I really think there is something to the widespread idea of people who say they’re disabled being “fakers” -
That feeds in to feeling like you’re “Faking” no matter how much evidence you get to the contrary.
Because it’s “so rare” and the kind of thing that “only happens to other people” and faking is “so common”.
So trying to weed out the fakers isn’t helpful. It isn’t the work of an ally. It just makes *Real* disabled people feel like they should keep quiet about their needs.