If women, if queer people, if people of color have survived in a world this long that refuses to represent them that must amount to a force much greater than one man with nothing more to invest in than his ego. We have been forced to know how to fight since day one and this is our advantage. When I get dysphoric, I ease in determination. When I hear the quiet voice in my head that tells me, ‘We have done this before. We know how to do this.’
In order to make these changes, we must be aware and constantly acknowledge our privileges. This means understanding and admitting that a majority of the white woman vote went to Trump, and we must work harder to make people aware that racial bias and gender bias cannot be separated, they work together.
Alec couldn’t sleep. No matter how hard he tried, no matter how many
times he closed his eyes, sleep wouldn’t come. He kept looking over at Magnus
on the other side of the bed, trying to calm his breath with the raising and
falling of Magnus’ chest. They hadn’t spoken much since Alec came over after
the party. Since it had been late, they’d decided to just go to bed. Magnus had
fallen asleep quickly. He’d been mumbling about something while suddenly
stopping in mid sentence.
I get that some people are extremely upset over whether or not the bmblb song is queer baiting. But for me I have other things to be upset about.
While it’s good to get recognition in media it will do a lot better to get recognition in the real world.
Did you know in my country Australia same sex marriage is legalised only in the ACT (Australian capital territory) and no other state recognises same sex marriage? That’s something to be upset about. And Australia is meant to be one of the most diverse countries in the world with equal rights for all.
I feel real sorry for Arryn and all the hate she was getting for trying to calm the situation down and get others to understand. But of course people say that she just wanted to cause trouble. Arryn deserves our respect and our gratitude not our hate over a song.
I’m just over the reactions of some people. I am a lesbian myself and I identify with the LGBT community but to be honest if we are to make a difference for our group we must focus on making a change in the real world and not in a fictitious one.
“The great hindrance in spiritual life is that we will look only for big things to do. ‘Jesus took a towel… and began to wash the disciples’ feet.’ There are times when there is no illumination and no thrill, but just the daily round, the common task. Routine is God’s way of saving us between our times of inspiration. Do not expect God always to give you His thrilling minutes, but learn to live in the domain of drudgery by the power of God.” (Oswald Chambers)
One of the biggest mistakes we can make as Christians, as HUMANS, is thinking that in order to be important, to do good, to make change, we must do big things. We must be famous. We must have millions. We must have thousands of followers. But that’s not true. Look at the example of Jesus. He did things like washing His disciples’ feet. Why? Because that significantly impacted them. Or just look at the size of his ministry. For three years He ministered, having hundreds, thousands, follow Him and come and hear Him speak and watch Him perform miracles. But by the end of His life, He had twelve disciples to show for it all. One of them betrayed Him, so He technically had eleven. The Son of God came, and put all His effort into ELEVEN people.
But those eleven people ended up changing the world.
You don’t know the effects of the actions you take part in. You don’t know the ways your choices and your decisions will influence others. Each day, we’re influencing and changing the world around us. We’re defining culture and norms and what it means to live in relationship with others. But are we making change for the better? Or are we ignoring the importance of the small things, waiting only for “big ways” we can do ministry? Take advantage of each moment, friends. There is significant importance in surrendering each and every habit, behaviour, word, and action that we do.
P.S. “My Utmost For His Highest” is brilliant. My parents just got it for me, and Oswald Chambers is a very wise man. Highly recommend the book.
On my way to the airport yesterday, I was picked up by a cabbie named Chuck.
Chuck served in the Navy for 22 years. He worked, lived, and partied across the Pacific Islands until deciding to collect his retirement. When he saw my poster tube, we naturally got on the subject of why I was in Vegas, how I studied sea turtles and was presenting my research here, etc.
He thinks turtles in general are the coolest (“I mean, nothing else ‘cept maybe the armadillo has a shell! Think about that! That’s why they’ve been around so long!”), and one of the first things he said was, “I wish they’d start doing better and we’d bring ‘em back from the brink of extinction because man, they are such good eating”
I didn’t bat an eye. I’ve heard this before; I also know that some very successful conservation efforts are borne out of a regular person’s desire to eat a species sustainably; that locals get involved with conservation efforts for this very reason. We chatted about this and I got to tell him about turtle excluder devices (TEDs) used in the shrimp trawling industry. We agreed how we would both much rather pay taxes that go to funding TEDs on every trawl boat in the Gulf than to our corrupt governor or legislator’s next mansion. That it’s hard for a seasonal fisherman to fund a $700 TED on a boat, or that scientists and government officials don’t get that he and his daddy and his granddaddy have been doing this their whole lives, and have a bad taste in their mouth from people telling them what to do and telling them that they know better.
