what girls don't understand about boys

I don't think people who say we're overreacting about Wonder Woman understand

When you’re a girl, you don’t get to see women be cool, not as often as boys get to see men be cool.

You don’t get to see them fly and fight bad guys and be people you want to BE, do you know what I mean?

Guys get the cool super powers and girls get romance subplots.

Girls with powers are reduced to smaller roles and we have to make up fanfics and extended material that makes them the main character cuz male writers don’t need them for anything but romance plots.

Just look at girls on Tumblr.

Obsessed with white males.

Love em.

Can’t get enough of that white guy named Chris.


I assume because they’re attractive in every socially constructed way.

And because they get to be the telekinetic, edgy angsty guy whose mom died who deserves all of our sympathy and attention.

So when people say Wonder Woman is a great movie but people are exaggerating how important it is that she be a role model, or that girls should look up to their mothers…

Like you don’t get how cool it is to be able to see someone like you do cool stuff. Your mom is great but she’s mundane, no offense to mothers. She’s not magical, she’s the kind of person you don’t appreciate until you’re older. And she’s not the type of person EVERYONE knows and recognizes and looks up to. Wonder Woman is, well now she really is. And she’s visible, she’s much more tangible, as fictional characters always ARE to mainstream audiences. So little girls get to see this awesome fictional lady…

-and you don’t have to pretend you’re a guy.

You don’t have to pretend that you’re not different from the people we’ve been told are the “desirable” people to be.

Wonder Woman is not only a great movie and a lovely social commentary.

But on a basic level, the more subconscious level of internalized feelings, of self identity and self love ?

I mean, are you a heartless monster or do you really have a problem with girls, and boys too, seeing a woman kick ass and not be the object of desire.

But the person everyone wants to be?

You show girls that they can be awesome, that they have more of a role in human existence than just being shallow love interests and you show boys that there are women they can look up to.

You got this larger than life woman acting as an icon for everyone, and for ONCE, this icon is female. Yes, the human race is represented, and idealized, in super heroes. Who are often male. Which says that our idealized self…is male.

So Wonder Woman being an idealistic superhero, our perfect self, the human shaped being we want to be…well. She’s female and BY WANTING TO BE HER…we say that there is nothing wrong with being female.

And yes yes yes yes argue that they have real life women they could look up to.

But do you really think most little boys want to learn about Madam Curie or Queen Isabella or Antoinette?

That’s boring history stuff.

Wonder Woman reaches a huge audience.

She’s more tangible, for children that is.

She feels more real than stuffy historical figures.

Stop acting like Wonder Woman being a role model is to be underplayed or devalued.

It’s important for people to feel EXCITED and exhilarated by a super hero who’s not a straight white snarky nihilistic male.

It gets their dusty little hearts beating and their minds thinking, hopefully.

Will it change anything politically, no.

Wonder Woman can’t impeach trump unfortunately.

But can it change how girls see themselves, how boys see women, how people look at what it means to be human?

Well maybe.

So TL;DR- shut up. Wonder Woman is amazing. And shame on you for trying to take her away from children, you’re a menace and I need to talk to you, adult to adult.


Let’s take a time to talk about this part of the movie?

First of all, let’s appreciate how they laugh together. Adorable.

Let’s remember, Gaston was going through a bad time after being rejected by Belle. He was frustrated, and his (stupid) huge self esteem was shaken.
But then comes Lefou and cheers him up until he’s laughing again. We can see how Lefou affects Gaston’s mood (later, on the nose-booping scene, he even tranquilizes Gaston for a moment - which doesn’t last,but still).

What I mean is: no one has THIS power over Gaston. 
Gaston even says “You’re the best” to him (can we even imagine Gaston saying that to anything besides a mirror?).
And I don’t think this was a “you kiss my ass, so I like you” compliment. I mean, Gaston even asked how Lefou wasn’t dating any girl, so I understand he really saw the boy as a good company even when he was not singing about how great Gaston is.

