what is this shame you speak of

I’m going to seriously die if the major conflict between Bitty and his parents this year isn’t him coming out, but if Bitty and Suzanne legit fall out over him using Aunt Judy’s jam recipe. 

Imagine Bitty and Suzanne, in true Southern fashion, the subtle and not-so-subtle passive-aggressive snipes and asides:

“Oh, Dicky, I was planning to send you a care package, but I’ve seen how much you enjoy getting things from your Aunt Judy–” 

“Mother, please–” 

“She shared some of those pictures from Mr. Alexei, showing off all that jam you sent to the Falconers! They must’ve loved that recipe so much, Dicky!” 

“Well, yes, but–” 

“And you couldn’t’ve gotten all those berries up north, so I figured she must’ve sent some up already. Me sending any, they’d’ve just gone to waste! What. a. shame. that would’ve been.” 

And of course it escalates, to where they’re gritting their teeth through every conversation and furiously complain to their partners after every time they speak. 

Coach, of course, doesn’t care, and wants to stay out of it, but Bitty interprets his silence for taking his mother side. And Bitty probably was already thinking about staying part of the summer in Providence with Jack…. 

Mentioning that to Suzanne, however, opens up a whole new can of worms:

“You’re neglecting your family!” 

“It’s just one summer!”

“It was just one batch of Judy’s jam, at first! Now you’re making it like you’re fixin’ to feed an army, and when’s the last time you made our recipe, hm?”

“That’s not the same thing and you know it, Mother–”

“But it’s tradition. You always come down for the 4th of July!”

“I can do to skip one year. They’re’ll be plenty more to come.”

“Do they even celebrate the 4th up there?” 

“Oh for–Yes, Mother. If I stay with Jack we’ll celebrate Canada Day, too. That’s twice the celebrating! Twice the tradition.” 

“Don’t take that tone with me, young man.” 

“Mother–” 

“–I just don’t know what’s got into you, Dicky! It’s like I don’t even know you anymore!” 

At that point the fight gets real.  Tempers flare, Words are spoken, and tears are shed, and in the end, Bitty snaps: 

“You know what’s got into me? Fine. I’m gay. I’m dating Jack. and I’m staying with my boyfriend over the summer. Deal with it, Mother!”

At which point Suzanne snaps back: 

“Well fine! That still doesn’t excuse your sorry excuse for preserves!” 

and hangs up on him. 

She calls him back immediately: 

“And just so you know, Jack Zimmermann is a wonderful young man who is welcome in my house any time. You are free to come home as soon as you come off that high horse’ve yours and re-learn some manners!”

She hangs up again. 

And that is my happy head canon of how Bitty comes out to his mother and doesn’t speak to her again for two months, not because he’s gay, but because of jam. 

Jack Zimmermann, on the other hand, receives a congratulatory call, a warm welcome into the family, and weekly care packages with rainbow-themed note cards saying “To Jack, my favorite son.” (You didn’t think Bitty got his saltiness from Coach, did you?) 

(For his part, Coach calls Bitty for an awkward but warm “So your mother says you’re gay, that right? Dating Zimmermann, too? Well. Guess you got some good taste there, Junior.”)

“Tony Stark is a villain”.

Tony is the protagonist, the hero of his own movies. A villain is someone who is evil, who is immoral, who hurts people. And although I suppose Tony may have hurt people, it was never intentional, it was never calculated, it was never planned. 

(Although he seems arrogant and closed-off, it is simply a façade to push people away. You only have to look at his interactions with Pepper to see that underneath that, Tony is a complete different person, and a very self deprecating one too - for example, in IM3, when Killian tells Tony that he doesn’t deserve Pepper, he replies with, “I know”.)

Structurally speaking, Tony = hero. Obadiah, Vanko, Killian = villain. 

Tony’s heroism is only reinforced in The Avengers. Steve insults Tony by saying he’s not the guy to make the sacrifice play, only for the movie to later show us Tony doing that exact thing.

It is no coincidence that the story is structured in such a way that we first see the fight between Steve and Tony, and then Tony doing the exact opposite. It is there to reinforce that Steve’s initial opinion was wrong and that Tony would sacrifice himself. (Btw, this “chapter” of the movie is called The Sacrifice Play).

