what boys think about girls

We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.
—  Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists

i fucking hate it when people say that people who have had an abortion are heartless and cruel
you really think it’s easy for someone to go through something like that? i was pressured to go through with mine. i cried my eyes out for weeks straight. it was excruciating, both physically and mentally. you know what? maybe it was for the best. i wasn’t mentally or financially stable, and my child would of had an AWFUL life. im still not stable.
almost two years later and i still have nightmares. i still cry into my pillow thinking about what a beautiful boy/girl that i would of had. it still hurts seeing people with babies because of the flashbacks I get from that awful experience.
it absolutely kills me to see people call women who have had to go through such an experience disgusting. you have NO idea how hard it is. NO FUCKING IDEA.
don’t you fucking dare tell me that I’m heartless for having an abortion. fuck pro lifers.

I'm very proud of my 12-year-old brother right now.
  • Me: What do you think about gay people?
  • Him: They chill bruh.
  • Me: What do you think about straight people?
  • Him: They chill bruh.
  • Me: What does bisexual mean?
  • Him: They like girls and boys.
  • Me: What do you think about that?
  • Him: That’s chill bruh.
  • Me: What about pansexuals?
  • Him: What the hell is that?
  • Me: They are attracted to pans. Kitchenware.
  • Him: Okay, I’m pansexual.
  • Me: Haha, no, it means they’re attracted to all the people. Like boys and girls and everyone in between.
  • Him: That’s chill bruh, but also what.
  • Me: Well do you know what transgender is?
  • Him: Yeah, like if you’re born a boy and you want to be a girl. Or if you’re born a girl and you want to be a boy.
  • Me: Is that okay?
  • Him: That’s chill bruh.
  • Me: So, if Carlos (his best friend) came up to you and said ‘I think I want to be a girl, can you call me by girl pronouns?’ What would you do?
  • Him: I’d call him a girl name and buy him makeup because he wouldn't be a pretty girl, but whatever.
  • Me: Okay, so what about genderqueer?
  • Him: What.
  • Me: It's when someone doesn't feel like a girl or a boy.
  • Him: Like an alien?
  • Me: No, like if they don't want to be identified as a girl or a boy and they want to be called by neither; by they/them pronouns instead of he or she.
  • Him: *confusion*
  • Me: *explains again*
  • Him: Okay.
  • Me: So if Carlos said he doesn't feel like a boy or girl and wanted to be called they/them, is that cool?
  • Him: Yeah, that’s chill bruh.
  • Me: So do you get pansexual now?
  • Him: Yeah, I think so.
  • Me: What about bootysexual?
  • Him: MY ANACONDA DONT WANT NONE UNLESS YOU GOT BUNS HUN
  • Me: Out.

friendly reminder that Harry was thinking about Luna while under the mistletoe with Cho.

Kento-kun's fetish

(Mail: I really love to pretending as a boy, I love wearing boy’s clothes too. I don’t have any skirt other than my seifuku. My friends often said “We understand that you look so ikemen, but sometimes we want to see you in girl’s cute clothes too”. What do you think about a girl who love to wear boy’s clothes?)
Mari: “I don’t really mind. Somehow, but, as example, a person like Kento-kun…”
Sou: “Un?” /giggled/
Mari: “He will "Eh…” I think. Because he often sees legs…“
Sou: /giggled/ "Ah, because he has a legs fetish.”
Mari: “He really loves legs.”
Sou: “He really loves legs which are not covered with anything.”
(QRZone, 3 May 2015)

anonymous asked:

Hello, lovely 💕 What do you think about a girl confessing to a boy? I'd not see him for about two months (bc summer vacations) and I want to get over him just after confessing. But I've never liked a boy before (I am 20 y.o), I want to be mature enough and I don't want to put pressure on him bc we are good classmates (and friends)

If you haven’t seen him all summer I’d give it some time. See if the feelings are still there when you meet up again etc. (unless you have talked) Just to make things a little less nerve wrecking maybe?? However of course you can confess your crush regardless of gender! If you like someone you can tell them when the time is right for you :)

We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons.
—  We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie

THIS FRIDAY IS GOING TO BE SO EVENTFUL!

1. SKAM KARAOKE CLIP
2. It’s my LAST day of school (and I’m gonna spend the whole day with my class. First we are gathering at school, then we are going to have lunch, then dinner and then we are going clubbing..)
3. Harry’s album release!

How the hell am I going to watch the clip?? I’ve been waiting for it for so long AND IT COMES OUT ON THE BUSIEST DAY OF MY LIFE! PLUS I don’t have fast 3G ‘cause I used up all of my 15GB of fast data… fml

Apparently, there’s going to be a wedding event in FE Heroes

Please please please please please please please please let there be grooms this time, IntSys!

