we don't think any less of you

anonymous asked:

So how would one differentiate between autistic people who are more "severe" than others? I don't mean to say that they have any less of a right to live than anyone else. But there is obviously a spectrum. How do you do you describe people as being closer to one side of the spectrum or the other? I'm not trying to be offensive or dehumanizing, I'm just wondering..

The autism spectrum really isn’t a better-to-worse spectrum; think of it more like this sort of spectrum:

(Taken from this post, which is itself a great explanation of autism.)

None of us are “more autistic” or “less autistic” than each other, but we do have more of an issue or less of an issue with the above subjects. Some autistics are nonverbal, while others have very little problem with language. Pretty much all autistics have sensory issues, but they can be wildly different sensory issues, and therefore cause different levels of difficulty making it through everyday life.

The issue really isn’t severe versus mild, it’s which traits make it easier or harder to pass as neurotypical. There are a ton of traits that aren’t as glaringly noticeable as being nonverbal or having a meltdown over being touched, and many autistics have spent their whole lives learning to suppress themselves and learning how to ‘script’, to mimic allistic behavior so that we don’t stick out as abnormal. Some traits can be suppressed or mitigated (at least for a while), others can’t, but being able to blend in better doesn’t mean your brain isn’t autistic.

So generally, you might say something like “[person] is an autistic who is nonverbal” or “[person] is an autistic who has difficulty with their motor skills” or “[person]’s autism causes such a sensitivity to sound that loud noises cause them severe pain” or “[person] is autistic and needs help remembering to eat”, and so on. 

We’re all autistic, but the nature of our specific struggles differ, so it’s better to describe a person’s specific issues without making it about “more” or “less” autism. It’s okay to say something general like, “[person] requires a lot of assistance because of their autism” or “[person] has special needs because of their autism”, but try to make it simply a fact, rather than a label that carries some judgment to it, like ‘low-functioning’. 

And at the same time, if you know an autistic who would be deemed ‘high-functioning’, don’t assume that they aren’t struggling just because you can’t easily see it, or expect them to behave “normally” because they’re “not *that* autistic”. They’re having trouble with something, they’re just trying to hide it. Give them room to be different and need help.

Hopefully that all makes sense and you can get what I mean. Thanks for wanting to understand!

