we have received orders not to move

Busybody stay-at-home mom neighbor harasses me until my restraining order kicks her out of her house.

I lived across the street from a very bored stay-at-home mom whose excess idle time turned her into an insufferable busybody.

Her husband backed out of the driveway and slammed into my roommate’s car parked on the curb. He apologized, gave us his insurance info, and took care of it. He was never a problem, because he accepted responsibility for what he did.

His wife, however, demanded that we never ever park any cars at the curb again, because “we can’t get out of our driveway otherwise”. The street was very wide - she was just completely unable to accept that the accident was her husband’s fault, and figured we were somehow responsible for it, ergo we were responsible for preventing it in the future.

We told her that we would avoid parking there whenever possible, but that we still had the legal right to park on the street, and that if necessary we would still do so, and that it was her and her husband’s responsibility to avoid hitting other people’s legally parked cars when backing out of the driveway. She wasn’t happy with that answer, but just told us we better stay out of her family’s way, and stormed off.

One day, she came storming over, banging on the front door, cussing us out. We got her on our security camera saying “If you don’t move that f*cking car in the next 10 minutes, I am going to f*cking total it with my truck. It’ll be your fault, and you’ll have to pay for the damage to my f*cking vehicle”. To this, I simply responded: “I don’t know whose car that is, but I didn’t park it there. I have you on camera, so if you do anything to that car, I’ll have to call the police and hand over this tape”. She then threatened to sue me for invasion of privacy for recording her, and still insisted that we move the car, even though it wasn’t our property. We just ignored her, and she did not do anything to the car - we did keep the recording though.

A few weeks later, I had a friend visit from out of town. He parked his car on the curb, and then started unloading some stuff from his trunk. She came storming out, screaming and cussing at him “I have told you repeatedly never park your f*cking car on this curb. If you don’t move it, I am going to f*cking total it, and you can f*cking pay for a new goddamn car, as well as the damage you do to mine!” He tried to calm her down, and asked if there was somewhere else he could park, and she replied “You can park it in Hell, because that’s where you’ll be after I f*cking kill you!”.

Unfortunately for her, he had his dashcam running the whole time, and it captured everything. He called the police, and she was arrested for threatening to commit vandalism and for threatening violence.

A few days later, she left a long-winded hate-letter in our mailbox. It was written as if it were an open letter from the entire neighborhood, and it basically said that “nobody knows who you are”, and “Everyone wishes you would move away”, and “Nobody wants you living in our neighborhood”.

Thing is, she forgot about the security cameras. I took the video of her opening my mailbox - which included her taking all our letters out of the mailbox and rifling through them - and I gave them to the post office. This led to her getting arrested for a second time that week.

After that, we used her two arrests, our collection of security and dashcam footage, and her letter to get a restraining order against her that actually prohibited her from entering her own home, and then we called the police every time we saw her because she was in violation of the order.

She ended up having to live in a hotel room, and her husband came over, apologized to us, and asked if we would drop the restraining order so his wife could come home. I told him I would do it, but only if she wrote me, my wife, our roommates, and the friend of mine she threatened a 1-page apology for her harassment - and that she would promise to never ever contact us again for any reason whatsoever moving forward.

I received no apology, and the house went on the market a week later.

Some f*cking people…

Spread your wings - Arrival

Summary: Virgil is about to start university, and he starts living together with three others. Meeting new people and living in a new place is already overwhelming, but Virgil has another obstacle to overcome. After all, he is a little… different from his housemates. Winged!Virgil.

Triggers/Warnings: nervous thoughts (tell me if anything needs to be tagged)

Pairing: none for now, will probably end up as platonic LAMP.

Words: 1787.

A/N: I’ve been thinking about Winged!Virgil again. A lot. Way too much, probably. I tried to find answers to questions that I came up with as I thought, and I decided to work these into a fic. I have no big finale planned, but I wanted to explore the Winged!Universe for a bit. If you have questions or prompts, feel free to send them in.

This is going to be a little like Demi-chan wa kataritai/Interviews with monster girls and Centaur no nayami/Centaur’s life. Both are lighthearted anime series about people who are not human (vampire, dullahan, snow woman in Demi-chan, centaurs, winged people, snake people and merfolk in Centaur) and about how their world functions. It covers subjects like discrimination and handicaps that other species may have. 


Virgil checked the paper in his hands for the fifth time, because he really didn’t want to show up at the wrong house. The address matched with that of the house in front of him, just like it had the four times before. Well, now that he had… quintuple-checked it (was that even a word? Maybe double-triple-checked suited better? But that’d suggest he’d checked it six times and- oh, now he had. Okay, problem solved), he should get going. 

