we can agree to disagree

first of all, did we watch the same show? read the same manga?

i can’t recall any moment in time where the two of them showed even any signs of hostility towards each other, so i don’t know where you’re getting this kind of conclusion

also, none of these ships are canon in the first place, not even iwaoi or kagehina are canon, so i dunno why you’re running your mouth saying they have their own boyfriends (and even if kuroken and tsukkiyama were canon, what’s to stop us from shipping what we want? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)

please, find your chill so that we can all coexist in peace because i sincerely thought the fandom was over shit like this

anonymous asked:

gender actually does have a biological basis. being trans (and nb) is a biological thing and saying that gender is a construct is transphobic in itself. yes, what people construct on top of gender is fake, but not ones actual gender and brain coding.

Something being culturally/socially constructed does not mean that it’s fake and doesn’t exist. A large number of people consider race to be socially constructed but it is still very much real.

That said, there is indeed a strong biological basis for transgender people being the gender they identify as, and at some point I’ll add a ‘helpful links’ page. However, biological indicators of gender such as brain chemistry are more heavily influenced by the environment than people realise. There is currently know way to definitely know whether gender is an indisputable fact, and everybody and their mother is going to have an opinion on that matter. While I will try to keep the Cislator neutral on these matters, I do have my own opinions and as an individual mod they will seep through.

Again, something being culturally constructed does not mean that it isn’t real. Whether considering gender a construct is inherently transphobic or not is something we will have to agree to disagree on.


~ Mod L

When someone talks trash about a movie I like: Oh well, everyone has their own preferences. I guess we can just agree to disagree on this one.

When someone talks trash about The Princess Bride:

here’s how to properly yell at someone who has a different opinion on fire emblem fates than u in 3 easy steps:

- go outside

- get some fresh air

- reconsider and dont fucking do it because people are allowed to have opinions my guy

anonymous asked:

I may be in the minority here, but I kinda of wished they let Delena die out. They had the a good way for it to end, with Damon wanting her to have a full life and Elena realizing that she may never have a healthy relationship if she's with him. They could have both been happy without each other and end the endless unhealthy cycles of their relationship. It was nice while it lasted, but their beating a dead horse. Even more now that they've tainted looking for Bonnie, with Delena being a reward.

Of course you can have your opinion. I mean, it’s completely normal. I don’t think everyone enjoys the same things in the show.

I can’t say I share it. I’m in for complicated and long journeys with many obstacles. But it’s my thing. If you don’t like it, it’s fine.

The writers don’t have any plans to drop it, not this season (and honestly I think not ever, but that’s what I believe).

anonymous asked:

lol why is the OUAT fandom always fighting it's so ridiculous??? like i get that we all have different opinions but jesus, why can't we just agree to disagree and not be so annoying about everything. I have yet to see ONE THING everyone acknowledges and not want to kill each other over

hmm we all kind of agree that Blue is shady af

roland is he cutest baby hobbit in all the realms

and promo pictures aren’t their strong suit

anonymous asked:

no disrepect but....youtube IS a business. It is utilized differently from a website like vessel of course but at the end of the day youtube is a huge cooperation that is very much part of an industry ;) i think it's important to remember with these kinds of things that "if you are not paying for a product, you ARE the product"

Oh I completely agree. But I think that this is only going to widen the gap between big youtubers and everyone else, and it’s not really the spirit of youtube where the idea is that anyone can join in. I don’t think it’s harmful I think it’s obnoxious to prioritize the fans with bigger pockets and ruin the fun earlier. 

wow.

i remember in 4x07 when snow was mad at emma for not being able to control her powers, most of the fandom was yelling at her and angry at her for not accepting her daughter.

now that david is willing to give over the dagger (basically, control over his daughter and his daughter herself) to a guy he just met, no one’s saying anything. obviously not everyone, but i think it’s gross how people are giving david the benefit of the doubt when he’s putting his daughter’s life in DANGER and no one gave snow a chance when emma couldn’t control her powers.

i really see the favouritism between daddy charming & mama snow, and to me this looks like borderline misogyny. 

Much ado about a fucking costume

I don’t really get why everyone is so eager to bash Julianne Hough for her “blackface” incident (if you insist on referring to it as such). She was dressed as a character from a recent, popular, television program (Orange is the New Black, on Netflix only). She was part of a group costume- everyone was a character from the show. People paint their faces green every year and call themselves witches. I know it’s not the same as calling yourself “black” or “white” or any racial identifier for that matter. Still, we can dress up as animals, criminals, supernatural and undead beings, but we cannot dress up as other people if they are not the same race as we are? Halloween is a day to dress up in costume- as in, something or someone other than yourself!

It’s 2013. Wake up people. Not everything is based on hate or ignorance or intolerance, even. Maybe ms. Hough wore her costume because she’s so not racist, that the thought that her costume may offend someone, didn’t cross her mind. Maybe she listened to Morgan Freeman when he asked that we stop acknowledging each other’s race before each other. Maybe she drew straws with her friends and got the short one and that’s the costume she got stuck with. Maybe it’s not that big of a fucking deal.

