we are so misunderstood

Man, I’m way more exited about Kylo Ren’s evil little goth droid sidekick than I am about the porgs.

“I am so misunderstood!”

“BLEEP. BLEEP”

“You’re right. Once we crush all my mortal enemies and dance on their graves we can go and listen to some Evanescence together. You’re the only one that understands me, BBH8.”    ’. 

“BLEEP. BLEEP”

“Yeah, I don’t think she’s my cousin either.”

We have spent so much of our lives alone and feeling misunderstood. You write a song about an emotion that confuses you, or about something you’re scared of or excited about, and you release it and all of a sudden you’re making a conversation with millions of people. Then the final phase is when you look out into a crowd of thousands of people and they know every word. That’s an overwhelming feeling of camaraderie - which we’ve never felt before in our lives.
—  Taylor Swift about Ed Sheeran in his interview with GQ (X) - Adele may be Sheeran’s commercial touchstone, but Swift is his spiritual sibling, a kinship founded on shared experiences of past sorrows and present euphoria - before success and after.

person w bpd: i have bpd

people: wow. this is so brave. we are here for you. you. are. valid. im so sorry. life is pretty hard for you. you’re so misunderstood and hurt. we love you. you will be ok

person w npd or aspd: i have npd/aspd

people: how could you admit that? what are you, the second coming of lucifer? you’re trying to manipulate people into trusting you by being honest about your disorder. why are you so manipulative. why are you so abusive. everyone stay away from this person who is literally satan. god. disgusting. i bet you beat your wife 

I sometimes feel like Pisces is blessed with knowing all the answers to the mysteries the world. After all, a lot of people will say that Pisces is one of the wisest signs. Maybe the answers to the world can’t be understood by the human brain, which is why many people will dismiss Pisces. Pisces can often be called be quite delusional and confused, but… what if we’re confused?

I feel that as humans, we can’t be arrogant with our brains. There’s so many things we don’t know about. There’s so many things going on with the universe that we will never know the answer to. Science won’t know. Astrology won’t know. No human study that is adjusted to human understanding will know all the answers to the world. That’s why Pisces is often so misunderstood. We don’t understand it, but it doesn’t mean that we have to dismiss it.

For example, having your Venus in the 12th. Yes, boundaries are essential to relationships, but having your Venus in the 12th may just imply that the answer to relationships is the fact that relationships can have no boundaries at all. Perhaps with Pisces, the answer to everything is having no boundaries. There “isn’t” a right way to love. There “isn’t” a right way to have a relationship. As long as you love in your own personal way, you love. Love, in your personal definition, is love.

Of course, this isn’t a post to promote abuse or anything like that. Of course, there is always a cost to having no boundaries… When there are no boundaries, evil can come in quite easily. This is probably where Virgo comes in. This is probably where reality hits… And this is probably where it is implied that we are not meant to know all the answers. We’re not prepared for the danger that comes with it.

Ignorance is truly bliss.

the thing i love about skam is just how much POVs matter.

i remember when the “passe på meg” clip aired in s3, and we found out that even had seen isak on the first day of school, that he’d had an interest in isak since the first day of school, and that he’d gone to kosegruppa specifically to meet isak. up until then, it had seemed more like isak pursuing even, in the sense of isak being more captivated by even than even was of isak. and that was the point. because we saw things through isak’s eyes, not even’s. if we had seen it through even’s eyes, we would have understood just how much even had been pursuing isak since the very beginning (and when you go back and watch those clips with that knowledge now, it totally makes sense).

up until now, sana has been painted as this incredibly fierce, strong, unapologetic girl who doesn’t tolerate any kind of ignorance. she’s consistently portrayed as confident and outspoken throughout the past three seasons. then BAM. s4 airs, we’re seeing things from her perspective, and there’s this dramatic shift, almost instantly. 

she’s still the same sana. she stares down the woman on the bus. she snaps at vilde when vilde won’t shut up about how much sex she’s having and corrects her when vilde says “you can’t have sex”. she tells the girls that she thinks it’s their responsibility to tell noora about william’s new girlfriend considering william won’t tell her himself. these are all very sana-like traits. 

but now, we see just how much she has to put up with, too. it’s the more subtle things. the rushing to silence her phone when she was on the bus because shit shit shit, it’ll freak some people out. the fact that yes, her friends ordered another pizza without any pork on it, but the meat was still haram. but it was a kind gesture of them to think of it in the first place, right? so she doesn’t complain, she just silently picks the meat off, not wanting to seem ungrateful despite the fact that really, don’t they know by now?

