we are women hear us roar

where are the women?
in these old stories of blood and war
women know of these things better than men

Where is Helen?
glorious and golden, Aphrodite in human form
Why does she not get to tell her story of finding and regretting love? 

Where is Penelope?
silent and suffering
why does she not get to rage for the injustice

Where is Rebekah?
the schemer, the dreamer, the believer
why does she not get to be blessed?

It’s a question I’ve been asked since I was eight
Where are the women?

Where are they now?

They are marching, they are fighting, they are screaming
Look around you,

we are storytellers
we are freedom fighters
we are the ones chosen

—  Hear Us Roar by Abby S
Be an Angelica

In a world full of men like Aaron Burr, who have no respect; dare to be a strong and independent Angelica Schuyler. Make sure that your voice is heard. Make sure that everything you do, fuly respect your valours. Do not let ANYONE tell you that you can’t do a thing because you are a girl. Make sure that all those women didn’t die in vain. You are strong and successful and independent. You don’t need a man on your side to prove it. Today is our day. Don’t let anyone to tell you how you should or shouldn’t celebrate it. Men don’t know. They are not women, they simply don’t know the struggle. They are not allowed to tell us how we should spend our day.

You are strong, and independent, and wonderful and I am proud to be part of this sisterhood. I love you all so much.

Happy international women’s day to all of you out there.

Be an Angelica, don’t let anyone to shut you up. If you are told to shush your mouth, shout, be stronger. Be an Angelica.

-J. Laur


BBC Sherlock is picking up where Casablanca left off. “The stage is set, the curtain rises, we are ready to begin…” Which is important, because before it was a film, Casablanca was an unproduced play.

First, I’d like to give credit to @deducingbbcsherlock for the original meta about John on the tarmac: ( x ) This post, is a follow-up of sorts, in that it deals with what happens afterward, and how we all land.

Take into account, that when Casablanca was made, the people we now think of as refugees, were still living the events. The film did create a rallying for those same people, and included refugees in its scenes. The LGBTQA+ viewers hoping for representation are the Sherlock refugees.

I included the images above, because of the blue/slightly rainbow lighting effect that occurs in the scenes, and due to pondering why they were having Mycroft watching an old movie (which we know was made for the show). Blue lights invariably spring up around anything involving Sherlock and John’s hearts (especially phones, bombs, and police lights). In the scene from T6T, the blue lights mimic a runway. In the first of the two images from TFP, after Sherlock breaks down the fourth wall, it even looks like he is coming down from a plane ramp.

From a previous piece I worked on:

Lights and Landing. I keep thinking it’s going to /come down/ to lights. On ASiB, Flight 007, the lights were out, and Nobody (TLD/Nemo TFP) was home (because they were all dead). During the stag night, Sherlock and John are drinking by a table, where Sherlock’s (heart) phone is left glowing blue next to four candles. If we’re still on the roof of TRF, John had his lights knocked out, but only after he and Sherlock escaped the police with their blue lights. In TEH, the lights are on the (heart) bomb. In HLV, Sherlock shoots Magnussen, and then a huge light lands on him from the helicopter. In TAB, Sherlock’s lights kept going out. In the flight of T6T, again everyone’s lights are out, except John’s. In TLD, Sherlock figures out the issue of the illuminated Miss Me from Eurus’s note, in the same way he noticed Help Me on the wall when Anderson missed it (which is also the text Sherlock sent Lestrade in TSoT that then results in blue lights through 221B’s curtains). In TFP, the little girl mentions seeing lights right before Sherlock figures out the code to locate John. We already know there is this recurring issue of projectors/projections/premonitions.

Which is why I don’t think it’s an accident that we go from the Casablanca-style scenes in HLV and TAB, to Sherlock and John beating Mary Rosemund to Morocco, in T6T. At the beginning of T6T, Sherlock says, ““I’m the target. Targets wait.” “How did you find me?” Mary asks. “I’m Sherlock Holmes,” he shrugs. He waited. For John. For her. There were premonitions…

Also, it works with the scenario of Victor Lazlo. Early in the movie, Victor Laszlo acquires a large scar over his left eye. The reason for the scar’s existence is never addressed in the movie. Likewise, @inevitably-johnlocked surmised that John has lost his left eye ( x ) In TFP, as a child, Eurus always has brown eyes–except in the scene where she is lighting the match. In that scene, it’s blue. I never understood why, until this.

