we talked it over

The most important thing to realize is that we have no power over other people, events or even outcomes. But we absolutely have power over how we treat and talk to ourselves - which includes what we allow into our space.
—  Megyn Blanchard

anonymous asked:

do people actually make friends online??? like i hear about it but have u made actual friends on here it sounds fake

Yeah I have a bunch asdsgaha, @dissapparate and I started talking over 3 years ago and we talk basically every day and I don’t even consider her a “online friend” anymore, she’s just Sej. @siriusblacc and i started talking like 18 months ago and @spaceboyjim and i started talking like a year ago and they’re both coming to stay at my home for a week next month. @punkpeqqy and I started talking like 15 months ago and we talk all the time and she’s one of my favourite people in the world and I stayed with her in NYC back in May. @hipstersteve and i started talking around January time last year I believe??? But I love her dearly, she’s also one of my favourite people in the world and we went to my first Broadway show together. And then there’s a bunch that i have tragically not met yet but love with my whole heart nonetheless @alrightrogers, @yikesbucky (who is having a birthday today), @honestlygarbage and @hollandztom 💖

So yeah, it’s possible to make friends online, it’s how I met my favourite people.

my best friend from elementary school (who’s chinese) who i haven’t talked to in over 7 years (we had a falling out in the 6th grade and then she moved to south africa. now we’re quite cordial but we don’t ever talk directly) @’d me on instagram in a video of this white girl dressed in a shit ton of chinese traditional clothing prancing around chinatown and her comment was “i feel like you’ll understand why i’m pissed off.” it’s kind of surreal bc we haven’t talked in so long but she knows i’m into social justice i guess!!! which is nice bc i guess she reads my facebook posts!! but i’m also like… she only has white friends now and this is what happens when you only have white friends!!! you end up reaching out to estranged people to vent about racism aghekjghdfkjh

anonymous asked:

I've had a crush on this boy for two years and I'm scared that he hates me. I have so much anxiety about crushes but , he makes me feel so happy. Even though I love him, I'd value a friendship over a relationship with him. I hope we talk more as the next school year begins. I miss that tall dork.

Anxiety is awful and I’m sorry you gotta go through it (I do the same thing tbh. I think my boy hates me but I know it’s just my mind being rude) it’s very big of you to focus on a friendship though and I commend you for it. I hope you get to see him soon! ~❤︎

honestly what dystopia do inclusionists live in if they think cishet aces, cishet aros, and cis aroaces will all know when to shut up and not talk over LGBT people.. if we’re all welcoming them into our spaces like they’re one of us? how can you trust a group of cis, non-LGBP people to all acknowledge their privilege and never be bigoted? especially if we’re all walking on eggshells to make sure they feel valid, non-threatened, and Most Definitely Oppressed and hated by straight society?

Like, I see people trying to make “Pokemon Go Fest=Dashcon plus Fyre Festival” a thing, and I understand. That’s the way the dork media bread is made. And look, it sucks that a bunch of people looked forward to a weekend of communing with like minded peers trying to find… like Pikachu or whatever the fuck happens in the game, only to find 100 degree heat, shitty internet, a wedding DJ, and Vine Stars trying to talk over the “We Can’t Play “Chants.

 And while I can’t understand like… traveling out of state for… well really anything that isn’t a wedding, family emergency, or a blowjob, I guess I can empathize with anybody who would do that. I also know that if I’m going to any event like say… a concert or a public execution, I expect the people RUNNING IT to know what the fuck they’re doing. If they don’t, the next couple hours is going to be me frantically threatening lawsuits to some poor dude who’s only been paid with a “Volunteer” shirt.


Like, shit went haywire due to poor planning, an act of god, or (America’s vastly inferior Internet capabilities that only look to get worse before it gets better)… but people weren’t stuck there. They stayed around because they paid good money for this… and really anybody who has been stuck with a bad internet connection knows that seething obsession that slowly builds as you try to get just one fucking bar. But people, even the people from out of town, they could say “Fuck it” at any time and go back to their houses or hotels. 

