Why are you right in your psychological theories and believes/norms? And why is everyone else wrong?
not so much “right” as it is i strongly operate off the principle that harm is a negative experience and you should not harm.
at the core of life is an aversion to harm. we avoid danger, developed ways to heal when it could not be escaped, form lasting memories of what has hurt us. a single celled organism flees from hostile environments. a dog would rather flee than bite, and cries when their tail is stepped on. a person usually wishes to live in comfort.
like, it’s a pretty complicated thing to just try and boil down to a “solid” summary. a lot of people sympathize with both the desire to do no harm and not be harmed. and, like, logically the principle holds up.
examine a behavior. consider the repercussions. who is impacted. how are they impacted. i’ve come to the conclusion that things like sexism and racism have a history of harm. by not adopting those behaviors, i cause less harm. and by fighting against the further development of those behaviors, i prevent further harm.
Can you explain more about the meditation you did when you were first figuring out DID stuff?
The way I did it was really unsafe and was arguably self harm, so I do not want to share the details of what I was doing at that time.
But! I will tell u about what I do now!
I lie down in a low stimulus environment like on the sofa or in bed with low lights and either silence or white noise. I start at 100 and count down to 0. in the 90s i work on visualizing myself internally. in the 80s i find and go through the door to the headspace. 70s-40s i listen to see if anyone is calling for me or wants to talk. if yes, i go with them, if no i go forward on my own 30s-0 i solidify myself again and focus on my internal environment. if by 0 i have not made contact or been immersed in the headspace, i count from 40-0 again doing the same thing, if not there, another 30-0, 20-0 and so on. if at that point im not in, it’s just not happening and i should try again later. Also, if you screw up your counting at some point, try starting over again. I find it helps better to start over instead of trying to repair a derailed train of thought.
When I go in through meditation I try to have an objective. Sometimes its search a new area, talk to a specific alter, or just go to my room and do some things there. It helps me stay focused.
Thought of the day (while reading a “gender marketing” translation with painfully outdated views): I am really, really sick of us only talking about “gender” when women are involved.
A surprising number of important realizations could be made if we develop the habit of talking about gender dynamics even – perhaps especially – in the context of all-male or mostly-male groups.
How does it affect productivity, public image, collaboration, negotiating, client acquisition, etc. to have any group of people involved be entirely men? What effects does this drastic gender imbalance cause in its environment?
LET’S TALK ABOUT GENDER AND MEN, PEOPLE. Gender is not an exclusively female domain.
Me, interviewing the director of basically any film ever: “So let’s talk about the extreme gender imbalance in the casting of this film. What was the thinking behind that? Was there a particular statement you were trying to make, a satirical observation on the politics of society, perhaps? That kind of came out of left field, when we watched the film and all the parts but one were men. Can you tell us a little about the background of that?”
Director: “Um… I didn’t actually consciously think that much abou–”
Me, interrupting: “Come now, don’t be modest! That was a fascinating artistic decision! The drastic disparity between the number of men and the number of women in the film makes it clear to even the most casual viewer that gender is a central theme in this story. Can we delve into that a little bit further?”
This would be a fun tack to take in regard to race, too.
“I noticed something very interesting about your film, which is that every single one of the leading roles is played by a white actor. Clearly there’s some conceptual message you want to communicate with this creative choice. Could you talk about that?”
Hey guys just wanted to put it out there that I’m selling these sick “save the bees” shirts now! They’re available on my etsy shop and they’re $10. And here’s the best part: I’m donating 25% of the money I make selling these to actually help save the bees! So not only do you get a good-looking and affordable shirt, but you’re also helping contribute to a great and very important cause.
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Hi, I want to ask about the azawahks in your last post, what qualifies each as "healthy" or "obese?" The healthy one doesn't seem to have enough fat or muscle to cushion its bones and the obese doesn't have near enough fat to impair movement or put excess pressure on its joints. Is their weight being judged by how healthy and comfortable the animal is or by how cool it looks?