The signs as James Baldwin quotes
  • Aries: “True rebels, after all, are as rare as true lovers, and in both cases, to mistake a fever for passion can destroy one's life.”
  • Taurus: "To be sensual, I think, is to respect and rejoice in the force of life, of life itself, and to be present in all that one does, from the effort of loving to the making of bread."
  • Gemini: "When one begins to live by habit and by quotation, one has begun to stop living."
  • Cancer: “Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.”
  • Leo: "The world is before you, and you need not take it or leave it as it was when you came in."
  • Virgo: “To accept one’s past – one’s history – is not the same thing as drowning in it; it is learning how to use it. An invented past can never be used; it cracks and crumbles under the pressures of life like clay in a season of drought.”
  • Libra: “For, while the tale of how we suffer, and how we are delighted, and how we may triumph is never new, it always must be heard. There isn't any other tale to tell, it's the only light we've got in all this darkness.”
  • Scorpio: “Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.”
  • Sagittarius: “You have to go the way your blood beats. If you don't live the only life you have, you won't live some other life, you won't live any life at all.”
  • Capricorn: "Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced."
  • Aquarius: "Ignorance, allied with power, is the most ferocious enemy justice can have."
  • Pisces: “All art is a kind of confession, more or less oblique. All artists, if they are to survive, are forced, at last, to tell the whole story; to vomit the anguish up.”
  • ---Outside Keith's Room---
  • Lance: Hey, Keith? Buddy, you in there?
  • Keith: Go away Lance.
  • Lance: //Enters anyway//
  • ---Inside Keith's Room---
  • Keith: I don't want to talk Lance, just leave me alone ok?
  • Lance: Hey, nobody's seen you since breakfast, who said anything about talking? I came to make sure you hadn't died or something.
  • Keith: ....
  • Lance: But we could always talk since I'm here now anyway. //Sits on the bed//
  • Keith: Lance-
  • Lance: C'mon man, everyone's worried about you. You barely show your face around the castle, and whenever you do you avoid everyone like you're on some kind of stealth mission.
  • Keith: //Scoffs// Nobody is worried about me, and I'm not avoiding everyone... I just...
  • Lance: //Frowns// Keith, we're a team, if you're upset, we all feel it. The whole team's out of whack. Just talk to me - despite what Pidge might have told you, I am great with feelings and junk.
  • Keith: I don't - It's just - Ugh, it's just easier not to see everyone judging me, and hating me if I'm not around them, ok?! I don't care what you say, I've seen the way they look at me - and I look normal now, but what if it gets worse? What if I do start going purple? Or I sprout fur or something stupid like that. How would they look at me then? I'd be just another Galra....... Lance, I don't think I should be on the team anymore.
  • Lance: Wait what? Are you kidding! You think you should be off the team? The team that the Red Lion chose you for? That's crazy! Keith, you've saved everyone's butts loads of times, what would we do without you? How would we form Voltron? And you know, keep the universe safe?
  • Keith: You'd find someone else-
  • Lance: There is no one else Keith! *You're* the Red Paladin. So what if you're Galra? ... Well, sure, there's the whole being a member of the race that's 'trying to take over the universe, destroy entire civilisations and trying to kill us all the time' thing but-
  • Keith: Great, that makes me feel much better.
  • Lance: Well when I say it like that it sounds bad, but that's not all you are. You're Keith first, before any of all that. It's just been a bit of a shock - it's raw you know? Everyone will come to terms with it, trust me... Like I don't know if you've noticed, but Hunk's pretty much got an alien girlfriend
  • Keith: What?
  • Lance: Sure, nobody's judging. And we've all seen Shiro's badass glowing arm thing - also Galra I might add. Does it make us think any less of him? No way! And I'm also convinced Pidge is part computer, I just don't have any proof yet.
  • Keith: //Smiles//
  • Lance: Allura's probably gonna take a little longer than the rest of us, but she's still hurting, and hey, she's like over 10,000 years old, she just needs to get with the times. Like, Galra Keith? Whatever, am I right?
  • Keith: ...... //Chuckles// Thanks Lance.
  • Lance: So don't worry, just come back to the team, we miss you. We've all got our little hang ups and stuff, so it's ok
  • Keith: Yeah, everyone except you - you're perfect
  • Lance: Uh-
  • Keith: - ! //Flustered//
  • Lance: //Flustered as hell//
the 100 ways to say 'i love you' teen wolf edition
  • 1. "A key to your house, already?"
  • 2. "I am the one keeping you alive, okay?"
  • 3. "If you die, I will literally go out of my freaking mind."
  • 4. "She is my best friend."
  • 5. "Not all monsters do monstrous things."
  • 6. "You electrified the windows?"
  • 7. "You are the hottest girl."
  • 8. "I would never leave without you."
  • 9. "Dance with me, dumbass."
  • 10. "You can do it."
  • 11. "Am I going to regret this?"
  • 12. "When I kissed you, you held your breath."
  • 13. "You remembered my name."
  • 14. "You are the hot girl."
  • 15. "You were just trying to kiss me."
  • 16. "After everything we've been through, I believe you."
  • 17. "Because I trust you."
  • 18. "I need you."
  • 19. "I knew you liked me."
  • 20. "You are coming back, right?"
  • 21. "I'd like to help you figure it out."
  • 22. "I think you look beautiful."
  • 23. "What do you want me to do?"
  • 24. "You are showing me plenty right now."
  • 25. "It's progress."
  • 26. "I heard you almost got killed."
  • 27. "Why is your heart beating so fast?"
  • 28. "Stay behind me and stay quiet."
  • 29. "Did you find her?"
  • 30. "I don't want you to sleep in the chair."
  • 31. "It didn't matter to me."
  • 32. "I don't want you to be normal, I want you to be alive."
  • 33. "Wait here."
  • 34. "You did not just say that."
  • 35. "Do the right-side brakes on your dad's SUV squeak a little bit?"
  • 36. "She stays."
  • 37. "Stay behind me and stay quiet."
  • 38. "Just tell me how to fix this, alright?"
  • 39. "I will come with you."
  • 40. "Is she okay?"
  • 41. "Just focus on the sound of my voice, alright?"
  • 42. "If you got something else in mind, I am okay with that too."
  • 43. "I am not going anywhere."
  • 44. "Part of you is doing something."
  • 45. "Trust me, I do plenty of sucking just for his benefit."
  • 46. "You're not nervous, are you?"
  • 47. "There's no such thing as fate."
  • 48. "I think you mean..."
  • 49. "Be the Alpha."
  • 50. "Are we still milking that?"
  • 51. "What did you tell her?"
  • 52. "Why do you want to know?"
  • 53. "You wanna play Catwoman, I'll be your Batman."
  • 54. "Can you get me out of here before I drown?"
  • 55. "I won't judge, I promise."
  • 56. "They tip toe."
  • 57. "You know, I put those pants on you."
  • 58. "He can't be dead."
  • 59. "So is that hypothetical situation we talked about getting any less hypothetical?"
  • 60. "Close your eyes."
  • 61. "You want to leave so we can figure it out?"
  • 62. "I'll be your Yoda."
  • 63. "What's this look on your face?"
  • 64. "You're the one who always figures it out."
  • 65. "Can't you trust me just this once?"
  • 66. "You're getting an idea, aren't you?"
  • 67. "What were you thinking going after them?"
  • 68. "I can see it on your face."
  • 69. "I am frustrated."
  • 70. "That's because it doesn't hurt."
  • 71. "Don't be such a sour wolf."
  • 72. "We need help."
  • 73. "I can take care of myself."
  • 74. "Do you still?"
  • 75. "I figured you shouldn't be alone."
  • 76. "I couldn't let that be the last memory you had of her."
  • 77. "Why'd you help me?"
  • 78. "She still is."
  • 79. "Not all of us are."
  • 80. "I wanna paint your body."
  • 81. "I think you could definitely take him."
  • 82. "So what are you gonna do?"
  • 83. "I did ask her out once."
  • 84. "If anything happens, find me."
  • 85. "I am not watching The Notebook again."
  • 86. "We are not leaving without her."
  • 87. "What am I, a nun?"
  • 88. "I am just looking at your eyes."
  • 89. "I really hope you are."
  • 90. "I love your smile."
  • 91. "I only had one friend and she's dead too."
  • 92. "Look at me."
  • 93. "Good thing I had my period last week then."
  • 94. "I hate you."
  • 95. "Who are you?"
  • 96. "I am not leaving, okay?"
  • 97. "You are my brother."
  • 98. "I am here to save my best friend."
  • 99. "Why did you do that?"
  • and...
  • 100. "Because I love you."
Star Trek: The Original Series 1