The water scenarios we keep getting in S4, and the idea of TD-12 or a coma causing this to all be misinformation or somehow incorrect.

Captain Renault: What in heaven’s name brought you to Casablanca?

Rick: My health. I came to Casablanca for the waters.

Captain Renault: The waters? What waters? We’re in the desert.

Rick: I was misinformed.

We’ve already had a parallel between Rick and Sherlock from TGG, albeit in reverse.

Rick: And remember, this gun is pointed right at your heart.

Captain Renault: That is my *least* vulnerable spot.

Then, there’s John as Ilsa. A blonde married to a blonde, pining over a dark-haired man that is represented as anti-social. Renault has the ability to mirror Sherlock or John.

Ilsa: It’s about a girl who had just come to Paris from her home in Oslo. At the house of some friends, she met a man about whom she’d heard her whole life. A very great and courageous man. He opened up for her a whole beautiful world full of knowledge and thoughts and ideals. Everything she knew or ever became was because of him. And she looked up to him and worshiped him… with a feeling she supposed was love.

Now, we come to the parallels between the tarmac scene and TFP:

Another well-known story is that the actors did not know until the last day of shooting how the film was to end. (Delayed Sherlock scripts, and actors saying they didn’t know in advance where their story arcs were going.) In the case of Casablanca, this was later refuted… The original play (set entirely in the cafe) ended with Rick sending Ilsa and Laszlo to the airport. During scriptwriting, the possibility was discussed of Laszlo being killed in Casablanca, allowing Rick and Ilsa to leave together, but as Casey Robinson wrote to Hal Wallis before filming began, the ending of the film “set up for a swell twist when Rick sends her away on the plane with Laszlo. For now, in doing so, he is not just solving a love triangle. He is forcing the girl to live up to the idealism of her nature, forcing her to carry on with the work that in these days is far more important than the love of two little people.” (Remember, John is Ilsa) It was certainly impossible for Ilsa to leave Laszlo for Rick, as the production code forbade showing a woman leaving her husband for another man. (Much like the film code prevented TPLOSH from having Holmes and Watson as a gay couple). The concern was not whether Ilsa would leave with Laszlo, but how this result could be engineered. The problem was solved when the Epstein brothers, Julius and Philip, were driving down Sunset Boulevard and stopped for the light at Beverly Glen. At that instant the identical twins turned to each other and simultaneously cried out, “Round up the usual suspects!” (Which is literally what they did in S4, especially TFP. The key players are all rounded up, and we have our twins reference) By the time they had driven past Fairfax and the Cahuenga Pass and through the Warner Brothers studio’s portals at Burbank, in the words of Julius Epstein, “the idea for the farewell scene between a tearful Bergman and a suddenly noble Bogart” had been formed and all the problems of the ending had been solved.” (No loose ends…)

That issue of the Prime Minister, that came up in T6T? In the original play (the curtain rises, the scene is set), the correct PM is written: Weygand. In the subtitles for the English DVDs, it says De Gaulle. At the time of the film, he was head of the Free French government in exile, so a letter signed by him would have provided no benefit.

In the scene where Lazlo begins the national anthem, La Marseillaise, these are the lyrics:

Arise, children of the Fatherland! The day of glory has arrived! Against us, tyranny raises its bloody banner. Do you hear, in the countryside, the roar of those ferocious soldiers? They’re coming to your land to cut the throats of your women and children!

To arms, citizens! Form your battalions! Let’s march, let’s march! Let their impure blood water our fields!

John in TFP: Today, we have to be soldiers, Mycroft, soldiers. And that means to hell with what happens to us!

Sherlock: Soldiers.

John: Soldiers.