I mean like… do you see how fucking sparkly and shit this dress is?  Well, imagine the suit equivalent of that.  Well, I’d fucking wear that because I want to be sparkly and fabulous without being a garbage vampire.

Also, boys, think about it.  What girl/boy/person of non-binary gender identity wouldn’t want to see you in a suit?  Gotta put some fanservice on for your SO’s after all~  People go nucking futs for good-looking dudes (and girls, and people of non-binary gender identities) in sharp suits.

I am Bi. Why you ask? Because I like boys and girls. Nah, that answer is too simple. I am Bi, because I am. Because boys are boys and girls are girls (sometimes boys are girls and the other way around or neither, but that’s beside the point). Oh man, the times I wished I was completely gay or for that part even straight. But you can’t ask me to pick just one. Reason? Just think about it. What makes you like a boy or a girl? Exactly! That’s what I love about them too. It’s like asking me whether I like the red juice better than the yellow one, when I made it very clear that they taste the exact same to me. 

I wrote this a year ago. I struggled with all of the things for such a long time. All of a sudden I’m realizing that this journey was a long and hard road. And it’s like it’s finally coming to an end. I know it’s never over. Coming out is a thing that always needs to be done. And it will. And I will always be proud of being LGBTQIAA+. This is my community. And I will always fight for them. Hopefully, one day, one day, when I’m old and grey. This. All of this. Will have been for the better. No matter how bad it made me feel, emotionally. The hurt it brought to my body. No matter. I’ll be proud. Forever. - Lots of love, JustScreamEmison 

anonymous asked:

What if Damian was a girl

Boy I think about that a lot.

Damian being a girl is popular on AO3. I don’t think the dynamic would change, or the sex drive; just the type and aspect. Maybe Bruce is a little bit softer out of habit? I’ll probably write fem!Dami, now that I think about it!

anonymous asked:

I'm a 17 year old boy and I'm concerned about what girls think of my penis if someone could just help me by telling me what they think a penis should be like and what they prefer and all that shit

I mean i could but dude, im one person and i can bet we aint gonna fuck lol my opinion (or anyones for that matter) doesnt matter. The only one that does is yours.

THE COLLEGE GIRL MENTALITY

A zine inspired by Sylvia Plath

Every now and then, that screencap of Annie Hall appears on my dash where Woody Allen’s character describes Sylvia Plath as the “interesting poetess whose tragic suicide was misinterpreted as romantic by the college-girl mentality”. 

I  ranted about this on twitter yesterday (like here and here) but it also inspired me to start working on this zine. This introductory post is essentially an expanded version of the thoughts I shared on twitter.

First of all, fuck Woody Allen. To briefly mimic him: the well-known creep whose abusive behaviour is defended by the pretentious college boy mentality. To be honest, I don’t give a shit what Woody Allen, or really any boys, think about Sylvia Plath. Or what they think about teenage girls admiring her. (“Out of the ash I rise with my red hair and I eat men like air.”)  How come the authors and poets teen girls like are mocked, but the idols of teen boys (Salinger, Kerouac, etc) aren’t? Oh wait, we all know why.

Secondly, what exactly is the “college girl mentality”? Oh right, it’s the fact that a lot of teenage girls relate to Sylvia Plath and engage with her work. I think there are definitely misinterpretations of Plath, but instead of pinning it on girls, I think it’s from people who reduce her entire legacy to her suicide.

It’s also ridiculous to be dismissive of teenage girls admiring Plath because it completely glosses over the fact that a lot of Plath’s life and writing was influenced by the male-dominated society she lived in.

For instance, Buddy Willard in The Bell Jar is a figure who constantly belittles Esther Greenwood, trivialising her feelings and her work. Saying girls are “romanticising” Plath (and implying her suicide is the only reason girls are interested in her work) is regurgitating the same idea that what women think and feel is unimportant and insignificant. 

When I read her work, I feel understood. 50 years after her death, her writing  speaks to the issues girls still deal with: misogynistic attitudes that constantly want to tear them down, issues with mental illness, trying to discover their identities and work out which path they want to take.

To sum up the questions that are driving this project:

  • What is the college-girl mentality?
  • Why do girls still identify with Plath?