“Oh, your sense of duty is overwhelming”
“Why don’t you tell me what an attractive lady I am?”
“I’m not surprised”
“You’re too pure and noble”
“t isn’t bad to have everyone in the universe at your beck and call. You win all the arguments”
“Do you know about being with somebody? Wanting to be?”
“When I see you, I feel like I’m hungry all over. Do you know how that feels?”
“Go to your quarters or I’ll pick you up and carry you there”
“You know how you feel and that’s all”
“My legs. They’re broken”
“What am I going to do?”
“Hang on tight and survive. Everybody does”
“Just checking up on you”
“What makes you so right and a trained psychiatrist wrong?”
“Pray that you die easily”
“Do you like what you see?”
“Please go back while you still can”
“We’re doing everything that’s possible!”
“What are we doing out here, anyway?”
“We’re destroying it!”
“We’ve got no business being out here! No business!”
“You can’t afford the luxury of being anything less than perfect”
“We all have our darker side. We need it; it’s half of what we are. It’s not really ugly, it’s human“
“Any unusual readings?”
“I think we both understand each other”
“You either believe in yourself or you don't”
“I’m happy the affair is over”
“Don’t you think you could possibly, by accident, arrange to leave me behind here?”
“Can you imagine how life could be improved if we could do away with jealousy, greed, hate?”
“I am not a computer”
“What did you say your name was?”
“I won’t forget!”
“What makes you think I need one?”
“Lock him up”
“What are you worried about?”
“There is no mercy in you”
“Who are you to say what harm was done?”
“Who do I have to be?”
“Another war… must it always be so? How many comrades have we lost in this way?”
“Danger and I are old companions”
“War is never imperative”
“No. No, that is not our way”
“I regret that we meet in this way”
“You and I are of a kind. In a different reality, I could have called you friend”
“What purpose will it serve to die?”
“Only peace, sunshine, and good air. You’ll have no problems”
“The logical thing for you to have done was to have left me behind”
“That would seem to be an act of desperation”
“I examined the problem from all angles, and it was plainly hopeless”
“You don’t understand something so you become fearful”
“Well, I don’t know if I like your tone. It’s most challenging”
“That’s what you’re doing, challenging me?”
“I object to you. I object to intellect without discipline”
“I object to power without constructive purpose”
“You are guilty. On all counts you are guilty”
“Put a stop to this!”
“No, I won’t kill you”
“Do you hear? You’ll have to get your entertainment someplace else!”
“We can talk. Maybe… reach an agreement”
“There is hope for you”
“I made an error in my computations”
“This could be a historic occasion”
“Your logic can be most… annoying”
“If you’re going to get nasty, I’m going to leave”
“I hope I’m not crowding you”
“What’s the matter? Don’t you like books?”
“I demand it!”
“Your statement is irrelevant”
“Without freedom of choice there is no creativity”
“It’s time you learned that freedom is never a gift. It has to be earned”
“Insufficient facts always invite danger”
“Superior ability breeds superior ambition”
“Well, either choke me or cut my throat. Make up your mind”
“Where am I?”
“Answer my question!”
“I was just trying to prevent an argument”
“Death. Destruction. Disease. Horror. That’s what war is all about”
“I’m a soldier, not a diplomat. I can only tell you the truth!”
“What would you say the odds are on our getting out of here?”
“Madness has no purpose. Or reason. But it may have a goal”
“Pain is a thing of the mind. The mind can be controlled