Then I’m here to say
No one makes Gaston love a person (other than himself) like Lefou.

anonymous asked:

Do you have penis, or a vagina? I don't seem to understand why many genderfluid people seem to get angered at the question, like are you that angered by people knowing what you pee with? Seriously, ask me if I have a vagina and my answer will be yes, there's no debate about it. Why is it such a big deal for you folks??

it’s an annoying question because you’re really just saying “haha ok so you’re nonbinary but like are you REALLY a boy or girl???” it’s annoying because me saying “im genderfluid” should be the end of it, it should be enough for you. you wouldn’t ask a stranger who introduces themselves as male or female “omg but WHAT DO YOU PEE WITH” -at least, you wouldn’t unless you had reason to suspect they were trans, or were 5 years old and had a childish urge to inappropriately talk loudly about peeing and genitalia. seriously, among people that are all assumed to be cis, this topic never comes up! know why? cause there’s absolutely no reason you would need to know what someone’s genitals look like unless you’re assuming it determines their gender, and you’re taking it upon yourself to do just that. you want me to either tell you i have a dick or tell you i have a vagina so that you can tell yourself “oh ok so they’re really male/female!” and completely ignore the fact that i already told you i’m genderfluid.

it’s invasive. it’s rude. it’s transphobic. we get angry when you ask because it’s a dumbass, disrespectful question. we don’t have to tell you shit about our bodies. mind your damn business

The gender reveal
  • (The year is 2017; Harry and Draco, aged 37, find themselves at a gender reveal party.)
  • Draco: I don't understand this at all, Potter.
  • Harry, sighing: It's George's newest bestseller. St Mungo's sends WWW the fetus's sex and they magic fireworks to reveal the news. Blue fireworks for boy, pink for girl.
  • Draco: I know that. What I don't understand is why.
  • Harry: It's insane. That's why you don't understand. And another thing! It's not a "gender" reveal. It's a "sex" reveal.
  • Draco, raising an eyebrow: You and Hermione need to stop reading those Witch and Gender Studies books.
  • Harry: I'm serious! All they know is whether the baby will come out with a penis!
  • Draco: Admittedly, an important factor. Oh Salazar, look. We are not playing this game, Harry.
  • Harry: What are they doing?!
  • Draco: I think they're Charming one team blue and one team pink and having them race? This is so undignified. Quick, Disillusion me. Did you bring your Cloak?
  • Harry: Shut up. What I don't understand is, who cares if they have a boy or a girl?
  • Draco: Say what you want about Pureblood traditions, Potter. Call us regressive. Call us bigoted. We would never tolerate this nonsense. Only you barmy progressives could come up with something so preposterous.
  • Harry: Oh bloody hell. Now they have pink and blue cakes and we're supposed to guess the sex by way of eating cake.
  • Draco: Can I demand a blue cake with pink frosting?
  • Harry, laughing: Yes! Let's do it! Let's sneak up and Transfigure them! You make the blue frosting pink on yours. I'm going to make my whole cake rainbow. Can I write "Queer AF" on top? That's what the kids say these days, right?
  • Draco, smirking: Oh, I dare you. If you actually do that, I will do the dishes for a month.
  • ....... Five minutes later......
  • Harry, grimacing: I've never seen a grandmother so angry.
  • Draco, scowling: I've never been accused of brainwashing a fetus before.
  • Harry: Do you think we can leave yet?
  • Draco: Potter, you are the most conspicuous guest at any gathering. No, I don't think we can sneak out before the penis-status announcement.
  • Harry: Have I mentioned how stupid I think this is.
  • Draco: A few hundred times. And though you know I agree with you, you need to stop whining about it.
  • Harry, smirking: Make me, Malfoy.
  • *Heated snogging*
  • Draco: Oh good, here comes the announcement about the presence or absence of the fetus vagina.
  • Harry, snickering: I don't think I've ever heard you say the word 'vagina' before.
  • Draco: Well, it's not in my general vocabulary.
  • Harry: Thank Merlin for that. ... Oh God, here it comes.
  • *Fireworks*
  • Draco: Annnnnnnnnd the fetus has a penis.
  • Harry: I don't understand how I'm supposed to be feeling right now. Am I supposed to be happy?
  • Draco: I don't know. Salazar. I am NOT wearing one of those "It's a Wizard!" hats.
  • Harry: Can we leave yet?
  • Draco: Yes, thank Merlin.
  • Harry: Do we have to say goodbye?
  • Draco: You have absolutely no manners.
  • Harry: Well what the fuck am I supposed to say? Glad to hear your fetus has a cock?
  • Draco: Just shut your mouth and I will do the pleasantries for both of us, then we can go home and I'll show you what else has a cock.
  • Harry, leering: Can we do a reveal with fireworks?
  • LGBT+ Fan: Hey so here are some ideas on how RT can add LGBT+ characters. Some don't really focus on romance, some do, but all in all these are just simple ways to add characters and not make a big fuss about it. We just liked to see ourselves on screen for once, that's all.