Here’s another similar ask on the subject that came in:
You recently got into a discussion on dog body types and obesity and ended up comparing the body of a healthy azawakh and an overweight one, but in the picture you used for the healthy dog you could see its ribs. So I was wondering what about the breed or any type of dog could lead to that being a healthy appearance. Is is something with what the dogs were originally breed for or maybe the environment? (it was also mentioned that azawakhs are capable of withstanding extremely high temperatures)
These are the dogs involved in the question, for those just tuning in:
Correct weight azawakh above, obese below.
I asked @desertwindhounds to answer this for me because she’s got a huge background in sighthounds, both from her own breeding and extensive research. Here’s her take:
Azawakh have what is known as very ‘dry’ musculature and skin. The muscles are very flat and the skin is very thin and tight, and their coat is typically very thin with very short hair. Combined with the lack of body fat, what you get when you are looking at many Azawakh is the same effect as a human body builder (without the deliberate dehydration.) This is an endurance runner, not a sprinter with big bunchy fast twitch muscles like a racing greyhound. The look is simply the way the dog is constructed.
The purpose of fat and muscle is not to 'cushion the bones’ on any dog, muscles move the dog and fat provides insulation or energy storage. You do NOT want a layer of fat on a working sighthound, it insulates the body. Running produces a lot of heat and some of that is dumped through the skin, a fat layer prevents that and the dog will overheat. Most sighthounds appreciate a bed to lie on, but something I have never seen in a country of origin dog, which don’t typically have cushions or blankets, they sleep on the ground, in a basic shelter, or in a den, is pressure sores. COO Azawakh have a large variety of appearance, and many do not have the extremely dry look that is appreciated by Western breeders. It’s a matter of personal preference in Western breeding.
Note that the coat has a good deal of influence on how thin and dry the dog looks. A smooth Saluki in hard condition with no body fat and a very short coat can have a similar dry appearance. A feathered Saluki in the same condition would not, because the coat is long enough to smooth out the appearance, it hides the extreme contours. With coated sighthounds like Borzoi or Afghans you’d never see that degree of dryness, the hair hides it. Sighthounds also have much thinner skin than other dog types, and a good sighthound will have very tight, elastic ligaments, including the layer under the skin (if you pull the skin up on a sighthound, it should pull back strongly), so the skin will actually 'cling’ more tightly to the dog, emphasizing the musculature.
It is really difficult to explain this to someone who is freaked out by the appearance. It helps to get your hands on such a dog. They do NOT feel frail or sickly, they feel solid and muscular, dense, and they should have plenty of muscle over the loin and along the withers. It feels, frankly, like running your hands over a human marathon runner with little body fat. Same thing, actually, except that humans are constructed in such a way that they don’t have a lot of pokey boney bits that are visible.
i’m gonna be honest here. i don’t get the psychological support i need right now and studying is getting harder and harder, as much as any other activity is. so whenever i can, i do whatever it takes to become motivated to do some work, and here is what helps me:
1. environment visuals - this is a very important aspect for me, i’m mostly a visual learner and i need to have everything matching, neat and compatible with my aesthetics. so if you feel demotivated, start with cleaning up, maybe do a little makeover to your study space or even room, as i did not so long ago. this can give you a vibe of a ‘fresh start’, some sort of break from past problems.
2. environment noise - my parents absolutely hate silence. as long as they’re awake, there is always TV going on, any source of noise and images, they find it helpful when in stress, but i don’t. i want to have either perfect silence, which i can find in library and, thank god, sometimes at school when teachers leave as alone with problems/exercises to do, or i want to have some music blasting in my headphones, blocking noises from my parents. if you’re having difficulty focusing on work, you have to get rid of the distractors - turn off your computer, if you have a laptop - take it away from your desk. close your door or ask people at home to keep it quiet - they’re most likely to take it seriously because they most likely want you to have good grades too.