He also shuts down weapons manufacturing as soon as he finds out that they are in the wrong hands (IM1):

Evidence: “And that is why, effective immediately, I am shutting down the weapons manufacturing division of Stark International until such a time as I can decide what the future of the company will be.”

And then flies into Gulmira to save people from the Ten Rings despite having no training or any help. He also tries to track down the illicit shipments to destroy them, and this is the point at which Obadiah tries to kill him.

“He created Ultron.”

No, he did not. And actually, if there’s one thing AOU does well it is showing that Tony did not do that.

First of all, let’s discuss what Ultron was MEANT to be. It was intended to be a program which worked with an AI controlling the Iron Legion as a way of protecting the Earth. In the case that aliens invaded, the Iron Legion would analyse the threat and determine what to do:

Evidence: “This could be the key to creating Ultron. If we can harness this power, apply it to my Iron Legion protocol?”  (Tony Stark, in AOU).

Furthermore, the interface was nowhere near to existing:

Tony didn’t create Ultron, he was nowhere near close to an interface. Ultron created himself. Ultron was ALREADY an AI/alive. When Tony compares Jarvis to Ultron, it is Bruce himself who says it looks like a brain, like neurons. Hence the implication is that there is already some sort of intelligence in the sceptre, which there is - the Mind Stone. 

Evidence:

  • Ultron comes alive instantly, by himself. He is not activated by anything. And if Tony and Bruce were nowhere near an interface, then how did Ultron work? Because he created himself, out of a magical rock - the Mind Stone.
  • Ultron’s words: “This feels weird. This feels wrong”. If Ultron was a brand new consciousness, how could he know whether something is right or wrong? 
  • He then says: “ I’m sorry, I was asleep. Or I was a-dream.” This insinuates he was already alive, and simply dormant. Which he was, as he is from the Infinity Stone, which is “alive”.

And if Tony is to blame for making Ultron, so is Bruce who a) already knew about it, implying he and Tony had already thought about it together and b) helped Tony create it. Furthermore, it is Wanda who planted Tony’s fear in his head, knowing it would cause him to “self destruct” (in her own words). 

And even Ultron doesn’t consider himself to be Stark’s: “You’re one of his.
- What? I’m not…I’m not. You think I’m one of Stark’s puppets? His hollow men?” 

The text then backs up that it is Wanda’s vision that pushed Tony to create Ultron: “Maximoff girl, she’s working you, Stark. Playing on your fear.” - Fury to Tony, at Clint’s farm.

The text then literally tells us that Tony is not to blame for Ultron. Thor comes back from being shown a vision in the pool, and says:

  • Their powers, the horrors in our heads, Ultron himself, they all came from the Mind Stone.”

And oh btw, if you hate Tony Stark? 

How to turn negative emotions into positive and balance chakras: 

 1. Turn fear into bravery. Do something that you want to do but have been keeping yourself back from doing because of fear.

 2. Turn guilt into gratitude. Instead of feeling guilt, find things that you feel grateful for in your life. 

 3. Turn shame into authenticity. Challenge yourself to do something that makes you feel like you’re truly being yourself. (Example: Dancing outside) While you do that, don’t care about what others think. How? By realizing that you’re awesome regardless of their opinions. 

 4. Turn bitterness into love and compassion. Realize that everyone is doing their best and challenge yourself to do an act of kindness. 

 5. Turn lies or shyness into courageously speaking your truth. Begin by talking about something that is important to you and makes you happy.

6. Turn confusion into listening to your intuition. 

7. Turn attachment and the need to control things into going with the flow and allowing things to unfold. 

Zodiac Signs as The 1975 lyrics
  • Aquarius: Step into your skin? I'd rather jump in your bones.
  • Pisces: You look famous, let's be friends and portray we possess something important.
  • Aries: And you're the only thing that's going on in my mind, taking over my life a second time.
  • Taurus: You used to have a face straight out of a magazine, now you just look like anyone.
  • Gemini: And if I believe you, would that make it stop, if I told you I need you?
  • Cancer: I searched all day it drove me insane. Where would I be if I was my brain?
  • Leo: Get someone you love? Get someone you need? Fuck that, get money.
  • Virgo: We're all human, we're just like you man. We're sentient, we're something.
  • Libra: But you call me when you're bored and you're playing with yourself.
  • Scorpio: I personify the ‘adolescent on a phone’, speaking like I’m bigger than my body.
  • Sagittarius: I said, hey kids we're all just the same. What a shame.
  • Capricorn: She wears a frown and dressing gown when she lays down.
I love the mcelboys and am glad they apologized but

You can’t praise them for listening to their fans and being compassionate and handling criticism so well and in the same breath condemn anyone who criticizes them!