Something I don't think enough people understand

For the chronically ill, our symptoms, our aches, our pains, our struggles. Those are our normals. We wake each and every day bracing ourselves for the war we constantly fight.

Day in. Day out.

And yes, there are good days! Days where the pain is less! Days where we can keep up with the healthy folks in our lives!

But there are also the bad days. The days where you cry and moan endlessly from pain. The days where your mental illnesses (if you have any) join in to fight you. The days where you want to make yourself disappear because ANYTHING is better than just another second of living like this.

But you know what?

We keep fighting. Day in, day out. And it sucks. And it isn’t fair. And it hurts. Living hurts more than anything else.

But like I said, this is our normal. Chronic illnesses, mental illnesses, disabilities… It comes with the playing field; the war zone that is our daily lives.

The fight against ourselves.

And even on days where you’re losing, remember: You’re a warrior. A fucking WARRIOR for going through this.

Even on days where you “only” did laundry. Or “only” had a shower. That was a fight, and you won.

And I’m proud of you.

And we all keep fighting day in and day out, because that’s our normal. We don’t stop fighting.

And for the healthy/abled people reading this: Please remember that we fight tooth and nail to keep up with you some days. Don’t pity us, but help us fight instead.

Forbidden Love Sentence Starters
  • "We very nearly got caught then."
  • "I think we should meet up less, people are starting to get suspicious."
  • "If anyone asks, you're my cousin."
  • "I wish we didn't have to meet at night, but my goodness you look so beautiful by the moonlight."
  • "There is no pretending any more. I love you, and I will love you until I die, and if there's a life after that, I'll love you then."
  • "Just for tonight let's pretend we're not who we are."
  • "I can't help myself, the forbidden fruit is always the sweetest."
  • "What do you mean I'm not allowed to love you?"
  • "I don't know what I'm going to do, I can't see myself with anyone else."
  • "I don't want to marry him/her/them!"
  • "I've began to love this place, our little spot."
  • "What do you think people would say if they knew about us?"
  • "They know."
  • "Perhaps we should quit while we're ahead."
  • "Flirting with you has been fun but I'm worried we might be in too deep."
  • "I can't fall in love with you, I just can't!"
  • "We were doomed from the start, we've been fighting a losing battle."
  • "I just don't care any more. I love you, and I don't care who knows."
  • "If you think you can stand living with me, looking but not touching, you're welcome to try."
  • "No matter what happens, I'll always be there for you, even if we can't be together."

