So, I have friends on tumblr, and I am terrified of losing them, because idk how to start conversations? And I don't know how to help them when they're upset. And I don't want to lose them. I really don't.
This is a really good question.
Personally, I think starting a conversation online is actually easier than starting one in real life. You have the opportunity to introduce context as you begin the conversation, rather than having to base what you’re saying on the current context of where you are and what you’re doing.
For example, last night I went out with friends to get a sundae. We talked about the music playing in the car - that’s an easy and obvious discussion topic. We talked about sundaes. And we talked about each other, like my health issues, or my friend’s first week studying or how another friend really needs to quit her crappy job. Those are all subjects that arise naturally out of the context of where you are and who you’re with.
But the thing about online communication is that you can automatically bring the context along with you. One of my best friends lives a long way from me and we mostly only talk via facebook chat. Sometimes I might read a news article that makes me sad or angry or happy. I can send her the link and say something like “have you seen this?” or “omigod, I’m so mad about this”. It doesn’t matter what’s actually going on where I am or where she is, because the conversation comes with its own opening line, based on what I’m showing her.
And I think that’s a good way to talk to people online. So, let’s say you’ve got a friend on Tumblr. We’ll call your friend Susan.
Susan makes a post that she’s been tagged to do a question and answer thing, so she gives all the answers. One of the questions is name a food you love and Susan says she loves pancakes. That’s an opportunity for you to start a conversation with her, without worrying how to lead into that. You can just send her a message saying “Oh, your favourite food is pancakes?! Mine too!” And then you can talk to each other about pancakes. And that might lead to all kinds of other topics.
Another possibility is sending a link or tagging them in something you reblog. Maybe you think they’ll find it funny, or see themselves in it or be as angry about it as you. That starts a conversation too. You can send Susan a video of an otter sliding down a snow bank (someone tagged me in just such a video on Facebook and it was glorious). Then you and Susan can talk about otters. Or snow. Or which is the cutest animal.
As for comforting an online friend when they need it, the best thing you can do is be available. If Susan says she is having a bad day and she’s upset, then send her a message asking if she wants to talk to you about it. Ask her if there’s any way you can help. She might not know what kind of help she needs, but you can suggest. Maybe you could just let her vent her feelings to you. Or maybe she’d like your advice. You could find pictures of something she likes (like kittens or her favourite musician) and show them to her to see if it can cheer her up. You could offer to talk about something else with her, to take her mind off things.
There are lots of things you can do to talk to a friend in need, even if you’re not able to give them a real life hug or make them tea. Often, people feel better just by knowing that someone cares about them and wants to help.
Just to give more examples of what I mean, here are some actual opening sentences from my own recent online chat windows. I hope none of my friends will mind! I have many more friends online than offline, so I guess I’m doing something right, and so are they. Some of these are conversations I started, and others were started by the other person.
“Hi! Is the heat any better today?”
“Random question!!! You’re a singer, right? I’ve seen you say that somewhere???”
“Oh my God have you seen Moana yet?”
“Hiya! How’s the new job?”
“Have you SEEN this?” *link to video of famous actor*
“You’re into scrapbooking, right?”
Those are all good ways of starting a conversation, out of nowhere.
But you can also just start with a “How are you?” or “What’s up with you?” If you ask those questions and you care enough about the answers to keep the conversation going, then you are being an excellent online friend.
Most people love to talk about themselves, their lives and the things they’re interested in. If you can give them the space to do that, then they’re going to be happy, and they’re going to remember that you’re a person who makes them happy.
Good luck, make friends, keep friends and STAY COOL LIKE A TIGER SWIMMING IN ICECREAM!!!
Today is the day, guys. April 18. The day we’ve been waiting for all year. The day where awesome fanart, glorious fanfic, and amazing fanvids all come together to honor the actor who we love. But I must confess… This is completely impromptu. I thought about what I would do for DT’s birthday, but I could come up with nothing. So I am just going to do pretty much the same thing I did last year. And that’s writing a list. This year’s list is inspired by @tessanetting (my queen)’s video “50 Doctor Who Things To Do.” All credit goes to my wonderful mama starfish. Without further ado, I give you:
46 David Tennant Things To Do:
Legally change your last name to Tennant
Take up acting (if you haven’t already)
Watch an episode of Doctor Who
Go out to your back yard/lawn and talk to yourself
And claim that you’re “making stories.”