anonymous asked:

hi, different anon! is it ok if i ask s/t related? even though trans girls are definitely oppressed before they come out, doesn't society still award them advantages because they are seen as cis boys? like as a queer cis girl, i try (to the best of my ability) empathize w how an intolerant society can harm u even before u know who u are, but what about the external, concrete opportunities and freedoms society gives boys? i really don't want to belittle transphobia i just want to understand!

this is an interesting question!

in essence, no, society does not award trans girls advantages when we are seen as cis boys, as this is ignoring a direct part of our identities. hell, i’m sure if i just rejumbled the words involved here you could easily see how this kind of idea is harmful - imagine i said “society rewards trans girls for staying in the closet and being misgendered”. if anything, it is fake-rewarding us for rejecting an integral part of our identities.

for example, as a queer cis girl, i am sure you are aware that straight people have advantages over non-straight people - even when non-straight people are still in the closet. gay people in the closet are treated like straight people, sure, but one wrong move and BLAM you get hit up with that good ol’ homophobia. essentially, since these “awards” come as part of ignoring somebody’s identity and heteronormativity (or, in this case, cisnormativity), it’s actually pretty harmful.

in fact, i’d argue it’s even worse for trans girls to experience this, because these “awards” exist solely on the premise that we are men - which is, at its core, absolutely misgendering us. individual people may treat us differently because we are perceived as men, but this is actually really really detrimental to our mental health, and is a facet of transmisogyny. it encourages us to perform masculinity and “act as men” which, obviously, is incredibly harmful to us.

good question, though!

anonymous asked:

Oh okay, sorry! I have an alien character who was born on an insect planet where the ratio is 90% female and 10% Male. Females are much more colorful than males too. He is a male, but due to a genetic anomaly he has bright colors and although I hate saying this, he looks like a female. I don't know how to address this, but what should I say about his gender? I'm sorry if this is rude too.

Gender is whatever your character feels, it’s separate from sex. If I understand this right, you have a male character, who by genetic anomaly looks like a female. But the key word here is looks. So they have functioning male parts. If the society is anything like ours, they’d be assigned male. So if your character believes they’re a boy, they’d be a boy. But if they say they’re a girl, they’d be a trans girl (if she wants to use the word trans), but a girl nonetheless. And same thing for nonbinary

Please correct/inform me if I’ve said anything wrong.

Edit: Hey guys! Thanks for the comments. I definitely wasn’t thinking wide enough and completely left out the possibility of being intersex. I apologize for that. Though while what I said above still stands, I agree with commenters that this seems more likely. That is if the society does things similar to how we do.

in case you don’t know.. bringing up or asking about what a trans person looked like pre-physical transition (i.e. “so what was your name when you were a [insert gender assigned at birth]?”) is extremely rude and just shouldn’t ever be done unless the two of you are very close and/or you’ve been given explicit permission to dive into that time of their life

anonymous asked:

thinking about piper making it to calypso's island instead omg WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO ME. could you please make some headcanons on how this plays out? take your time and if you don't have ideas you can just skip this. I understand your inbox is flooded-- goodluck! thank you sophii xx