Going back to the first image, look at the name of the bar. The Attic. Where does Sherlock locate Eurus? In the attic (last image)…

Tellingly, this is what Umberto Eco said of the film (which originally, had a solid opening, but nothing meteoric) “Thus Casablanca is not just one film. It is many films, an anthology. Made haphazardly, it probably made itself, if not actually against the will of its authors and actors, then at least beyond their control. And this is the reason it works, in spite of aesthetic theories and theories of film making. For in it there unfolds with almost telluric force the power of Narrative in its natural state, without Art intervening to discipline it….When all the archetypes burst in shamelessly, we reach Homeric depths. Two clichés make us laugh. A hundred clichés move us. For we sense dimly that the clichés are talking among themselves, and celebrating a reunion. Eco also singled out sacrifice as one of the film’s key themes: "the myth of sacrifice runs through the whole film.” It was this theme which resonated with a wartime audience that was reassured by the idea that painful sacrifice and going off to war could be romantic gestures done for the greater good. (We’re back the Greek references that permeated S4, the status of Anteros at the beginning of the opening credits to the show, and the overall reception from viewers of TFP.)

Also, remember Mark saying: “I’m a gay man. This is not an issue. But we’ve explicitly said this is not going to happen—there is no game plan—no matter how much we lie about other things, that this show is going to culminate in Martin and Benedict going off into the sunset together.” Well, if John as Ilsa has vacated the premises, and left that part of himself with Mary, it makes sense. Because, at the end of Casablanca, Rick walks off into the fog with Captain(!) Renault.

Regarding the clues we’ve been getting about 6, 40, & 27. In the summer of 1940, the 27-year-old teacher Murray completed the play in six weeks with the collaboration of Joan Alison. It was never shown as such until London in 1991, for 6 weeks.

Tagging @graceebooks @impatient14 and @whimsicalethnographies @may-shepard @jenna221b because they replied to some of the minor bits I added onto existing posts, which then became this…thing. Anyway, thanks for reading.

Little Mix

this song makes me want to dress all in black with winged eyeliner and red lipstick and strut into battle with high heels on and my hair fabulous and makes me want to take out an entire line of warriors with a gun, standing in the middle of the field just picking them off one by one and my hair’s flying in the wind and heck yeah we are women hear us roar

‘Glow’ Star Britney Young Opens Up About The Empowering Series

In the ‘80s, the Gorgeous Ladies of Wrestling, or GLOW, redefined everything the world knew about the sport. More than two decades later, a new batch of women are here to do the same.

“Glow,” a Netflix original series paying homage to the pioneers of female wrestling, is set to make its streaming debut this Friday.The show stars Alison Brie, Sydelle Noel, Jackie Tohn, Britney Young and more as the rag tag members of an all-female wrestling group based in Los Angeles called GLOW. While the series is neither a remake of the original “Glow,” nor an exact depiction of the ladies of GLOW, its message is the same —  we are woman, hear us roar.

The idea for the show came after showrunners Carly Mensch and Liz Flahive saw “GLOW: The Story of the Gorgeous Ladies of Wrestling,” a documentary about the founding and growth of GLOW in Las Vegas, on Netflix. The duo teamed up with Jenji Kohan, famed for projects like “Weeds” and “Orange is the New Black.” They got to work, assembling writers and a cast and thus, “Glow” was born.

Read: Netflix To Debut Create Your Own Adventure Series

International Business Times caught up with star Britney Young, who plays Carmen Wade on the highly anticipated show. Carmen is a “shy, but friendly and kind” young woman determined to make it in the wrestling industry. Once she joins the ranks of GLOW, she quickly realizes she may have bitten off more than she can chew.

“She’s the daughter of a wrestling dynasty family, and she really wants to be a wrestler,” Young explained to IBT. “When she becomes a part of GLOW, she realizes that she might not be ready for the Hollywood limelight just yet.”

“Glow” star Britney Young (right) opens up about the show’s empowering messages for viewers. Photo: Netflix

Carmen never relents in her quest to make her mark on the wrestling world. Inspired by the ladies she’s surrounded herself with, she digs deep and discovers “she’s not just this shy girl who does whatever her father says.” She evolves as “Glow” progresses, becoming an “empowering and very inspiring” person.