3. mental distractions - whether it is something like stressing about other test than you’re studying for, being focused on other plans you have for the day/week or minor things like wanting to play video games - it is very distracting and we fall into the loop hole of doing the third thing while stressing even more about every other. you want to have a clear vision of what happens when. as a visual thinker i like it when i can easily recall an image in my mind. so do your to-do list, organize every event happening this day, this week or even this month, and if you’re like me, make it clear, colorful, easy to remember. that way if you have organized your study time for a certain subject, even if you think about any other, you will find yourself knowing when is time for that. and knowing that you DO have time for that.
of course there are other things you already know like drinking water, sleeping well, all that kind of stuff. keep in mind that while you can do what you’re comfortable with, you should also set some challenges for yourself. recovery doesn’t happen when you’re doing nothing. on days when you feel better, think about spending your time differently, slowly doing more and more. you’re gonna thank yourself for the results and, perhaps, this shall motivate you further. best of luck, students!
I don’t want to live in a country led by hate. I feel like this election is forcing me to be apart of a nation where the majority of its population supports and promotes the blind hatred of so many minorities. It makes me feel so trapped because I didn’t choose this environment but that’s what it’s turning out to be.
What can we do to fight what’s being done to the environment, in the wake of the EPA censorship and the greenlighting of oil pipelines? Serious question.
Is this a matter of further activism, protests/sit-ins/so forth, are there non-federal groups still devoted to doing the work that the park service and the EPA are being prevented from doing? Where can we donate, what can we physically do?
I don’t think calling our representatives is going to work this time. It won’t be enough. We have to be able to take a modicum of power into our own hands, because it’s becoming increasingly clear that no one in charge is going to help us.
-The Paladins find themselves in a planet that resembles earth
- It’s winter so they go to the closest spot where it hasn’t snowed
-Lance keeps bitching that his Hispanic ass wasn’t made for these conditions which prompts Keith to state that if anyone should complain it’s him who spent time living in A LITERAL DESERT LANCE
-Meanwhile Allura starts asking what snow is because????
- So Pidge and Hunk go on to explain snow
-Pidge being very technical while Hunk states “its beautiful, white, and cold” and then keeps interrupting Pidge (he doesn’t mean to be rude but Pidge is just being oh so technical) and brings up snow angels, snowmen, SNOW BALL FIGHTS, etc.
-So now Allura’s like I need to see this snow you speak of to determine if it’s a threat or not
-Shiro smiles and complies by telling the others to be prepared to travel again
-After every paladin tells their stories with snow(yes even Keith and Lance, especially the big snowball fight, the one where Keith knew who Lance was for .2 seconds and then forgot again) they decide to camp for the night
-Because of how distant the castle is Allura gets to sleep in one of the lions and Shiro tells the others that wherever she decides is hers, you evacuate and give her the space she deserves with a look
-For some reason she’s been bonding with red lately, forcing Keith to sleep somewhere else
-He automatically disqualified Pidge because they aren’t that close, Hunk is out because he would probably force Keith to take the cot and then proceed to sleep on the floor, and Shiro is just a big giant nope, the man either goes to sleep at 9pm sharp or doesn’t sleep at all
-So that only leaves Lance, who sure, will give him grief but in the end won’t really mind
-Once he reaches Lance, he finds him trying to hide his tears and sniffles
-After some time of awkward comforting Lance tells him how the last time he saw snow it was with his family and he’s just homesick
-Keith then proceeds to tell Lance that it’s okay, that if it weren’t because he’s an orphan he would also be homesick… it takes him a while to realize how that came across, and then starts trying to backtrack and just becomes a stuttering mess, all red in the face
-Lance the starts to laugh which stops Keith in his tracks
-Lance goes on to explain that he can count in one hand the amount of times Keith has lost his cool
-They fall asleep cuddling with identical goofy smiles on their faces
-They both wake up with a start when they hear a roar and when they finally scramble outside they find that it had snowed during the night
-Pidge screamed (read as squealed) that there had to be at least 8 inches of snow
-When Allura came out she squealed in delight and proceeded to run out into the snow only to yelp and run back to the lion
-She had made the mistake of going into the snow without shoes
-After everyone woke up and put on the proper clothes they began to play in the snow
-It then escalated to a huge snow ball fight that included captains, strategies, and bases
-By the end of the fight (which Allura was wining tbh) they found that no one knew where Keith and Lance were, only to later find them kissing under blue
-And that is the story of the first Snow day they had as a team
If you know a bit about autism, or have been following this blog for some time, you must be aware that one of the autistic traits which has the most consequences on our daily lives is our sensory differences. They have an impact on all spheres of our lives: on what we can and cannot do, on where we can and cannot go, on what we can eat, wear, listen to, on our ways to feel good and on what makes us feel bad.
