• Person:Is your father Dutch?
  • Me:No he is Egyptian
  • Person:Oh wow you can speak pretty good Dutch for a foreigner
  • Me:it's not like I was born and parly raised in the Netherlands or something :)))
  • Person:You are also pretty western for a muslim girl
  • Me::)))))) *internally screaming*

Contrast. Pamukkale, Turkey par Marji Lang
Via Flickr :
Western tourist and a Muslim woman in black burqa walking up and down through the travertines of calcium carbonate in Pamukkale, Aegean, Turkey.

how to be an intersectional feminist that stands up for women in muslim countries

1- post that typical picture about if women are allowed to show skin then they’re allowed to cover up
2- post a picture explaining different religious costumes and insisting that women totally wear them by choice
3- never study Islam yet defending it until your last breath because you don’t want to be racist
4- complain about patriarchy yet, again, defending religions that are created by men for men and claiming Islam is for equality
5- never listen to women who live in muslim countries that admit they’re oppressed
6- congratulations! you’re an intersectional feminist that acknowledge women’s rights in muslim countries and you’re 100% fighting for them, but also heaven forbids women under sharia laws are oppressed!!

Western Muslims, troubled, rally against extremism

PARIS – In tweets, in street gatherings and in open letters, moderate Muslims around the world are insisting that Islamic State extremists don’t speak for their religion. Many are also frustrated that anyone might think they do, and a backlash has already begun.

Western Muslims, troubled, rally against extremism

Racism and biased foreign policy may produce homegrown terrorists

I have seen more fundamentalists and extremists in the West than my home country and other countries in the Middle East. Ironically, the majority of them were born and raised in the West.

I think that Muslim youths in the West can easily suffer form an identity crisis, especially if they are discriminated against, whether at the personal level or the community level or even surprisingly at the world level (Ummah). In other words, they lose that sense of belonging to their homegrown countries in the West due to racism domestically, and the biased foreign policy of the West when it comes to Muslims and Arabic issues, particularly the Palestinian-Israeli conflict. Hence, they look for an identity to belong to, and the obvious alternative is to turn to their roots of origin.

However, there is very few cultural and community centres for Arabs and other minorities in the West, but there are plenty of Mosques around. I am not implying that Mosques preach extremism, in fact most of them focus on the relationship with God in terms of worship, and the relationship with their family and people in terms of morals and ethics rather than politics, yet there is few Mosques that are led by extremists who have their own illusionary holy agenda of fulfilling the will of God across the globe, a lost youth who is alienated in his country and is terribly upset with its foreign policy can easily be a prey to such extremists.

Furthermore, the Western media make things worse by presenting such issues in a white and black, good and evil, us and them fashion ..

Conflicts of a young Western Muslim

How many times have I heard people say that Muslim children/young adults who live in the Western World suffer from conflicts within themselves in terms of having both religion and western culture in them. And I guess I finally am facing the conflict. How can a person who likes Nathan Young’s speech in Misfits Series 1 Episode 6 about how we were designed to party and ‘it breaks my heart, you’re wearing cardigans’ also be a true Muslim? How can someone who likes Nathan Young in the first place be a true Muslim? I mean yes, its not wrong, but isn’t Nathan’s character that I admire so much, the jokes, the carefree attitude, etc a bit against Islam? Not necessarily the fact that he is a happy, laidback person, no. Islam is not against that. But Islam is against making jokes that involve lying (or twisting the truth as we may prefer to say), or mocking someone, or even being a little too sarcastic - because sarcasm would involve 'twisting the truth’.

I am shocked at my own self. Does my own character at present match the one I longed to be when I was a child? As a little girl my wish was to become a good practising woman and follow the steps of our Prophet Hazrat Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam. But now I look at myself and see how much change I have gone through. It was much more easier to make jokes one minute and go pray the next minute. Because jokes did not involve evil at that age. It was much easier to enjoy dancing, because although I knew it is disliked in Islam I did not have full knowledge about the evils of it. Music was easy. Western clothes were easy. Everything seemed to hand in hand with Allah.

