what kind of family do i have

anonymous asked:

I've known that I'm bisexual for a few years and I'm so scared to come out to my friends and family.

If you don’t feel ready to come out, you don’t have to. It’s a very personal thing and there’s absolutely no rush. Not coming out doesn’t invalidate your orientation in any way.

Make sure that you’re comfortable with the thought of everyone knowing and that you’ve rehearsed what you’re going to say before you come out. Prepare yourself for people to be shocked, or for them to just completely take it in stride. I hope that your friends and family are as kind and supportive as you deserve, and that they will rightfully not treat you any differently when you do decide to tell them.

I just want to be honest with you guys. 

Tonight, I was really struggling with my self-worth. I’m in LA, away from my friends and family, when tonight would be a night I would normally try to surround myself with them. Yet at this low moment, so many of you have written me kind messages, shared lovely stories, and created magnificent works of art… and now I am completely overwhelmed by this love. 

I am a ball of tears this evening, just a complete and utter mess. I truly don’t know what I possibly do to deserve the support you all bring me, but I just hope you feel this same support you bring to me. You all are so capable of changing someone’s heart around, of making their day. Don’t ever underestimate yourselves. I love you so much for this “sob of joy” I am having tonight, and I wish you the happiness that you have chosen to bring to me. Honestly, your love will never ever go unnoticed. Thank you for making me feel better.

Every Exo Comeback Ever

Suho: What kind of concept do you guys want to do this time around?

Baekhyun: I don’t really care

Chen: Same

Yixing: *in China*

Chanyeol: Something fun

Xiumin: Whatever you guys want

Kai: My leg will be broken anyway

Sehun: I just want lines

D.O.: How about we do some deep moving concept that involves deep sorrow meaningful lyrics and pain, but showcases our talent in a new and inventive way??

Exo: *Debuts MV on sound stage with abstract background and nonsensical English*

Suho: What kind of dance style do you want this time around? Normal or Sexy?

Baekhyun: Whatever is fine

Chen: Ditto

Yixing: *still in China*

Chanyeol: Something easy

Xiumin: You guys pick

Kai: Um are ankles suppose to swell like this?

Sehun: Can I please have lines?!

D.O.: How about something light and easy with a fun simple dance that the whole family can dance to???

Exo: *Debuts MV filled with pelvic thrusts, floor grinds and body rolls*

D.O.:

D.O.: I hate this fcknign group

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I began to fear Yandere Dev,
Ayano nothing from the beginning, no family love, no friends, can’t feel anything , not even close to senpai…I know Ayano does not care about these things she only cares about her senpai【But I care about Ayano】
Hope the future will have a kind of ending is Senpai know and accept Ayano’s yandere personality(Just like Yuki and Yuno)


If you could do an ending what would you want?

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I KNOW what you’re trying to DO there gamefreak

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Victorian Starters
  • "Have you made any inquiries?"
  • "This complicates matters."
  • "It is indeed kind of you to come."
  • "I have no time for trifles."
  • "My heart grows light."
  • "Do I put you off?"
  • "That sounds ominous."
  • "You may entirely rely on me."
  • "I am impatient to be gone."
  • "I cannot possibly fathom what you are talking about."
  • "Let me hail a passing cab and we can be away."
  • "Heaven bless you."
  • "We are on a hunt."
  • "Glad to meet you."
  • "In these days of nouveaux riches, it is good to see an old country family restore the grandeur of the line."
  • "Are you well?"
  • "What sort of night is it?"
  • "You have much to answer for."
  • "How can I assist you?"
  • "How long will it take you to make up your mind?"
  • "I have no feelings on the matter."
  • "The world is full of oblivious things that no one ever observes."
  • "This is my special hobby."
  • "There is danger."
  • "Be ready in an instant!"
  • "Are you mad?"
  • "I shall not be played for a fool."
  • "You look very serious."
  • "Surely you will stay and have some dinner?"
  • "Give me another mouthful of that brandy."
  • "Know your place."
  • "This matter is too serious for any hesitation."
  • "This is very deep business."
  • "Is there immediate danger?"
  • "I cannot say. It is a private matter."
  • "I seem to have dropped into a council of war."
  • "The plot thickens."
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A series of smiles that I refuse to have stolen from me
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Growing up, family always told me that I had my mother’s smile. Bright, wide and cheerful.

I was proud to share her smile.

A few days ago I learned that my mother does not accept her daughter being gay despite what she told me when I came out to her weeks ago.

It’s been kind of hard to smile since then, but I still do, thanks to my girlfriend and supportive friends and family.

I am in the process of reclaiming my happiness.

The smile in these pictures are not my mother’s, but my own. And I make this promise to myself to remember that my happiness must come first.

I will smile so wide that my gums will peek out from under my lips. I will smile so much that my slight overbite will have no choice but to allow my lower teeth to come out. I will smile so wide that my face can’t take it, creating lines of joy because I deserve it.

These smiles are mine. Not my mother’s.