and then we have the texts, too. the girls want to go out and get drunk, and we all know sana loves to party, that she doesn’t need to drink to have fun, but they were all going to the park specifically to sit around and drink all day. vilde, saying all of the other girls have had boyfriends except her when, okay, sana chooses not to have one (whereas vilde clearly desperately wanted a boyfriend), but it’s this subtle little exclusion. all of you have had boyfriends apart from me. well, no, actually. sana hasn’t.

and it’s so subtle. things that we would only get from seeing life through her eyes. but it’s chipping away at her, bit by bit, these little instances of being excluded, of her friends not quite getting it. and it’s so heartbreaking to see, but so, so clever, too. because suddenly i just feel like we - like the characters on the show - have misjudged sana completely. she’s still strong, she’s still fierce. but she swallows a lot down, too. she’s hurting more than we originally thought. she feels more misunderstood than we originally thought. and i am so impressed that in a clip that was less than 8 minutes long, we have already seen a completely different side to sana than we got throughout the last 3 seasons.

Solavellan thing

Happy New Year have some porn.


Solas drags himself up to his room a few hours after midnight, as per the usual. He has found himself avoiding sleep recently– the dreams he finds in this place tend to hit too close to home as of late. It is, of course, not something he can or should escape forever.

His room, located above the courtyard, is bare save for a bed and wash basin in the corner. Normally, he’d take his time undressing and washing his face before bed, but tonight he finds himself a bit more tired than usual, unsurprisingly given his recent sleeping habits. Solas tugs his sweater and undershirt over his head before falling into his bed.

The mattress has never been the most comfortable, but it has never been bony or grunted in pain before. Reasonably startled, he throws the cover off, only to find a familiar face scowling irritably at him.

“Vhenan,” he sighs. “You startled me.”

“How do sleep in here?” Morinthe mutters, blinking around at the room. “It’s like a prison cell.”

“You seemed to be managing,” he comments, idly brushing her hair from her face.

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How come when somebody likes a character like Snape or Pansy or Tom Riddle or whoever, and talks about their troubled past (not in the case of someone like Pansy or Draco), you always get somebody screaming  “THAT’S NO EXCUSE AND HOW DARE YOU TRY AND EXCUSE THEIR ACTIONS”. 

Like, I like my villains and bad guys for their badness. Most people who like villains and bad guys do. Just because you acknowledge a bad life doesn’t mean you’re saying it’s a valid excuse to be bad. Sure, there are a few who are like “no, they’re just a misunderstood baby” or even invent an abusive background *coughDracocough* but those people are few and  far between. Most fans of the bad guys know the character is a dick, but that’s why we like them. 

It’s like literally any post about Snape that talks about the Marauders bullying him or his abusive father, there’s always at least one person crying “but he ABu5ed!!1! cHilDr3n!!!11!” even though the post didn’t deny the fact he was a mean teacher or even commented on that. I don’t know what antis think, that we sit around like “omg, Snape and Voldemort and Bellatrix and Lucius and Pansy all had such award winning lovely personalities and are just swell people, they never did anything bad, all so misunderstood” and that when we see their repetitive drivel we’ll be like “omg, were these bad guys actually maybe bad? I never considered that before”

anonymous asked:

I was just thinking... so now we know the trailer was in reverse 'cause the things that happened there have actually happened the other way around. And the trailer's song said "don't let me be misunderstood", so we assumed sana would be the one being misunderstood through this season. But... what if she's the one who misunderstands instead? What if she's only making false assumptions because she's not communicating with others?

HOLY FUCK (also i think the trailer isn’t reversed anymore if what we think will happen happens) ALSO HOW GENIUS IS THIS TRAILER IN EVERY SINGLE WAY REVERSE AND NON REVERSED IT SOMEHOW STILL MANAGES TO ENCOMPASS THE SEASON’S PLOT AND ALSO THE MUSIC BEING MISUNDERSTANDINGS AND REVERSED IT SOUNDS ARABIC

FAQs about INTJs, answered by an INTJ!

(Warning: BS ahead)

1. WHY ARE INTJS SO WEIRD?

INTJs are very rare. We only make up about 3% of the population, so in a way, it makes sense that we can be misunderstood as ‘weird’. Our (often) intense way of being can be seen as strange or just uncommon. I don’t know many INTJs irl (just 1, in fact) and we understand each other perfectly. We’re both seen as particularly weird people by other types, but not by each other.