Y'all: Bianca was selfish, didn’t love her brother and deserved to die.

Me: She was a child, forced to take over the role of mother for her little brother while having NO ONE to support her in any way and when she was tempted by something new and shiny she didn’t think about the consequences only the immediate satisfaction, you know the way a child would, she would get of garnetted friends, less responsibility,Not going through puberty,and she didn’t think of anyone else because she is a child who had been put through hell. She just wanted a break, leave the poor thing alone 

anonymous asked:

Hi, bitches! Maybe I haven't scoured your blog as thoroughly as I think I have (I was on your site for like four hours straight one night) but I was wondering if you have any advice for people like me without a lot of money who'd like to start investing? I know it's important to start early and compound interest sounds Hella Sweet™ but I also know very little about stocks and such and don't want to pay big fees to someone I don't entirely trust...have any resources I could use to get educated?

I love you for asking this question. You’re exactly right to be thinking of this stuff right now! Here’s what we have that sort of addresses your situation:

How to Save for Retirement when you Make Less than $30,000 a Year

Dafuq is a Retirement Plan and Why do You Need One? 

Our main advice for you right now is to do this stuff in this order:

1. If the company you work for offers a 401(k) or 403(b), go see your HR person and ask to start one right away. Ask them what percentage you need to contribute to get the employer match, and then work up to that percentage over time if it’s too expensive to pull from your paycheck right away.

2. Once you’re maxing out your 401(k)/403(b), start an IRA (Individual Retirement Account). If your employer doesn’t offer a 401(k)/403(b), skip step 1 and go straight to this step. A Roth IRA will take taxes out of your account NOW, a Traditional IRA will take taxes out of your account when you retire. I recommend the Roth IRA through Vanguard. Just call them and say “I want a Roth IRA.” You’ll have to have $1k to start, and you can invest up to $5,500 per year.

3. Look into a micro-investing account like Acorns. Sign up on their website. This rounds up your expenditures and puts the extra change into your investment account. You can also just throw extra money in it as you please, since the online interface is user friendly. There’s no minimum amount to get started. BUT… the fees are disappointingly high until you’ve got a couple thousand invested. Unlike the retirement accounts above, you can access the money at any time.

4. Get a Vanguard Index Fund. If you listen to the Freakonomics podcast, then you know that index funds are the absolute lowest-risk, lowest-fee, safest way to invest over the long term. DO NOT GET A MANAGED FUND. IT IS A WASTE OF MONEY AND ALSO TOO RISKY FOR YOU. An index fund, by contrast, works by giving you a tiny slice of the total stock market. So if you know NADA about investing but you want to start putting money away, this is a great option as you don’t have to go through the trouble of picking individual stocks. 

We’ll try to write a more lengthy post on this topic soon! As a reminder, my darlings, we definitely take requests. ;)


  • Yang: Hey, Penny!
  • Penny: Salutations, Yang! What ever do you have to talk about with me on this fine day?
  • Yang: Look, we... know.
  • Penny: You... know?
  • Yang: Look, we figured out Ruby was hiding some secret for you for a while now-
  • Penny: Um-
  • Yang: -I mean, Ruby is terrible at lying. But we knew better than to pry. But then we heard you too talking. About how you have "nuts"
  • Yang: Look, Penny, I'm talking to you know because I want to let you know that me and the rest of team RWBY are people you can talk about this. We don't think of you any less because you're trans.
  • Penny: Um, yes, I am this "Trans" of which you speak.
  • Yang: Hey, I actually know a girl you can talk to who's gone through some of the same stuff. Then you can have a trans sister, heh heh-

anonymous asked:

I think that you're making this waay more complicated than this needs to be. NOWHERE in the dictionary does it say that racism is based on systematic oppression. racism is having a personal prejudice based on race, plain and simple. And I, as a black girl, cannot fathom how someone calling an entire race subhuman could be any more or less wrong than if it was said to another. Isn't that the kind of inequality and stereotyping we should be moving away from?

i know this is a pretty wild concept but believe it or not the dictionary is not the grand consultant of what’s racist and what isn’t. please apply practical knowledge to the real world, understand the forms racism takes in all facets of everyday life and how it is always to the benefit of white power structures

anonymous asked:

Could you please translate goreyers interview together about going to the olympics? It's called S04-Duo Meyer und Goretzka reist nach Rio. I can't find any translations anywhere and I don't understand a word they're saying but they're just so sweet together!