The Fyre Festival people were literally stuck in another fucking country! Sure a lot of the people there were execrable pieces of shit, some of whom deserve an outright ass kicking, but you can at least empathize with their plight, especially when the response from the Fyre festival people was basically “LOL what can you do?” Plus, the events of late April also revealed the giant ponzi scheme that was going on behind it. 

And while Dashcon wasn’t as grand as Fyre Festival, you were basically dealing with a bunch of teenagers, some of whom traveled for the first time without adult supervision, getting screwed out of money AND lodging. As much as I’ve laughed, it wasn’t ever directed towards the kids, it was directed at the One Free Hour in the Ball Pit crew and their willful neglect of every single aspect of their convention. Seeing some of those kids throw their money away, or get stuck in a hotel lobby sitting next to their briefcases… well that’s fucking heartbreaking tbh. 

(Like, have you ever been in a situation as a teenager where you’re stuck someplace, and you are just sitting somewhere wondering what to do next? And then you gotta make the dreadful call to the parents, who are concerned in a way that sounds like outright disapproval? And then your mom icily says “Your father’s leaving work right now to pick you up, ok, so make sure you answer his call.” And then what, a half hour to 4 hour trip back home where Dad is like “So let me get this straight…” and you’re like “Dad I said I don’t want to talk about it” and the rest of the car ride is you staring at the trees next to the highway and meditating on life’s innate cruelty? Now imagine that, but only with pictures of you dressed as Adventure Time dude reblogged over 100,000 times.)

So anyway, people will get their money back, that company will go bankrupt, and everybody will have a story of a hot sweaty day in the park. It’s not exactly an earth shaking event where you’re confronted with man’s inhumanity to man and shit.


Luz released “With You” over the weekend.

Btw, can we talk about his English? It’s so amazingly done, it’s killing me.

anonymous asked:

Help: I think I might be in love with my boyfriend but it's only been three weeks and I really don't want to say it first because I'm worried I'll scare him off. But we always compliment each other back and forth for hours and my brain keeps screaming 'I love you!' over and over when we talk

I can’t help too much because I’m not one to judge like when is too soon for loving someone. I guess it kind of depends on how long you’ve know them too ?? Idk. My roommate knew her boyfriend a few months or so before dating and they were really close friends, they said they loved each other like the week after they started dating. I’m not sure how it all works, tbh. I always just assume you get this feel™ and you’re like oh my god I love you. Idk tho. Not an expert, and maybe my roommate wasn’t the best example 😅

Determination is yellow

(undertale spoilers)

Determination is “the will to keep living… the resolve to change fate.” It’s the power that gives human souls “the strength to persist after death.” It is so powerful that it brought Flowey to life and gave him the power to control the underground’s timeline. 

Because many people believe the red soul represents determination, some players associate determination with the color red. However, determination is found in all human souls, and there is evidence that all of the fallen humans had the power to save, load, and reset. Furthermore, there is a strong link between determination and yellow – the save point.

In Entry Number 5, the word “Determination” is in yellow (and contrary to popular belief, “Determination” is never written in red). The lab entry is written by Alphys, so she would know the color of the determination she extracted from the souls. While it is not the exact same color as the save point, it is extremely close. Closer than the other yellows found in the game, such as the golden flowers. Coincidentally, Flowey is also the same color yellow as the save point. It’s possible he became this brighter yellow after being injected with determination.

However, the most conclusive evidence is from the Undertale Demo’s instruction pages – specifically the TITLE SCREEN page.

The save point is literally “the manifestation of your own DETERMINATION.” While these instructions are not included in the official release of Undertale, the statement makes sense. Determination is the source of the power to SAVE and CONTINUE/LOAD. It also ties in nicely with the facts that the color yellow is used for selection in the main menu and the save menu turns yellow on a successful save.

Ultimately, there is more evidence that determination is the color yellow rather than red.

Important Note: Please keep in mind that the color of determination is separate from the human soul traits and colors. The yellow soul has the trait Justice, and this analysis does not change that. What this analysis provides is a more appropriate color for the physical component found in all souls – determination – and this disregards it as a trait for the red soul. For those interested in what the red soul’s trait is, please read our theory, the red soul.