I did one yesterday (?) that was more brotp but this is.. not that lmao 

  • Calypso’s first thought was that she had forgotten how soft girls were 
  • her second thought was “wow" 
  • Piper had been on her island for two days and Calypso couldn’t remember the last time she had felt such pure joy 
  • Piper told her all about her life, including a boy that seemed to have her heart, and Calypso thought maybe her arrival was a mistake 
  • but then they kissed and all of Calypso’s doubts were erased 
  • Piper backed up hurriedly, cheeks painted pink and mumbling apologies 
  • Calypso took her by the hand and looked her in the eyes, “It’s ok.” 
  • she then led Piper down to her garden, handing her a basket and instructing her to pick anything that seemed fresh 
  • they started gardening and slipped back into conversation as easily as they had when Piper first arrived 
  • Calypso asked questions about the outside world, wanting every detail she could squeeze out of Piper who answered patiently and explained things as best she could 
  • then there was a bit of a lull in the conversation
  • “What is it like, Calypso?” 
  • Calypso looked up from her work trying to understand the question, “What is what like?” 
  • “This. Ogygia. Falling in love knowing it will only end in heartbreak.” 
  • “Shouldn’t a daughter of Aphrodite know that most love ends in heartbreak, one way or another,” Calypso said with a sad smile 
  • Piper maintained eye contact with Calypso, unwavering and determined to get a straight answer 
  • there was a long pause before Calypso took a sharp breath, “Mostly… it feels like disappointment. No matter how much I try to harden myself, harden my heart, it always seems to break open. Heroes wash up on my shore and I take care of them, feed them, clothe them, and before I know it they’re in my heart and then they’re gone. But I’m not sure they ever really leave. My heart, I mean. The worst part is I… I want to be in love but now..” 
  • “But now what?” 
  • Calypso looked up shyly and found Piper’s eyes encouraging her 
  • “I don’t think I want to love a person anymore,” she exhaled. “Even as I sit here falling in love with you what I really want is to live. I want to feel different sand between my toes and a different breeze in my hair; I want to wander forests and mountains and fall in love with being alive. For so long, the only thing that has changed is the hero I watch sail into the horizon but I want so much more for myself.” 
  • Piper sidled over to Calypso and intertwined their hands
  • Calyspo closed her eyes, enjoying the sensation of Piper’s warmth; the softness of her bare shoulder against her own; the innocent feeling of having someone’s hand wrapped around yours 
  • “You’re nothing but trouble, Piper McLean,” she whispered. 
  • she could sense Piper’s smile even with her eyes closed 
  • “Believe it or not, you’re not the first person to tell me that.” 

anonymous asked:

Ah I just got to Kiri's hero debut and can I say... I am WEAK for Kirishima with his hair half spiked up, half disheveled and falling all over his face from the battle while wearing that big, genuine, bright smile of his. What did we do to deserve this boy? Bakugou and Denki are such lucky boyfriends.

I KNOW RIGHT he’s such a gorgeous boy???? Most beautiful manly man I’ve ever seen ever??? with his bright smile and huge eyes and long lashes more like rip me I’m every day grateful Kirishima Eijirou is a thing that exists

anonymous asked:

hey i just wanted to vent sorry. as a young lesbian trying to accept myself, particularly that i don't like boys, is really hard, and it screws me up when bi/pan etc girls make art/poems/post about not liking boys- at all. like i get wlw solidarity and bonding over liking girls, but it just makes me uncomfy when a bi girl is like "hahahha that relatable feel when your mom asks about boyfriends *eyeroll* " like? bi/pan girls can have boyfriends? sigh idk what to do it just makes me feel shitty

I understand why you feel like you do because it can make you question whether or not you’re really actually a lesbian. But also try to understand that they’re reacting to heterosexism and misogyny. It’s okay for it to annoy you–but it’s also okay for them to talk about these feelings, too. Plus, a lot of us were once bi girls complaining about being expected to like men, lol.

anonymous asked:

I understand what that anon was trying to say, but c'mon, think about the qualities these boys want. For one, they eat a SHIT TON! Do you really think they'll want an IG model who won't even eat that? 😂😂 they really are ADVENTUROUS guys! Unless you're the kinda girl who doesn't want to try new things--then yeah, maybe you don't have a shot. But as for race, we all got a chance if our personalities and vibes are what they're looking for ☺️ (sorry this got looong)

I feel you 100%! & tbh whether they date an IG model, a Youtuber, a fan, or whoever for that matter, we should be happy regardless! As long as their happy thats all that matters! I hate how people make race such a big deal! We’re all equal! Nobody is better, or prettier, or have a better chance because of what race they are. 