A follow-your-dreams storyline isn’t all this Netflix original’s got going for it. “Glow” has been praised for bringing together a diverse cast, celebrating their differences on camera. Young, who noted that women have historically been typecast as boy-crazed teenagers, doting wives and secretaries, was elated to join an ensemble bringing so much more to viewers.

“What I love about ‘Glow’ is we have a woman for everyone,” she said. “Our characters come from so many different backgrounds and have so many different stories to tell.”

As a plus-sized actress, Young has found that she is often chosen for parts where size is a part of her story. “Glow” gave her the opportunity to play a plus-sized character that was so much more. Carmen is “strong and beautiful,” and viewers will have the chance to see all that and more when they tune in.

Britney Young (left) explained that “Glow” promotes the acceptance of all female body types. Photo: Netflix

“I”m a plus-sized girl in a business that doesn’t really accept plus-sized girls. Our show is really about accepting female bodies. They’re strong and beautiful in any size, any shape, any color,” she said. “I really was drawn to that. Like, ‘Oh, they’re looking for my type, but my character isn’t going to be about my type — it’s celebrating my type.’ That’s what we need on TV right now.”

Read: Netflix Break Barriers With ‘Atypical’

The body positive message in “Glow” really hit Young when Netflix released the character posters corresponding with the show. For hers, they opted for something simple — “just me flexing my arm.” During the shoot, Young joked that she’d be fine with them photoshopping her arm if they weren’t happy with the way it came out only to find that they’d decided against it in the end.

“I was pretty taken aback and just had to stop for a little bit,” she told IBT. “When they originally told me that’s what they wanted as the poster, I was kind of joking around like, ‘If you guys don’t like my little flabby arms you can totally photoshop it!’ and I realized I was [doing that] not to be offended when they did and they didn’t! I was so grateful.”

All episodes of “Glow” Season 1 will be available for streaming Friday on Netflix.

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“He says that woman speaks with nature. That she hears voices from under the earth. That wind blows in her ears and trees whisper to her. That the dead sing through her mouth and the cries of infants are clear to her. But for him this dialogue is over. He says he is not part of this world, that he was set on this world as a stranger. He sets himself apart from woman and nature.

“And so it is Goldilocks who goes to the home of the three bears, Little Red Riding Hood who converses with the wolf, Dorothy who befriends a lion, Snow White who talks to the birds, Cinderella with mice as her allies, the Mermaid who is half fish, Thumbelina courted by a mole. (And when we hear in the Navaho chant of the mountain that a grown man sits and smokes with bears and follows directions given to him by squirrels, we are surprised. We had thought only little girls spoke with animals.)

“We are the bird’s eggs. Bird’s eggs, flowers, butterflies, rabbits, cows, sheep; we are caterpillars; we are leaves of ivy and sprigs of wallflower. We are women. We rise from the wave. We are gazelle and doe, elephant and whale, lilies and roses and peach, we are air, we are flame, we are oyster and pearl, we are girls. We are woman and nature. And he says he cannot hear us speak.

“But we hear.”

From Woman and Nature: The Roaring Inside Her, by Susan Griffin.

Idk if I can coherently textualize my Stitchers feels but here goes nothing!

