we don't wanna talk about it

The ‘I deserved better’ squad

Katara: It’s not magic. It’s waterbending, and it’s-
Sokka: Yeah, yeah, an ancient art unique to our culture, blah blah blah. Look, I’m just saying that if I had weird powers, I’d keep my weirdness to myself. 

So I wanted to talk a little about Katara, because I think we often focus on her grief for her mother, and forget her relationship to her culture, and her experience of the Southern Water Tribe genocide (unlike the Air Nomads genocide, which was for the greater part over after four big terrifyingly effective simultaneous strikes, this one took place over a long length of time - more than 40 years? 50? - and it wasn’t total, but it definitely was one. genocide = the deliberate and systematic extermination of a national, racial, political, or cultural group, fwiw)

(Kanna’s village - before and after)

All of the Southern water benders were exterminated or taken away to rot in prison (where they all died eventually except for Hama). Katara was born the only bender left in the whole South Pole. Then when she was eight years old, she survived a raid that was meant to kill her, but took her mother instead (she probably was too young to realize that, to her it must have been a question mark up until she met Yon Rha - gratuitous cruelty? Why her mother in particular? They took nothing else!).

So Katara from a young age had a double burden to bear: that of her mother, and the legacy of her bending (and she was shown as painfully aware of her situation and what it meant on both front). But here’s the thing: Katara could be a mother, she was naturally good at it, and her grandmother could teach her what she didn’t already knew. Her family and tribe demanded that of her, they needed her to be that for them (especially after her father and the rest of the men basically abandoned them). However, there was no one left to teach her how to waterbend - she had almost no hope of ever becoming a master without formal training, her brother thought it was silly and weird and let her know, her grandmother thought it was a waste of time. But she kept practicing, because she knew how important it was, to her and to her tribe, that she kept trying (as the only one left who could).

(…an ancient art unique to our culture, blah blah blah…)

(Of course she would obsess over that waterbending scroll)

When she gets to the North Pole, she meets Pakku, and with him the opportunity of finally becoming a true master. But because she is a girl, he judges her unworthy. He judges her, the only remaining southern waterbender, unworthy of carrying on their culture. The Fire Nation didn’t care about the gender of their prisoners, men and women - they all fought side by side for their freedom in the South, and they were all taken away to the last one, and killed to the last one. In the South, the women had the choice to learn how to fight, or be defenseless. And privileged master Pakku couldn’t possible realize the extend of what he was denying her in that moment.

Katara had to prove herself, she had to earn her right to these teachings. And if she had been less good or less stubborn or not Kanna’s granddaughter - well the North would have refused their sister-tribe the power to use their common cultural heritage to fight back against the nation that destroyed them.

(It’s sexist and terrible.)

Meh, thankfully, she was that good, stubborn, and Kanna’s granddaughter, and she did get to become a master.


But, of course, her story doesn’t end here, and wrt her culture, the next chapter is a much more traumatizing experience. In the Fire Nation, she meets another master. This time it’s an old woman from the South like her (“You’re a waterbender! I’ve never met another waterbender from our tribe!”), and she is, ah, more than willing to help her.

Look how happy Katara looks at the idea to learn from her in particular:

Katara: I can’t tell you what it means to meet you. It’s an honor! You’re a hero.
Hama: I never thought I’d meet another southern waterbender. I‘d like to teach you what I know so that you can carry on the southern tradition when I’m gone.
Katara: Yes! Yes, of course! To learn about my heritage… it would mean everything to me.

But when Hama starts her lesson, the techniques she teaches have been obviously developed with one goal in mind: survival in enemy territory. They can’t possibly have been invented in the South Pole, where water is abundant everywhere. They are deadly and cruel, and the damage they do to the environment leaves Katara sad and uncomfortable, but Hama waves that off as unimportant. It doesn’t matter, she doesn’t have the time to worry about flowers or beauty or nature. To her that peace and beauty is probably just an illusion anyway, a lie: years after her escape she is still living the war, and war is ugly and rotten and messy (her world is ugly and rotten and messy - this is her comfort zone).

