what is catholicism

-William Poindexter cries him self to sleep some nights because Catholic Guilt™
-freshman year he probably punched Nursey in the face for saying something like “I wish people would actually do something that will actually instead of praying.” (They talk about it later because they are both working through shit)
-Dex still prays asking to wake up a cis stright girl
-Dex doesn’t wear his binder to mass
-Shitty harps on the Catholic Church all the time and Dex can’t even explain things to him because his team doesn’t know he’s Catholic because
-Shitty and Nursey are leading forces in the “Us vs. Them” narrative and he knows when they find out they’ll ask ‘how can you be Catholic your faith hates you’
-Jack finds out, they go to Mass together once, but between Dex almost crying the whole time and Jack trying to do everything in Latin/French they decide not to go together again
-Dex who doesn’t decide of he’s going to Mass until he finds himself walking out the door right before Mass
-Jack found out because he noticed Dex not eating meat on Fridays during lent and usually Dex doesn’t eat fish.
-also once late at night they were sharing a hotel room and he heard Dex mumbling Pater Noster and he joined in.
-that made Dex cry
-Dex who spends all Sunday too keyed up to do anything because he doesn’t know if he’ll go to Mass or not
Just, gay, trans, Catholic Dex.

ok i had a dumb convo w @cherryandsisters and here we are

Title: In Lieu of Holy Water (Rated T)

Pairing: Solangelo

Summary: 

“Will, what do you think of religion?” he asks. Nico’s not actively religious, but still considers what little semblance of Catholicism he holds onto as important. He doesn’t really care what Will is or what he does or doesn’t believe in, he just really wants to know.

Will seems surprised but not off put by his inquiry. “Hmm,” he considers, wrapping and unwrapping his blistered hands with a loose strip of gauze. “I guess I’ve always been into Satan, you know?”

Nico looks at the camera, appearing distinctly horrified. “I- I don’t know what I was expecting. Mostly atheist, but maybe orthodox or- or Christian- or even Jewish but… I never expected this.”

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But tell me: what do you mean by they?’
 
‘The messengers who are sent with the Ring.’
 
‘Exactly! And who are they to be? That seems to me what this Council has to decide, and all that it has to decide. Elves may thrive on speech alone, and Dwarves endure great weariness; but I am only an old hobbit, and I miss my meal at noon. Can’t we think of some names now? Or put it off till after dinner?’
 
No one answered. The noon-bell rang. Still no one spoke. Frodo glanced at all the faces, but they were not turned to him. All the Council sat with downcast eyes, as if in deep thought. A great dread fell on him, as if he was awaiting the pronouncement of some doom that he had long foreseen and vainly hoped might after all never be spoken. An overwhelming longing to rest and remain at peace by Bilbo’s side in
Rivendell filled all his heart. At last with an effort he spoke, and wondered to hear his own words, as if some other will was using his small voice. ‘I will take the Ring,’ he said, ‘though I do not know the
way.’
— 

J. R. R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

I was talking to @allieinarden about Hans Christian Andersen’s The Snow Queen and Gerda’s choices. We were swapping details of the story that struck us, and both noted how wonderful it is that Gerda’s love for Kay is self-sacrificial. It can also become romantic, sure, but it doesn’t matter one bit, because it is primarily self-sacrificial. Gerda shows this love by choosing to start the quest for Kay herself. However, when she makes that decision to proceed alone into the world, that is paradoxically when she receives help from both the natural and the supernatural world. That duality of sorts reminded me of one of the saddest moments of The Fellowship of the Ring: the above quote when Frodo chooses to take the Ring. He is so tired, but he chooses anyway. And at the very moment he does: 

Elrond raised his eyes and looked at him, and Frodo felt his heart pierced by the sudden keenness of the glance. ‘If I understand aright all that I have heard,’ he said, ‘I think that this task is appointed for you, Frodo; and that if you do not find a way, no one will. This is the hour of the Shire-folk, when they arise from their quiet fields to shake the towers and counsels of the Great. Who of all the Wise could have foreseen it? Or, if they are wise, why should they expect to know it, until the hour has struck? ‘But it is a heavy burden. So heavy that none could lay it on another. I do not lay it on you. But if you take it freely, I will say that your choice is right; and though all the mighty Elf-friends of old, Hador, and Hurin, and Turin, and Beren himself were assembled together, your seat should be among them.’

‘But you won’t send him off alone surely, Master?’ cried Sam, unable to contain himself any longer, and jumping up from the corner where he had been quietly sitting on the floor.

‘No indeed!’ said Elrond, turning towards him with a smile. ‘You at least shall go with him. It is hardly possible to separate you from him, even when he is summoned to a secret council and you are not.’

Sam sat down, blushing and muttering. ‘A nice pickle we have landed ourselves in, Mr. Frodo!’ he said, shaking his head.

On their own, I think Frodo and Gerda would have found their quests ultimately impossible. However, they still choose to take on that path. Both Frodo and Gerda (and each one of us) have to make a specific, individual, conscious choice to start a quest or carry a cross. However, the moment we freely choose that, we are surrounded with help.

Like, I can see why e.g. saying the rosary would be a good anxiolytic and/or virtue increaser for humans who aren’t me. Or how having a religious community is comforting and helpful. I just don’t get how the afterlife stuff doesn’t massively offset it. 