Chuck may be “just” a cab driver, he may be a retiree, but he reads Science magazine. He may want TEDs so that he can sustainably eat shrimp, whereas I want them to save sea turtles and couldn’t care less about eating shrimp anymore. He’s plugged in, and he isn’t stupid; his background is just slightly different than mine, and we want the same things.
We naturally got onto the topic of climate change. Chuck acknowledges that something is going on, that the Earth’s climate is heating and changing. He’s not sure whether it’s entirely anthropogenic, and a 15 minute cab ride to the airport was neither the time nor the place for me to throw facts at him.
Instead, I focused on the fact that Chuck, regardless of the cause of climate change, wants to see humans try to make it better. He said, “We have got to do something or this (gesturing to the surrounding sprawl of civilization on either side of the highway) will all fall apart.” So that’s what I said to him. I said, “Chuck you know, that’s it exactly. The science is pretty sound, our models are getting better and better every day, but at the end of the day, shouldn’t it just be enough that you want to make the earth a better place for everyone? That the sooner that we get past this rhetorical pitfall of ‘who dun it’, we can start to make actual, appreciable changes?”
Chuck must have been about 82 years old. I’m nearly 25. He’s been around, seen a lot. And he remarked to me at the end of the cab ride how much he enjoyed talking to me, how it made his day, and how this was a new, great way of thinking about climate change and activism. That we have nothing to lose by switching to sustainable resources, eating less meat, telling our politicians to get their acts together and make good on their climate summit promises.
I reflect on this on Earth Day, and because March for Science isn’t far from my mind today. I’m reflecting on how the newly published video narrated by Neil deGrasse Tyson revs me up in certain ways, but how problematic I find some of its rhetoric, and some of the rhetoric on the March for Science official facebook page.
For whom is this video made? I’ll tell you, from the time I spent with him, Chuck wouldn’t have been compelled by this video. He’d have been indifferent at best, and angry at the worst. This video isn’t made for him. But isn’t it important that he, and people like him, be reached, encouraged to make a difference, feel like they’re not considered ‘less than’ just because they’re not scientists?
What did work was having a conversation with him. Being kind, talking about things person to person– no lecturing, no fact regurgitation. I think that my conversation with Chuck will have more of a lasting impact on him than seeing that video ever would. And talking with Chuck has had an impact on me too. It reminds me that I’m a citizen of the Earth just like him. And that outsider perspective is absolutely key to my work and how I relate to the science I do. What does it all even matter if it’s not positively impacting people like Chuck? What does it even matter if I can’t sympathize with the shrimp boat drivers that have to rely on a transient resource to put dinner on the table for themselves and their families?
It occurs to me that this conversation could have gone much more differently for Chuck if it had been a different person in his cab. If it had been a different sea turtle conference attendee, or a different scientist. That someone could have jumped down his throat for his ‘good eating’ comment, or his thoughts on climate change. And he wouldn’t have walked away from that conversation telling the person how he was going to go out and buy a book on sea turtles now.
We march for science, but let us also march for the people who stand to benefit from it, whose lives are made better from its advances. Let us march for them even when we don’t see quite eye to eye on certain issues, for certainly the issue of saving our planet is more important. I think far more often than not, we can all agree that something needs to be done. I think we’ll find that people are more willing than we realize to join in and help. And we need them if we’re going to win this fight.
It is time to stop using ‘girl’ for females who haven’t had sex and ‘woman’ for those who have. Even if the sad reality is that our societies do still believe that it is a man and his penis that make us into women, we must change the language to inspire a change in attitude.
Mona Eltahawy, “Headscarves and Hymens: Why the Middle East Needs A Sexual Revolution
[Not crying because I’m Latina, not crying because I’m the daughter of an immigrant, not crying because I’m a woman - crying because I loved America and I used to think that deep down it loved us too.]
America only loves the privileged. Do not be fooled. Do not be complacent. We must make a change.