Tell your parents you want to become an actor
Name your children Ty, Olive, Wilfred, Doris, and name your dog Myrtle
Eat a cookie
Eat candy with peanut butter in them (if applicable)
Or just eat peanut butter
Go see a play
Read some Shakespeare
and act it out
Hide under a table and don’t speak to anyone
Educate your friends on phonetics
Write a Doctor Who-themed essay.
Stuff three cookies in your mouth and sing a song
wear really tight pants
Move to Scotland
Walk 500 miles
Walk 500 more
Wear a blond wig and call yourself Georgia
Take your family to Disneyland
Purchase fun socks
Purchase a fun suit
And actually wear it outside
Listen to The Proclaimers
Pick a name from a magazine and change your name to it
Go to the beach and be sad
Don’t take a shower at the gym
Judge a dog show
Become a radio DJ
Make your grandma knit you a scarf
Fall down quite a lot
Drive a Prius
Abuse (or at least stand on) some furniture
Show up on time
learn your lines
Try (and fail) a South African accent
Hold a farting contest with your friends
Pee in your backyard to keep the foxes away
Don’t go on social media…(hahahaha)
Celebrate his birthday today!!!
Well that was fun. And kind of long. This was kind of a fun idea and I’m really proud of how it turned out. Happy Birthday to David Tennant, I hope I have done him proud!
No More Dream: Forehead Hobi hadn’t died. Chubby cheek Jimin had abs and Jin showed us you can look somewhat “gangster” while driving a school bus.
We Are Bulletproof Pt. 2: Rapmon had a toothebrush on his head. Suga didn’t understand the concept of playing one sport at a time and Jungkook let us know that he was famous worldwide.
N.O.: School is hard, be yourself. Three dollar chains and cool violins. Clothes stolen from GD’s closet. Pretty neat dance/fight break.
Boy In Luv: Checking out your friend’s junk in the bathroom while your other friends harass and bully a girl into loving them. Give her a flower cause girls love that crap. Lots of tongue being stuck out action to really woo the stans.
Just One Day: A cutesy love fest featuring low tone Taehyung and flirty Namjoon. The fetuses first attempt at cuteness with overflowing aegyo.
Danger: Bad boy concept level 2000, Rapmon gave himself a tattoo, Suga couldn’t play basketball and Jin was edgy and burned up shopping carts.
War of Hormone: The fabric department failed Jungkook. Taehyung showed us the wonders of a sucker, and Jibooty made it’s glorious appearance.
I Need U: Almost everyone might be dead and your guess is as good as mine because nobody still has any idea what this video was about.
Dope: Guess that costume party where we rap about how we work harder than you. Introduced a new level of kpop choreography. Loosened ties and cut off shorts to make your heart stop.
For You: When you’re too broke to buy stuff for your honey and the squad comes through because they know you’re getting paid 2 cents an hour to be a giant bear.
Epilogue Young Forever: Taehyung was sad. Jin was creepin. Suga’s shorts were too short and everybody was having way too much fun in an abandoned swimming pool.
Run: *See I need U’s description*
Fire: We’re big and famous now so let’s use the budget to blow up a car, set a dude on fire and iron ourselves in shirts.
Save Me: Umm…so we used the whole budget on “Fire” blowing up a car, setting a dude on fire and ironing our shirts, sooo let’s just dance in a field and hope we have an artsy aesthetic okay?
one of these days taylor swift is going to write a song and put it on an album and every single one of her fans is going to love it and picture the story behind it and the music video to go along with it. and then taylor swift is going to make that song a single and shes going to drop said music video and when her fans click play on it theyre going to watch a story about two girls who are in love with each other. and only on that day will i be truly completely happy
I don’t know if this is re: my mentioning them in the pining ask but it’s WHERE WE’RE GOING TONIGHT apparently.