[160103 FAN ACCOUNT] Jungkook
  • Fan: Where do you want to go first when you get your license?
  • Jungkook: Sea!
  • Fan: With who?
  • Jungkook: With the hyung members~
  • Fan: When you were shooting the MV for HYYH, you went to the sea and worked right?
  • Jungkook: (Yes.) But we weren't really able to swim.
  • Fan: I see~
  • Jungkook: Jeju! I really want to go to Jeju!
  • Fan: Oh, go ahead then! But you have to borrow a car, though.
  • Jungkook: Yes, and this time I'd be the one who will drive it!
  • Fan: Really? Noona actually rode a motorcycle.
  • Jungkook: Riding a motorcycle is very dangerous! Don't ride!
  • Fan: Dangerous?ㅋㅋ
  • Jungkook: Yes! Dangerous so don't ride!
  • Fan: I understand~
  • Jungkook: But really noona, riding a motorcycle as a girl...
  • Fan: (thinking, 'jungkook-ah please don't talk about what each gender should do instead ㅠㅠ')
  • Jungkook: IS REALLY COOL! ㅇ0ㅇ
  • Fan: (in relief)
  • Jungkook: SO COOL!!
  • Fan: Thank you~
  • trans. @sugaxing
  • cr. -某霏-
Imagine Mark looking for a roommate...
  • Mark: Okay! Thank you for coming in to this little interview I've prepared. I'm just gonna ask you a few questions, and we'll go from there. Sound good?
  • Person: Sure.
  • Mark: Alrighty! First Question! Have you ever heard of Super Mario Maker?
  • Person: Uh, I've heard of Super Mario Bros...
  • Mark: That wasn't the question.
  • Person: Uh, well, I guess, no?
  • Mark: Oaky Doke! Next question! Do loud noises tend to scare you?
  • Person: I don't mind loud noises.
  • Mark: And I'm talking, really, really loud noises. There will be constant screaming throughout the day. Will that be a problem?
  • Person: Wait, wha-
  • Mark: NEXT QUESTION! Who would you say is your least favourite character off Five Nights at Freddys?
  • Person: What...?
  • Mark: Is it balloon boy? Cause, God, Do I hate ballon boy.
  • Person: I don't understand. What even is-
  • Mark: NEEEXT QUESTION! Are you familiar with a game that requires you to be a piece of bread?
  • Person: Oh, come on. Is that even real?
  • Mark: How about a socipathical school girl?
  • Person: A WHAT?!
  • Mark: Next question. TOP OF THE MORNING TO YA LADDIES!
  • Person: That wasn't even a question!
  • Mark: Sorry, but you will need to be prepared.
  • Person: For what?!
  • Mark: Deranged Irishmen. Next question!
  • Person: No! What is with all the weird ass questions? I thought you'd be asking something normal, like how my hygiene standards are, or if I have a criminal record.
  • Mark: Okay, okay, I see where you're coming from. Just thought I'd get the more ridiculous questions out of the way...
  • Person: Oh, thank god.
  • Mark: Okay, how about this? How are your feelings towards dogs?
  • Person: I'm allergic.
  • Mark: Get the fuck out of my house.

anonymous asked:

Can you explain to me the difference in symptoms between boys and girls? I have heard that there is a difference, but I do not know what it is. My parents are very familiar and comfortable with the common picture of what add is (like the little boy bouncing off the walls and not being able to focus) because my brother was like that, but I don't understand what personality or behavior traits go with add?

Here’s a really great article about what all three subtypes of ADHD can look like in girls. Girls are generally socialized to be more compliant, to not stand out, and to put others’ needs before their own, which can put a damper on certain kinds of hyperactive behavior that ADHD boys may display. It doesn’t mean that a girl will not display hyperactive behavior, but that it will look different—she’s more likely to speak out of turn and ask to go to the bathroom five times a day than she is to climb on top of a bookcase and jump off in the midde of class. This social pressure leads to adolescent girls with ADHD being at risk for depression and suicide because they are constantly suppressing their impulses and still not living up to their expectations for themselves.

Many researchers say that women and girls are more likely to have primarily inattentive ADHD than men and boys are, but I’m not completely sure about that. Besides the gender-specific socialization, girls and women are usually diagnosed later than boys and men, and obvious hyperactive behavior usually fades with age. For example, I was diagnosed with primarily inattentive type at 17, but that diagnosis didn’t fit me very well. I was the Chatty Cathy that the article at the top talks about, and I’ve actually never had a big problem with inattention. (Forgetfulness, yes, but not inattention.) Later, I was diagnosed again using an objective computer test that doesn’t see gender, and the verdict was combined type.