Such a wide subject definitely warrants a masterpost. So, here we go!
First, let’s take a look at the human sensory system, to understand the different areas in which there can be differences. It’s actually more complicated than the traditional five senses! Our sensory system is divided into three parts:
Exteroception : sensing what comes from the environment outside your body.
Interoception : sensing the internal physiological condition of your body
Proprioception : sensing the position your limbs and body are in
These three main areas encompass different senses (note that this is one model and others exist):
Exteroception: sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch, but also thermoception (sensation of heat/cold) and nociception (sensation of pain)
Interoception: nociception (internal pain), feelings of hunger, lack of oxygen, thirst, need to pee, as well as monitoring of the respiratory rate and heart rate.
Proprioception: the kinesthetic sense (knowledge of the movement and relative positions of your body parts) and the vestibular sense (knowledge of body movement, direction and acceleration)
For all of these senses, autistic people can have them work typically, be hyposensitive (less sensitive than most people), be hypersensitive (more sensitive than most people) or have sensory processing differences which do not fall under the hypo/hyper system.
The clinical term which encompasses these differences is “Sensory Processing Disorder”. One can have SPD without being autistic, but all or almost all autistic people have SPD.
It should be noted, however, that some autistic people don’t like to think of it as a disorder and prefer simply talking about sensory processing differences.
Something very important to understand is that hypersensitivity and hyposensitivity CAN coexist in any one person’s sensory system. For example, they might be hypersensitive to smell and hyposensitive to touch. They can also be hyper/hypo sensitive to only one aspect of one sense (for instance, pressure or texture or bright lights or sweet tastes). They can also be sometimes hyposensitive to something, and sometimes hypersensitive to it.
Being hypersensitive to a stimulus and being exposed to it can cause what is called “sensory overload”, which usually translates to pain, discomfort, and impaired cognitive functions (in other words, trouble thinking properly). If pushed further (very intense stimuli or very long exposition), it can lead to a shutdown or meltdown.
Being hyposensitive to something and lacking stimulation can translate to restlessness, discomfort, and even pain, as well as an intense craving for the stimuli.
Here are some examples of what hypersensitivity to different senses can translate to, on a behavioral and subjective level:
Sight: The person wears sunglasses, maybe even indoors. They avoid places with fluorescent lightning, blinking lightning or too bright lightning. They dislike looking at brightly colored surfaces. They may have trouble with visually cluttered spaces, such as crowds and supermarkets. They may find any kind of flickering or movement around them painful to see.
Hearing: They may hear sounds no one else can hear (and some have been tested to hear outside the normal human range). They may have to wear headphones/ear defenders in noisy places. They may avoid crowds and events with lots of people/loud music/shouting. They may have difficulty with the noise of the vacuum, of the construction work on the other side of the street, of the clock ticking in the next room. They may develop tinnitus eventually.
Smell: They’ll probably dislike places with strong smells such as perfume shops, farms, or crowded public transportation. They may need to wash themselves, their clothes and their sheet very often to keep body odors to a minimum. They may not tolerate scented soap, shampoo or deodorant (and it’s sometimes difficult to find an unscented one!). They may struggle with the smell of food in general, or with particular smells.
Taste: They may be very picky eaters, only tolerating a couple of very bland-tasting food such as mashed potatoes or pasta. They may have difficulty having diverse enough diets with all the nutrients they need. They may always eat the exact same thing.
Touch: They may have trouble finding clothing with a texture that they can tolerate. They may need to cut all the tags off their clothing. They may absolutely hate anyone touching them. They may be ok with firm touch, but find light brushy touches painful. They may have trouble wearing specific items of clothing, such as socks/shoes, headphones or hats. They may hate people touching their hair, or find brushing their hair very difficult. They may find brushing their teeth nearly impossible because of the scratching sensation. They may have trouble with the texture of many foods, and be a picky eater because of that.