But… If we are insisting on making it a big deal, then I encourage everyone to check out this episode of “TI and Tiny: family hustle”, in which two African American women attempt to “be white for a day” :

http://m.vh1.com/blogs/vh1blogstory.rbml?id=2013-08-29/t-i-and-tiny-sneak-peek-shekinah-white/&alt=http%3A%2F%2Fm.vh1.com%2Fblogs%2Fvh1blog.rbml&cid=300

Go ahead, bask in the hypocrisy.


Please don’t misinterpret this post as a racial rant. It isn’t. It’s more of a I-really-don’t-understand-society post. Because, sometimes, I really don’t.

Don’t dismiss something you have never read or seen just because it doesn’t align with your beliefs. Read the books and watch the documentaries you disagree with. Try and understand even if you don’t agree with it.  If you don’t have an open mind and shut everything out you are closing yourself off to a world of possibilities. Learn from others. Don’t be a bigot. 

How to respond to homophobic people

No matter how far we seem to come as a society, there are always those minds who just refuse to open. The following guide is meant to help you deal better when you encounter such people.      

If it’s coming from a group:

Know that just like they’re not alone in their opinions, you aren’t alone in yours.  Call up a supportive friend to remind you that you’re not alone.  If you can, be in a group of friends that accept and respect you for who you are when you expect to run into the group of people giving you trouble.  Let them see that you have friends, that you are loved and valued no matter what your sexual orientation may be.  Hopefully they will come to realize that you don’t have to be friends, but you don’t have to be enemies either.  If confrontations ensue just say, “Can we agree to disagree or must we act like we’re of the playground age?”

If it’s coming from someone you thought was a friend:

If you’ve just come out with your friends it may take time for them to accept this new knowledge of who you are.  Sadly, some of your friends may never come around at all.  Don’t let these so-called friends bring you down!  Your real friends are the ones who are there for you no matter what.  Remind your friends that while it may be difficult for them to understand or even agree with you, that you need their love and support more than anything right now.

If it’s coming from family:

This can often be the hardest form of homophobia to deal with.  These are the people whose opinions of you really matter.  You don’t want to be talked badly about at a relative’s dinner table, or even at your own.  Even if you don’t feel it, your family does love you and that’s why they care about what’s going on in your life.  They may not be expressing their “concern” in the nicest ways, but they’re expressing their feelings because they care about you.  Give them time and stick close to the family members that treat you no differently than before you came out.  Before too many holidays pass, their acceptance may begin to ware-off on the rest of the family.

If it’s coming from strangers:

Don’t be afraid to hold your significant other’s hand in public because someone might say something rude.  Be proud of who you are and the person that you’re with.  Love yourself and those around you.  If someone shouts something rude at you, smile because you’re lucky enough to know better, smile because you’re you.

It’s never easy to deal with homophobic people, but concentrate on your beliefs, not theirs.  If homosexuality is a problem to them, let them deal with it.  Don’t be rude or lose your temper.  Let them waste their life on negative emotions.  Don’t stoop to their level and remember that being gay isn’t anything someone should make you feel bad about.

How to respond to homophobic people

No matter how far we seem to come as a society, there are always those minds who just refuse to open. The following guide is meant to help you deal better when you encounter such people.      

If it’s coming from a group:

Know that just like they’re not alone in their opinions, you aren’t alone in yours.  Call up a supportive friend to remind you that you’re not alone.  If you can, be in a group of friends that accept and respect you for who you are when you expect to run into the group of people giving you trouble.  Let them see that you have friends, that you are loved and valued no matter what your sexual orientation may be.  Hopefully they will come to realize that you don’t have to be friends, but you don’t have to be enemies either.  If confrontations ensue just say, “Can we agree to disagree or must we act like we’re of the playground age?”

If it’s coming from someone you thought was a friend:

If you’ve just come out with your friends it may take time for them to accept this new knowledge of who you are.  Sadly, some of your friends may never come around at all.  Don’t let these so-called friends bring you down!  Your real friends are the ones who are there for you no matter what.  Remind your friends that while it may be difficult for them to understand or even agree with you, that you need their love and support more than anything right now.

If it’s coming from family:

This can often be the hardest form of homophobia to deal with.  These are the people whose opinions of you really matter.  You don’t want to be talked badly about at a relative’s dinner table, or even at your own.  Even if you don’t feel it, your family does love you and that’s why they care about what’s going on in your life.  They may not be expressing their “concern” in the nicest ways, but they’re expressing their feelings because they care about you.  Give them time and stick close to the family members that treat you no differently than before you came out.  Before too many holidays pass, their acceptance may begin to ware-off on the rest of the family.

If it’s coming from strangers:

Don’t be afraid to hold your significant other’s hand in public because someone might say something rude.  Be proud of who you are and the person that you’re with.  Love yourself and those around you.  If someone shouts something rude at you, smile because you’re lucky enough to know better, smile because you’re you.

It’s never easy to deal with homophobic people, but concentrate on your beliefs, not theirs.  If homosexuality is a problem to them, let them deal with it.  Don’t be rude or lose your temper.  Let them waste their life on negative emotions.  Don’t stoop to their level and remember that being gay isn’t anything someone should make you feel bad about.