Because the thing is, Eliot doesn’t want to have feelings for them. They are happy, and Eliot is happy, and they’re already his family, his team, his first and last call. The thought of them being even more than that is terrifying. Eliot’s learned a lot of hard lessons about not relying on anyone but himself and on not letting anything be too much to you in case it gets taken away. (And Eliot knows what line of work they’re in, that some people leave it to a glorious retirement and more people leave it to jail or a coffin.)
But he has feelings for them. Of course he does. How could you work with Hardison every day, laugh and have inside jokes and play stupid video games and keep him safe and listen to him enthuse about things and see just how much of a genius he is and not have feelings for him? How could you spend years watching Parker come into herself, never becoming less herself but learning all the time and stepping into some big shoes, and not have feelings for her? It’s impossible.
That doesn’t mean he’s going to do anything about it, though, or that he’s going to let them do anything about it.
(And, well, from the other side, how can there be a person in the world that you know will come for you every time, no matter what, as long as there’s breath in his body, someone who’s always there for backup even when he’s swearing and calling you idiots and reckless the whole time–how can you have a person like that and not love them at least a little? But Hardison and Parker know the virtues of patience.)
friendly reminder about caspar's clothes swapping video with glorious angel alexa losey when he DID WEAR A CROP TOP AND DID LOOK FUCKING AMAZING can he and joe please both wear crop tops every damn day thank you
hes so lame. but he looks g8 tho #casparinshortshortsandacroptop2kforever. also can i just add him twirling in a dress like look at him:
what a precious lil flower. thank u alexa. like this is exactly what i would do if i had the chance to make joe and/or caspar wear my clothes. give them the cutest fckn clothes ever and get them to twirl in them. beautiful.
I've never seen an episode of bill nye the science guy, why do people seem so obsessed about it.
you’re suddenly an elementary school/middle school kid in the 90s/early 2000s and you’re really not looking to science today, another boring lesson from your teacher. but then. but then this glorious thing comes rolling in to your classroom.
it’s movie day in science class. but you still don’t know what you’re watching, but you know you’ll get the next ~45 minutes of video-watching relaxation. the teacher puts the tape into the vcr, and you turn to your friends to express your relief of not doing actual work. and then that’s when you hear it.
the beautiful, 90s tv show theme song that starts off with the title of the show “bill nye the science guy.”
the class all turns around at once, direct attention to the tv screen, whispers and silent cheers and more expressions of excitement filling the room. they chant along with the repetitive chant of “Bill” towards the middle of the theme song. they say “science rules” along with that wonderful voice, because with Bill Nye, science really does rule.
because Bill Nye’s videos aren’t your basic science videos. they were silly, campy, and fun. they had that cheesy 90s humor that made it that much more entertaining. it was engaging and funny and it actually taught you something. there wasn’t a kid that didn’t like Bill Nye the Science Guy. it was practically impossible not to enjoy those videos.
Bill Nye taught you everything you know about basic, elementary school. science. and years and years later, when you’re answering that physics question on your SAT test, you’ll find yourself answering these questions from the lessons Bill taught you.
Asio is keeping us busy with not so subtle insults.
Hello again everyone. For the past few weeks following our presense at NGC, we’ve been busy working on improvements to the game all over the place. We’re at a point where we can look back at the game as a whole and start to really get into the details of how the game is meant to flow.
This also means we can have a look at some of the optional areas you can explore in Owlboy. We’ve taken some time to add some discoverable lore (there’s a lot of background lore in the Owlboy universe), and brushing up some of the more important character arcs in the story.
Otus is not particularly thrilled by the idea of more challenging side quests…
As we’re finishing more stuff, and more stuff can break, we’ve employed the help of more full-time testers to help with the workload (Hello Patrick!)
Roland isn’t impressed. Roland is never impressed…
On the subject of progress, we’ve been recieving a lot of questions about Owlboy’s development lately, and what we’re really up to. It can be dificult to get information out to everyone, but we got some questions regarding the game’s development and planned release on our subreddit recently and Simon neatly summarised the game’s situation in this post:
Remember, if you’re curious about what is happening with the project beyond what we can provide with these updates, you can check out our subreddit or send us questions through tumblr, or our twitter accounts.