- FINALLY some Camsten action on the screen! (Interesting to see how that turns out. I hate love triangles, btw)
- Daniel fucking Stinger is an asshole
- Even though he’s been a minor character, Mr. Ahluwalia is a real OG and seriously? Two deaths (one death and an almost death?) in one episode? Not cool
- Glad that we get some more from both Maggie’s and Fisher’s story and I want/need/require more back story from them
- Fisher calling Camille ‘Tough Guy’
- Camille being all pro-women, we don’t need no man, hear us roar, let’s be badasses to Kirsten
- Liam fucking Granger graduating from super creep to asshole
- This NSA conspiracy shit playing into the fears that some of us (not me necessarily) have about the secret, crazy, shady af underworld of the government making people disappear and shit (or putting them in dream pods)
- I liked seeing emotional Kirsten & knowing Cameron is her haven is like 😍💖😍💖
- Blair is a dickhead
- Seriously if we don’t get a season 3, I propose we riot because
- We need to know what’s going on with Kirsten’s parents. What’s going on with Mama Stinger being in a space pod for 15 years??
- I hope Kirsten gets to kick her dad’s ass
- Cameron holding a distraught Kirsten in his arms
- The actual Stitchers program (except for our beloved bunch of brain babies) is shady af and if the show gets cancelled, it’s literally like someone cutting the most interesting story off in the middle of a sentence and you’re like, “YOU CAN’T JUST NOT CONTINUE!”
- Again, Camsten is the most perfect ship and my body physically NEEDS more
- Blair is a tool and kudos to Maggie for stepping up as Commander Baptiste
- Basically: Give me Stitchers S3 or give me death!

May everyone marching today across the country and the world be met with nothing but love, support, and safety.

We are women. We are Muslim. We are black. We are LGBT. We are the oppressed and the targeted. Hear us roar.

anonymous asked:

People actually believe Larry will come out /soon/? Are we watching the same stunts or are there, after 4 four years, all of a sudden no stunts?

Yeah, I don’t see that happening this year at all. So I dunno what “soon” is defined as, exactly. And people are seeing the stuntiness of what’s happening. They’re just actively trying to explain it away instead of investigating.

The kinda stuff I’ve seen during this stunt:

  • The Harry/Louis break separation stunt Ohmygod, THAT is a stunt you guyssssss. They probably have been seeing each other in secret. My poor oppressed hedgefrog larents. Management is the worst. Management fucks over Harry and Louis and only Harry and Louis. Only them. Not the other three..I mean two. Is it still two? Whatevs.
  • “Sad” Harry fan service stunts Ohmygod, give him a goddamn break! He’s given you everything!! Clothing, shelter, your life!! He probably gave Liam a kidney! You are so damn ungrateful. There’s nothing weird about him looking over it in 95% of all the fan pix over break. Fans should stop bugging him. Shut up!
  • The Zayn “quit” stunt  You guysssssss, he quit. He hated 1D. He had all kinds of issues. It was obvious. Ohmygod, I was so fucking worried for him. Proof: He’s thin. *Zayn gives interview to The Sun* What? Was there something odd about that? He quit you guysssssss. So what if they still haven’t removed him from all of 1D’s official web pages? That”s computer stuff. That is complicated. You don’t get it! Shut up you’re in denial! You’re all whiny victims. You never see us whining, you guysssssss.
  • The Zerrie stunts Ohmygod these pap shots are a terrible invasion of privacy you guyssssssss. Paps are stalking them. And personal pix credited to pap agencies are just a mistake because tabloids suck. A mistake that has not been corrected in 3 years. You’re overthinking it. Cue backtracking. Yes, Zerrie is used for promo. But it’s still real. Proof: Tattoo. Ummm, you’re still overthinking it. Shut up!
  • Louis/Naughty Boy twitter slap fights *Swoon* Louis is a manly man who defended our honor. Louis finds women gross because soooo homo. But not us though. He loves us. That was not immature. That was not suspicious. That was MY Louis defending ME! Ohmygod shut up! P.S. Zayn is a batshit traitor and his buddy is greasy vermin. I don’t mean any of that in a bad way. Theses are just facts.
  • Project No Control You guyssssssss we are so powerful. We are unstoppable. We can make major media outlets bend to our will. My tweet from Lichtenstein made them play No Control in New York. Tru facts. Yassss, ohmygod I am a beast! Management is defeated! Hear me roar! So what that the blossoming of Project No Control followed a very Azoff-ian breadcrumb trail? I am a beast, you hater. Shut up!
  • Sophiam stunts Sophia is so hawt it makes Ian…I mean Liam tolerable. But only for like a minute. I dunno how so many personal pix keep getting leaked to the fandom you guysssss. Who cares? But ohmygod, Sophia is hawt. I dunno why they look miserable in each other’s presence unless they’re posing. Maybe it’s just resting bitch face. It’s different than Elounor. Why? It just is. Shut up! 
  • Niall the ladies man stunt Ohmygod, Niall is a ladies man. Niall is tapping so much ass. I told you HE’S the whore. Niall is a fucking slut. I don’t mean any of that in a bad way. These are just facts. 
  • Louis’ last minute trip to L.A. stunt  It’s business (ignores fact that in 2015 business can be conducted long distance especially for convenience’s sake). *Sees monkey pix* Eli was used to woo new business contacts. Ohmygod Louis! So cute! So clever! It’s business. *Hears Louis and company were in a hotel and not the home he shares with Harry* Louis is not allowed to have company without Harry. Harry treats Louis like a child but that’s not weird. In fact, it’s perfectly normal. They’re the cutest. Shut up.

