A tip to people trying to express their condolences to the grieving:
“You’re so much stronger than me, I would have never survived losing my ____.”
Don’t. Fucking. Say. This. To. A. Grieving. Person.
You know what we hear when people say that to us?
“I love my ____ more than you do.”
“If you’re not completely shattered or trying to kill yourself after this loss, you didn’t love them enough.”
“One day you’ll get over this because you’re doing okay now.”
Fuck you. Don’t fucking say this to me or any grieving person.
What choice do we have but to keep going? Why is it that if we’re not performing out grief to your standards it somehow means that our loss doesn’t wound us as deeply as it would you? You have no idea what is going on inside of us or how hard it is to put one foot in front of the other, it’s not an indication that we don’t want to rip this world apart because of what happened to our loved one.
I want to bail from this piece of shit planet every day because he’s not here.
But what choice do I have? Seriously?
Like god I know people say this shit without thinking but for the love of fuck, THINK.