how do you make friends in fandom? I'm trying but it feels like everyone I talk to just doesn't care.
hey there!! aw man, I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. <3
hmmm well. I’ve made some really good friends in fandom that I absolutely treasure, so let me try to give you some advice!! I hope it helps at all… ahhhhhhh.
- don’t expect everything at once… friendships can take just as long to make online as they do in real life; maybe you’ll just yell at each other happily about castiel’s face for the first few months, and then progress to asking about each other’s day, and from there you’ll get to know each other and build up a strong friendship! sometimes “instant best friends” happens, but it’s OK for relationships to build slowly, too. got that platonic slowburn.
- beginning with a compliment can be a nice way to start! sending a message about something that stands out to you about their blog or their creations or their sense of humour etc. etc. can be a great way to begin :D
- be respectful of boundaries - remember, you’re looking for friends, but not everyone in fandom is here for the same reasons. pay attention to the vibes a person is giving you! if they don’t seem to be responding or don’t seem friendly, maybe you just don’t have the ole friendship chemistry with them. that’s OK! there are, to quote the proverb, plenty more shrimps in the ocean.
- be genuine. I think this is the most important thing! be sincere and friendly and kind and caring yourself, and you’ll find your people. let things grow naturally, without forcing or pushing - if you have to push yourself on someone, then it’s not working. you need a new shrimp!!
I wish you all the best, dear!! take care out there <3