Did I go off on a tangent there? I guess I needed to vent a bit of frustration about the lack of logic being applied here. And the fact that people are much too quick to cosign fuzzy logic. :/ 

I support both Divergent and The Hunger Games.

And it’s not just because of the awesome female examples they set or the interesting moral topics they bring up.  And those are some seriously awesome reasons, but after seeing the Divergent film — even though I’ve read both series several times — something truly amazing smacked me hard upside the head.  And it should have sooner. 

Your hate aside for the drama coming about, you have to respect the fact that these series are not only showing badass women who become selfless for the greater good of their world, but men that not only support that behavior but have no fear of recognizing it openly.  

Four, Peeta, and Gale — because who you ship in this scenario doesn’t really matter — know the strength these women possess before they even know it themselves in a lot of ways.  And instead of keeping quiet about it they push them to become better.  They want to stand up and fight next to them.  They show it in so many ways and so many times, but let me give some of my favorite examples(and most are from film because that’s what fresh in my mind — but the books have even more) because I’m avoiding being actually productive in my life:

Gale shows it when he knows Katniss will come out of the first games.  Sure, you could reason that maybe he just said that to comfort her, but  I disagree.  Because when has Gale ever been one to spare Katniss’ feelings to comfort her?  He’s a forward guy, it’s in his nature.  He knows his best friend can do this because he’s watched her survive the worst of District 12, her absentee mother, and father’s passing.  All while keeping her sister well.  He knows she’s strong and he needs her to know it too.  

Peeta shows it when they’re getting ready to head into the second games and everyone wants Katniss as an ally.  Society has tried to tell us men should be the stronger species.  That there is appeal to a man wielding a sword protecting a helpless damsel.  And we’ve bought in to it for too long.  But instead of Peeta puffing out his chest and getting upset he simply says “They saw her shoot.”  Like it’s the most obvious thing in the world.  Like why wouldn’t someone want her as their ally? They’d have to be out of their damn minds.  He knows her strength so well that it seems absurd to him that anyone would even question it.  

Four shows it in another subtle, but awesome moment, toward the end of the movie (minor spoiler, I suppose) and they’re all running to jump onto the train and Tris is one of the last to get on.  He’s standing on the edge waiting for her as she’s running to grab on.  Her initial response is “I got it” because lets be real — that’s always a female’s response when it looks like a man is trying to help her.  We are women, hear us roar, right?  Because that’s another product of the society we live in.  But Four does something awesome here — he simply says “I know you do.” And swoops her up anyway.  Why?  (In my opinion)Because he needed to do it for her.  I took it as a true moment of equality in their relationship.  I died, literally died.

Again, I could go on with my examples .  And for that I think we all need to run, not walk, in getting the men in our lives to see these movies, read these books.  This is the type of man society needs to support.  They aren’t “sissy” men or weak for allowing a woman to take charge and be their own person.  No, all of these men are badass men in their own right.  And badass men recognize a badass woman and need her by their side.  

This is why I support both franchises.  This is why I will continue to see both and sing their praises from the rooftop.  This is why I’ll simply let the rudeness between the fandoms go by as human beings being human beings.  I know some of the things said were nasty and uncalled for, but I have to go back to the characters, the emotions, and the meanings.  They’re awesome.