A capitalist is a capitalist. Consent does not matter to them, whether the politician is a liberal or a conservative. Climate change can only be stopped through system change. The people can’t rely on disconnected bourgeois leaders to make change, for they only care about growing profits. We must unite to make real change ourselves collectively. We have no other choices: either build direct-democratic socialism or be crushed by this capitalist barbarism.
Let’s talk about my favourite scene, which is coincidentally Natasha’s final appearance in Civil War. (AKA Why I Think People Shouldn’t Be Calling Her A Double Agent)
But before that, let’s talk about how when Natasha was waiting in the hangar, she wasn’t there solely with the intention of helping Steve and Bucky get away. It was likely one of the options she considered if it came down to it. Only when she realized that Steve wasn’t going to give in, did she let them go.
“You’re not gonna stop.”
Here’s when she starts realizing it’s a very real possibility she needs to deviate from the original plan to take them in. Because it would only get worse from here.
“I’m gonna regret this.”
And this is when she makes up her mind to let them go. She says it with reluctance, but since she’s made her decision, she’s sticking to it. For the greater good.
When she returns to the compound, the accusation on Tony’s face says it all; he thinks she betrayed him. Natasha’s expression, however, is intriguing. There is no sign of guilt, no looking down or looking away. At most, I interpret it as a look of concern. She fully believes what she did was the right thing to do. She assumes Tony understands why she did it.
And why wouldn’t she think that?
She’s seen him struggle to keep the Avengers together. She’s seen him allow Ross to tear into him just so they can be the ones to bring their friends in instead of Special Ops. She’s heard him beg Steve to give in. She was there when he told Steve he was just trying to keep the Avengers from being torn apart. She has every reason to believe that Tony, like her, is only doing what is best for the Avengers.
This is what she says after Tony gives her the run-down on Rhodey’s injuries:
“Steve’s not gonna stop. And if you aren’t either, Rhodey’s gonna be the best case scenario.”
Does she talk about what she did or even try to apologize? No. Because she doesn’t think she did anything wrong. She immediately gets down to business. She’s discussing strategies with him, trying to convince him to back down, to revise their original plan because it’s clearly not panning out the way they want. Nobody was supposed to get hurt. But Steve, their friend, made a choice. He’s not going to give in, and Natasha realizes that if they don’t change how they’re dealing with him, it’d only go downhill from here.
“You let them go, Nat.”
Self-explanatory. In addition to the look of betrayal Tony gives her at the start, there is now further evidence that they’re viewing things from different angles.
“We played this wrong.”
Natasha uses the word “we”. It’s them against the world, her and him having to work together to make the situation better. Their original plan may have failed, but they can still salvage it if they make a few changes.
“We? Boy, it must be hard to shake the whole double agent thing, huh. Sticks in the DNA.”
“Are you incapable of letting go of your ego for one goddamned second?”
Tony’s remark about trust hits Natasha hard. The thing to note is the expression she first gets when she hears it. His words catch her off-guard. It implies that it never occurred to her that she was taking sides, and therefore, “betraying” sides. Her goal has always been to do what’s best for the Avengers. That means Team Avengers for Team Avengers. Not Tony vs Steve.
But the realization of what Tony says hits her hard. And it hurts. It’s subtle, but it’s there on her face and in her voice. It’s a glimpse of a vulnerable Natasha.
At this point, she stops trying to reason with him and shoots back with a remark about his ego. She’s not just saying it out of frustration with his inability to see the bigger picture. It’s personal, just like his words were personal. She has issues with trust; he has issues with his ego.
You hurt me. I hurt you.
It doesn’t end with a happily ever after. Tony still thinks that she, one of the few friends he thought was standing by his side, betrayed him. And Natasha, stinging from his accusation as all hope of keeping her family together dissipates into thin air.
There is anger, hurt, and frustration. But despite that,
their last words to each other were ones of caution. They were looking out for each other. Because in the end, they’re still family. And family looks out for family.
❛ WE WOMEN MUST ALWAYS make the best of our circumstances. ❜ she muses quietly, lips that preen over edge of class, sweet and deep crimson that stains mouth. ❛ failure is never an option. ❜ @prettyfoole
The one thing we forget to tell people is how enough they are. We are so quick to tell them what to change and how to change it, but we do not tell them they are enough. You can be enough and still work on yourself. You can be enough and still be imperfect. It is not about being perfect or having it all together, it is about knowing that they can embark on this journey themselves.
