what a great character gods bless

Davai! (Or why Otayuri actually wins the world)


(Tweets by @Aki_the_Geek)

I’ve been thinking a lot about this comment of Kubo-sensei’s. It’s just the most adorable thing I have read in a while. I am not the biggest Otayuri fan, but only mostly because they’re seriously too young for me at this point. I do like their tandem, however, and I am enjoying the attention they are getting recently with the official photos and everything.

This comment, though, just paints such a cute picture for me: Otabek as a god of victory, like a mystical butterfly who ignores and flits past everyone else but chooses to rest on one particular mortal’s shoulder and bless him with strength and victory.

Listen, this is what is great about what Kubo-sensei said. Yuuri Katsuki has the gold rings that connect him to Viktor as his lucky charm - we know this. BUT! Yuri Plisetsky’s lucky charm, on the other hand, is Otabek Altin.

Yuri’s a great character. He is an angry teenager, but also a talented one who has big dreams and the actual skills to achieve those dreams. From the very beginning, we know this. It was even a point he has above Yuuri Katsuki.

He aims to win and does not see what others might consider obstacles. So what if it will be his first Grand Prix? He’s awesome. He won the juniors series. He can win as a senior, too.

Yuri, however, is also very immature. He is pretty poor at expressing himself and seems to shortcut through having to process most personal encounters and interactions by just being angry all the time. Affection for others embarrasses him, which is why he gets so high-strung around Viktor and Yuuri.

(I can’t really blame the kid, though. Those two just have no chill. They’re embarrassing.)

Interestingly though, Yuri seemed to calm down after Otabek came in the picture. It’s a complete 180. Yuri still had that passion, but somehow it became more tempered, less angry and more focused - so much so that the moment Otabek came in, Yuri broke a world record and then proceeded to win his first Grand Prix Final.

I am not saying that it is Otabek’s doing, like an actual god of victory. That would be ridiculous, and it’s more an expression than anything else. The timing is just pretty neat, and isn’t that how people develop lucky charms in the first place? You happen to have them right at the moment of a great win. It is also not as if Otabek was completely useless. He did provide a friend to Yuri, who thus far had been going on without someone he can actually call a friend. Everyone around him were either older than him, a competitor, a mentor or a teacher. I think Otabek calmed Yuri down by reminding him that he can just be himself… well, a cool version of himself anyway. Yuri actually sort of acted his age with Otabek around. For instance, this?

I thought Yuri was kind of cool-guy-posing here - you know, acting chill, even looks kind of smug. Lol, this reminded me so much of my younger brother when he was about Yuri’s age. He was such a useless brat at home and was pissed off at everything and nothing 99% of the time, but the moment his friends came over or one of them called him on the phone, he sort of became this cool version of himself - wittier, sharper, less fidgety. Lmao, his voice even became deeper. Smh at these boys…

What I also love about Otabek’s character is that he reminds us of Yuri’s name. Names are a big deal, okay, and I thought that Yuri being Yurio was kind of like him being a secondary character to Yuuri Katsuki - Yuuri #2, if you will. Ever since episode 2, Yuri is Yurio, and for every episode hence, he is Yurio. It was actually a bit of a shock to me when Otabek yelled this out in episode 11:

I was literally, “Oh yeah, that’s Yurio’s name.” I know Yakov and Lilia call Yurio by his name, but somehow it was when Otabek was calling him by this did Yurio become Yuri to me again. My theory is that it is Otabek’s manner, this I-know-you-call-him-Yurio-and-I-don’t-care-because-his-name-is-Yuri attitude he has going, that is somehow more convincing than anyone else. It is as if no one else matters in his world than Yuri Plisetsky. It is ridiculous to call him by anything other than his name because to Otabek, Yuri is Yuri #1. He probably calls Yuuri “the other Yuri”, “the Japanese Yuri” or just plain “Katsuki”.

So yeah, Otabek enters Yuri’s life and now Yuri has that source of affirmation that is outside family, who is a peer and even a close contemporary. He is no longer fighting alone. Yuri’s a strong guy, but he is still a kid, and at that age people can be quite vulnerable. No 15-year-old is so self-sufficient and self-confident that they can stand on their own at all times - at least not to my knowledge. That is why I love this friendship and why I love that Otabek came along. I think his coming triggered something that Yuri has long been building throughout the series but has yet to stabilize - his strength, his growth, his maturity as a skater as well as a person.

And actually, Yuri did win in the end. I think the series did not celebrate Yuri’s win enough and admittedly, even I was on such a high during those last weeks of the show that I could not be happy for him all that much. Episode 11? I couldn’t get over Yuri’s world record; I did not want to see Viktor dethroned. By episode 12, I still couldn’t look Yuri in the face. I was bitter about his world record and I was bitter about Yuuri Katsuki not winning the Grand Prix.