The last technique she teaches Katara is bloodbending. She forces Katara to learn something she finds disgusting, repulsive (just like Hama was forced to learn?) by torturing her (Hama was tortured), by overpowering her, invading her, making her lose control over her own body, bending her blood (Hama herself is clinging to the last remain of control she managed to get back after rotting in prison for years), and finally by threatening to have the two people she cares most about in the world kill each other right under her eyes (Hama lost everyone too, she had to say goodbye).

(Katara: But, to reach inside someone and control them? I don’t know if I want that kind of power.
Hama: The choice is not yours. The power exists…and it’s your duty to use the gifts you’ve been given to win this war. Katara, they tried to wipe us out, our entire culture… your mother!
Katara: I know.
Hama: Then you should understand what I’m talking about. We’re the last Waterbenders of the Southern Tribe. We have to fight these people whenever we can. Wherever they are, with any means necessary!
Katara: It’s you. You’re the one who’s making people disappear during the full moons.
Hama: They threw me in prison to rot, along with my brothers and sisters. They deserve the same. You must carry on my work.)

And this, this, is the only truly southern waterbending Katara is ever going to learn. This is her tribe’s bending heritage, what’s left of it: blood, grief, suffering, hatred, loss of control over both your body and mind (because it’s terrible, but I think that’s what’s implied by the show: bloodbending makes you lose your mind. Hama’s only mean of regaining physical freedom ended up trapping her in another nightmare). Hama gifts her with a power she despises (but will use anyway in her darkest hour when she loses control) and a philosophy of violence and revenge.

Katara chose peace and forgiveness. As an adult, she will have bloodbending outlawed, she will become the greatest healer in the world, and she’ll teach her daughter, the next avatar, probably many others. These choices matter, and we should talk about them with that background in mind. Katara redefined her heritage - or rather she created a new one for herself: she refused the condition that was forced upon her (bloodbender) and ensured nobody could legally do to someone else what Hama did to her (and it’s implied this law is valid anywhere in the world). She transmitted Pakku’s warrior teachings, the ones she fought for, to the next generations (and did a great job of it!), but she also taught them how to heal, refusing to separate the arts as in Northern Water Tribe tradition - and healing was something she discovered by herself, that she felt was always a part of her. At that, she became the universally acknowledged best. Her legacy, despite everything that happened to her, will never be one of violence.

tl;dr: Katara is one of the strongest fictional characters ever created bye

The tipsy talk video with phil and hazel is so underrated tbh like phil was so talkative and witty and funny and i loved it when he said death was a scary prospect to him


Come on, Alex, we’re friends. You can tell me– No, Maggie. We’re not friends. 

I heard everything you said. I get it and if you never wanna talk to me again… I’ll respect that, I’ll disappear. But I don’t meet many people that I care about and I care about you… a lot. You’ve become really important to me and um, I hope that one day you and I can be friends because I don’t wanna imagine my life without you in it. 

shout out to all the aros and aces that don’t want to be “pure”. all of you out there that don’t want to be cute precious “cinnamon rolls”. those of you that get annoyed at all the posts talking about aros and aces as if we’re defenseless babies that need to be guarded 24/7.

you don’t have to be “pure” if you don’t want to. you can be dark and mysterious and intimidating. you can be blacks and purples and reds instead of pastels. if that’s who you are, be that.

minor pet peeve: seeing extremely popular fics continuously show up on fic rec lists



Okay, so, I think we talk so much about Rhett’s love for Link that I needed some of the opposite as well, and there’s plenty!

I took this excerpt from EB 42: “Obsession” pretty much at random and as a sample because the episode as a whole is 1+ hour of convo about one of the main reasons Link loves Rhett so much. That is, how passionate he can get when talking about something he likes. In fandom words: “how freaking cute he is when he starts ranting about stuff”.