2. WHY ARE INTJS SO COLD?

URGH! I can not describe how many times I have been asked this. Actually, for a long time, one of my biggest nicknames was “gelo” (ice in Portuguese.) I kind of understand why we might have this reputation, but we’re NOT cold people. We are just very socially selective and like to carefully select who we open up to.

INTJS ARE NOT COLD. WE HAVE EMOTIONS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. BUT, WE PREFER TO KEEP THEM TO OURSELVES AND INSTEAD MAKE LOGICAL AND RATIONAL DECISIONS.

Please stop asking this. We might not admit it, but lots of times it hurts when people call us cold. We’re not emotionless robots. After getting to know us, you might be surprised at the depth of our feelings.

3. WHY ARE INTJS SO ATTRACTIVE?

Dat intellect.

4. WHY ARE INTJS SO RARE?

I have actually developed a theory on this. At schools, we are usually taught to have a 'group mindset.’ What I mean by this is that we encourage group work over individual. Nowadays, at most schools, students sit in tables in groups and are taught to share their thoughts. This puts introverts like us at a major disadvantage. I’ve always been taught to go talk to others outside over to stay in class reading, which is what I would rather be doing at all times.

I think that INTJs probably make up more than just 3% of the population, but that other INTJs choose to act like a different type to avoid the relentless bullying and stigma we sometimes face. For a long time I tried to act like an extroverted feeling type, to stop the 'cold’ label usually associated with me. It took a while to accept the way I am, and I doubt that I’m the only INTJ to ever feel this way.

5. WHY ARE INTJS SO QUIET?

We’re probably plotting our next scheme. Or calculating how long we can socialise before our next recharge.

You’ll never know.
(JK. We’re introverts, no wonder we’re quiet.)

SO THERE YOU HAVE IT! Keep in mind other INTJs might have different answers and that we’re a whole group of people, who think differently, act differently and feel differently.

Don’t group us all into one bubble.

(P.S: don’t ask an INTJ these questions irl unless you want to receive our signature Death Stare™)

voldemort: we’re quite simmalr, hairy, both orphans, both dark hair, both misunder stood by your peers, both right handed-
harry: 90% of the population is right hand and the majority of the human race including muggles have dark hair as its a dominant gene in the chromosomes, and all teenagers feel misunderstood by society as a whole so we arent special you snaketurd remove that wand from up your ass

Letting go and moving forward

It’s crazy how fast time goes by, many of us spend our years working hard to live life, feed our families, and even just make it to the next day. No one knows your story…we sometimes forget what it is to be human, to take a deep breath only to enjoy the process of air filling your lungs. We forget how to say hello to another person, our day to day interactions become play by play text in real time but without the emojis we so heavily send… gratifying a false and misunderstood sense of emotion. As we get older we start to look back on our lives; some of us just take a glance while others look further into the dark recesses of thier minds to better understand where they are. The milestones come and go in our lives but it takes patience and self awareness to remember and be humbled by the big or small events or people that got you where you are including yourself. My father always says: “dame una palanca y muevo el mundo” - “give me a lever and I’ll move the world.” Sometimes we think that we have to carry the world on our shoulders, perceiving our reality and our dreams to be impossible, unattainable, and not practical, but if we live our lives consistently trying to come up with solutions rather then dread the current outcome our mindsets change, if we started to eliminate words/phrases like “maybe”, “I don’t know”, “possibly” and replace them with “when this happens” , “ I don’t know but I will know”, and possibly to “yes I can” then what starts to happen is your world, aspirations, desires, and wants slowly start to come to fruition of course lead and fueled by your actions. There are 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week. So, sir down and ask yourself what you do with the 168hrs we have in a week. Then look in the mirror really look at the person you are the man or woman you have become and allow yourself to start thinking of your desires and dreams as facts, soon to be reality and continue to do this everyday and I promise with action, conviction, sacrifice and belief no matter the odds against you will prevail.

@chaotic-tides

It’s not love made you feel broken, it’s attachment all along. Love is only brief and often misunderstood. Do we love because it’s misunderstood? Or we keep hiding the truth, and so it hurts?

-Chuck Akot

Ah, I think we all misunderstood. I just googled South Korea’s prosecution process so please correct me if I am wrong.

His case was scheduled to pass to the prosecution on the 16th. What this actually means is that the police would hand over the case to the prosecution on this date with recommendation of procedure (recommended does not mean it will necessarily happen) which in this case is a trial. The prosecution has 10 days to review the case - this is where we are at right now. If the prosecution needs an extension they can request for additional 10 days. Going forth the next step is the prosecution to indict or not to indict. Indictment would mean going on trial, and non-indictment means the case is completely dropped and closed unless the accuser appeals.

