXual). This applies to gay men as well; homosexual relationship, NOT gay relationship. In Clarke’s case, as I stated, if she were to be in a relationship with Bellamy, she would be in a HETEROSEXUAL relationship. Their SEX is DIFFERENT. Their SEXES are “hetero”. But here’s the wild thing, get ready for your mind to be blown: She’s still bisexual! I know! Gasp! Crazy right? Clarke, as a bisexual individual, would be in a heterosexual relationship if she’s partnered with a male because their biological sex is different. She would be in a homosexual relationship if she was partnered with a girl because their biological sex is the same. Clarke will only ever be in one of the following two relationships: homo or hetero. Clarke will never be in a “bisexual” relationship. There’s no such thing (there could be if she had multiple partners, but it would be a hetero-bisexual or homo-bisexual relationship but thats complicated and not the case).

For those of you who don’t know, the point of this is that Clarke will STILL be BISEXUAL while being in a HETEROSEXUAL relationship. She is bisexual, yes, but her relationship, if with Bellamy, would be heterosexual.

5 Style Trends That Girls Love and Guys Hate

You know what we’re talking about

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus…or so it goes. It’s no surprise that guys and girls have different style tastes and opinions, but there are some things in life that neither can really agree on.

Take these top 5 fashion trends that you’re seeing on style bloggers across the globe. Guys hate them.

For those who can’t get enough, shop from the best below!

1. Fringe

Nasty Gal Movers and Shakers Fringe Dress

Jumpsuit with Fringe

Steve Madden Giaani Fringe Flat Sandals

2. Boyfriend Jeans

Distressed Boyfriend

The Dre Boyfriend

3. Oversized…Anything

Capulet Oversized Survival Jacket

Oversized Chambray Boyshirt

4. Baggy Trousers

Baggy trousers

Baggy Trousers

5. High-Waisted Pants

Cheap Monday Spray On High Waist Skinny Jeans

ASOS Farleigh High Waist Slim Mom Jeans in Mid Wash Blue

Mosaic Print Palazzo Pants

Whistles Denim Culottes

Agree or disagree? Add your comments on the reblog.