So bravo, young adult series for rocking the equality and trying to change our culture one badass fictional character at a time.  

anonymous asked:

What made you decide on a midwife rather than going to the hospital to have your baby?

well, we are going to have the baby in a birth center that’s connected with a small hospital, but there are so many reasons we are having a doula and a midwife at our birth, instead of just a doctor in a regular hospital.
We have decided to have an all natural birth—this means no medical intervention (epidural, inducing, etc) unless there’s an emergency. Women have been birthing babies for thousands of years, and medicine has only been involved in like the last 100 of those years. I strongly believe that I can do this and that I don’t need the help of medicine, unless there becomes an emergency—my body was designed by the Creator of the universe to do this birthing thing, and I’m gonna do it! (“I am woman, hear me roar” kinda thing). After doing research and being a part of a natural birth class, we both feel very strongly that this is the best and healthiest and safest option for us. So I am not at all saying that anyone who doesn’t have an all-natural birth is wrong—I know plenty of women who have had perfectly normal and healthy births at hospitals! I am only saying that this is what we have chosen as the best option for us.

With that being said, here are some of the reasons (it’s about to get boring for those of you who don’t care about this sorta thing!):
many doctors at hospitals are just there to get a job done. They are on the clock and often make mothers who are giving birth feel as though they are also on the clock. Doctors also are very medically-minded (obviously) and oftentimes treat pregnancy as a condition that needs to be treated with medicine—by finding the quickest way to get er done—whereas midwives are specifically trained in birth and pregnancy and are very encouraging and supportive of the woman doing naturally what her body was made to do.

There is also something called the cascade of intervention that’s used a lot in hospitals, and basically it’s a chain reaction of things that doctors do when the mother isn’t progressing along fast enough. They will often give the mother pitocin, which is a drug used to induce labor—it makes contractions a lot longer and more painful, in an attempt to bring about labor. They also can break the mothers water before it’s ready, which can cause the baby to be in the wrong position. The epidural relaxes all your muscles making it so there is little pain, but also interferes with the pushing aspect. It can also cause the baby to spike a fever, and while this doesn’t necessarily mean anything is wrong, many doctors see a C section as the way to “fix” this. Also, if the baby has any sort of fever, they will almost always take the baby to be watched for infection for 24 hours, away from the parents, interfering with the crucial bonding time that occurs right after birth. Epidurals also have a negative effect on the way the baby bonds with the parents after birth, as well as breast feeding etc.

Many people who give birth in hospitals have no clue who their doctor is, and have no clue who will even be present at their birth. we have three midwives (only one will be at the birth) and absolutely love them. They are kind and sweet and encouraging—they always reassure me that I can do this. They let us ask any questions, even the dumb ones (cause I feel like I knew nothing at the start of all this)! We are getting to know them over the course of our appointments throughout these nine months and we feel so comfortable with them and their knowledge. We also have a good friend who will be our doula (which is Greek for “servant”) and she is there to support zach and I throughout the entire labor. She will act as the middleman between the nurse staff and us so that zach doesn’t have to do that and can just be with me, encouraging me, giving me massages and ice cream. She will also know our (me and Zach’s) detailed birth plan ahead of time, to encourage us when it gets tough. For example, if I start asking for drugs, she will remind me how, in the birth plan, I said I really want to do this naturally. And then she will encourage me and try to get my mind off the pain, so that I can stick to OUR plan as best as I can. Also, if for some reason, a doctor or nurse starts suggesting a C-section, she will reason with them to make sure it’s absolutely necessary, for the health of the baby or me.
So basically, I have a rad team of encouraging and strong women, that I know, to be there with us when we have the baby.

These are just some of the reasons we have decided to go with a birth center and midwife and doula, rather than a regular hospital and doctors. I could talk so much about this kinda stuff but I will just leave it with this!

(note to people who are rude: any judging or sassy or rude messages sent on this subject will be deleted. we have made our decision and won’t be changing our minds, even with the super knowledgable and convincing sass nugget anons there are out there! we don’t need your negativity, especially on this subject, sorry!)