One thing that should be studied in girls and women with ADHD but hasn’t been studied much is the influence of the lovely monthly hormonal cycle. The above article reports that menstruating girls and women with ADHD often report PMS/PMT and that their ADHD symptoms get worse right before menstruation. (This blog has answered many asks over the years from people who feel like their symptoms fluctuate with their menstrual cycle.)

I hope this helps. I focused on the ADHD issues for women and girls because you mentioned that you are already familiar with the ADHD narrative for boys.


A conversation between a Slytherin girl and a Gryffindor boy (Crushes)
  • Gryffindor: *Blushing* He-Hey, can you help me with this potion? I really don't understand it.
  • Slytherin: *Blushes* Oh, yeah, sure. Where are you?
  • Gryffindor: *Points to a step in the book* About right here.
  • Slytherin: *Nods* Oh, I see what you did wrong. Can you hand me the bottle to your left?
  • Gryffindor: *Thinking* She's so smart...
  • Gryffindor: *Grabs bottle* Here you are. *Tries to give Slytherin the bottle, but their hands brush and they both jump* Shit! *Tries to grab the falling bottle* *Clumsily grabs bottle and quickly gives it to the Slytherin club* ...Here. *Blushes*
  • Slytherin: *Thinking* He's so funny...
  • Slytherin: *Laughs lightly* Thank you.
  • Gryffindor: *Laughs and rubs the back of his neck* It's never a problem.
  • Slytherin: *Smiles* Same goes for me.

anonymous asked:

Warrens s/o being so done. Warren is literally those white boy memes you see. so the mansion has a big no boy& girl in the same room after curfew because he does not need the children doing the do. so Warren&s/o are texting & warrens like wyd babe&they are like about to shower &he's like and what would you do if I was there ;). and they are so done because wtf Warren I'd take a damn shower why are you like this. you don't understand Warren is such a white boy meme when it came to texting his s/o

I just sent in a thing about Warren would literally be a white boy meme when it came to texting but then I started thinking about Hank.but instead his s/o would would white boy (even if they weren’t a boy lmao) the fuck out of him and tell him bad pick up lines and he’s so done like poor Hank is trying to sleep but s/o wants to tell pick up lines and make bad dad jokes and he’s so v much done with everything.


anonymous asked:

im not trying to be offensive or anything but i don't understand how pidge can be a transgirl? can you explain this to me? i personally think pidge is a trans boy but im v curious about what ppl who think they're a trans girl think about it?

Okay so, headcanoning pidge as a trans boy basically makes the rest of the voltron crew massive transphobes and it completely disrespects pidges identity

•she literally came out as a girl, it took her a lot of guts to tell them this and she thinks that this is an important fact for them to know in order to be true to herself

•when she comes out coran says “were we supposed to think you were a boy?” Which would be so fucking transphobic if pidge was a trans boy, it’s basically saying “you don’t pass well” and it’s gross

• literally everyone except lance was like “ :) I figured you were actually a girl” which is nasty nasty nasty if pidge was a trans boy

•the whole reason behind the trans boy pidge headcanon is because she said “im a girl” and y'all just assume girl automatically means assigned female at birth which is… disgusting

•in the flashbacks we see of her joining the garrison she looks emotionally pained to have to cut her hair and pretend to be a boy, a CIS boy at that. When she is not.

•if you hc her as a trans boy then that means you headcanon that shiro straight up deadnames and misgenders her and acts as if it’s some sort of forbidden secret, which again, would make shiro a massive transphobe


ok but why is ishida a doctor

why is chad using his powers for entertainment and violence

wtf happened to isshin and ryuuken

where is urahara and yoruichi

what about my arrancar bbys grimmjow and nel

why are there so many plotholes why did orihime get pregnant that young they have to still be in their 20’s that means they had children when they were like 17 or 18 wtf why did homeboy ichigo marry a girl he’s never shown interest in why did homegirl rukia marry a boy she’s never shown interest in

i’m so salty about this ending holy fuck is this god’s punishment for rewarding me with sasusaku