heyyyyy guys. i just wanna talk to you for a while.
part of the reason i went on hiatus has to do with the roleplay community right now. uh, i guess, i’ve been a bit shook by a lot of things going on. i mean, certainly some of the things that some people in our community have done, but there’s been more than enough call out posts & shit regarding those people and what they’ve done. i’m not in that business. what i want to talk about is the responses to them.
i’ve seen so many death threats, death wishes, just horrible things in response. and it just makes me so uncomfortable. especially when, in some cases, the only thing stating someone has done anything at all is one person’s word against another. i don’t think having the moral high-ground gives you any rite to literally harass or bully anybody, even if you think you are in the right to do so because they have done something awful themselves. i’ve seen people doxxed, threatened with violence or murder, bullied, abused, pushed out, hacked, sometimes as revenge for wrongs, sometimes as part of a witch hunt.
i don’t think any of this is okay and it makes me scared, and it makes me question my place in this community and the people around me because even making this post, right now, makes me nervous, because how dare i have a descanting opinion, right?
in terms of actual crimes, i would advise you, to the best of your ability, to report them. if this crime did not happen to you but you have evidence, also report it. because it might be the case that the victim doesn’t feel able to report the crime themselves. this might be reporting to tumblr, but it might be reporting to the police. It is not for us to decide guilt or innocence, it has to be passed on to relevant authorities, for the sake of everyone involved in the situation. This isn’t anyone being horrible or unsupportive. It is totally and utterly possble to be supportive and help people find help without resorting to vigilante justice, so to speak.
I am not, however, against call-out posts in general. I believe that a lot of these are done with no malicious intent. I believe a lot of them are done with the intention of warning other people against people who have done things that might hurt them. But in some cases, call out posts are not relevant. A lot of people turn personal spats in this community into huge witch hunts and it comes down to who made the call out post first.
and then i come on to the point about forgiving people. this is a difficult point. i am not in any way saying you must forgive someone if you have been a victim of their behaviour, or even if you’ve heard about it and it’s disgusted, sickened, or annoyed you depending on the seriousness of the situation. forgiveness is hard, and it’s personal. no one should be telling you who you can or can’t forgive or when you have too.
however, i do feel there is a very all or nothing culture on tumblr. We seem to be told that, if someone has done anything bad online, then they can never come back from that. how, then, do they grow as a person? how do they ever try to be better? only by taking people who’ve made mistakes, or even done terrible things on purpose, and helping them to learn and grow can we actually evolve our community.
and that doesn’t mean you have to be part of that, if you simply can not. your reasons are your own, and they are valid. this is not in any way shaming you if you don’t feel able or don’t want too. it also does not apply to any crimes committed that require jail time, and actual profession help that we, as people on the internet, can not offer.
but i do want to question this culture. i’m sure we’re all done something wrong in our lives. i’m sure we’ve all got into an argument with our friends. and obviously, the seriousness of events varies greatly depending on the event itself and what happened. but second chances, a bit of mercy, taking the time to think about the situation and maybe detach yourself, realise that you don’t know what’s going on and you can’t know because you weren’t involved, why are these things that we shy away from here on tumblr?
so if you read this and think I disagree, and I don’t wanna forgive anyone who’s hurt me or people I know, I understand. I’d never judge you. but if you read this and it actually makes you think about how you take things on the dash in and deal with people, then… at least there’s that.
i think there’s also something to be said for how we respond to each other just having opinions. like, why, is there anything i should fear about writing this post? and yet, here i am, shaking. because i worry people will try to look for negativity in it. I worry that people’s disagreement with me will lead to threats of violence. I worry about a lot of things, to be honest. I see people so often on this website having disagreements that go far beyond civil debate, or agreeing to disagree. we should feel free, here. and i bet a lot of us don’t.
i love this community, i do. and i feel that anger, too, when I know someone who’s been hurt. that’s why I’m not going to judge anyone, because it’s a loving, protective instinct, to want to make sure your community is better. but that’s not all there is here.
anyway, this is dragging on. please have a lovely day.