BUT, it’s time to face it: Yuri Plisetsky is amazing. He won the GPF on his senior debut. He beat a world record. His coach is obviously grooming him to be the next Viktor Nikiforov, and actually, the series has been hinting at it before hitting us on the face with it in episode 11 - Yuuri Katsuki is not the next Viktor Nikiforov, but Yuri Plisetsky is. What is more amazing is that he might even surpass Viktor, especially with Yuuri Katsuki as his main rival. Viktor never really had that one rival to push him up further than he thinks he can. We are told that his wins had wide margins from his other competitors. Viktor only had himself to beat each and every time. Yuri, on the other hand, won by a hair’s width and he knows it. He is even more driven now. He will push himself harder than Viktor ever had pushed himself, and that just might tip the scale a little bit more to future Yuri’s favor.

As for Otabek? Nah, he actually does not need to do anything. He is a lucky charm; he just needs to exist. With him around, Yuri is stable, and that’s all that this talented monster skater needs really.

Lol, look at this guy just watching his favorite so proudly:

“I’m not really needed here, but fuck if I’m not staying put to watch and join the cheering.”

Otayuri actually has a lot more going for them, future-wise. They are young, they are talented, and where Viktor and Yuuri are still struggling and see-sawing between victories and losses, Otayuri actually kept a steady climb. We already know and mentioned Yuri’s wins, but Otabek was also actually that steady character from the very beginning who skated well without question and was even the first to qualify for the GPF.

So, yes. In case you are asking, Otayuri is, in fact, the real power couple of the show.

Lmao, TL;DR - Otayuri just trumped Viktuuri and ultimately even stole their gold. The secondary OTP lowkey just beat the main OTP and I, albeit a hardcore Viktuuri shipper and just an Otayuri bystander at best, still find that really hilarious.

  • Malia: saves the lives of Scott, stiles, kira, Lydia, and the sheriff,nothing but selfless and brave throughout season 5, puts everyone's feelings and needs above her own, disregards her own emotions and desires, fights literally any villain she comes across, literally does nothing wrong
  • Y'all: Malia is so fucking annoying kill her off she's useless she can choke
  • Malia: tells Lydia she saw her and stiles for the sake of saving stiles
  • Y'all: MALIA TATE APPRECIATION THANK YOU FOR ACCEPTING STYDIA YOU ARE SO MATURE AND BEAUTIFUL CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT AMAZING TRULY WONDERFUL BLESS YOU WHAT A GREAT CHARACTER YOU ARE TO HAVE ON THIS SHOW ROUND OF APPLAUSE FOR YOU EVERYONE BOW TO MALIA GOD BLESS MALIA TATE
  • Me: wow, so genuine, I can really feel the love of Malia as a character and totally not as a stydia cheerleader. Amazing....I'm moved....truly

comingupforblair  asked:

What did you think of the Justice League trailer?

I think this is the most impressive trailer they have released so far. I am so pleased to not have any clues what the premise of this film will be or what the plot details are and to have that balanced with the fact that I know I won’t CARE beause they put love and time and energy into these characters.

It shows that they are going to value the relationships, interactions, and personal histories of these characters and that is SO GREAT.

Highlights: Barry grinning like a kid on Christmas in that lineup with everyone and each league member reflecting how infectious Barry’s smile is.

LOIS finally giving me a reason to live until November. God bless. Solidarity. We must not suffer alone.

“I’m rich.”

We got so much Arthur he’s charming as hell I’m losing it? I feel like he kind of hate/likes Bruce?? I feel like he could equally kick your ass and unironically engage in tickling?? I’m ready to hand him the keys to my house??

WHY YOU SHOULD READ SARAH J. MAAS BOOKS!

(TL;DR: See further down for some important info before you read!)

All right listen here my little reading trash babies. If you don’t know, Sarah J. Maas is the author of two series you’ve probably seen a lot of on your dash—Throne of Glass and A Court of Thorns and Roses. The following information contains itty bitty little spoilers, that are really more like hints. Hopefully it will encourage you to have a read.

➖ First and foremost, these are not really young adult fiction,particularly in the sequel to ACoTaR—they really exceed PG-13 and gander into R-rated territory (smutsmutsmutsmut). This is refreshing as an 18 year-old reader, but I know even a few years ago, I would have appreciated some of the genre-shattering content. When a protagonist is 19 or 20 as opposed to 16 or 17, a lot of wiggle room is available. This also comes in handy with really freaking hilarious innuendos.

➖ Another thing about these books—love triangles often expand or differ from typical formats. In one series, the protagonist doesn’t encounter her canon partner until book 3. Like who does that? Who gets away with that? Frickin Sarah J. Maas, that’s who. Speaking of protagonists, if you prefer 1st or 3rd person POV, guess what? You can choose! She’s awesome with both! TOG is in 3rd, ACoTaR is in 1st.