His heart hammered in his throat as he walked to the front door, the backpack feeling like a boulder. His wings shifted nervously underneath his hoodie and he felt so nervous and restricted that he might even throw up. He reached the front door without doing so and pressed the doorbell, then looked down at the bag in his right hand. Should he put it down? It was heavy and kind of uncomfortable to hold, but what would the person opening the door think if he just casually dropped his stuff on their porch? Or worse, what if they opened the door just as he was putting it down? What kind of impression of him would that give them?

A creaking sound brought him out of his messy thoughts and he snapped his head back up. “What a splendid service! Never before have you arrived so fa-” The guy opening the door stopped talking as soon as his eyes met Virgil’s and he blinked owlishly. “Oh,” he said. “You’re not the pizza guy.”

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Two Sides Of A Coin // Chapter Six

Originally posted by royalsekai

Arranged Marriage!AU
Mafia!AU
Series
Genre: Angst, smut, fluff, violence
Rated: M

Pairings: Kim Jongin x Reader
Summary: Born into a powerful Mafia family, your destined to take over the family business with a promised future but one innocent decision nearly destroys your future. Will you survive the trails and tribulations of life and love?
Warnings: Death, violence, blood.
Word Count: 3,574

Chapter One // Chapter Two // Chapter Three // Chapter Four // Chapter Five // Chapter Six // Chapter Seven // Chapter Eight // Chapter Nine


Where is the one place you can go without being judged? A place you can cry and scream without someone thinking too much about it?

You find yourself on your knees, hands resting against your thighs, in front of her. The one person you feel you can talk to right now – even if she can’t talk back.

“Mother.” The word feels strange on your tongue but also familiar, like trying a childhood sweet that brings back feelings of nostalgia. “I don’t know what to do.” The tears fall freely, you don’t bother to wipe them or hide them as all you want to do right now is cry. “I can’t lose him but he insists on protecting me, if he dies-” The words die in your throat, only to be replace with sobs.

There is no divine answer, no response from the afterlife, no knowing that Yuri is watching but you just kneel in front of her gravestone and let your worries vocalise themselves.

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I Can’t

A/N: This was written for @amarvelouswritings 2.1K Follower Celebration.  My prompt was “I can’t believe you sometimes.”  It’s bolded in the story.  As always, let me know what you think!

Summary:  Steve is upset when you defy his orders.  You don’t see the big deal, but maybe he has a better reason than you know.

Pairing: Steve x Reader

Warnings: Angst & Language

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Insecurities - Part Two

Pairing: Dylan x Reader

Author: @ninja-stiles

Words: 1928

Author’s Note: So, some people wanted a part two to this and if you know me, I’m a sucker for happy endings. Thank you to the lovely @celestial-writing for proofreading and giving me feedback, love youuuu. Enjoy babes! Also, requests are open!


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Opposite Direction [Part Two]// Teen Wolf and Riverdale

Summary: Escaping a program similar to the Black Widow program you begin a new life in a town where you’re aware isn’t exactly normal. Working in the Beacon Hills Sheriff’s Department places you in the eyes of Stiles but when Black Widow finds you with Captain America will you return the favour to her?

Characters: Reader x Stiles Stilinski , Sheriff Noah Stilinski (mentioned) , Jughead Jones, Betty Cooper, Veronica Lodge, Archie Andrews, Ms. Grundy (mentioned), Natasha Romanoff (Black Widow), Steve Rogers (Captain America) and Cheryl Blossom.

Words: 2897

Disclaimer: I do not own Teen Wolf or Marvel. Nor do I own Riverdale when it does appear. This means I do not own the characters from these shows/movies either.

Warnings: Swearing, injury, past mention of Archie and Grundy.

Requested: @fandomnationwhore

Author: Caitsy

A/N: This is probably going to be only a 5 part series at the most. Also I have no data so I can’t upload unless I’m at work.

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Originally posted by riverdaleselite

You blankly stared at the two Avengers standing in front of you while trying to keep their identity’s hidden from the people in the building. You weren’t sure how to react when you finally managed to swallow of the bite of your lunch and taking a long drink of water. It wasn’t every day that you managed to be tracked down by people you had fought.

“Um…why?”


“I’m sure you’ve been watching the news?”

“You mean how you get into hiding after the whole Sokovia thing?” You questioned raising one eyebrow at the two of them, “Because that was a real shitty thing huh?”

“I’m aware.” Steve sighed raising his eyes to meet yours again.

“So why is Black Widow with you? Aren’t you on separate sides of the law?”

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Love Runs Out

Could you write something where reader and dick were dating and kept it a secret so when he became a titan he cheated w/ kori because no one knew and she finds out and decides she’s had enough of the vigilante life and becomes a villain. He returns as NW and finds out so he tries to talk to her but she tells him to fuck off if he’s not going to fight her because that’s the only way she’d be around him and he ends up telling her he hates her which pushes her over the edge and she dies? Make me 😭

Warnings: Angst?, suicide.  Please don’t read this if you’re not comfortable

@bon-travail98

It was no surprise you and Dick had gotten together.  You had known him since Young Justice team; the vigilante life being no stranger to you both.  Because of Batman and safety issues, you agreed to keeping the relationship a secret.