We fail to see that sometimes, it is the feeling of not being enough that plunges some into despair. We are made to compare. Some of us are born into a culture that tells you what success is and defines it for you. You live in a prison of what the ideal life has to look like and if you are not there, you are not enough?
What one can heal through in a year, some might need years. We are all different and experience pain differently. We must also remember we experience growth very differently.
Change. Grow. Make mistakes but be honest with yourself. When it is time to become a butterfly, be a butterfly. Don’t remain where you are. Do not believe that this pain has to always be a part of you.
You deserve love, most especially, you deserve your own unconditional love.
A riot is the language of the unheard. I support the movement. We should fight for not only justice, but peace as well. In order to make effective and lasting changes, we must unite as one and stand up for what we believe in. I believe in fighting for justice. Like the great Martin Luther King Jr once said, “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” One thing many people don’t realize is that racism and discrimination is still very much alive. Riots don’t happen out of thin air and chaos is rarely an accident. This is the outcome of many people being mistreated, people abusing their authority, murders, etc. Understanding and peace cannot be reached without a sense of trust, compassion, or true effort. Instead of getting better, things are just getting worse. Why? Because society and the government made it okay to tear each other down instead of build each other up. Doing what’s right must matter more than doing what’s convenient.
“There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but he must take it because conscience tells him it is right.” -Martin Luther King
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” -Martin Luther King
Biosphere implosion and the power structure push toward global conflict,
these themes will continue to be the greatest and most immediate
existential challenges we collectively face. Though the majority of
first world societies are still desperately clinging to their programmed
denial of reality, does this mean the effort to wake the masses should
be abandoned? Giving up in the fight for the greater good is never an
option. Constantly improving our efforts to efficiently and effectively
pass on credible data to others is the only way forward. Keeping a
consistent and factually verifiable message when communicating dire
truths to those around us is essential, credibility is key. What can
each of us do to help turn the tide at this late hour?
Though the battle to awaken populations to all that is unfolding can
often seem futile, we must remember that rapidly changing circumstances
will soon make mass denial impossible to maintain. The seeds of credible
data we collectively sow will soon enough find fertile ground, let’s
make every day count.
I can’t believe Gilmore Girls came back after 9 years just to writers completely turn my OTP OOC instead of give them the endgame they deserved or, at very least, the RESPECT
I DIDN’T WAIT 9 YEARS TO SEE THE BEST DEVELOPED RORY RELATIONSHIP, TRUE LOVE/TRUE FIT, TURN INTO THAT FAIL.
Logan ISN’T Christopher, we all could write essays about it, because
they aren’t the same, Rogan always brought BEST on each other, it was beautifully done, to what? Writers make them OOC (not their cuteness, but the circunstances R/L were put into, whyyy) suddenly in this revival, going for that ridiculous lazy copy and paste route from nowhere, in clear way to make room to viewers think of Jess as ‘the better choice to go’.
Because even if Rory and Logan had break up IN character with other storyline, people would still support them hard. But writers didn’t want that, so they purposefully destroyed it. They completely ignored S7, and prob even the proposal (no wonder they weren’t on charge of S7). They completely ignored their amazing development.
let’s face it. If Rory and Logan were true to themselves and not going completely OOC by writers. NO ONE could beat Logan at that spot.
Can Rogan get fixed in possible S2? Of course, I even saw a post with a hc very close to what I had imagined (Logan ending his engagement right after Rory was gone and going after her before know about any baby, and getting them even if is his baby or not,
saying what they’ve
was wrong, they were lost without each other
with each other, but truth is that
always were found on each other, + of course good plot, good development, in character, good writing) because dispite everything in revival THEY STILL LOVE EACH OTHER. They’re IT,
It will happen? Unfortuntelly I don’t think so. The route writers chose to go, Amy saying Logan is Christopher *ugh*
and stablishing him like that, the damage
done, implied to me that they can even get friendly closure bit more well written but not end up together bc writer focus is make her be with other one, hence they did the fail with
I just… can’t with this bs. But gosh I wish they could fix this asap. WE MUST BE VOCAL. LET’S
MAKE THEM CHANGE THIS.