If you like fantasy worlds, mythology, and/or Game of Thrones you just met its angsty teenage cousin.. I can’t say enough about SJMaas’s world building, creating mostly comprehensive (if not thorough) cultural origins in her universe. By the by—both series take place in the same greater universe, but you can read one without spoiling the other. If anything, both provide insight on the other’s narrative and history. Also, there are cool ass powers. I love me some cool ass powers.

Yes, there are some tropes and predictability, but there are also twists that will make your heart stop. Honest to God. Both good and bad. But the good ones will make you squeal and jump around (looking to you, Rhysand).

➖ And my personal favorite: You’re gonna find a lot of cultural context up in these books.Timeless issues, told in a timeless setting. For example, a lot of modern language (obscene and otherwise) is integrated, but never to the point where it’s unrealistic. Like any story taking place in a different realm, there is language unique to it, but there’s a refreshing cohesiveness between old and new. It’s not overdone.

Some of the many relevant topics covered in either or both series, without romanticizing them (if you are worried about triggers and want to know where they are located, feel free to message me or any other fandom blog!):

• Domestic abuse

• Sexism/gender equality

• Male rape (this one is particularly rare and well-handled; some allusions to female rape or harassment are made)

• PTSD in nearly every shape and form (i.e. anxiety, depression, etc.)

• Eating disorders

• Addiction

• Stalking

• And most importantly: RECOVERY (!!!!!)

➖ Now. SOME SUPER IMPORTANT, SPOILER-FREE TIPS YOU SHOULD REALLY KNOW BEFORE THIS ENDEAVOR:

For BOTH:

•***GOOGLE THE PRONUNCIATION GUIDES BEFORE YOU READ. It is so important, they’re on SJMaas’s website. Or spend a whole book reading the protagonist’s name wrong like I did. Your choice.***

• It’s safe to assume that if these characters had accents we were familiar with, most would be confined to the United Kingdom (it matches their diction and SJMaas has further alluded to it, I believe). I can say that I’ve always assumed the Fae in the TOG series to be Scottish, but that’s just me.

•If you are a female, just be prepared that if you are PMS-ing or on your monthly curse, it’s gonna get intense. Naturally I’ve been on/near my own Shark Week with both series. Of course. Of course I have.

For Throne of Glass:

• There are 5 books (with the next to last out in September 2016) counting the prequel, so it’s a long term commitment (and you will not want to stop).

• Read the prequel, The Assassin’s Blade, first if you can, but remember it was actually released between the second and third books, so it’s fine if you wait. It’s five novellas in one, and provides integral background on the protagonist. Also, it has hands-down one of the most devastating endings in the history of literature, but again—it is so crucial to the main character’s personality and choices. Bring tissue. Oh my God.

• Book 3 is slower at times with new POVs and a change in landscape, but important. Also, it introduces one of the most beloved characters I’ve ever read (hint: may be related to birbs). And book 4 makes up for its pace.

• Overall emotionally exhausting, but super great.

For A Court of Thorns and Roses:

• It could be said it’s an inversion of Beauty and the Beast. Might make it a bit more interesting at first.

• Smut smut smutsmutsmutsmutsmut. I’m talking fanfiction-grade smut. But it’s well-written. In the canon. I know, right? What a blessing.

• There’s only two of three out, and the second one only dropped in May 2016. Go. Slow. Try to. I didn’t. Dammit.

So, get reading! It’s a wild ride. I was lucky enough to have emotional support from the lovely @renza15 during my endeavor, and you may find you need a buddy to message as well. This is a beautiful, hilarious, supportive fandom. It’s a great community to be a part of. Enjoy!

anonymous asked:

What would each character be a God/Goddess of?

This is Mod S! This is a great headcanon idea; I really love it. <3

I’ll call it Code: Realize Characters’ God/Goddess Titles. Please let me know if there’s anything else you wanted with this! And have an awesome day. <3 

Cardia: Goddess of Purity, Light and and Animals

Arséne Lupin: God of Justice, Thievery and Love. 

Abraham Van Helsing: God of Warfare, Peace and Wisdom

Impey Barbicane: God of the Stars, Metalworking and Festivals

Victor Frankenstein: God of Medicine, The Sun and Creation

Saint Germain: God of Night, Time and Death 

Bonus: Herlock Shomes: God of Reason, Strategy and Growth

Bonus: Finis: God of Madness, Death and Birth 

anonymous asked:

Is there anything you hate about the tg fandom, like the way they treat Mutsuki?