After the whole incident with Roy being the traitor, Dick decided to leave the team and join the titans.  You had met them before and you had no problem.  Some of them were even your friends.   And that left you behind.  It didn’t specifically end the relationship, but it didn’t keep it going either.  Him going to join the titans had left you alone.  No one ever told you love felt like loneliness. 

Within weeks news had come to you that Dick was seeing Kori.  You felt bad for Kori, you really did.  No one knew about you and Dick’s relationship, so it wasn’t like Kori would know not to get involved with him.  He knew.  Dick knew that you were dating, and that left him with no excuse.  You spent weeks trying to fix your relationship, and little did you know that he turned to someone else to find something.  All you felt was grief and anger.

And that had been the thing that would push you over.  If Dick hadn’t been able to stay a good person then why should you?  You had never shared all the values of a vigilante, and now you had more reason to quit that life.  And become someone new.  

It was months before you saw Dick again.  By then your ties to him and the team were cut.  They knew what you began, and that you had changed your name.  Dick couldn’t help but feel responsible for what happened to you.

You had received orders from your boss to stop the Titans.  You got to the rooftops, and were met with Nightwing standing with his back towards you.  His back had then turned, and he was facing you.  In those moments, Dick stood completely still; leaving you to wonder what his next move was going to be.  “Are you going to just stand there or are we actually going to fight,” you called out.

 Silence.

“You don’t have to do this Y/N.  Come back and join us,” he said, pleading.  Instead of answering, you lunged at him; attacking him.  He ducked away from your attack.  You continued your attacks, each one vicious and brutal; all while never faltering a step.  But he just continued to move away from your hits.  Almost as if he knew your moves before you did.  You yelled, “If you’re not going to do anything then go Nightwing.  Don’t waste my time.”  Before you could hit again, he pushed you against the wall.  He looked you in the face and said “I don’t know why you’re doing this, but please just come back.”  You pushed against him and laughed, ““Come back?  How can I come back when the only time I’ll be with you is when we’re fighting?  Don’t you get it, I’m doing this because of you, Dick.  You did this.”  

He stepped back, shock all over his face.  Taking advantage of this, you raced towards him and tackled him towards the ground.  You leaned in towards his face and looked at him with cold eyes.  “This is all because of you.  Let it sink in that you ruined a life instead of saving one.”  You got up off of him and made your way towards the door.  

“I hate you.”  Those words made you stop in your tracks.  They weren’t said loudly; but it was enough for you to hear. Tears had come to your eyes; but you wiped them away before he could see.  But they kept coming back, faster and faster. “I thought you cheating on me was the worst you could d-”  you choked back a sob before continuing.  “I guess I was wrong.”


Days after you found yourself on the edge of a roof.  You had one goal and one goal only.  The man you once loved had finally driven you to the end.  He didn’t know that.  It wasn’t his intention, but it happened.  He still cared.  And that was why he showed up that night.  You sat at the edge of the building, ignoring his presence.  “What’re you doing here, Dick?”  He didn’t hesitate to question “I could ask you the same thing.”

He stepped forward but you stopped him.  “Don’t,” you said, “Just don’t come closer.”  You turned your face to look at him.  The look on your face had made his blood run cold.  Your face was contorted in grief, and tears came from you (now red) eyes.  At that moment he realized that he was talking to Y/N Y/L/N and not your villain persona.  “Y/N, get away from the ledge.  Just come back,” he said, begging.  Your grip on the edge tightened, your knuckles turning white.  You had scoffed, “I’m done Dick.  No more.”  You turned your head to the front and stared at the sky.  You said your final words, “I love you, Dick Grayson.”  Letting go, you felt your body drift off the building and plummet down it’s sides.  The last thing your heard was his screams of agony.  And then darkness.

Right in Front of Your Eyes - Intro

Originally posted by flyngdream


Pairing: Peter Parker x Reader
Warnings: Angst, Fluff, all the feelings
Summary: After your parents were murdered mysteriously, you move in with your godfather Tony Stark, along the way your normal life will be turned upside down, due to a Mr Parker and being hit by a bus. It will all make sense eventually.
A/N: Basically, you are Jessica Drew but with your name and a slight twist. BTW you’re British, you’re welcome 😉
Word Count: 700+

I guess you could say having your parents murdered changes your life for the worse, they would be right, however when you barely knew your parents due to their busy lives, the only change you may receive is the fact that you must move to America, land of the free, in order to live with your godfather whom, you’ve never met. I guess that’s hard too. But falling in love with your best friend who’s in a relationship? That just sucks. Let’s just start from the beginning yeah? Sounds like a plan.