  • My Song
  • Rabbit
  • Rabbit's Album
Play

I cam back from lunch and walked past the white nurses talking about Trump winning the election, i said hi to all of them (no greetings back and went out to the hall to study), and they started talking about how they voted for him because they truly honestly believed in his policies (just reporting what they said) and that they really weren’t racist, and how they were passionate about him finally doing something about the illegals.

the topic turned to- they didn’t have anything against the doctors running the clinic they worked at (this is a family clinic started by an indian doctor, later on his son, daughter in law, and family friend joined the practice, these indian doctors have been living and working and raising their families LEGALLY here for some fifty years) and they think these doctors are probably legal.  

also everyone else who comes to this country should speak the language and “be similar to us”. also, immigrants apparently have a lot of extramarital affairs?? huh?

anyway, i caught the later bits of the conversation on my phone (not everything, unfortunately). sigh, this broke my heart.

(this probably isn’t even that bad compared to what my classmate heard at the main hospital yesterday, she pretty much texted me in a distraught state because she was the only black girl in a white hospital in rural ohio and they were all cheering about the election results)

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“God, why are you doing this to me? Do you hear me? Any kindness you take away. You gave me the dreams. You brought me the gift! Some gift! My dreams are lies. What have I done to deserve this?”

“But you are a miracle. God sent you to save our family and all of Egypt. And you did

mezopotato  asked:

How do you deal with being misgendered outside of the internet. Sa pinas ka so i can imagine na it happens frequently but then again you're very young and no offense (like legit i dont mean to offend u if i do) but your world is still very small at your age. (Absolutely do not mean to be age-ist, im only like 5 years older than u). And how about ur family? (Im thinking based from my experience and i never really involved my family in my inner world [sexuality and such])

well the languages here don’t have any gender specific pronouns :0 which is gr8 

but if they speak in english or call me by gender specific things im kind of just used to it irl idk ksjdsdghjf

it bothers me but what can ya do  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

now that im no longer having a breakdown, i can explain why i did. and this is coming from the child of a mexican immigrant and an australian immigrant.

gem harvest was not saying “you should accept that your family is bigoted because theyre family.” it was saying that you shouldnt immediately assume that people are awful people just because they say bigoted things. some people are just ignorant, they follow what theyve heard their whole lives, and others are bigoted out of just fear (youll find a lot of awful things humans do are out of fear), so if you treat those people with kindness and show them that they have nothing to fear or hate, you can change people, make them better people.

people are complicated, its not black and white, evil and good. thats what this entire show is about. imagine if theyd thrown peridot to the curb the moment she started to treat pearl like a homeworld gem would treat her. they wouldve lost a valuable asset and a good friend. they taught her with kindness. its possible to teach people with kindness, because a lot of people just preach hate from what theyve been taught, or out of fear.

gem harvest was a good episode that taught things that some of yall ought to learn.

  • Viktor: Here *hands over the jacket*
  • Yurio: Thanks, dad.
  • Yurio: Why is everyone staring at me?
  • Yuuri: You just called Viktor “dad.”
  • Yurio: What? No! I said, “thanks, man.”
  • Viktor: Do you see me as a father figure?
  • Yurio: No. If anything, I see you as a BOTHER figure because you’re always bothering me.
  • Viktor: HEY, SHOW YOUR FATHER SOME RESPECT!

Whenever I see some misogynistic asshole going on and on about “horrible” feminists, and that if they’d stop being feminist, men would want to date and marry them, I always want to chime in and tell them I’d rather life my life solo then stuck with some asshole who mistakenly thinks I’m lesser because I’m a woman.

I’ve been trying to get my Aunt Mandy to at least open her eyes and acknowledge what kind of people she stands with when she stands behind Trump. I sent her evidence of not only homophobic behavior but racist and sexist as well. This is how she responded:

“First of all trump will not overturn any gay rights. He has already said he would leave that to individual states. Second of all I will not engage in political rhetoric with you. You are not going to change my mind and sending me a million pictures won’t change my mind. I have many many gay and lesbian friends and family outside of you who whom I love dearly. I do not agree with the gay and lesbian lifestyle but of course you already know that. With that being said it does not make me accept you any less or love you any less or believe that you have less rights than me. In fact I know many gay couples that are more happily married longer than most married people I know.”

She completely ignored the racism and sexism issues (which I called her out on after this) and sent me this.
In the same string of words my aunt who claims to love and accept me basically spit in my face and told me she doesn’t agree with who I am.
I posted something the other day talking about how the family that votes for Trump doesn’t love you like they say they do. This is a prime example of that.

Auggie: I know what you did, Riley. Because I understand the story, too.

Riley: What did I do?

Auggie: You gave Maya back to her family. Even though it was hard for you, and you wanted to keep her for yourself. You gave her the gift that would make her truly happy.

Riley: Don’t tell her.

Auggie: I don’t have to. She knows.

  • Damian Wayne: This is the music I've selected for the Christmas play.
  • Damian Wayne: [starts playing "Fur Elise"]
  • Jason Todd: What kind of Christmas music is *that*?
  • Damian Wayne: Beethoven Christmas music.
  • Jason Todd: What has Beethoven got to do with Christmas? Everyone talks about how "great" Beethoven was. Beethoven wasn't so great.
  • Damian Wayne: [stops playing]
  • Damian Wayne: What do you mean Beethoven wasn't so great?
  • Jason Todd: He never got his picture on bubblegum cards, did he? Have you ever seen his picture on a bubblegum card? Hmmm? How can you say someone is great who's never had his picture on bubblegum cards?
  • Damian Wayne: Good grief.