Let’s go through some of the cutest bits:

  • Link starts off the episode by stating he prepared for it ahead of time and has a detailed list of all the things Rhett’s ever liked, his layers (and has had help not only from Rhett’s wife but his own too). 
  • He makes it clear that Rhett being an ideas guy is one of the things he’s liked about him (Rhett makes fun of the verb tense Link uses). Link: “[Jessie and I] like to make fun of you but I appreciate it. I like interfacing with someone (let’s call that person ‘you’) who is always gonna present me with something. That’s exciting. And if I don’t like it, there’ll be something else next week. And it’s great! This is a good arrangement.”
  • With each of the layers they go through, Rhett has the chance to rant about it and Link often laughs out loud because this man is just so ridiculous in the cutest way possible. (Seriously, if you want to hear Link laughing his glasses off a freaking lot, this podcast is your place).
  • Link also mentions how he’s always wanted to try out most of the things Rhett’s into any particular week, even if that means buying expensive stuff.
  • Rhett says he moves on from his layers once he sees they don’t appeal to either his wife or Link. “I gotta have somebody to do this with. I gotta have a partner. Either you have to get into it or my wife has to get into it.” But he also says that if Link would suddenly like one of his past obsessions, he’ll be ready to jump back into it on a whim.
  • Link being afraid of what Rhett’s going to try to get him into the next morning.
  • Rhett: “An old arrow head is Archeology, that’s not really Geology. Well, I guess indirectly it is Geology because the arrow was a rock at one point.” Link: “… Okay, smarty-pants.” Cue the cute laughter.
  • The audio clip I took has a glimpse of Link laughing while reminiscing one of the wildest things his boyfriend friend has done in order to pursue one of his passing obsessions: crow hunting. Now, as a cute side-note, notice how Link says: “If you ever wonder if your boyfriend, husband or acquaintance is bored and you see him building crows out of poster board, your answer is ‘yes’”. He could’ve easily said “friend”, but he goes for “boyfriend”, because that’s what Rhett is to him; his hysterically cute boyfriend.



Shower Part 1: i am


You want a white history month? Alright, fine. For an entire month let’s talk about how white people showed up, killed everyone in their way, enslaved people, put people in concentration camps, and basically fucked everything up. Yeah this white history month idea sounds like fun let’s do it.

hey! i’m preston, i’m an auzzie, i use male pronouns and i just turned nineteen years old last month. i’ll be having the pleasure of playing negan’s right hand man and the second in command of the saviors, simon. he’s kind of trash but he’s quality trash.  he’s pretty much the same and as you would expect. this will be my first time writing him so please bare with me. it’s pretty late here so i probably wont have a starter up until i get back from work tomorrow but i’m very open to plotting and just throw all of your ideas at me!

1990s Orange Tape Gothic
  • Hey! Wait! Don’t rewind the tape! There’s more stuff to watch- FOR YOU!
  • The classics. Mozart. Shakespeare. Dickens. Ren and Stimpy. REN AND STIMPY!?
  • Look out! Er, look down. For the most determined daredevils you’ll find in diapers They’re the RUGRATS. And nothing can stop them! Tommy! Chuckie! Phil! Lil! AND ANGELICA.
  • Brilliance. Sheer brilliance.
  • You wanna talk about peanus videos?
  • Rugrats on my TV, turn on the machine/Tommy and Chuckie are always a scream
  • Did’ya hear the news that you can watch Blue’s Clues every night, and every day?
  • Priced to own, and perfect for the entire family, look for Charlotte’s Web, Race For Your Life, Charlie Brown, and The Secret Garden wherever videocassettes are sold.
  • For nearly a decade, they’ve invaded your homes. Their little bodies dispensing frightful tales and invoking fear into the hearts of men. Every sunrise, and every sunset, they appear again and again…READY TO WREAK MORE HAVOC.
  • And a one and a two and a three! AAAAAAAAHHH!!! That was malifulous!
  • Videos the Blue’s Clues way!
  • We believe in the Great Pumpkin so much! We don’t even believe in monsters, but WE believe in the Great Pumpkin.
  • Ride em Heff! AAAAAAAAAHHH!!!! Oh thank you, oh thank you
  • What could be better? YAY!
  • Now it’s time for Little Bear!
  • When it comes to great entertainment for kids young and old, YOU can count on Paramount Home Video!
  • Love that Reptar, look at him go/On my Rugrats video!
  • Everybody loves Peanuts videos, really! I like more than you!
  • *brief orchestral tune* And now we’re pleased to bring you our feature presentation *FBI warning that seemingly lasted forever as a kid*
Let's try this again