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The Sims 4: New Game Patch (May 25th, 2017)

Update: 05/25/2017 – PC Version 1.30.103.1010 / Mac Version 1.30.103.1210

Hello Simmers,

Welcome to the base game release for Parenthood! Which is all about those quiet family moments. Taking time to enjoy when things settle down. When all becomes quiet, and you can just take it all in, reflecting upon life…

..er, wait sorry. That’s like 20-30 years after parenthood begins (results may vary).

I meant to say, this is a hectic time. A time of crazy, noise filled chaos, where the concept of quiet exists for only 3 hours between 2 and 5 am. And where tension is worn like a badge of honor! So wear yours with pride, and let’s start with just a little bit of what’s new in this release…

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Cook and Becker’s Sonic the Hedgehog Art Book is finally shipping pre-orders. From their email:

It has taken longer than we would have liked - as you are well aware - but the official Sonic The Hedgehog 25th Anniversary art books are finally shipping to everybody that pre-ordered! Both ourselves and SEGA received the first books and Collector’s Editions this week and we are happy to say that we are all 100% satisfied with the quality. So what are the timings?

- Our European customers should receive a tracking email or book tomorrow (Friday) or latest Tuesday next week. We expect almost all books will be delivered next week.

- Customers from North America should receive their tracking number early next week or the book later that week via USPS Priority. Most likely the books will arrive before the tracking numbers due to how we shipped these for speed purposes.

- Our customers from the rest of the world will receive their tracking number either tomorrow (Friday) or next week Monday or Tuesday. Shipping times will depend a bit on the various postal services but you will be able to track your package at least.

For those who did not pre-order the book, but wish to order it now:

If you did not make a pre-order but want to buy the book now and have it soon, we advice to move fast as we currently only have a few copies left in stock. The first shipment allocation was used to fulfill the pre-orders and our next shipment will not be until later in July.

Them :  Bellamy is going to end up with Raven or Echo. He can’t stay single for 6 years. That’s impossible.

An intellectual : Bellamy doesn’t have to be with someone. Four of them are his closest friends, he’s not gonna hook-up with them. They could have had problems the moment they step foot on the Ark. They could have met others in space. They could have decided to use cryo in order to survive the obvious lack of ressources. Living 6 years with the same 7 people is a very long time  and they could have ended up hating each other. Maybe some of them didn’t survive. Maybe Bellamy is too focused on being a leader and being haunted by the image of Clarke that he doesn’t even think about being with someone else. Maybe he does know Clarke is alive cause he’s been receiving her radio calls without having the ressources to answer. It might come as a surprise to you but while he decided to live to honor Clarke, he might not want to move on. Or MAYBE just MAYBE, we could trust @the100writers, @aaronginsburg and the rest of them to be creative and original, instead of this old and obvious cliché of putting Bellamy with another woman just like they did with the previous time jump.

Broken Trust
Connor Kenway/Ratonhnhaké:ton/George Washington/Haytham Kenway
Broken Trust

Connor: Sir.

Washington: Hello, Connor. What brings you here?

Connor: The British have recalled their men in Philadelphia. They march for New York.

Washington: Very well. I’ll move our forces to Monmouth. If we can rout them, we’ll have finally turned the tide.

Haytham: And what’s this?

Washington: Private correspondence!

Haytham: Of course it is. Would you like to know what it says, Connor? It seems your good friend here has just ordered an attack on your village.

Although attack might be putting it mildly. Tell him, Commander.

Washington: We’ve been receiving reports of allied natives working with the British. I’ve asked my men to put a stop to it.

Haytham: By burning their villages, and salting the land. By calling for their extermination, according to this letter. Not the first time either. Tell him what you did fourteen years ago.

Washington: That was another time. The Seven Years’ War.

Haytham: And so now you see what happens to this ‘great man’ when under duress. He makes excuses, displaces blame. Does a great many things, in fact - except take responsibility.

Connor: Who did what and why must wait. My people come first.

Haytham: Then let’s be off.

Connor: No. You and I are finished.

Connor: Do you think me so soft that by calling me son I might change my mind? How long did you sit on this information? Or am I to believe you discovered it now? My mother’s blood may stain another’s hands, but Charles Lee is no less a monster, and all he does, he does by your command.

choose to follow me or oppose me and I will kill you.

Single father AU

Okay, I’m writing this in a rush so here, quickly, enjoy before my motivation is gone.