They would not have the brand and the fanbase that they do if no one ever criticized them!

They’ve never been anything but grateful and courteous in response to people’s pointing out the flaws in their work so to turn around and go “oh I’m so sorry all the sjws are bullying you” at them every time this happens, and to try to shield them like this, and intimidate and shame people who speak up, is frankly insulting!

They’re grown men, who should be able to take criticism, and guess what? They can and do!

To act as if Griffin and the rest of the McElroy family need to be “defended” from people who are only trying to help them make their content even better and more inclusive, even people who are hurt and angry but still take the time to make their feelings known! Is ridiculous, and missing the point entirely. They’ve built their entire image around being kind people who care about their impact, and listen to criticism, and when you demonize people who bring these things to their attention, you’re obstructing that process at best, and part of the problem at worst.

I was thinking about Jon Ronson’s book about public shaming and about recent debates about political tactics and something came together:

When making arguments about ethics, white men consistently ignore power as a lens of analysis. For many of them, actions are either right or wrong regardless of power differentials between the people involved, the stakes for those with less power, and the options they have available to them.

Protesting to have Milo disinvited from your campus therefore becomes *just as bad* as Milo’s own actions towards marginalized people, despite the vast disparities in harm done and options available. (This is not a strawman. When y'all say, “This makes you just as bad as them,” that’s literally what you’re saying.) That Milo’s talk, as planned, would’ve caused serious, measurable, and irreparable harm to specific students, and that protesters had exhausted all “proper” channels for months beforehand, doesn’t seem to matter in this analysis.

All that matters is the specific action taken. “Preventing a person from speaking.” “Destroying property.” “Public shaming.” These actions are seen as unethical regardless of who did them and why, what consequences they face if they do not take these actions, and what other options–if any–they have available.

I keep coming back to MLK’s quote about riots being the language of the unheard. For the most part, people resort to tactics that fall into ethical grey areas because other tactics are unavailable or have already failed. I’m sure that there are people who do so despite having better options, just as there are always people who act unethically in other ways.

But unfortunately, for an outside observer with no skin in the game, it’s very hard to tell whether or not that’s the case. I saw so many posts patronizingly chiding Berkeley students for not trying other tactics before protesting and/or destroying property (although most did not destroy property, and the oft-used phrase “violent protest” implies much more than that). They had no idea of the lengths to which the protesters went to utilize “appropriate” means to keep themselves and their community safe. It didn’t work. They remained unheard.

Any ethics that ignores the role of power will privilege the powerful. Our Republican members of Congress don’t need to riot, set fires, and block the streets in order to get what they want. They do appropriate, ethical things like draft policies and have debates and vote. Because they have the power to. The specific actions they take–drafting policies, debating, voting–are not seen as inherently unethical things to do. Yet they’ve destroyed lives, families, and communities. They’ve achieved a level of destruction that even the rowdiest masked protesters never could, not that they’d want to.

Normal Horoscope

Aries: The stars say you are lost. That’s okay! Most people are.

Taurus: it’s surprising how much happiness a little fried dough can bring us. Shame it dosen’t work that way for people.

Gemini: Cause a scene at your local McDonalds and then cause a second scene by apologizing dramatically. You’ll feel better.

Cancer: The stars show me you. You lie there, face illuminated by a rectangle of dull light. Get some rest. You need it.

Leo: We can only hate what we see in ourselves. Consider that you may be full of mosquitoes.

Virgo: The stars speak of you in hushed whispers so I can’t hear, but generally they sound encouraging.

Libra: The indecision you feel can be alleviated by eating an entire sleeve of fig newtons while staring at your kitchen wall.

Scorpio: Pallid, grey things stalk just outside your vision, feeding on all the things youve forgotten.

Saggatarius: Nothing that beckons has ever turned out to be good. Good things dont need to beckon.

Capricorn: They blog about you.

Aquarius: Show your contempt for the concept of money by beating a cop with another cop.

Pisces: Come now, you’re more clever than meta-humor. Or perhaps you just don’t know yourself too well? Something to think about, regardless.