30 easy random acts of kindness

1. Send a friend or family member a quick sweet message like “I hope you have a great day” or “Thinking of you”

2. See a great post on your dashboard? Send the person who posted it a quick “Hey, i loved your post” 

3. Buy a homeless person something to drink or to eat  

4. Give a homeless person money, so they can buy what they need when they need it 

5. Have a person in your life who is a (new) parent? Offer to babysit for a hour 

6. Another kind idea for new parents: Offer to cook a meal or do a load of laundry on a stressful day 

7. Donate a piece of clothing you don’t need anymore 

8. Donate a book you don’t need anymore 

9. Donate a toy you don’t need anymore 

10. When you notice someone gets interrupted while talking, tell them that you want to hear what they had to say 

11. Leave someone a generous tip 

12. Smile at a stranger 

13. Let someone go to checkout  (in a supermarket etc.) before you 

14. Help a parent with their baby stroller on the stairs 

15. Put a sticky note with a positive message somewhere for your partner or friend to find (or even for a stranger!) 

16. Ask your local animal shelter if they need someone to take a walk with a dog, play with the cats etc. If yes, do it! 

17. Buy flowers for someone (or send them anonymously to them) 

18. Ask your local nursery home if you can read to someone who doesn’t have many visitors. If yes, do it! 

19. Leave some extra quarters in the laundry room

20. Say thankyou to a janitor 

21. Send a good morning or good night text to someone 

22. Give up your seat on the subway to someone 

23. Offer to dogsit the dog of a friend or neighbor for free 

24. See a kid with a lemonade stand? Buy lemonade. 

25. Do the dishes when it’s your roomate’s/partner’s/sibling’s turn to do them 

26. Call your mom or your granddad or your aunt or whoever you know who would love to get a call 

27. You see a shopping cart someone didn’t return? Return it to save the people working at the store some work 

28. Introduce yourself to your new neighbors and ask if you can help with anything

29. Buy coffee for someone 

30. Give yourself a compliment - you deserve kindness, too! 

A lot of people that read Killing Stalking, myself included have found Oh Sangwoo attractive. And he is, that’s the way Koogi designed his character. They knew what they were doing, when they decided to make Sangwoo attractive.

Abusive people, manipulative people, can be, and are, very beautiful. They’re charming. They’re gorgeous. They appear to be kind and generous.

Sangwoo just really hits home with me because I’ve been there, I’ve been the other person in abusive relationships with family members, friends, and S/O’s.

Abusers can be beautiful people.

That makes this story so much more realistic and heartbreaking.

What The ScriptX Family Stands For // So You Want to Start A ScriptX Blog

With all the bloglets cropping up in the last 72 hours, we’ve been doing some soul-searching on what it means to be a part of the ScriptX family. I wanted to give a little guidance on what it means to be a ScriptX blog, and a flowchart for those considering starting one.

First, I wanted to say one thing: we cannot stop you from starting a blog, and if you don’t want to be a part of the ScriptX family, go forth and do what you want! Writing advice blogs can have any kind of name. We’re just picking this name.

We cannot stop you from making a scriptX-handled blog even if you don’t agree with us or follow our guidelines. But we really hope you will. We’d love to be able to call you family. And we want to clarify what that means.

What does it mean to be a part of the ScriptX blog family?

It means asking for permission. While we can’t stop everyone from gobbling up tumblr handles, recognize that the ScriptX family is ultimately built on one woman’s–my–user handle. You imply a connection when you launch a ScriptX named blog. Would you start a burger chain called McDonaldson’s?

It means being a content expert. The whole point of the ScriptMedic blog was to bring professional, expert advice to the writing community. The way we’ve decided to define expertise is, comfort with a topic to the level of being cross-examined in court. I have been cross-examined in court. It is not fun.

It means being ethical, above all else. When we don’t know, we don’t try to guess. Either we research to the point of comfort, or simply say “Sorry, I don’t know. Can someone else help?” Between the ScriptX blogs we’re already developing an internal Ethical Mandate that deals exactly with this question and these choices. We also have guidelines in place to help blogs that stray from the guidelines find their way back, and a process to move forward after that. We even have an idea for how to respond to mistakes–because they’re going to happen.They’ve already happened. And we’re working on both handling them well, and preventing them down the road. Every blog makes mistakes.

It means working with the other ScriptX blogs. There are a group of us now, and we’re constantly talking, interacting, and cross-referring to each other. Everyone needs a consult sometimes, and the ScriptX blogs are a family.

Not All Blogs Starting with Script… Are Part of the Family

There’s a whole separate post announcing this, but here’s the list of who’s an official member of the family, who’s a “script cousin”–blogs with the scriptX-style name but not actually affiliated–and who’s just a damn good blog to read.

flow chart graciously made by @script-a-world to whom I am incredibly grateful.

xoxo, Aunt Scripty