-Atsushi was adopted by Odasaku from the orphanage first and all was well and looking good for the kid, but after a year or so Oda and the kids died in a car crash, Atsushi being the only survivor. Dazai adopts him afterward, not because of goodness, but because he is a mess and wants something to remember Odasaku. (How the hell did he do that? Who the hell allows a sucide maniac in charge of children?! Well let’s say that poor Ango owns somebody a favor and Dazai is really good with bureaucracy.

-Doesn’t matter he ends up falling in love with the kid anyway.

-”Do you have your keys?” ”Yes” “Do you have your phone?” “Yes” “And your charger?” “Checked”  “Handkerchief?” “In my pocket” “Do you remember whose number you have to call in case of an emergency? “The Tanizaki's” “Okay, you have everything, have fun drinking tonight Dazai-san!” I know, the tittle say single parent, but Atsushi is the only responsible person in this fic.

-So one day Dazai goes drinking with Kunikida and Ranpo to a new bar and surprise, surprise! Who is the barista?! No other than Dazai’s ex-boyfriend, Nakahara Chuuya who is really not happy to see him again. Back then, were they were dating, their relationship was far from healthy. They were pretty dysfunctional, Dazai was manipulative, a bastard and really a psychological mess in general, so of course it ended up screwing Chuuya’s and left him pretty badly even after they broke up.

-After he found Odasaku, Dazai is trying to be a genuine good guy, even though he is like a little lost kid now that he is gone.

-Atsushi is Dazai’s moral compass and they are actually pretty close. They have a weird understanding. Dazai talks with Atsuhi honestly and like he would to an adult and Atsushi answers with that kind of wisdom only children have, in fact he is the one that encourages Dazai to try make amends with Chuuya. “I don’t know Atsushi-kun, I hurt him pretty badly long ago” But you are different now aren’t you? Maybe you could start by saying sorry first?”

-And by saying sorry Dazai understood pestering Chuuya and elaborating absurd amounts of plans and tricks to casually bump into him in the most unexpected places. Poor Chuuya just wants to be left alone, but he is weak and ends up tolerating Dazai for some reason.

-After a few dates(?) at least if you consider suddenly appearing at Chuuya’s bar every night with a basket of food and candles a date, Chuuya finds himself at Dazai’s apartment. It ends up with them making out on the sofa to calm that sexual tension that is always present between them. Meanwhile Atsushi is at the Tanizaki’s apartment which is right at the end of the corridor, doing his homework but he forgot something back at home, so he goes back to retrieve it only to find his foster father on top of a redhead kissing like mad. After a very embarrassing situation Chuuya is just “What the fuck!? You didn’t told me you had a son!” and Atsushi just goes back to the Tanizaki’s place and blurts “Dazai-san was right, my new mom is pretty”

-A yes, both Junichiro and Naomi usually babysit Atsushi because Dazai is really busy with his job at Fukuzawa’s company, but one day he has to go on a business trip and the Tanizakis are out on vacation so who do we call? Why, Chuuya of course! “Pleaaase Chuuya, I don’t’ have anymore options!” “I’m not gonna babysit your fucking brat Dazai!” “I’ll pay you 500 bucks for two days” “When and were?”

-So yes, Chuuya agreed to babysit little Atsushi thinking he would hate every single moment of it, because he is really not fond of children at all. Turns out Atsushi is an absolute sunshine that can take care of himself pretty well. He cooks dinner for both of them, he bathes all by himself , goes to sleep when told and always says “please” and “thank you”. When Dazai comes back two days later at night, he finds Chuuya holding an sleepy Atsushi in his arms and says “He wanted to wait for you. You are aware you don’t deserve this, do you?” “Believe me, I know”. From that day on, Chuuya takes the offer to babysit Atsushi every time Dazai asks him. He takes him to the park, he buys him ice cream and wow does Atsushi loves Chuuya-nii.

-Eventually shit always hit the fan and problems happen. As we said before Dazai is trying to be better but he is still an emotional mess. Atsushi had to foil numerous suicide attempts by himself, not something too extreme but that is not a healthy environment for a kid. Still what hurts Atsushi the most is some of the cruel comments Dazai says directed to both of them like “You just love me because it’s convenient”. They spent some days without talking with each other and of course Dazai  tries to drown his sorrows in booze and what better way than do it with your favorite barista that listens how you are hurting your son and yourself because of your inability to put your shit together. If you expect Chuuya to comfort Dazai with sweet words you are very wrong. He throws a drink on him and smashes Dazai’s face into the bar violently “listen to me and listen well you bitch, don’t you dare do the same shit you did to me, don’t auto-sabotage what you have now or I swear to god I’m going to take that child away from you!” After a long and heated discussion of feelings and honest words with Chuuya Dazai just apologizes to Atsushi and things get better from now on.

-After that incident, Chuuya understand Dazai a little more and why certain things happened between them. It doesn’t mean he completely forgives him, but things just gets better from then on. He spends more time with Dazai and Atsushi until the neighbors wonder why he doens’t just move in with them already.