Otherkin For Non-Kin

Hello! If you’re reading this, you’re probably in the otherkin tag or on an otherkin blog. Assuming you are otherkin, please feel free to skip reading this, because, well, you probably already know it.

So, for those of you still reading, you’re probably here for one of a few reasons. You’re genuinely curious about otherkin, you think you may be otherkin, or you are hoping to be able to mock this post. For the first two readers, you’re in the right place! As for the third, we’re gonna ignore you for now.

Let’s start with the most common questions, concerns, and misunderstandings.

● I heard people think that they’re animals and I’m a little concerned?

Understandable. However, most otherkin don’t actually think they are physically an animal. Many otherkin are what we call spiritual otherkin! This means their otherkinity ties into their spiritual beliefs, and is usually explained by reincarnation, parallel worlds, souls meant to be animals mixed up in human bodies, etc. However, no small number of otherkin are mentally ill! They may use it as a coping mechanism, or have delusions leading them to believe they are physically non-human. Many, if not all, of these kin already see a psychologist on a regular basis, and many of them have been told by their doctors that it is not a problem!

● Okay, but dragons don’t exist, and neither do mermaids, elves, or hellhounds?

Very true! On this planet, none of these creatures have been proven to exist. (To the best of my knowledge.) However, according to the multiverse theory, creatures like them most definitely could! Essentially, many people who are kin with these creatures believe that a similar creature exists in another universe. Alternatively, some kin do have religious or spiritual beliefs that state these creatures can exist.

● Alright, makes sense. But what about fictionkin? Are you saying they make sense?

I most definitely am! The reason being that the same things apply to fictionkin. According to the multiverse theory, there could most definitely be a world in which Naruto is real, or at least something very close to it. Thus, having the soul of an anime character isn’t too far-fetched. Same goes for book characters, video game characters, TV show characters, etc. Multiples of characters can be explained through parallel universes, multiples of characters existing in the canon of the show, etc.


● Okay, what about divinekin, planetkin, voidkin, spacekin, etc?

As far as my personal beliefs are concerned, gods die constantly. Many gods have been lost altogether when their believers died out. Could be the god died with them, we’d never know. Should you worship them if they ask you to? Probably not, but up to you. (And not all of them do this.) Your reasoning is your own, but I’d say they aren’t doing any harm, so leave them be. Planets, the void, space, maybe they have souls. Who the heck knows? Live and let live.

● So are otherkin a religion?

No. I’ve addressed this issue at length in another post tagged as religion on my blog. Feel free to check it out if you’re interested!

● I’ve gone through the otherkin tag and seen otherkin treat non-kin rather poorly in response to asks?

First and foremost: this is a terrible thing all kin should strive to avoid. But if you’re wondering why this happens, let me explain. I started this blog about 6 weeks ago. In that span of those 6 weeks, I’ve been told to kill myself no less than four times, been told I’m an imbecile, a child, need to get some friends, need to go outside, and generally mocked and jeered at more times than I care to count. Unfortunately, I’m not an exception to the rule, but someone who experiences the average amount of hate for a member of the community. I’ve got a thick skin, but sometimes it does make me angry or sad. Generally I get off my blog and calm down before I continue, but with experiences like these it doesn’t surprise me that members of our community sometimes lash out without regard for who they’re lashing out at. I am in no way condoning this, simply explaining it.

● Are otherkin trying to be part of the LGBTQA+ community?

Otherkin are not part of the LGBTQA+ community simply for being otherkin, but many of us are a part of the community because we are trans, nb, pan, ace, etc.

● Do otherkin just want to mock trans and nb people?

No! We are in no way a hate group. Many of us are trans or nb, as stated above.

● Do otherkin use their kintype (kintype refers to the type of being that the kin in question was, ex a wolfkin’s kintype would be wolf) as a gender identification?

This is a lie spread solely by trolls. No, we do not believe our gender is cat, or dragon, or werewolf. Some of us use what are called neopronouns, meaning quite literally new pronouns. These are solely for the use of people whose gender identity falls outside the range of female or male. You may have seen them before, such as bun/buns/bunself. I don’t see a lot of real kin using these, but occasionally we do. Again, these aren’t for cisgendered otherkin. Being otherkin does not grant you new pronouns. Using myself as an example, since I am cis, I do feel comfortable using she/hers/herself, despite being dragonkin.