But I genuinely don’t get how anyone’s mental health is improved by a religion with a Hell in it. Everything else, sure, I see how that helps. But “eternal torture exists and you deserve it” is like… this isn’t Taking Ideas Seriously or Competing Access Needs. Any person is not going to deal well with the risk of eternal extreme misery. It is horrible by definition.

I know it’s bad to psychologise your opponents, but I can’t see how Christians believe in Hell if they’re mentally healthy. Maybe the sola fide ones are okay with other people being tortured and secure in their own salvation, but “they are okay with other people being tortured” is a horribly mean thing to say. And yet the alternative “they are lying about their religion” is also horribly mean.
What is going on here? What am I not getting? What is there that’s missing? “I am crazy” is 500x more plausible than “everyone else is crazy” but NOTHING. ABOUT. THIS. BEHAVIOUR. MAKES. ANY. SENSE. AT. ALL.

Explain it to me. My inability to understand is maddening. Maybe there’s some piece I’m missing and if I see it Jesus is real and the eternal torture is somehow okay. But fuck I hope that’s not true.

When the teachings of Christ were implicitly followed, the lives of females improved dramatically…From the earliest times, Christianity sought to free women from demeaning pagan practices and unjust constraints. This was especially notable at a time when Imperial Rome was busy restoring old ancestral codes that rewarded citizens for marrying and bearing at least three children and sanctioned those couples who did not meet their reproductive quota…Spartan women enjoyed slightly more status and were given the opportunity to control property when men were at war. Rarely seen in public, Athenian women held very low status and married young. Greek girls received little or no education, and all women, regardless of age, were legally classified as children.
 
Against the social norm, women often accompanied Christ in His travels throughout His ministry…Jesus Christ broke with Jewish tradition by speaking to women in public and eating meals with them. He even allowed a woman with a gynecological disorder to be healed by touching the gem of his garment at a time when…women with discharges from menstruation or childbirth were considered symbolically “unclean”…
 
Christ’s vision of womanhood was certainly far different from the widely held Aristotelian conception of women as incomplete or “mutilated” men. Female Christians made a meaningful contribution to the ministry of the early Church by supporting Jesus, witnessing and testifying to the resurrection, carrying out mission work, prophesying, and ministering to other women.
—  Elizabeth Kuhns, “The Habit: A History of the Clothing of Catholic Nuns”
It sounds cute and comforting to say “God is in control,” and people who say that may imagine sitting on their daddy’s lap behind the wheel of the family car, going “Vroom vroomy vroom!” while Daddy does the steering. In reality, when God is in control, it feels more like one of those movies where some amateur has to step up and land the airplane or steer the ship to safety through a crashing storm, with an expert giving them instructions remotely through a headset. In theory, following the expert’s instructions will help us get in safely; but our fear, panic, self-doubt, and lack of skill are not exactly comforting. Yes, God is in control, but we’re the ones who are in for a rough ride.
— 

Simcha Fisher, The Sinner’s Guide to Natural Family Planning

(Lovely book on marriage and faith; awful title, even worse cover art)

I figured out why I didn’t like Daredevil S2 like Daredevil S1.

First, Matt Murdock means a lot to me.  He’s a blind, Catholic, Lawyer.

I am Catholic, my eyesight is bad enough I’ve made peace that I may go blind someday, and I want to be a prosecutor.

And here’s thing? Two of those three things? You can’t turn off.  

Matt’s senses are enhanced, but he’s still blind. He has no clue what screens say, he can only read in braille, and has never known what people look like.  

Catholicism is a happy struggle. It’s hard, but you have so many people rooting for you.  And you can find peace in that.  

Lawyer is a job, but to be one you have to be committed to SOMETHING. Be it the law, justice, or the paycheck.  

And Season 1 had all of it. Father Latte (as the Catholic fans call him) and Matt had long and important discussions about faith and morality.  (Could still use some Thomas Aquinas, but no huge heresies)  Law cases and using the law came up often. And Matt being blind was worked in so often but so naturally. Foggy narrating, the adaptive technology, the braille, it was all there.  

Season 2? Did not.  

Matt’s faith came up sporadically, and Father Latte’s one appearance had horrible theology.  I’m pretty sure it’s a heresy somewhere.  (”Why do I feel guilty?” BECAUSE YOU NEED TO GO TO CONFESSION. THAT HELPS. AND GO TO ADORATION AND MASS) Matt in the law was non existent.  And they relied WAY too much on his senses to the point it felt more like Matt was PRETENDING to be blind than how he was actually.

“But Mina” you may say. “Didn’t the story they told not allow for any of these options?”

To which I respond, these things are constants. Through any story. Yes, Elektra’s job is to erase Matt Murdock. Yes, he couldn’t sense the Hand.  

But there are other things too.  Things that COULD be done.  

Elektra alleges that the people owning her money are Yakuza, so Matt uses the law to track it down. In that, he needs Braille documents and screen readers.  Daredevil could still be there in the end, but Matt Murdock brings it forward.

Matt returns to Father Latte, explaining what Elektra is doing, and at what point is he complicit in sin?  Father Latte follows up the advice with braille prayer card.

Matt repeats this conversation, but about Frank Castle, who is very clearly not doing this in self defense. And even if he’s trying to get Frank to stop, if he’s defending him in court when he KNOWS what is going on, where does that leave him morality wise? 

How much better, and more interesting, would the season have been if the writers remembered that Matthew Murdock - the Blind, Catholic, Lawyer - is why people flocked to Season 1.

Not just Daredevil.