I 👏🏾 hope 👏🏾 every 👏🏾DARK SKIN👏🏾 BLACK GIRL👏🏾 is 👏🏾feeling 👏🏾 FLAWLESS 👏🏾and 👏🏾BEAUTIFUL 👏🏾today 👏🏾because👏🏾 YALL 👏🏾ARE.

@princessfailureee thank you queen 💖

P.s since some of y'all ain’t got no type of sense lemme just say that if y'all wanna include ALL women make your own got damn post, cause we’re talking about dark skinned black girls right now.
Thanks in advance

So I Unexpectedly Ended Up Hanging Out w/ the Old ENFP the Other Day And

ENFP: INTP!!!!!!!!

INTP: (Oh, awesome.)

ENFP: You missed my party! The aunt that was really into MBTI I always told you about was there!

INTP: Oh, that’s too bad.

ENFP: *Dirty joke*


ENFP: *Another dirty joke*




ENFP: Did you miss me? 

INTP: Well, I wouldn’t say I… missed you, but–

ENFP: Yeah.

ENFP: You missed me.

ENFP: Sooooooo?

INTP: What?

ENFP: How was your DATE?!

INTP: How the fuck do you know?!

ENFP: You’re just lucky I’m not giving you my Icy Stare.

INTP: You don’t have an Icy Stare.

ENFP: Yes, I do!!

INTP: Okay, fine. Show it to me.

ENFP: Well, I can’t just do it.

INTP: If you really had a handle on it, you’d be able to do it on command.

ENFP: Okay, well I’ve got to work up to it!!

INTP: For someone who claims to give Icy Stares, you’re getting pretty heated about this.

ENFP: Maybe I have a Heated Stare instead.

INTP: What does that even mean?

ENFP: Sexual.




ENFP: I had this dream that I rode up to somewhere on this motorcycle.

INTP: Uh-huh.

ENFP: And I, like, got off of it, took my helmet off,

INTP: Yeah.

ENFP: And shook my hair out.

INTP: And what do you think that means?

ENFP: Well, I think maybe it might have something to do with…

ENFP: Wanting to try new things?

INTP: Do you want to try new things?

ENFP: Yes!

INTP: What about ride a motorcycle and shake your hair out of a helmet.

ENFP: Sure!

ENFP: What about you?

ENFP: What was your last dream?

INTP: The other night I had a dream I was chasing a really fast turtle.

ENFP: Hahaha, what??

INTP: And it had a really long neck.

ENFP: And what do you think that means?

INTP: Well, I thought a lot about turtles that day, so it was probably just a continuation of those thoughts.

ENFP: ⋋ō_ō`

INTP: Pretty sure it jumped over, like, a ten foot barbed wire fence, too.

ENFP: Oh my god!

INTP: It was a pretty badass turtle.

Can you believe that people hate my guts on here because i say to never assume someone’s sexual orientation unless that person says something?

Why cant we just respect Phil? If he doesnt wanna talk about stuff like that or even other stuff then its okay, those are his decisions. STOP TRYING TO FORCE HIM. I dont know what the big deal is anyways? Its not gonna make him less human.

Just let him live his life, PLEASE. This grown 30 year old man doesnt need to share every single aspect of his personal life with the internet if he doesn’t want to. He has a right to privacy. We dont need to know everything.