A Lesson in Love (The Reunion)

Summary: (College!AU) In which you’re assigned to write a story about romance, a subject you know nothing about, and Bucky, a hopeless romantic, offers you his assistance.

Pairing: Bucky x Reader

Word Count: 3,837

A/N: This is the second to last part in the series, babes. We’re almost done with this journey. 

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@avengerstories - you truly are the best of the best when it comes to editing (and everything else too)

Originally posted by captaincentenarian

You’ve walked the length of this hallway more than a dozen times before. Hundreds, if you count the amount of times you’ve strolled through the hallway in your apartment, one that is a spitting image of the one you’re standing in now. Your familiarity with the small space should make the journey from where you’re standing to where you need to be easy.

Should.

Every time you’ve made this walk, it was never with the knowledge that what’s waiting for you at your final destination had the potential to change everything.

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His || Jungkook || 0.12

Member: Jungkook x Reader

Type: Angst, Fluff, Smut.

Teaser | 0.1 | 0.2 | 0.3 | 0.4 | 0.5 | 0.6 | 0.7 | 0.8 | 0.9 | 0.10 | 0.11 | 0.12

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Shoutout to all the young women who are told they are a disgrace to their family name for not being married yet, for not wanting an arranged marriage, who have turned down marriages, who are pressured about marriage, who love and respect their culture but still believe in freedom of choice and know their beliefs have nothing to do with culture, you are not a bad person for being the black sheep, you are not an embarrassment for knowing what you want from life. Shoutout to us for having a backbone and speaking our minds against inequality and oppression in our culture. We got this.

annawrites  asked:

i've enjoyed your prompt fills so much, thank you for sharing them!! if you feel like it: chef!andrew trying (and failing) to woo picky eater neil with fancy food? :)

The thing about growing up on the run is that you never really develop a palate.

You eat what’s there to be eaten, whatever you manage to stuff in your pockets while your mother distracts the cashier trying to haggle for cigarettes, as if it’s anywhere near possible to haggle in a 7/11.

You eat school lunches, bland chicken nuggets and congealed mac and cheese and unseasoned carrots with those little close to expired fruit cups with the peaches and cherries and simple syrup.

You drink gas station coffee—maybe it stunts your growth, but you drink it anyway—and fill old plastic water bottles from drinking fountains or public restroom sinks.

At least, that’s what Neil tries to explain to Matt one day, when Matt invites Neil to his favorite restaurant in his hometown. It just so happens that Matt’s hometown is New York City, and the chef at this place has a Michelin star, but Neil isn’t on the run anymore and his paycheck is hefty enough that he can afford it.

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Jesus isn’t an “I told you so” kind of God. Regardless of what you might’ve heard, He isn’t waiting to condemn you. If you make the choice to come to Him, there is no condemnation, no judgement, and no shame. There’s only love. More love than you can even imagine, actually. And believe me when I say that I speak from experience.

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INTERVIEWER: You seem very much aware of the world around you.

PHOENIX:
I’m quite in love with the human race and this planet that we live on and I see life as fresh and beautiful, not because “I have the world in my hands,” but because it’s just my reality. I also get very frustrated with the pace of life and the way the world goes. I want so badly for people to communicate with each other. With all this technology, is this the best we can do? It’s depressing. But there’s also an optimistic side of me that believes that we live in an incredible time and that if we all come together on the important issues and stand up for our rights, as Bob Marley said, we could really accomplish a lot.

INTERVIEWER: What would that be for you?

PHOENIX: One thing I would like to do when I have the money is buy thousands of acres in the Brazilian rain forest and make a national park, so no one can bulldoze it (in order) to put a McDonald’s there. I guess people find security in a Big Mac, but that’s our oxygen! And the mass slaughtering of animals is a chickenshit approach. I can’t understand the farmer who raises his cow and then rips it’s throat and eats it.

INTERVIEWER: You offer a positive role model for young people, not only by virtue of the ideals you espouse, but, on a different level, by the very characters you play. This will probably be more so than before because of young Indiana Jones.

PHOENIX: Yes, but it angers me that in this society we’re trained from a very young age, watching television, to swallow preconceived ideas of what is the ideal man or ideal woman. It’s prejudice, really. Many people overcome it, but so many remain oppressed if they’re not happy with their looks, if they don’t look like Robert Redford,. It’s a shame, because they shouldn’t be. When I was younger, I was worried about how others viewed me and if I was good enough. I realize now that you can’t mold an image or try to be something that you are not. As far as being an actor is concerned, your work really speaks for itself.