-Oh yes and were is Akutagawa you think? Well, he is in the middle school next to Atsushi and is being nothing but an ass to the poor kid. Atsushi just doesn’t understand why this older boy is so obsessed in harassing him and hates him so much.

-Turns out Akutagawa is a distant relative of Dazai. When his mother died, Dazai refused who was the closest relative at the moment, refused to adopt him and his sister, sending them to their aunt, a control freak who made Akutagawa’s life difficult. He doesn’t understand why Dazai adopted a total stranger so willingly when he practically abandoned him and his sister with the excuse that he wasn’t prepared to take care of a children.

-After months of bullying Akutagwa’s frustration with Atsushi just reaches it’s maximum point and the finally shouts at him all his frustrations and a long chains of “Why you?! Why not me!?”. Atsushi being the cinnamon roll he is, wants to help him and tells him “I don’t know, why don’t we ask him togetether?” And so they do, Atsushi brings Akutagawa home to confront Dazai and said man accepts it because this is something he has to deal in order to move forward.After that I settled somehow. Akuatagwa also becomes part of their life even if they don’t live together.

-But like we said Akuatagawa holds grudges like a pro and he doesn’t completely forgive him. So as revenge he starts to monopolize Atsushi all the time to make Dazai jealous and boy does it works. Atsushi is simply oblivious to everything and is just happy to receive so many attention.

And that’s it anon, I can’t write more because then I’ll just have to write the whole thing and god knows I can’t !

anonymous asked:

Have you seen the article about the former Quinnipiac whcky coach? It's awful that even when reported, nothing happened until another team and parents saw what was happening.

I didn’t actually hear anything about this and I looked it up…yikes. All of it is so awful. 

I found an article about it. Here are some of the most notable parts, although I’d recommend reading all of it. Warning for abuse, both verbal and physical. 

Former Clarkson players accuse ex-Quinnipiac coach Rick Seeley of abuse

“There was times where he would take a helmet and throw it in the locker room, punch the chalkboard, slam the door screaming in your face,” Courtney Bills said.

“I remember one time, I lifted my leg when a slap shot was coming at me,” she said. “And I got to the bench and he grabbed me by the jersey…and said ‘If you do that one more time, I’m going to f—ing cut your legs off.’”

Jillian Nolan-Staley, then known as Jillian Nolan, said Seeley would skate the players until they “puked” before or after games.

Nolan-Staley said many brought their concerns to their assistants, but little came from it.

David Bills was made aware of the alleged incidents by his daughter midway through the 2003-2004 season. In 2005, he penned a seven-page letter to another parent with a daughter on the team. The letter contains handwritten accusations from a year and a half prior of verbal, physical and mental abuse gathered after speaking with “at least” eight Clarkson players, including his daughter, Nolan-Staley and O’Hara. He said he took the notes directly to President Anthony G. Collins and other administrators.

The notes also detail the mental abuse Seeley allegedly inflicted on the players. One mentions they were afraid he would hit them, while another claims she was afraid to fall asleep without another girl on the team physically in bed with her so she could close her eyes. Another said Seeley made her want to “drink to forget” all the bad times.

They also say Seeley informed his players not to tell their parents what went on in the locker room, because he said it was none of their business. The women who spoke up were then isolated from the rest of the team.“It was definitely swept under the rug and not really dealt with,” she said. “We were definitely made examples of after that, because he knew we had come forward about him to the school, so he was not happy.”

After some time had passed, David contacted Clarkson administration in February of 2004 once more to find out what sort of discipline had been taken on Seeley. He received a letter from Collins two weeks later, confirming the university would review the situation. He noted “appropriate actions” had been taken, and wished to move forward from the incident. Collins also promised to notify David of the outcome of the review.

Eleven years later, David said neither Collins nor the university have contacted him. David said he had heard Seeley was ordered to anger management, which gave him temporary peace of mind, though said little changed with the coach’s demeanor during the remainder of his daughter’s tenure at the school.

Courtney believes it was fear of consequences that prevented many of the former players from speaking up at the time. “When we tried to do something about it, everyone was so scared. When you’re just 18, 19 years old, you just shut your mouth,” she said.

So basically nothing was done. At all, both at Quinnipiac and Clarkson. Keep in mind these are people who are as young as 18/19. I’m beyond words right now.

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Why Adopted Children Can't "Feel The Love"

“It is such a common story. A child is adopted at a very young age, or even at birth and the adoptive family pours every single ounce of their love and attention into the child. There are elaborate birthday parties and cartoon character footed pajamas worn to family pancake breakfasts every Sunday.

If you are to ask the adoptive parents if they feel in any way, shape or form that they love the child any less or any differently than they would their biological children, and almost all will vehemently defend their love for their adoptive children with absolute abandon.

