We got married, now what?
Words cannot even begin to describe how amazing June 3, 2017 was for both of us. We were surrounded by everyone we love and we got to declare our love for each other in front of those people. It was utterly overwhelming and I am pretty sure I spent two days straight crying. With each speech, tears flowed. Each time I tried to put into words my love for Victoria, tears flowed. The entire weekend was honestly a dream come true. Nothing could have prepared me for all of the warmth we would be surrounded by.
It has been almost a month and we have somewhat settled into the routine of married life. People often ask us how married life is and we both kind of struggle to answer that question because it is not like anything has changed. We still don’t know what to do for dinner, we still bicker over where to park, and we still fight for space in our Queen-sized bed. Honestly, the only things that changed are that I got a new last name and Victoria got better health insurance.
But I wouldn&;t have it any other way. I have always said that the mundane moments with Vic are what I love most. She makes the mundane feel anything but. I can only hope that will continue in the years to come.
We leave on Friday for our annual family vacation in St. John, USVI. It will feel somewhat like a honeymoon. Our true honeymoon will occur in December in Costa Rica. Once we get around to planning it…
After that, it is onto the rest of forever and looking toward the future. We have started casually looking for homes with more bedrooms and in a better school district. I know I have complained about people already asking if we are going to have kids but yes, we are.
We don’t have a definite timeline or plan but we know it is something we are working toward. Sometimes the thought of being responsible for another human life scares the living daylights out of me. But I know I have the best partner in Victoria. She was born to be a mother and I know with her encouragement and maybe a few mistakes along the way, we will be just fine.
I know I have also complained about people asking really personal questions about our family planning process. And what I said still stands true, you really can’t just ask people about how they plan to create a family. Lez be real, you wouldn’t ask a straight couple so the same rules apply to an LGBTQ couple.
That being said, Victoria and I have already decided to be really open about our process. For the very fact that people don’t talk about it often. Our hope is that in sharing our story, our loved ones can share in our joy and maybe other LGBTQ couples will learn more about the various options to create a family.
So consider this the start of giving you a glimpse into our lives as a newly married lesbian couple and the very very beginning of our family planning process.