Everything, but what annoys me is how everyone wants Mutsuki dead, (somehow I understand it, that’s what you want when you hate a character.) i’m going to be honest, without Mutsuki, right now the manga would be pretty much boring. Ishida sure does have great ideas, but thanks to him everything is making me feel anxious for the next chapter. For me Mutsuki is a blessing and one of my favorite characters, next to Hide, Urie and Saiko. I have never been annoyed by the fact that he’s in love with Kaneki. He’s mentally unstable, he needs help. Sometimes people forget this manga only shows tragedy everywhere. I love his character and I hope we can see more of him. I’m so happy Mutsuki is getting so much screen time, even if he gets hate. I liked Mutsuki from the start, I knew I did good choosing him as one of my favorite characters. (Crying inside because Shirazu, bring my son back.) I guess that’s all. And of course the ships too, how annoying.

anonymous asked:

Which do you like more, Darcy's letter or Wentworth's letter?

I LOVE YOU, AUSTEN ANON.

*ahem*

I can’t quite be fair about this, because 1) Darcy is my favourite character of all time, and 2) Darcy’s letter is my favourite passage in Austen and maybe anything. Of course I like Darcy’s letter better—best! I might have written it out by hand because of reasons:

I do have reasons beyond my relentless Darcy stanning, however. Reasons of personal taste, but w/e. 

Keep reading

thinking-club  asked:

Could you maybe explain more ways of practicing magic? You've touched on tarot/oracle, candle, and crystal magic but I've been getting a little lost with all the options. And how do you know what way is best for you?

Oh sweetie,

There are as many ways to practice magic as there are witches who practice. Even two witches who practice the same type of magic will practice it differently. I will attempt to give you a list below of all the different types of magic that I have learned about.

Note that this is NOT a complete least and I KNOW I am going to forget some. Also, I am going to focus specifically on the types of witchcraft, not versions of Wicca or paganism (that would fall under traditions).

Also, I do not support any one of these magics over the other. I am merely passing along information and expect everyone to make their own personal choice in the matter. I will only be giving a basic idea of each of these since one could write an entire book on each version.

Angelic Witchcraft- Used by many witches but most popular amongst christian witches. One uses the spirit of angels in their rituals and spells. Angelic Witches (in my experience) are especially apt at blessings.

Animal Magic- Calling upon the energy inherent in (living or spiritual) animals to fuel your magic. Animal Witches sometimes believe that the soul that they have is animal in nature.

Augury Witchcraft- Any type of divination witchcraft. (Tarot, Oracle, Pendulums, weather watching, fire watching, so on and so forth) Augury magic specifically hopes to divine the future based on the things around you.

Ceremonial Witchcraft- I lean pretty heavily towards this kind of witchcraft. In this version one uses a great deal of ceremony in their magic. They draw on the Old Ways, they research the ancient festivals and the meaning behind every single thing they have and use that to create a spell. For a ceremonial witch The phase of the moon, the time of day, the month, the day of the week, the size of the circle, the inner feelings, the herbs, the tools, the EVERYTHING matters.

Chaotic Witchcraft- A pretty new brand of magic that is most practiced by younger witches. It is considered ‘empty-handed’ magic. Meaning that it has absolutely no center. Its mantra is “Nothing is True and Everything is Permitted”. Chaos witches use random chanting, movements, dancing, drugs, and intoxication in order to shift their perception of the world and in doing so change the world itself.

Craft Witch- So here’s the thing…if you have a hobby it can become a form of magic. Like to woodburn? Congratulations. You can burn symbols, words, and pictures onto different items and create a permanent blessing. Like music? You can create a chant that helps a person transcend their spiritual realm. Like to sew? Oh my multitudinous gods there are like fifty books out there about sewing based witchcraft and it is awesome. A craft witch turns her arts and crafts into her Art and her Craft.

Druidic- Draws heavily from Celtic mythology though there are some christian and atheistic druids as well. Druids believe that the natural world is their greatest teacher of wisdom. That by watching the world around us we might understand ourselves and others. It mixes healing, augury, and nature magic. It is sometimes referred to as celtic shamanism.

Eclectic Witchcraft- A person who draws upon multiple sources for their magic. Many witches fall into this category. In this category a witch can flit from one idea to another and pull from what they like and feel drawn to/inspired by. This branch of witchcraft has recently fallen under criticisms as many practitioners can come across as cultural appropriationistic in their search for their Path.

Elemental Magic- (Not to be confused with weather magic) Many witches utilize this form of magic in their work though a few rely solely on it. Elemental magic means that the witch relies on Earth, Air, Fire, Water, and Spirit to fuel their magics. Many believe that they must ‘master’ each element in order to move forward in their branch of magic.

Faerie Magic- A form of magic that draws upon the realm of Fearie. It has many Celtic elements due to the mythos attached to it. Faery witches use a great deal of symbols, charms, and certain types of gardening in their magic. It is very close to nature.