Regarding the latter point, I’m particularly interested in exploring the following areas: 

  • Facing sexism
  • Writing poetry
  • Dealing with mental health issues
  • Studying literature, especially attitudes towards the male authors who are seen as the “classical greats” 
  • Attending university (in particular, women’s colleges, such as Smith and Newnham College, Cambridge)
  • Issues of identity - Plath was a white, middle-class, American woman, how do other groups of women identity with her work (if they do at all)?
  • &etc

You don’t have to necessarily be studying English Literature or know every single one of her poems by heart (though if you do, that’s certainly an interesting perspective and I’d love to hear from you!) - rather, I’m interested in the personal experiences that girls have had reading Plath’s work and the impact it’s had on their lives!

I am welcoming submissions that cover one of the above points, several of them, or something else entirely that’s inspired by Sylvia Plath and the discussion of the “college-girl mentality”. For instance, I’m going to write something about mental health and sexism as a student at a women’s college in Cambridge.

Responses from essays, poems, illustration, photography, etc, are all welcome! I’m aiming to include as many appropriate submissions as I can and if you have an idea that you’re not sure of, you can ask me about it here! Also get in touch if you feel super passionate and inspired by this, because I have a lot of grand ideas and I could use more people being involved in this. 

You can use your own name or a pseudonym, and include your tumblr/twitter/other website if you’d like too. You can submit through tumblr or email thecollegegirlmentality@gmail.com.

I’m definitely going to have this zine available online for free and depending on interest, I’d like to produce a printed version as well.

anonymous asked:

what do the boys think about tough girls? someone who is a bit chic, and "doesn't take any shit from anybody" or does unusual sports like martial arts og wall climbing (but still has cute sides sometimes) (:

Jin - Personally, even though he says that he is the mama of BTS, I think that he would be okay with it, but not really some one he would go for. He seems like the type that would want a girl that is a little more meek and shy, so that he can come across as the tough one. That’s not to say he wouldn’t give it a try though. Personality is everything, but I think a strong one would be a little much for him. 

Suga - Hop on girl, cuz this dark horse is for you. Tough? Awesome! Don’t take shit? Drool worthy. Chic? Perfect. Suga, though he claims that he doesn’t really like exercise, I could see him being curious about the things you do, wanting to see you in action. Also, with a strong personality like this, he will know that you can take care of yourself when he can’t be there. Of course, when you two are together, I think he would very much like some of that femininity to shine through, because of course he likes to feel like a man. 

J-Hope - Yes, yes, and yes! A tough girl is exactly what this sensitive puppy needs. Not saying that he isn’t masculine and strong in his own way, but people who are internally sensitive like having some one they can lean on just as much as they can be there for that person. Not to mention, any active thing you want to do? He’s there. He wants to watch you, learn from you, and maybe even teach you some things he knows. Ever considered learning to dance? ;)

Rap Monster - I think he would like this a lot. Being tough is what he needs in some one. Some one chic? That’s right up his alley, cuz he likes being cool. And your randomness in physical activity could also be seen as a niche for spontaneity. There is one thing that I falied to mention with Suga that I feel applies to the both of them. Although their personalities do match with this well, you will have to be careful. People like them, they can come across very stern or hard-headed sometimes, and if your personality is just as stubborn, then you guys could end up butting heads prettu easily and often. But if you are both mature enough to work things out, I think this would be pretty great. 

Jimin - I think Jimin would be okay, as long as he can channel your feminine side sometimes. He is the kind of person who just keeps going, so your active, fun side would be a real treat to him. Howver, he is also a bit sensitive, so I think he might get breushed the wrong way sometimes. That’s not to say he wouldn’t like you, he would just have to be careful around you, and you would probably have to be a little gentler around him as well. 

V - I think you would get along okay. Your idea for doing things that are different are definitely up his alley, but as for the tough personality, you would have to be a little careful. I am sure he would love a girl who is confident in herself, but if you come across gruff and tough a little too often, I think he would find it a little off-putting. 

Jungkook - He is still kinda young, and still in the stage of trying to find himself, so I think a tough personality will be off-putting to him as well. He is very active, and can be plenty mischievous, but because he can be kind of stubborn, you two might butt heads. He would probably be looking for more of a girl who is gentle and maybe a little cheeky. but some one he can still be considered manly to. 

~ Admin C

I’m sorry if these weren’t the answers you were looking for, but I wanted to try and be as honest as possible. However, I have a pretty rough and tough personality myself, and I keep that attitude up whether other people like it or not. Because, well, let’s be honest… if some one finds you too gruff or intimidating, that’s not your problem, it’s their’s.

We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.
—  Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists    

stop asking boys what they find attractive in girls.

stop spreading the idea that girls should be the ways guys like them to be.

stop telling us we should give a shit about what boys think of us.

stop telling girls they should change for boys.

stop telling girls they should care about boys.

stop telling them they have to LIKE boys.

stop. all. this. bullshit. forever.