When I was 21 I read “Anna Karenina.” I thought Anna and Vronsky were soul mates. They were deeply in love and therefore had to be together. I found Karenin cruel and oppressive for keeping his wife from her destiny. Levin and Kitty and the peasants bored me. I read those parts quickly.
Last year I turned 49, and I read the book again. This time, I loved Levin and Kitty. I loved the fact that after she declined his proposal he waited for a long time to mend his hurt feelings and then asked her again. I loved that she had grown up in the interim and now felt grateful for a second chance. Anna and Vronsky bored me. I thought Anna was selfish and shrill. My heart went out to poor Karenin, who tried to be decent.
What has literature taught me about love? Literature (along with experience) has taught me that love means different things at different points in our lives, and that often as we get older we gravitate toward the quieter, kinder plotlines, and find them to be richer than we had originally understood them to be.
The Get Down was such an important show to me because it portrayed that even if you are brown and come up from nothing you an still be something. Dizzee’s bi rep was important to me as a fellow bisexual because it just shows that, yes we do exist. The relationship between Mylene, Regina, and Yolanda showed that women build women. Strong female relationships are so scarce in this age of t.v and film. The Get Down also had the most fire soundtracks I’ve ever heard. I love TGD with all my heart and even though it’s not likely it will come back I really love the community it has built and what it has taught me.
-It’s not a race. I was always so bummed about the number of countries I’ve been to compared to other people my age until I understood that the number of places visited is not what traveling is about at all. It’s not important about how many places you’ve been but the depth you’ve explored them. I have been to some beautiful places all around the world that I am insanely grateful for. We can not compare our journeys to others.
-Read books you normally wouldn’t read. Question each line. Watch movies you normally wouldn’t go see. Study the cinematography. Order the meal on the menu you can’t pronounce. This is how you discover new parts of yourself.
-Take care of our earth. We are destroying it faster than we even know. Humans need places that have not been altered or rearranged by man.
-Simplify. Clean. Get rid of shit. We don’t need a lot to live. Oh, and, pack light.
-Walk barefoot. Harden the bottom of your feet. Wear less makeup and dress the way you want. Be comfortable with your natural body. Drink more water. Take care of yourself.
-You have the power to choose love. Love the sky, the stars, the animals, the people, the trees, the street corners. Always choose to love.
-Going alone is okay. If we all waited for someone to travel with us, we’d be waiting for a very, very long time. So, please go even if you have no one to go with. There are millions of people all over the world that are just waiting to meet you. Some of them you’ll meet in a hostel room and you’ll end up spending the night walking through the street markets, some of them you’ll meet at a bar and discover new corners of a city you didn’t know existed, some of them you’ll meet sitting on a bench at a bus stop and you’ll end up sharing the best coffee you’ve probably ever had, some of them you’ll meet watching the sunset on the beach and you’ll end up sharing stories and laughing with them until the morning and some of them will end up being your best friends. And sometimes you’re going to be alone and going on tours, to the movies, or to restaurants sounds scary to do by yourself at first but soon enough you’ll learn that it is completely okay to be alone. Solo does not mean lonely.
-Don’t say you don’t like anything until you try it at least three times.
-Save your change.
-Spend less time on social media. It’s no secret that social media is addictive and it’s really good at taking away precious moments. It’s important to not be glued to your phone or laptop while abroad. Social media will always be there for you when you get home.
-Traveling is overly romanticized. It is very hard work. It does not solve all your problems that you have at home. And traveling is not what it looks like on Instagram.
-When you’re eating, really taste your food. Talk to the locals. Immerse yourself fully into this new culture. When you’re out hiking, let go of your phone. This is how you’re going to get the best experience possible. Live in the moment.
-Take photos. It is physically impossible to remember all these moments in your life. Someday down the road, maybe when you’re feeling a little depressed or bored, you can grab your camera and scroll through these photos that’ll remind you of some of the best times of your life.
-It’s okay to look like a tourist. It’s cool to make mistakes. Don’t be afraid to ask a questions. If you make a mistake, do or say something offensive then and apologize and move on. Your life won’t be over.
-Cheesy souvenirs are never worth it. Collect sea glass, your train tickets, plane tickets, maps, stickers and coins. Chances are those colosseum magnets you bought in rome were really made in china. Support the locals if you’re going to buy souvenirs.
-People are good. I’m sure you’ve heard or experienced this before but the people with nearly nothing are the most giving. We can all learn something from them.
-The world is not as bad and scary as the news makes it out to be.
-Nothing will ever go as you expect it to. Plans go out the door. I learned this the hard way. In fact, I am sure every traveler has learned this the hard way. You’ll miss flights, you’ll get flat tires on road trips, you’ll end up spending a lot more money than you expected, you’ll miss buses, you’ll have to run to trains to get to them on time, I promise you’ll have a dead battery when all you want to do is call mom to make you feel better, the hostel you wanted will be full, your dumb airline will lose all your luggage, things will get canceled and you’ll spend many unexpected nights crying but despite all the struggles that traveling brings upon us, it is always worth it. The tears, sore shoulders and blistered feet are always worth it. There’s no point in getting mad that your plan fell through.
-Everything happens for a reason. If you get an opportunity, take it and if something comes along in your life to change it, let it.
u know whats great? that lance has honestly taught me that its okay to be a guy and care about beauty, that its not just a feminine thing and even if it was that there’s nothing wrong with that!
the only other times in movies or tv i’ve see a man wear a face mask or pamper himself is when someones using it for humor- haha look at that guy, he’s not manly at all! he must be gay! thats not something boys do!
lance enjoys pampering himself and feeling pretty and it’s not just used as joke, it’s a part of his nature and no one else points it out or scoffs at it
that just makes me really happy and honestly that precious boy has allowed me to accept certain parts of myself i didn’t at first
you can be a boy and have a beauty routine, you can take care of your skin, its a relief finally seeing that validated and i really appreciate the voltron writers for giving us this part of lance, because it’s so so important! i love him!
God is refining your character. You want those flaws to be gone right away, but He lets us endure them so we learn patience by relying on Him. The longer the time period of lessons, the more we remember it and the more grounded we will be in that truth. It’s like, “If He let me go through it [the testing] for a year, I will remember it so much more than if it was just a week.” I can look back and look at what the Lord has taught me. I can say to myself and see, “Look what God did!” Sometimes if it’s just a short few days of struggle, I may just look at it and think: “that was fluke in my personality.” Like a momentary fail. But instead, in those longer times we can see “No, that was something He needed to change. And only He could do that. Leaders fail over and over. You learn from those mistakes, and can look back and say “okay, this is an area I need to grow in, and next time I know what I need to do differently.” We also need to remember our identity not in things or performance. At it gets to a point that this [thing that tests you, the area you fail or fall short in] is not consuming you; you say “I’m tired of this!” And you surrender. Then God says, “Oh, now you understand. I will set you free from this. Let Me free you.
it sucks that people figured out who you are bc dropping a memoir about my immortal after ten years of speculation? that would have been the power move of the century
I’m still a little upset, but what can you do, you know? If nothing else, this has taught me just how determined people were to find out who I was and why I wrote it. Well, you’ve got one of the answers, but I reserve the right to hold onto the other for now.