[Interview for Starlog Magazine, October 1989]

Full credit to @butteredonions for the inspiration for the backstory to this piece (sorry about the delay, Onions!)


“You used to be my hero, you know. It took a long time to let go of that image.”

Lance says it with a little laugh, head tilted towards the stars. Shiro turns his gaze away. He’d ask why they didn’t send Keith, but he figures he knows. This is his punishment. Turning a weapon on a guest isn’t very paladin-like — isn’t very heroic.

“Bet I helped with that,” he says.

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Why Me? (Reggie x Reader)


A/N: Just a quick little dabble that I did.

As the girls scanned the book in front of them they wonder what to do.

“We have to tell them” Betty said knowing that it was the best idea.

“But about the other girls? Some people don’t even know they’re in here. Why would we cause them the shame that we’re feeling?” Ethel explained “It’s not fair”

“I think Ethel right” Cheryl said speaking for the first time since they open the book. Everyone looked at her not really expecting her to care about others. But one person knew the truth.

“You’re only saying that since you don’t want Jason poor image that everyone had of him to be gone” Veronica claimed while she crossed her arms, she knew damn well what Cheryl was thinking.

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McCree

• His cigar drops from his mouth when he sees what your new uniform is, mouth hanging open and he is literally stunned

• A tight, black, leather catsuit with some rather revealing parts

• His eyes travel up and down your body with no shame because damn do you look good

• Loses his shit altogether when you turn around to speak to another agent and he sees your delicious booty, as though it was ‘sculpted by Michaelangelo himself’

His own words

• You have to explain to him it’s for manouverability and to keep hidden in the shadows, you being moved to a covert ops department meant you had to be tactile

• He’s missed his target on the battlefield more than once because he’s seen you out of the corner of his eye

• Will constantly try to find excuses at base for you to get something from the top shelf, or bend over to get something from the fridge just so he can see all of you

• If you’re on a mission, he’ll make you do the work out of climbing or fighting, the sheen of sweat making your body glisten which just fuels his fantasies even more when you’re in your catsuit

• Has absolutely no control and has definitely sneaked off with you in a the middle of a battle to do things

Soldier 76

• He’s glad he has his visor for cover, his face was betroot red when he saw what your new uniform was on your next mission together

• Honestly, is this even allowed? Yes you were wearing armour on top but a catsuit that just showed off everything?

• He blames a crack in his visor for missing his shot of helix rockets, when in fact he just caught a glimpse of your scrumptious behind

• He just didn’t understand how it was so gravity defying and plump and the way it slightly jiggled when you walked

• Absolutely has to drag you into a dark alley just to feel you

• The suit was easier for you to move around in, which he could clearly see

• Honestly his visor is a lifesaver this old guy can not keep his eyes off of you

• Gets incredibly protective when he sees other agents noticing you, dropping an arm over your shoulders and grunting about how you were his

• When you’re walking away from him in public you have to expect at least a pinch

• In the bedroom? Prepare to be spanked. Hard.

Reaper

• He just rolls his eyes when he sees your skintight leotard, saying you’ve been spending too much time with Widowmaker

• Can’t help but steal glances though, especially when he has his mask on

• Other Talon agents become even more terrified of you, not just beause of your outfit but Reaper has become so possessive

• He will hunt those down who stare one second too long at you, and he will hurt them

• Will not let you out of his sight for a second, him becoming your second shadow just in case someone tried something

Or because he just wants the chance to oogle you all day

• Sombra has had to literally knock sense into him on the battlefield because he was too busy looking at your hips shaking as you fought

• Has no shame in dragging you by the wrist to a dark corner and telling you how he’s feeling

• Back at the base he will literally tear it off of you so he can have you

• You make a mental note to thank Widow, your little plan to add some ‘spice’ into your relationship had worked

First-Date BAIT!

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First dates are embarrassing. First dates are awkward. I’ve been through countless ones, sitting across from people who bored the living daylights out of me. It was less exciting than watching paint dry. Some dates were so utterly rude - I think you and I both know what it’s like to be on the receiving end on that. But now we both don’t have to waste our time anymore!