But things have changed now haven’t they. There used to be a time when I could confidently say that I have NEVER lied. Little white lies? Even they were very very rare. I can no longer say it. Cuz I know I countlessly lie everyday. And it kills me, it does. Im not saying I’ve turned evil lol.. (well in technical terms I probably have since even small white lies.. lies in general.. is evil, but in our social context, no I guess I am not evil.. In Allah’s eyes? I guess so)

I guess I am finally facing the conflict that many others living in the Western World like me are facing. It is not easy anymore to be living a western lifestyle and have a true faith. Because trust me when I say this, your actions and your behaviour, your attatchment to doing things which are prohibited does affect your faith. Simple things that are prohibited, like lying and wearing revealing clothes for women for example, affects your faith. You start of with what harm could it do? Or I would repent but it becomes a habit. As we should keep away from making such things habits. As my grandmother says:

’ We come in this world with nothing (well Allah’s blessings =] ) but when we die only our habits and deeds go with us. ’

So when you die what habits and deeds do you want to be with you? Your alcohol addiction? Your smoking? Your constant lying that it became a habit? How much you partied and shagged? Lol well I salute you in the Cheryl Cole style.

Each time you sin, you are acknowledging your defiance to Allah. You are acting as if you are not scared of Him. Are you not scared of Him?? That you dare do things that He has banned? And this goes for all religions now doesn’t it? How do we dare do things that God has CLEARLY prohibited for us?

Believe me when I say this lol God does exist. And in ways that are very personal to me, He has shown me over and over again a thousand times that He exists. And yet I am as foolish to not feel Him anymore. Foolish to do things that hinder my faith. Cuz I can feel it. I can feel my faith ceasing. The little girl I used to be was able to feel God, was able to feel close to Him. Was able to actually feel like God was there listening to her. And cried sometimes when she prayed. But now.. Yes I have tears in my eyes when I write this. For no apparent reason, I guess these are tears that only Allah brings for His reasons and are for Him only.. but I have changed though haven’t I? I have felt how with each sin I make my faith and closeness to Allah decreases. There was a saying (and I only summarize, these are not the exact words) that 'If you walk or crawl towards Allah, Allah will run towards you’.

Well Allah doesn’t need to run, He sees it all and He is everywhere. But metaphorically? Yes.. He will. You take one step. He will take a thousand or millionssteps to come close to you.

Going back to what I started with, I wrote here before about how a person can like Nathan Young's speech or Nathan’s character in general and be a believer and follower of Islam at the same time? I know you are thinking that there are many Muslim people that absolutely love him. But my conflict is arising because I realised theres are things in his character that match with mine. Like the sarcasm, the inappropriate jokes, love for dancing and music, or lying (even small harmless lies like telling your mother your working that I do EVERY SINGLE DAY when Im actually listening to music or doing God knows what). My own likes and dislikes and my whole freaking (although I should not say words like freaking according to the teachings of our beloved Prophet, peace be upon him) character was shocking me. See even now, I talk about him and I use the word freaking in the same sentence. Does that not seem conflict and a bit screwd up to you? Aren’t you thinking what type of a Muslim is this girl?

Ok lol, finally going back to my point about the speech. I guess the simple answer is.. it was inspiring. That speech was inspiring. It had elements of freedom in it that I am so attracted to. All of us Misfits and Nathan fans are attracted to. We all have good and evil in ourselves. And all the elements of such irrational and uncontrolled freedom, the lies, the love for music and dance, and alcohol and partying and smoking or whatever each one of us may be conflicted with, are the evils in ourselves. It is not fate it is our choice. It is the choice whether you follow good. or evil.

and Lol thanks for your time :)  

Other Muslims judge you and constantly find ways to paint you as less religious, and not enough of a good Muslim. Secular western society constantly judges you and finds ways to paint you as too religious, too backwards and archaic. No one truly accepts you whole.

anonymous asked:

I agree completely that Islam is not a violent religion. However, I believe that the Muslim community doesn't do enough to report and prevent extremism. I watched a documentary on Jihadism in the UK. One Muslim community's excuse for not reporting a young man who was known for asking the mosque leaders questions like why they don't kill all infidels etc. was that they didn't want there to be backlash against Muslims. For me, that's not good enough. If they're against them, do something about it.