Yes I know they’re so cute together!! Don’t worry, I’ve got you!

This is the video

Leon: I’m nervous simply because I don’t know 100% what we can expect. The Olympics are a very special event, I think. Usually, if I were to participate in a European Championship I’d know more or less what to expect so yeah the tension rises by the day.

Interviewer: Initially, you’re going to be in Salvador. The temperatures there are about 26-27°C but at night they’re still at 24°C so it’s going to be pretty consistent.

Max: Then I already know what’s gonna happen which is that my fellow beside me here is going to turn on the AC at night which I won’t like but yeah… if there’s no other possibility to cool down the room then that’s how it is. Of course, the temperatures aren’t the best for us. We’ve already had to deal with that in China. It was very exhausting because you couldn’t breathe, you almost couldn’t move; it was like in a sauna. So I think that’s the hardest thing to prepare for.

Interviewer: Who forgets everything and who packs double the amount?

Leon: I don’t pack double. We’re used to travelling already so I think we’re really good at packing our suitcases.

Interviewer: So does Leon always pack his toothbrush?

Max: Toothbrush yes, toothpaste no.

anonymous asked:

My doctors have suggested I use a walker or a cane for mobility (I have an undiagnosed joint problem, which we are currently thinking is EDS but who knows) but I can't get past the hump of feeling self conscious about it. I'm turning 20 soon and feel I'm "too young" for things like that even though I know they would help and I need them. I don't know if there's any advice on how to deal with that..?

Take your walker or cane as an art project and decorate it for it to look as young as you. Illnesses don’t respect age, buddy. 

If you’re in your twenties (or less) and use a mobility aid, give this post some notes or comments to prove a point to our friend here. Count me in.

a-nordic-saxophonist  asked:

So my brother picked up a stray dog a few years ago, and while we could tell that she is definitely part German Shepherd, it took us years to come to the conclusion that the other part is feral (either wolf or coyote, most likely coyote considering location) and I was wondering if there's any health problems that may occur due to this mix? (don't worry about her temper, she is the sweetest dog in the world, and even pathetic at times)

A visual assessment of a mixed breed dog is likely to be less accurate than you think it is. If you want to know for sure what breed mix is in your dog, you can get a DNA test done, and if you choose they can also test for various (but not all) genetic diseases. I would be rather surprised if your dog was part wolf or part coyote. Especially if she is ‘sweet and pathetic’.

Secondly, I’m an Aussie vet in Australia. There are neither wolves nor coyotes running around here and so I have nothing to contribute to the topic.

However, you might want to check on your local legislation for keeping a ‘wolf dog’ and be very careful about that.

Some thoughts on the Flash, please don't hate me,

I kinda like the idea of Barry being the villain. Like, obviously unwittingly, but we all know Barry has made some mistakes. In fact, he keeps showing that he’s willing to do whatever he has to do to keep Iris safe. Including, using Julian even when he protests, proposing to her even though it was just to change the future…. ect.

Barry is selfish. And yes, I think he feels like he’s doing the right thing, but at the end of the day… it is kinda the Barry Allen show. It’s perfectly ok for Barry to have flaws such as being a bit selfish. He’s human after all. But we can’t deny that he is, in fact, selfish.