SDCC 2017 Rebecca Sugar interview

Rewind and Pause interviewed Rebecca Sugar in this fifteen-minute interview. Here’s a sorta-transcript–not word for word, but basically what the questions are and how she answered, paraphrased.

Question: A lot of the show’s symbolism is inspired by Utena. Can you discuss that show’s influence?

Rebecca: When I was a teen, that show was an epiphany for me! It plays with the semiotics of gender and I was a bisexual teen relating to it in a way I’d never related to anything before. The show is beautiful and I love that she decides she wants to BE a prince after being saved by a prince. And it’s also funny. It’s so extreme that it’s funny, and that was a huge influence on me as well, that something could be so dramatic and so beautiful but also wacky. It’s so extreme that it’s powerful at the same time as being funny. I got to see the origins and see Guys and Dolls at the Takarazuka Theater when I visited Japan. Osamu Tezuka grew up in that town! You know, Princess Knight, which has everything to do with Utena. I got to see some of the roots there and it was a big influence. Amazing.

Question: Another influence, especially lately, you can draw comparisons between Steven’s miracles and Christ figures. Are you exploring this, and potentially modernizing that allegory, with different kinds of love?

Rebecca: We’re inspired by every voice that has ever spoken about peace. I think–I’ve been reading about Hillel the Elder and how he said “If I’m not for myself, then who will be for me?” The gentleness with which he approached everything is really inspiring to me. I think that I’m very influenced by my Jewish upbringing. I’m half Jewish and was raised Jewish. I’ve felt the feeling of belonging but not belonging. I’ve been moved by this incredible history and this wonderful community that I wanted to understand and be a part of. That’s all been a big influence on the show as well. It was all about growing up with my brother, and that was a big part of my life. There’s a lot of spiritualism in the show.

Question: I wanna ask you about the color symbolism? And I’d be remiss if I didn’t say thank you for showing our community on TV. About Steven: His Gem is pink, his shield is pink, his sword is pink, his shoes are pink! It subverts the tropes of a traditional male hero. Was that intentional?

Rebecca: Oh, it’s COMPLETELY intentional. Yeah, I think one of the things I wanted to do as I went into the show was address how intensely gendered shows for children are and dissolve that. That was my first goal. And I think it came in large part because as a little kid I always gravitated toward boys’ shows, and I felt extremely guilty about that. And I don’t think my child self should have had to feel bad, but I understood “this is not really for me.” So as we went into this, I wanted NO ONE to have to feel that. I wanted everyone who wanted to, to feel it was for them. Especially since it’s gender nonconforming as a show.

Question: Silly question: Peridot and Lapis are roommates. What do you think their biggest pet peeves are of each other? If they have any, I mean.

Rebecca: Gosh. I think Lapis is sort of both annoyed and comforted by Peridot’s infinite energy. I often thought of them like the sort of old cartoon idea of a small dog and a big sort of like doesn’t-really-care dog. With a small very very excited dog. I felt that that was a dynamic for them. So I think that that, like those characters, it’s annoying to Lapis but she doesn’t actually dislike it.

Question: Congrats on the Emmy nomination!

Rebecca: THANK YOU!

Question: I hope we get to see “It’s Over, Isn’t It?” and “Both of You” during the Emmys. How do you feel?

Rebecca: I’m so excited, and I’m so glad it’s that one. It was such a fun dream to make a musical episode. I always loved those, they’re always my favorite. I couldn’t wait to do ours. Everyone was firing on all cylinders for that episode. I got to do music with Jeff Liu and Ben Levin, and Aivi and Surasshu’s compositions for the finals were stunning, the backgrounds are incredible, the art is so beautiful, it’s Jeff Liu and Joe Johnston’s last board together, it was one of the last episodes I got to work on with Ian before he left to do his show, so it also has a special place in my heart, I remember seeing it come back and being in the edit bay watching it and my eyes were welling up because “this is it, this is everything I ever wanted.”

Question: Not to mention Deedee crushing it.

Rebecca: She’s amazing! And that was when she was doing Tommy! So we got her on a day she’d been doing shows all day, and she came and knocked that out.