With First Date Bait they went out for me! Afterwards, they informed me if it was recommended to go out on a second date. It’s amazing with a 99.99% accuracy rate! That’s how I ended up meeting my husband!

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He’s late.

That’s not a good sign.

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20 Ways to Annoy Min Yoongi

1. Dye his hair in glitter whilst he sleeps. 

Originally posted by softykook

2. Make a scene where you announce he’s proposed to you and you’re going to get married in a bouncy castle. 

Originally posted by sugagifs

3. Mimick his bluntness: 

You: “I have a question.”

Yoongi: “What now?”

You: When was the last time you had sex? 

Originally posted by aestheticvbts

4. Make fun of him during his photo shoots by chanting “I AM THE CULT OF YOONGI. MY EMOTIONS DEVALUE YOURS. “

Originally posted by bwiseoks

5. Whilst he’s sitting down, sit behind him and pull his lips into a smile.

Originally posted by jeonbase

6. Tell him Namjoon raps better. (Can you see the hypothetical beef in this situation below)

Originally posted by kassareo

7.  Hide all his beanies.

8. Call him at 3am until he picks up, speak out Taylor Swift lyrics to him. 

“Yoongi?”

“What is it, brat?”

“I knew you were trouble when you walked in. 

Shame on me now. 

Took me to places I’ve never been

And now I’m lying on the cold hard ground.” 

__________ Phone call ends. 

Originally posted by so-bangtastic

9. Wake him up at 5am with an air horn. 

“RISE AND SHINE YOOONGSTAAA-”


Originally posted by jeonbase

Yoongi: “You have 5 seconds to tell me why you don’t want to die yet”. 

10. Whilst he’s minding his own business eating lunch, shoot a gummyball at the back of his head with a slingshot. 

Originally posted by j-hoepeu

11. Put a how to guide on expressing your emotions wrapped in a glittery box under his pillow. 

12. Suddenly collapse down onto the floor and start coughing erratically. As he makes his way over to you convinced somethings wrong, reach out to him with your hand. 

“What is it, b-brat?”

“B- B-”

“Bultaoreune”.

13. When he’s sitting still quietly, checking out the girl in front of him yell out ‘OH SHE’S THE GIRL YOU WANNA MANI MANI MANI WITH HUH…WINK WINK YOONGSTAAA”. 

14. Hack into his phone and send Yoonjin kink fics to Jin .

Originally posted by namjoonholic

Jin: Oh shit. 

15. Hit him with a basketball off guard, when he doesn’t catch it say “pfft, basketball player my ass”. 

16. Climb up and cling on to his back.

17. When he’s composing/writing lyrics- casually turn up and tell him about your last visit to the dentist. 

18. Post a picture of a slug on BTS’ SNS captioned #MINYOONGISAYSHI

19. Envelope him in random hugs. 

20. Run, because to be honest, if you annoy Min Yoongi anything like the above you’re halfway to being a corpse.

Originally posted by bulletproofwinner


AN: I figured I would have to go to the extreme of extremes for Yoongi because he doesn’t seem like someone that would get annoyed if you pinch him in general, he’d just do something to piss you off/ scare you in return with a death glare. You would have to be very touchy feely with Yoongi, hence so many cute clingy moments. 

You don’t have to appear separate to have DID.

DID is very vast and each system is different. We have had it noted on multiple occassions that we seem can similar to each other, that it is hard to notice switches and then people doubt us on this belief that we have to “show ourselves.” Well we don’t. 

DID is a disorder that is hidden. Although we are open on our blog, in person is a different story. It feels alien to us to outwardly and purposely show those differences. Even to people we trust, or who may have DID as well. 

I’m not saying there aren’t any differences, there are, but you may have to look a little harder than you think. We have been talking to our therapist about this. She said a lot of her clients are the same. With us it is basically about shame and survival. Shame keeps us hidden as the facade that is jade. We don’t all have different accents or voices out here, we may make a conscious effort to seem whole or one. 

But if you know us, if you know what to look for, you will see it. People can tell who is out by very slight and subtle changes, our writing, the differences in the way we speak, our opinions, how we type, and many other ways. It doesn’t always have to be big changes. And you can always ask. We don’t expect people to assume but may feel uncomfortable announcing a switch.

Now this doesn’t mean those who are open and obvious with DID are faking. That is their way of being. And that is perfectly ok too.