Green Magic- The Green Witch utilizes the natural world. Rather than building an altar she might find a fallen log and use it. A green witch believes that the world around her is the greatest tool and that by communion with the Earth Mother she will grow as a spiritual person. Natural items and natural places are paramount.

Hedge-Craft- Also called hedge-witchery, hedge magic and similar. Earth based witchcraft that relies heavily on the spirit world. They meditate to find wisdom, they often believe in Otherworld. They are very often healers and wise-folk.

Kitchen Witchery- Also called Cottage Witchcraft (isn’t that the most adorable name?) this is the other version of witchcraft that I like to practice. It is a very practical use of witchcraft that uses everyday items in your Craft. A recipe becomes a spell, your herb garden becomes your altar…so on and so forth. It very much relies on the idea that every day things are, in themselves, rituals and therefor magic.

Moon Magic- Where the phase of the moon is the highest importance in your witchcraft. Not only does each Phase have a meaning, but the season of the Phases, the Blue Moon, the Month of the moon all have symbolic meaning.

Nocturnal Witchcraft- A witch who practices exclusively at night. The Moon, the Stars, and all creatures and plants alive at night matter most to this brand of witch.

Pop-Culture Magic- When a witch uses pop culture icons in place of gods/goddesses. This includes (but isn’t limited to) actors/actresses, musicians, comic book characters, fictional television characters, book characters, or even politicians.

Sex Magic- When a witch uses a sexual act to fuel his or her magic. This is most used for types of blessings, fertility, The Great Rite, and similar spellcraft, though it certainly isn’t limited to them.

Solar Magic- The opposite of the Nocturnal Witch. The Solar Witch uses the sun as the main focus of their witchcraft. It matters what time of day it is, where the Sun is in the houses of astrology and sun signs matter a great deal.

Strega- A form of folk magic that is traditionally passed from Mother to Daughter or between sisters. It is very female centric in its set up and the secrets are passed by word of mouth not by book. It’s roots are in Italy.

Satanic Witchcraft- There are some witches who say, very firmly, that there are no satanic witches and that this is an old myth. This is due to a large push in the late eighties and early nineties to separate modern witchcraft from the long time stereotype. The use of the words witchcraft and Wicca interchangeably also played a part in this push. Satanic witches use the names of demons in this magics and practice predominately hexes and black magics or negative energy manipulations.

Weather Magic- There are two types of Weather witches, and some people who practice this type of magic are both. Weather witches use chants, spells, and magic to cause certain types of weather to occur. Some work magic in specific types of weather.

There are SOOO many more. So many. Maybe one day I will have a complete list but I really don’t know if I can. That being said you had a second part to your question. How do you know what’s right for you? The simple answer is practice. You have to study, research, and try things till you find what really inspires you.

You are NOT a bad witch if you practice several of these. You are not a storybook character. You do not need to fit into a tiny box and label yourself as one thing. Magic is more fluid than that. You can go from Moon magic to Sex magic, to Kitchen magic in the span of a day (I know I have) and that’s totally okay. This does NOT make you a bad witch, it doesn’t make you a flaky one. It makes you one who knows how to use the moment and the feelings around them.

What is best for you? Whatever makes you happy and connects with you in that moment.

With Love,

Chrysalis

The Benefits of Wisdom

Proverbs 3:13-18

Human wisdom is meaningless in the Lord’s eyes. The truth is, God’s “foolishness” is wiser than man’s understanding. (See 1 Cor. 1:25.) While it may feel risky to set aside our own reasoning to seek after the Lord’s, the benefits of walking in His wisdom are great.

The first blessing is greater knowledge of God. The Lord is personally involved in every facet of our lives. The better we know His character, the more we will understand His viewpoint, recognize where He is working, and be able to respond properly to life’s circumstances.

A second way we profit is by receiving clear guidance. God sees everything—His perspective is eternal, and every decision of His is right. He knows exactly what is needed to accomplish His will in our life and what it will take to resolve problems in a godly way, making us more like Christ.

A third benefit is divine protection. As Proverbs 28:26 tells us, “He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but he who walks wisely will be delivered.” We are not to rely upon our emotions, which are easily influenced by ungodliness. Nor can we trust the world’s opinions. Wisdom’s protection comes when we have a discerning spirit—one that is sensitive to the Lord’s purpose and will for our life. With it, we gain insight into the unseen and the unspoken because nothing is hidden from the Spirit of God.

Knowing God, clear guidance, divine protection—human wisdom can’t provide any of these. They come only from the heavenly Father, and He offers them freely to all who believe.

How To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.

One of the biggest mistakes that many young people make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone. A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are. The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.

The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young couples are engaging in “Christian dating,” or “Halal dating”, depending on the faith, which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.

Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place? Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.

If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase, the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential: Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both accounts. Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them. These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry: While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love. The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:
• Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort. They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
• Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money? How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
• Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character. You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
• Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have. They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The Emotional Needs of Your Partner: Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved. The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.

To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs: Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.

To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs: Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.

It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive. When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans: In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.
• You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about? Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
• The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
• Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.

5) Avoid Pre-Marital Sexual Activity:
[While this is a point of controversy, and I can see the pros and cons of both, ideally, saving this til after you have made a serious commitment is preferable. Though lessons in how to please one’s partner wouldn’t go astray before marriage! ]
• Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.
• Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
• Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection: There are four questions that you must answer YES to:
• Do I respect and admire this person? What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
• Do I trust this person? Can I rely on them? Do I trust their judgment? Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
• Do I feel Safe? Do I feel emotionally safe with this person? Can I be vulnerable? Can I be myself? Can I be open? Can I express myself?
• Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?
If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married. If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety: Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage. Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions. Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship. If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.

Look for the following things:
• Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time. Know the difference between suggestions and demands. Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.

• Anger issues: This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc. You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment. Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds. If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away. Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner: Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset. Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?” It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team. When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team. Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds. How do they handle it? Are they defensive? Do they attack? Do they withdraw? Do they get annoyed? Do they blame you? Do they ignore it? Do they hide or rationalize it? Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility: It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married. People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married. If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage. Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner: Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.

Also important to consider are the following:
• Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside. These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts. They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them. Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t. They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them. These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.

• Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship. Never marry an addict. Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol. They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc. When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

Additional Points to Consider:
1. The fact is no one looks 25 forever. Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance. When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.
2. Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc. We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”
3. Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc. Asking clear questions can clarify this. Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?” “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.
4. Be flexible. Be open-minded!
5. Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom. It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.
6. Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health. The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship. If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you?

The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss. Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage. Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well.

Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.

———————————————————————————
The above article was [in part] inspired by and adapted from a presentation by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A. - Dr. Nafisa Sekandari & Hosai Mojaddidi

10 ways to avoid marrying the wrong person

by Dr. Nafisa Sekandari & Hosai Mojaddidi

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage.  The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.

One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.  A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are.  The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.

The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.  Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these  limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?  Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.

If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase,  the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential:  Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

  • Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
  • Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
  • Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
  • Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:  Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.  It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

Keep reading

me, reading stories about fictional sentient andriods/AIs: such a great character; it really asks us to consider our definition of what it means to be human. bless their little robot hearts. my tiny metal bbs.

me, reading articles about real life andriods/AIs gaining sentience: nO NOPE NO OH MY GOD NO THE END OF THE AGE OF MAN IS NIGH.

android-princess  asked:

Have you finished Prelude yet? If so, what did you think? :)

Good Lord, I did! I loved it! A really great book, though there were some things I didn’t like (for instance, the broken up rhythm of calm moments and exciting adventures, it wasn’t well balanced out). But oh boy, Dors might be my new favourite character, what a badass lady. I’m not sure what I think about Hari yet, he has quite a few features I didn’t like (for example, his treatment of the mycogenian women was appaling).

BUT THE FINAL REVEAL, god bless. I screamed for eternity! Daneel, my beautiful wonderful man, alive all this time and keeping the universe going with his fingertips. I’m so proud of him. And every moment afterwards I kept thinking that Elijah would have been proud of him too. I can’t believe he held memory of him for over 20.000 years. Oh my heart.

This was a lovely book!! I’ve just started on Forward the Foundation now.

Oda hints the end of One Piece!

In the special issue of Shounen Jump, staff posted a small article with the interview of Japan’s no.1 manga artist - Eiichiro Oda. With One Piece running for over 15 years, fans from all around the world want to know how will this amazing manga end: Will the Strawhats fulfill their dreams? How? Is somebody going to die? If yes, then who?

Being known for his unique style and mind-blowing plot, Oda quickly became the respectful mangaka that most artists and his colleagues admire. Wanting to do something in return for his fans, Oda slightly reveals his plot ideas in SJ article.

“It’s always hard when you need to kill the character… I love all of them, they all have that unique place in my heart and when I need to end their journey… well, it’s not pleasant.” said sensei, reminding people how hard Ace’s death was to him.

“As for what will happen in the future voyage… Heh, I can say that it will really be amazing! For example, arrival at Wano will have a great impact on the crew.” Oda smiled but then saddened “Sadly, many unpleasant things will happen there and I already said I hate writing characters’ deaths…”

When the interviewer asked about Luffy and treasure “One Piece”, Oda laughed a bit but then said “Whitebeard said that it exists, right? So…” he then paused but smiled more “I can’t wait to write the big decisive battle with everybody’s dear yonkou.”