I would be perfectly ok with Savitar being a future Barry Allen, like after the “Flash disappears in crisis” thing. Trapped in the speed force by his own selfishness/ego, it drives him crazy, so he sets out to destroy himself before he can do this again…

What’s that old saying? “You either die the hero, or live long enough to see yourself become the villain”

anonymous asked:

I can see the image they're going for and it might work but the worst part is really how one dimensional it is. I know all celebs get a very one dimensional image. Harry has one as well. Niall is the happy fun kid who enjoys life, beer and sports. I get it. Everyone has an image. And it's never very multifaced. But with Louis we are literally seeing it being made yk? It's so obvious. And when you like an artist so much and "know" them it's sad to see just this one dimensional version

It is frustrating to watch when you feel like you know/have seen so much more. Like you want to jump up and down and be like “but he’s also this and this and this!!!” so that people reading articles like this or the one in The Sun get a better idea of how much more he is, but we can’t really do that. The people with the power create the images the GP see. And I respect that many artists would prefer to present a less dimensional image to protect their own privacy and whatnot, but when certain aspects of the image presented by a team are actually negative or contradictory to the positive things you think/know about the person, it just makes you want to angrily shake your fist and change it. Alas.

anonymous asked:

I've heard a few times that Sephardim are less LGBT-friendly than Ashkenazim, but in my admittedly limited experience, I don't find this to be true. Do you think this idea holds water? Also, I was wondering: do we have any historical data on how people that would today be construed as "LGBT" were considered and treated in Sephardic communities (whether in North-Africa, the Middle-East, Medieval Spain...)? Or even anecdotal stories?

I can’t speak to the first part of your question — I don’t think you can generalize any large group of the Jewish community to hold any particular ideology or another. I have encountered other LGBTQ Jews of every ethnic and cultural background, and luckily many of them have welcoming and supportive communities, and unfortunately some still don’t.

But to your second question, there are absolutely a lot of amazing sources! Here are a few stories I’ve featured on Tumblr before:

And here are some other areas to investigate:

So the short answer is, we always existed! In Jewish communities, like in their surrounding non-Jewish communities, there were people who chose to express or act on non-heterosexual desires. They were usually tolerated, occasionally punished, and sometimes even celebrated. Beyond that generalization, we’d have to look at specific contexts to get a better idea of what’s going on in any particular circumstance.

And just as a treat, here is my all-time favourite homoerotic Hebrew poem, by Shmu’el haNagid (993-1056), as translated by Jerome Rothenberg and Harris Lenowitz:

I’d sell my soul for that fawn
of a boy — night walker
to sound of the ‘ud & flute playing
who saw the glass in my hand — said
“drink the wine from between my lips” &
the moon was a yod drawn on
the cover of dawn in gold ink…

There is so much richness in our heritage — feel free to go through my queerkeit tag for more. And let me know if I can help with anything else!

I know y’all sad Cleganebowl didn’t happen but can we talk about that threat for a second “you’ve always known who’s coming for you”

because I sincerely hope Sandor just lowkey told Gregor that Arya Stark is coming to murder him

mindthewolves  asked:

18 for supercorp feel free to break my heart <3 (idk what other ships you write for so...)

you know i can’t do angst but for you…i tried  ❤ ❤ ❤

They don’t fight very often.

They disagree on a lot of things, sure. They’re both stubborn people used to living their lives separately and sometimes it’s hard now that they’ve moved in together. But their disagreements are tame, no matter if they’re over what kind of pizza to order or if they’re over Lena’s qualms about the fact that fighting crime always keeps Kara late from coming home.

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seameetstheshore  asked:

i think i know what i meant when i said /human/. there is this one HONY post where someone says: "i don't have many stories to share. we were simple people. they were all happy days". and i think what i find in your writing is these stories: the extraordinary of a life, and how even if everything goes wrong, there is still this possibility of a quiet contentment with life.

Wow, thank you so much. This is something I really try to capture in my writing, the little moments – because even though most of us will lead quiet, small lives, that doesn’t make them any less marvelous. The universe is infinite in both directions, with the spaces in the solar system unimaginable and the smallness in between atoms beyond our comprehension, and I think that’s true of our everyday lives as well. Sometimes you’ll look out the window, or there will be a particular scent on the wind, a single, perfect moment, and it’ll be the whole of everything distilled into a moment. It’s that fleeting touch of infinity that puts magical into our realism that I love to read so much, and that I hope I am sometimes successful in conveying in my writing.