And we all want to believe that all we need is love.

Which is why it is so perplexing, alarming and downright confusing when so many adopted children begin to develop emotions and behaviors months or years post adoption placement that mimic those who have been through war, or left completely neglected, or abused by someone they love. It is why so many adults, when first faced with confronting this strong and overwhelming sense of being “unloved” within their adopted children, absolutely reject the notion that such an emotion could be true, or worse fail to validate that emotion as real. It is because of the defense to what has been “given” or “done” for these children that so many adopted children are left with such deep shame and fear of these powerful feelings and act out to prove this unworthiness to be true. Struggles at school, depression, anxiety, interpersonal problems, emotional dysregulation, reactive attachment disorder, and rejection of the adoptive parents are just some of the ways this may present itself.

I remember the first time I tried disciplining my adopted child for a rather inconsequential and innocent misstep on his part and him reacting to that redirection as if I had punished him with absolute dire consequence. It was the very first of so many interactions in which I began to understand that he could never understand that he could do something “bad” (which again is a terrible word that no one should use) without it meaning that he was “bad.” You see, over time I came to learn that he truly believed that he was Bad. Unlovable. Unworthy. Undeserving”.

How could a child who has been loved so deeply with so much abandon be incapable of processing and feeling that love?

As a parent there truly is no worse feeling in the entire world than learning that your own child (lets be honest our adopted children are truly our own) has such limiting and paralyzing belief systems.

It is only natural to have that stir-up emotions in the adopted parent that they have not done enough, or worse that they simply are not enough for their own child. There is nothing worse in the entire world than the feeling of being “not enough.” It can wreck havoc on the entire family ecosystem.

It is because of this chain of events that so many adopted children struggle to process the inner workings of their emotional life against the outside world they live within. If you cant feel or believe what the grown up’s in your life are telling you is fact, then there simply must be something wrong with you and how you feel. You begin to not trust yourself.

It was less than a week ago when my college age adopted child, whose birth mother recently passed away confided in me that she was unable to be in relationship with me since her mother’s passing because of all the guilt it left her feeling. She felt so incredibly selfish that I had “done so much for her,” and yet it wasn’t enough to shelter her from the incredible pain she had been experiencing over her birth mother’s death. Essentially she felt guilty for the greater connection she felt to her birth mother as if it somehow made her a traitor to the love she felt for me. She also felt such deep guilt for how painful it felt to be around me.

If I were armed with fewer tools, less educated, or had engaged in less trauma centered therapy than I myself may feel slighted by her loyalty and compassion for the parent who had caused her so much pain and seen her need for space as complete disregard for me and how it may make me feel (and let me tell you it was painful). It would have been much harder for me to accept that she needed tools, and relationships and resources that I could not give her in order to move towards healing.

It is a very difficult thing to do; allowing your adopted children to have these big scary feelings without it meaning that you should have or could have or should be doing more. It is human to want validation for everything you have done for someone and to want to be loved in return. It is also a very difficult decision to allow your own children to need and receive help and assistance outside of what you can give. 

But the truth is as adoptive parents we have to come to place of love and acceptance that regardless of how much love and adoration is given on our part, there is still such deep grief and loss over the primary attachment of the biological parent.

Biology is a tie that binds and the disruption of that tie and attachment leaves a loss that the adopted child will navigate for the rest of their life.

But there is HOPE.

What we have learned is that these traumas and losses need very specific treatments and specialty care. We have learned that trauma is a family problem and has to be healed from the inside out through connection. It is CALO Programs foundational relationship paradigm that goes #ToTheRoot of these issues and heals these inner belief systems of the adopted child (inside out) versus addressing the behaviors or depressions or anxieties from the top down. It is through these treatments that connection and joy is possible and the entire family can once again believe that they are love and they are enough..just as they are. #GoToTheRoot.“

#ThrowbackThursday: 14 September 2001

HERMIONE GRANGER: ALL IN A NAME?

Not a fortnight ago, the wizarding community awoke to the news that Hermione Granger and Ronald Weasley, friends and accomplices of Harry Potter in the defeat of Voldemort, had exchanged wedding vows in a ceremony celebrated a week earlier than it had leaked. The ingenious move was nothing short of what you would expect from high-achiever Granger and Weasley, who previous to leaving the Ministry last year had a successful spell as a Strategist Auror, and so this momentous event went unnoticed by the press.

The couple kept a low-key profile after returning from their honeymoon—until yesterday, when Granger sparked controversy once again. The 21-year-old, member of the Dept. for the Regulation and Control of Magical Creatures, was attending the passing of her contentious bill renaming and repurposing the “Office for the Relocation of House Elves” to the “Office for the Promotion of Elfish Welfare”, when she told the Minister’s Junior Assistant that she still went by Granger, not Weasley, if he could kindly correct it on the records. Many of the people present at the time stared at her in frank disbelief. Has Granger and Weasley’s marriage gone to the dogs already? Why does she not want to be associated with that name?