Thermoception: They may be very sensitive to cold, and always wearing loads of clothing and turning the heating up even when other people don’t think it’s that cold. They may be very sensitive to heat, finding summer very hard to cope with, especially if they don’t have access to AC. They may be hyper-aware of tiny changes in temperature, feeling cold when it is dropping and hot when it is rising regardless of the actual temperature.
Nociception: They may be more sensitive to pain than most people, and find very painful what most people would shrug off. (They’re not being a drama queen! They really do feel more pain!)
Vestibular sense: They may get motion sickness very easily.
And here are some examples for hyposensitivity:
Sight: The person may have trouble finding things in visually crowded environments. They may enjoy looking at bright colored lights or at objects in motion (spinning top/twirling fingers…)
Hearing: They may not notice being called or being talked to, especially when focused. They may enjoy listening to very loud music, singing, or making lots of noises.
Smell: They may not notice smells which other people do. They may enjoy strong smells such as perfume, essential oils or body odor. They may enjoy sniffing a favorite blanket, a significant other, a pet, or anything they like.
Taste: They may be able to ingest an impressive amount of spicy food, and may crave strong tasting food (pepper, lemon, salt, sugar…).
Touch: They may love rubbing/touching favorite textures, rubbing their hands together… They may love and crave deep pressure, such as having heavy weights on top of them.
Thermoception: They may be outside in winter with just a T-shirt, or not be bothered by the heat in summer and even wear a sweater. They may enjoy touching very hot things such as radiators or very hot water, or very cold things like ice cubes or snow.
Nociception: They may be less sensitive to pain than most people and not notice it when they’ve been hurt.
Vestibular sense: They may love roller coasters, boat rides when there’s a lot of waves… They may never get motion sickness of any sort. They may spend time rocking or like to chill upside down.
Kinesthetic sense: They may be very clumsy since they have a poor sense of the position of their body in space. They may stumble a lot and be generally bad at sports. They may have trouble with fine motor skills such as handwriting or sewing. They may enjoy doing repetitive motions such as hand flapping.
Interoception: They may have trouble noticing when they are hungry, thirsty, tired, or when they need to go to the bathroom. They may need to set alarms or to have self-care at set times as part of their routine.
These are of course only examples and hyper or hyposensitivity can express themselves in as many ways are there are people who experience them.
Here are some examples of other sensory differences autistic people can experience:
Synesthesia seems more frequent among autistic people than in the general population. It is defined as a transfer from one sensory modality to another: for example, seeing sounds or hearing tastes. It can also mean associating colors or personalities to numbers/letters. In autistic people specifically, it can be a very positive thing (you can now stim with two senses at the same time!) or something painful (these bright lights are awful, well now they’re harsh noises too).
We often struggle with processing sensory information, especially speech, which can mean we can have a lot of trouble understanding what people say, might take a lot of time to process speech (which results in conversations such as” “Hey, will you get me this thing please?” “What?” “I said, will-” “Oh yeah, sure”), and might need subtitles to be able to understand movies. Processing information from two different senses at a time can also be difficult, which often translates as “I can either look at the images or understand what’s being said”. This is one of the causes of our struggle with eye contact.
That’s all for today. We hope this helped. We are currently preparing a masterpost on stimming which will be quite related to this one. Happy writing!
I made my first spell jar! Its purpose is to protect and cleanse my home, or the room it is in. It’s perfect for my dorm, and very easy to make!
🌱Everything inside this jar has some association with protection or cleansing or banishing negativity and creating a loving environment.
-3 dried bay leaves with various protection and safety sigils drawn on them
-charged full moon water
-a pinch of black pepper
-some lemon peel
-a small piece of clear quartz
* I added some chicken bones in there since I’m very connected to the earth, and I feel as though the bones strengthen the spells connection and gives it an extra oomph, but that’s optional.
🌱You can add a chant or any other ingredients that fee right to you. I just told each ingredient its purpose in the jar and charged it with white candles and intent!
🌱Let me know if this jar is of help to you! I think it’s a perfect and simple spell jar for your altar or your room. 😊
Thanks again to all who came out & supported the We Stand United rally yesterday night. Truly incredible! There was so much energy, love, diversity, and commitment to people & the environment. Here’s a recap of what happened.