And when are you going to start “doing something” about the discrimination and marginalisation Muslims face at the hands of non-muslims in western nations that facilitates radicalisation? Are you even going to admit that islamophobia plays a detrimental role in radicalising youths and vulnerable members of our communities? When are you gonna call out, denounce and report your own when they attack us and harass us on the streets or is it just easier for you to put the blame on all Muslims for not denouncing extremist behaviour hard enough? When are you going to face the fact that the ignorance and disdain with which you have treated Muslims in western nations has played an unparalleled role in the growth of radical and extremist terrorist organisations across the world? When are you going to apologise for that seeing as you expect us to apologise for everything all the time?

idk #muslimahfeels i guess but i hate the feeling that comes with complaining to someone about the basic issues of like not being allowed to move out on my own without being married and stuff cause it’s so stereotypical and i don’t wanna reveal that it’s actually a very real problem in my life!! i can’t just vent i feel like i have to defend our culture and religion whenever i’m talking about that stuff with super western non-muslims and it’s just exhausting to talk through your problems and simultaneously trivialize them so that people don’t use your experiences (knowingly or unknowingly) to further validate their own islamophobia

anonymous asked:

i am so bored with media honestly because there is no representation for muslim people (in regular entertainment)!! whenever i see a book or otherwise that seems like its loosely tied to islam i get super excited and pick it up but it turns out to be about an arranged marriage or someone fleeing from their country to seek refuge in white countries. im so sick of it. the only good representative entertainment company is marvel

RIIIGHT and if they’re put in, their religion is put on the back burner so their character can be so “wow westernized, Muslims are good ppl bc they can act ilke americans too!” like I had a rant about this I hate John Green’s portrayal of his muslim character in An Abundance of Katherines and I hate what they did to Abed’s character in Community, and the TLC show all american muslim was the biggest embarrassment of my life 

anonymous asked:

I'm lost. i'd like to get to know this girl better in a halal way, but I just want to know how to go about telling her father about marriage? What if she's not particularly in a position to be married exactly at that time, but maybe later down the line? Can we possibly have a relationship that's halal we keep until marriage? I'd like to know if I can talk to her father about doing that and see how that goes, but I just don't know how to do it without sounding too "straightforward" or rushing.

Yo, don’t have a fear about being straightforward because that’s what you need to be. Islam doesn’t play no games when it comes to marriage, there is no indirect beating around the bush. its “this is what I want, and this is what I will pursue”. The issues that a lot of young Muslim’s, particularly western Muslim’s, have is seeming like we’re going too fast, but you can’t think of marriage in a western view. If you want her and you want it to be Halal then talk with her father and say you want to get t know her in a Halal way and you’re seeking his permission to do that. That’s straightforward, and that’s what you’re doing. Yes it may lead to a possible marriage but you don’t know if you want to marry her or not you think you do, but you don’t know. So ask her father to allow you to get to know his daughter and if she’s ready for marriage then she’ll accept and y'all can pick a date that’s comfortable for you.

anonymous asked:

Hi, I just wanted to tell you how inspiring you are to me! I doubt living in a Western country as a Muslim is easy (I'm not sure tho, I'm not a Muslim nor do I live in a Western country), and yet you still manage(d) to carry out your duties as a Muslim and a student with no qualms whatsoever.You're awesome, and I'm sure you always will be! Bye :)

That’s very sweet, Thank you so much. I am not anywhere near a perfect muslim, although I think everyone goes through times where their iman is not as high as they want. 

Keep me and the ummah in your prayers. Take care x


I remember in college that we were obligated to watch TedTalks. At first I didn’t enjoy watching, but later I found myself watching TedTalks voluntarily. I really liked the concept: short but inspiring videos. I watched several talks about digital trends but also about inspiring people.

So today I’d like to talk about a specific talk I saw earlier. About a young woman named Alaa Murabit. In the video she talks about a problem that I share with her. People confusing religion and culture and then using religion as an argument to forbid things to women. But you know that isn’t the vision of Islam about women. Despite of what the media say. She is the living proof of what Muslim women are supposed to be: inspiring, strong, and smart. Read more on (This Ted Talk of Alaa Murabit Is a Must-See: What Islam Really Says About Women)