The pair, notorious for avoiding the press as much as their associates, Potter and Ginevra Weasley, was approached during a romantic stroll through Hogsmeade that same evening, surely celebrating Granger’s triumph. When asked about the curious decision and whether it meant his wife was not as committed as he was to their recent union, Weasley said, ‘She kept her name because she did, grow the b*** f*** up.’ He then apologised to his wife as they continued walking, but reporters were still presented with a rude hand gesture behind Granger’s back.

Upon closing this number, we received a statement issued by Granger herself to clear up any misunderstandings. The unadulterated letter is disclosed to our readers, with Granger’s permission, below:

‘After much consideration as to why I should explain something that pertains to my private life, I have decided to do so nonetheless in the hope that it would prevent certain individuals from accosting myself and my husband as we move about our daily life.

I am aware that the wizarding community is one with long-withstanding traditions. Some of them are, in my opinion, harmful traditions that we should aim to change in order to build a more equal society for all magical beings. Other customs pose less relevance, and it should make no difference whether we follow them or not—however, difference they make, for when you decide not to adopt them, you find yourself and your loved ones subject of slandering.

My decision not to change my last name to that of my husband’s has nothing to do with any of the reasons assigned to it. I feel nothing but love, respect, and gratitude towards the family who has always welcomed me into their house and that I am now an official member of. My feelings towards my husband are for him alone to know, although I believe having chosen him to bond my life with should speak volumes about their nature.

I have kept the name “Granger” because that has always been my name, and I am mine before anyone else’s. I have kept the name “Granger” because it is part of my identity, and I do not believe giving up part of one’s self is a requisite for getting married. I have kept the name “Granger” because I can be Hermione Weasley… while still being Hermione Granger.

That said, I have no qualms about being referred to as “Hermione Weasley” in other circles of my life, and this bears no negative judgement on my part towards women who choose to take their partner’s name.

The people who know me and, most importantly, my husband—the only person besides myself whose opinion on the matter counts—understand this decision. I honestly do not care much for the sentiments of the rest of the wizarding community on my life choices and believe they ought to preoccupy themselves with things of actual relevance.

Best regards,
Hermione Granger Weasley’

We can conclude from this that Granger and Weasley’s relationship is stronger than ever, and here at the Daily Prophet, we once again wish them happiness in this new stage of their lives.

[Pictured above: A leaked picture of the couple at their wedding.]

How can we protect ourselves from unaspiring people that we're constantly thrown in contact with and make them feel our aspiration, even though they may be almost hostile in their attitude?

When we are truly sincere we come to realise at one point that we have an inner urge to help people, or to let others see that we have discovered something divine. First we want to show the world that we have aspiration, tremendous aspiration. Then we feel that they should have it too. We have changed our lives. They should also change their lives. It is for their good that we are mixing with them.

If we sincerely do not want to be affected by our unaspiring neighbours, then our own aspiration will protect us. But we have to have a constant and humble desire to inspire them or to influence them divinely. We must not feel that we are so divine because we are praying and meditating and they are undivine because they are still sleeping. If we feel that others are full of undivine forces, evil forces, what is the next step? We will begin to show off. We will try to make them notice that we are doing something magnificent, something superior.

We have to live with ordinary people as well as with those who are aspiring. The world is very vast. We have to move around: we have to mix with others. We should mix with the spiritual world as much as possible in order to gain inner strength and to share our inspiration and at the same time to be inspired. But when we mix with the ordinary world we must also be ready not only to offer but also to receive inspiration.

You may ask how we can be inspired by someone who is inferior to us in the field of spirituality. We can. When I was a runner, I happened to be the best runner in the community where I lived. But I used to get inspiration during the time of practice from runners who were far inferior to me. Just because they were running with me, I used to get inspiration. They were also, according to their standard, trying their best to improve their capacity. In the spiritual life also, we are running toward our goal and those who are behind us are running toward their goal. The goal is the same. The very fact that they are running can inspire us to some extent. In the spiritual life, you should mix with sincere people. If they don’t become disciples of your Master, you are still bound to get inspiration and aspiration from their own effort to reach the goal in their own way. But if someone is really undivine, even hostile, then we should not try to mix with him or influence him. His undivine forces will try to devour our divine forces. When we are forced to mix with people like this, in rare cases when there is some real necessity for it, then we should just bring our own inner purity and divinity to the fore as much as possible. Our own divine consciousness will be our best protection at that time.

- Sri Chinmoy, The hunger of darkness and the feast of light, part 2