Question: First take?

Rebecca: We did several, but all of those takes were amazing. I love writing songs for Deedee. And that one, it has some notes in it that I cannot hit. But I know Deedee can do it.

Question: Now when you write songs, you hear a lot of the demos you write on ukulele a lot, but you play other instruments. Do you find that you write differently depending on what instrument you’re writing for?

Rebecca: Yes! Oh, completely. I have my go-to ukulele chords. But I also like to write songs on the omnichord, which is like a synthetic harpsichord from the 80s. And it has a row of buttons, you hit a button and you get that chord. I can use it for experimentation for chords I might not have thought of. I got one off eBay, the OM-84, and it was a little buggy, it wouldn’t play right, would go out of tune, and I took it to get it looked at, and these incredibly corroded batteries fell out of it! With this cloud of red dust! So I can’t put batteries in it anymore. But I can plug it in and it still works.

Question: So for “Love Like You,” is it connected to any of the characters or any point of view, or was it more a one-off?

Rebecca: “Love Like You” is so unusual. It started as a point-of-view song for all Gems, and the thesis of the whole show, sort of toward Steven, and my own brother Steven, but because it was the credits, I wrote the song over three years in little pieces. I thought at the start that this is about an alien that’s looking at a human, who loves them, and the secret meaning of this is that they don’t have the capacity to feel this way. By the middle of it I was deep into the show and going through a real crisis of confidence, where I was like “why are people looking to me? It’s not right!” and these people were coming out of the woodwork to thank me for the show, people who had been able to speak to their families in these wonderful new ways, people who had become comfortable with themselves in these incredible ways that I had not been able to do! Where I was like “I’m so inspired by everyone! Why are they thanking me?” So the middle of the song I was sort of in that place. And about a year later, I realized the beginning was not what I had thought it was about at all. It’s not a secret meaning about an alien who doesn’t understand humans. It’s about the fact that I had always loved my brother and had these people who would love me unconditionally in my life, and because of my insecurity I had not been able to be there for them 100%, and I realized this was maybe one of the most human things I’d ever written, and I had written it by accident. So I got to conclude it. It was seriously written over 3 years.

Question: Recently we talked about how the show has been dramatic and full of conflict. It’s great but do you ever have concerns about taking the show–it’s a very positive show, so does the conflict have the potential to go too far, or do you like making it more challenging?

Rebecca: I’m excited to be more ambitious with the story, and the danger they’re experiencing also feels like a danger for us who are writing the show. Writing stories that are more ambitious and challenging. It feels necessary, because it’s about how love conquers all, but you can’t write that story without showing what comes up against that. I’m excited to explore the–you’re right, it’s scary to explore where hate comes from in a show about love. I want to–it’s a challenge to stay positive while exploring that. But that’s a challenge I experience in LIFE. And that’s a challenge we’re all experiencing right now. So it also feels like the time to explore that in myself and in the show.


Yixing must have been wearing pants with glue on them (cr.)


David Tennant & Christian Brassington at the Wimbledon 2017 Men’s Final

  • what she says: i'm fine
  • what she means: it's 1:59am and i'm literally lying in bed thinking about the umbrella scene and how important it is to the entire existence of the characters and relationships in this show. it is so symbolic of the connection between adrien and marinette and even though we've seen all different variations of their interactions throughout the entire season before that moment, nothing comes close to how significant and poignant this final scene is for these two characters. the shift in colors and atmosphere from the rest of the show in this one scene just emphasizes how important it is and the final line of the scene and episode and technically even season is literally "those two are meant for each other," tying everything up so perfectly that i have no words to describe how i feel about that final line. i also just stopped in the middle of this rant to watch the scene for the 30th time and i'm overwhelmed by how beautiful it is, from adrien's laugh to marinette's sigh to the amazing soundtrack in the background. but most importantly i am so happy that above all else, this scene establishes the friendship between adrien and marinette and how important it is to adrien especially. every time i watch this scene i feel so content and so satisfied and so blessed. we are so blessed to be living in the same lifetime as this scene. we are so blessed