Look at the full article WITH TRANSLATIONS here! God bless Oda! ;w;

8

“You are part of my existence, part of myself. You have been in every line I have ever read, since I first came here, the rough common boy whose poor heart you wounded even then. You have been in every prospect I have ever seen since—on the river, on the sails of the ships, on the marshes, in the clouds, in the light, in the darkness, in the wind, in the woods, in the sea, in the streets. You have been the embodiment of every graceful fancy that my mind has ever become acquainted with. The stones of which the strongest London buildings are made, are not more real, or more impossible to be displaced by your hands, than your presence and influence have been to me, there and everywhere, and will be. Estella, to the last hour of my life, you cannot choose but remain part of my character, part of the little good in me, part of the evil. But, in this separation I associate you only with the good, and I will faithfully hold you to that always, for you must have done me far more good than harm, let me feel now what sharp distress I may. O God bless you, God forgive you!”

just wanna vent this out: I know I’m not the only one on here who feels this way but like I’ve said before I am so thankful for Raul Esparza and Danny Pino and especially for their characters as Rafael Barba and Nick Amaro on Law and Order: SVU.

We never get characters like this, it’s rare. And I don’t wanna hear about “oh what about *insert bland stereotypical Latinx character* ” like yeah ok good but we are more than one type of person. And sadly most of the characters that we are represented as are not as positive as we’d like or rather deserve.

I pray that we continue to see Barba on svu and now I REALLY beg God that he stays because Nick is gone and I loved having them both on there it was a real blessing for a second and I do appreciate his time on the show too. I’ve never felt so represented and loved a character(s) so much as I do these people.

What I really love about Barba and Amaro is that they are treated as PEOPLE on the show. Not just the inserted to fill a quota Latinx character and it’s GREAT. It’s so…normal. Not forced like it tends to feel when I watch other things. Like I said, we don’t get characters like this ever so you can see why I love and obsess over them so much. They’re all I got.

I read something a while back here on tumblr that said something like ‘if you don’t care about representation it’s because you are already represented’ and that is so true imo I feel as most of you don’t get it. It doesn’t mean much to you because you got your characters on everything and it’s so normal for you but for us it’s such a rare occurrence that we even get represented let alone get non-offensive and different and real forms of representation.

I cannot even write down how proud and excited I get watching Barba and Amaro on svu. I cannot. It brings me so much joy. I CAN RELATE TO THEM do you understand what a rare feeling this is? It’s so unique that I can do that in anything else I watch, granted, there are some great shows and films out there with great representation. But it’s just great to be able to see another great form of it on a show I grew up with and love so much. Rarely do I ever get to see Latinx characters speaking Spanish naturally and in a realistic way on English shows/films in a realistic way. Not for sake of a ‘sexy’ sex scene or a 'ghetto’ or even 'undocumented immigrant’ shown in a negative way. So I SO APPRECIATE the way it’s handled on law and order.


Another thing I love about Rafael and Nick are that we get to see different appearances of Latinx people. I’m very light skin and so I get to see myself positively in Rafael. I’ve never felt 'Latina enough’ because of my skin color. All the Latinx characters I see are dark skinned so when I discovered Rafael it was such a god send. But we also get to see a dark Latinx in Nick and Im so happy for that, they don’t just give us one 'version’ (Although I’m so upset that Nick is gone it was great having him on and I hope we get another Latinx character soon, preferably female).

I know the svu fandom doesn’t mean any harm and I’m so glad Amaro and Barba have so many fans (I mean after all that is why Barba was promoted to a season regular, because of fan response) but please understand that certain aspects of the way you choose to show your love for these characters is seen as offensive to the Latinx community. And I don’t resent any member of this fandom for that because I know you don’t do this on purpose but some things make me and others feel uncomfortable. Some things that are said and or done make me feel as if I’m a fetish and or joke and tbh it makes me feel less human. As if I’m not as important or as if my opinions and feelings don’t matter.

Barba and Amaro are not so much alike (although they definitely have similarities), they have different problems and we see different aspects of their lives. They are not shown as being the same latinxs with the same characteristics and up bringing and such with is REALISTIC. And it’s beautiful to be seen done this way on tv, especially on such a well known and liked show as law and order.

The way I live my life, the way I grew up, what is normal to me…it’s not to be used as something you can just adapt and play with and use as a kink/fetish. Like of course you want help what turns you on or whatever but please take into consideration that who I am isn’t something you can change into whenever you want to and use to your liking. It’s not okay.

Spanish is my language, not your foreplay sex talk to chop up and use for “fun”. And not all latinx’s even speak Spanish due to all kinds of reasons. We are not defined as Spanish speakers only to turn you on. Sometimes I wonder: would you think Rafael was just as sexy if he didn’t speak or even know how to speak Spanish?