Thats it for this update. Simon is heading back to the land of fish and bacon wrapped hot-dogs (That’s Norway…) in the next few days, but keep a lookout for more updates very soon!
I’ve been playing the Witcher 3 for the last million hours and I’m loving it… I think I must be almost 8% of the way through the game by now.
Like, it’s pretty great, but it also makes me so angry. Look at this screenshot I took of Ciri, one of the main characters:
Sure, the graphics are great and I actually really love her character design and I’m excited to learn more about her and stuff. But…. look at her hair! It’s freaking great. This wonderful messy style with all the strands flying about, reacting to things like wind and her movements. It’s wonderful. And I gotta ask myself - why? Why this game? Why is this the game to fucking master hair physics. There’s tons of great games where you get to design your own character but the hair all looks fucking horrible. But the developers for the Witcher cracked the code!
And this isn’t one of those cases where the main characters look great and are rendered in loving detail but everyone else looks like crap. Even the random NPCs have great hair!
Look at that! That’s fucking cute! She’s just an innkeeper and she looks better than the main characters of most other triple AAA games.
They even figured out how to render long hair without it looking really weird or clipping into the clothing and stuff. Most other games won’t let you have hair that goes past your chin, lest the plastic-y solid piece of polygons that forms your coif glitches into your pauldrons and ruins fucking everything.
And lest you think my concerns are merely shallow, they are not. Like, yes I want my characters to be able to look pretty, but it’s also about immersion and characterization. I mean, look how fucking dumb that peasant with his bowl cut looks! Thanks to that level of detail, I’m now able to imagine an entire history for Bowl Cut Peasant.
So okay, Witcher 3 has the best hair of any game I’ve ever played - which makes me fucking furious. I mean, one playthrough of Dragon Age Inquisition takes 150 hours and I gotta look at my character the whole fucking time. But I only have like 12 options for hairstyles and 8 of them are some variation of a fucking buzzcut. Like, what the hell? Even if you couldn’t make them blow majestically in the wind, I would’ve liked a few more choices.
But not only does Witcher 3 outdo every game in the hair styles and physics department - it goes a step further. Into a level of detail that no one asked for or thought they needed. Because Geralt’s fucking facial hair grows.
There he is after I bought a shave for him, like, yesterday. You can already see some stubble.
And there he is with a glorious fucking beard a few days later. Like, what the fuck. I kinda like it, but it’s not a feature I ever would have thought to ask for. It’s not like I was sitting there playing my games thinking “You know, this is great, but the fact that I don’t witness the hair growing is really killing the immersion for me”. Like, way to go above and beyond for no fucking reason.
Look at my bicep. Look at my bicep. Look at my bicep.
But for real, I killed today. I had leftover vegan butternut squash chili for lunch which is super carb heavy (2080 cals for the day), but other than that, I’m so pumped with all of my choices! The Hammer & Chisel video tonight was over 40 minutes long and somehow kind of glorious. Just overall feeling great.
Please let me keep this up. Oh, and please tell me the FOUR pounds I gained last month was all muscle. What the actual heck? Why is my weight not going back down to my norm of 175?
1.2.16 - 184.3 pounds. 2.1.16 - 188.1 pounds.
NO BIG DEAL THOUGH, Y’ALL. Just means I’ve gained some extra pounds of sexy.
Today was an amazing Miss Fisher kind of day. We started at Hopetoun Tearooms in the Bloch Arcade, scene of Essie’s amazing pre season teaser video. We had booked High Tea which was amazing. So much delicious food and the most glorious tea to accompany it. Pinwheel sandwiches, mini quiches, salted caramel, popcorn and raspberry macarons and freshly baked scones.
From there we wandered to various shooting locations around Melbourne and honestly, how they film on what are main city streets is amazing. I’m more and more impressed by cast and crew every day.
The Block Arcade.
The best window ever!
Melbourne Town Hall- (Jack parks between those columns)