The fear of abandonment we feel in loving or romantic relationships is the adult version of the fear of abandonment we felt as children, when we couldn’t survive if we were left alone. Unfortunately, many adults still believe they will face some sort of psychological death if someone they are bonded to leaves them. But the “black hole of loneliness/emptiness” isn’t real. The fear of never being noticed, loved or being appreciated or valued exists only in the imagination. It is a lie masquerading as the truth.