Using Latinx attributes or Latinx characteristics/habits/cultural traditions/anything we do or how we live because you think it’s 'cool’ or 'sexy’ or 'exotic’ isn’t appropriate. I don’t like it or appreciate it.

Latinx’s as individuals are all our own people. All have our own lives and different habits and traditions so you can see why I don’t like seeing the same forms of 'representation’ in anything but with Barba and Amaro it especially makes me uncomfortable in fan fictions/imagines and such.

Another issue I find is that fans also write Barba and Amaro as being so aggressive and feisty and even abusive/violent (mostly for the sake of smut) but like geez I wonder why ???? *insert sarcastic tone* I’m sick of seeing that be the majority and widely accepted characterization of these characters. And if it where just in a few instances I wouldn’t bring it up but it’s almost all you guys see and write. And it’s offensive. Mostly makes me uncomfortable. Like I said before…we are people. Our own individuals and I don’t like that you generalize us as aggressive for your sex fantasies.

It feels as if you ignore who the character is as a person and boil them down to, for example: 'Cuban’ and all the stereotypical and convenient characteristics that YOU want them to be. We are more than that. We are three dimensional people with our own individual likes/dislikes, habits, up bringing, way of life, religion, sexuality, language choice, looks, feelings and thoughts. Just like you and your other white faves.


By all means express your love for Amaro and Barba or any other Latinx character but think about how you choose to do so and try to see it from our view point or ask yourself if it could be seen as a fetish or stereotype and especially ask yourself if it would be received in a negative by the Latinx community not white community. If you you can’t answer this than ask me if you gotta. You don’t get to decide what is not offensive to us.

I don’t mean for this all to sound aggressive, because I feel as if it’s coming off as aggressive but understand that I am very frustrated and exhausted from the stereotypical/boring/offensive/negative Latinx representations that they shove at us and expect us to be happy with that and I think that is a bunch of BS.

There is so much more that I wanna say but at this point I think I’ll end here. Thank you for embracing Rafael Barba and Nick Amaro though, because of all their fans Barba is still on the show and it’s great I think I already said this but I love Barba and Nick with all my heart and appreciate every scene they have and every line they speak.

Thanks for reading this and honestly if you have a question please ask me, I just want non-latinxs to understand our view point. We deserve to be heard and understood, it’s our world too. Our country. Our city. We love these characters and this show as much as you do and I love being able to be in this fandom. - Marina

Honestly GOD BLESS SUPERGIRL

Because you know what happens to many female characters once they break up with the guy? They move out of town, get killed, find another job, blah, blah. And when James and Lucy broke up I was just like “Great, I’ll never get to see Lucy Lane again, talking to Kara and hoping they become friends. So this is it, Jimmy and Kara get together and the show is boring”  (I don’t hate the idea of JimmyxKara but come on, they gotta go sloooow)

So what does the show do? WHAT? They give us this amazing plot twist where Lucy becomes director of the DEO, learns about Kara/Supergirl and we see the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

I’m just so happy she got to stay and explore her relationship with Kara and Alex and I just can’t wait for this to become a bigger part of the plot (please keep Lucy Lane around FOREVER)

Also long live Superlane bye 

The Little Things Matter

The things that might be small like cleaning your room or applying for that job can bring huge breakthrough in your  life by just being obedient to god and what he put on your heart. I personally have seen great blessing by being obedient. 

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.”

 - Luke 16:10 

God does not call the qualified he qualifies the called . 

This is so important to remember as your going through your life. Some times god want to build better habits or grow character or prepare you for his marvelous plan that he has for you . He has placed a call on your life and he will provide everything you need to do it you just need to show up. 

God began a good work in you. And I am sure that he will carry it on until it is completed. That will be on the day Christ Jesus returns.

- Philippians 1:6

Swen, CS'ers, rumbellers,OQ'ers and everyone else in the fandom who are not homophobic

You can ship whatever you want but can we all agree that rubyslippers was NOT a good lgbt representation. It was a first step yes. And yes it was also cute and god bless meghan ory and Teri they did a great job with what they had. But the lgbt community waited 5 years for a fairy tale, we waited 5 long years to get a fairytale where we could see that our love and relationships are just as important and valid as straight couples.
It was really dissapointing to see that the first queer fairytale was done so rushed and undeveloped. And lets be real we will probably never see them again.

I am a SQ shipper but if they had given 2 other queer characters time to develop and let me feel the chemisty i would have been so happy! I am not saying the lgbt couple should have been SQ,i am just asking for development between 2 queer characters even if it would not have been SQ.

Anyway i feel happy to know that there are fans/shippers from the CS,OQ,snowing and rumbelle fandom that support the lgbt community and realise that this was really unfair for us.

So thank you guys, your support really means so much