● Isn’t being kin with a disabled character inherently ableist, and being kin with someone of a different race inherently racist?

According to two people, one of whom is POC and the other of whom is a disabled woman, not inherently. Claiming to understand the difficulties faced by either of these groups while not belonging to the group in this life, however, would be. I have an excellent post on this if you feel like continuing research.

● Are otherkin oppressed?

No, no, and no again. Bullied? Yes. Oppressed? No. Anyone claiming to be oppressed is a troll or incredibly misinformed.

● Why are there so many kin positivity based blogs, informational blogs, and blogs dedicated solely to otherkin?

Well, a few reasons. As discussed above, we are regularly bullied. Trolls and anti-kin also love to spread false information, leading to informative blogs. Finally, we’re a relatively small and misunderstood group, so we like to stick together. This isn’t to say that you aren’t free to follow an otherkin blog, however. If you like the aesthetic and don’t send mean spirited messages, most of us don’t care in the slightest whether or not you’re otherkin.


I hope you found this helpful, and if you have any questions feel free to drop them in my ask box, whether anonymously or not!

thelittlestprincess7  asked:

"Some still think of Hao as a cute soft marshmallow and overlooks how badass he is, don’t get me started on Woozi and Jeonghan, also Wonwoo is constantly being misunderstood… and so forth." No please, we want to hear these rants. Esp the Woozi/JH ones

HAHAHA I think I went off on Woozi sometime ago, so let’s go with Jeonghan this time.

Okay, so, the most obvious one, let’s stop putting Jeonghan into the “girl” position, yes? Almost every fic I read with his ships, he’s just cringe-worthily GIRLY. It’s not even done subtly, literally felt like I was reading a cheesy shoujo manga with a female main character, it felt so out of place, especially since his personality is not the least “feminine” at all, which means, these characterizations of him were all based off of his appearance. It’s just pretty hair, his face actually doesn’t look all that feminine, he was my first bias when I got into SVT, and I was looped in because of his damn manly lip bite in this one Mansae performance. Really, I’ve seen people go as far as to say he’s “a slut that cheats on his main ships”, and that’s just… repulsive. The “mom” title is a different thing all on its own, and people should really lay off on criticizing those who refer to him that way. First of all, it’s just a title and image that literally one member of all K-pop groups have; secondly, Jeonghan calls himself that, and so does the rest of SVT. It’s “canon”. But has he ever called himself a “girl/woman”? Has anyone ever referred to him with feminine pronouns? No. So stop with that shit. Also some people are only realizing he’s “manly” after he cut his hair… I don’t even know where to start. AND HE’S NOT A PRINCESS THAT NEEDS TO BE CONSTANTLY PAMPERED AND THROWS A TANTRUM WHEN PEOPLE DON’T “SERVE” HIM. GOD. Did ISAC teach you nothing? If anything he’s the one who climbs up the tower with one hand tied behind his back, slays the dragon with his bare hands, saves the damsel in distress, earns some huge award and uses it to buy a giant sofa for himself.

Now the liar/scammer stuff. We’ve all made that joke at some point, but why do I still see people referring to him that way after he’s stated publicly he dislikes that image? There are limits. Jeonghan does what he does for variety effects and laughs, don’t make it so that he’ll never crack jokes again. He’s clever, has great variety sense, and humorous, don’t just portray him as a “dirty liar” or “cheater”. He doesn’t play jokes on the members just to be mean, that’s the way he expresses affection. He’s not some “heartless bitch” that’d really pull some cheap trick, and leave the others to die in order to save his own life. The members are always praising him for his personality, they said he’s someone they can talk to easily and makes them feel comfortable, yet so many people out there think they avoid talking to him out of trust issues. He gets worried that certain members will get tricked easily without him, in general he just worries over everyone a lot, and it’s sad that he’s being constantly pigeonholed.

Also Jeonghan’s character growth is really something, he just grows more and more confident every era, and I’m so proud of him?? Despite his jokes and carefree attitude, Jeonghan gets insecure pretty easily, especially when it comes to vocals. He was criticized harshly before during a trainee evaluation, and even after debut he still didn’t seem confident. But instead of getting scared and shying away, you can see that he just kept practicing, improving, and now he’s a lot stabler. Still lacks confidence, but the members do help him out with that.

Just stop misjudging this kind and thoughtful human being that keeps a shit load of worries to himself so that he can become a shoulder to cry on for everyone else. Sure, jokes are jokes, but I do see people taking a lot of this seriously, and it’s just getting painful to watch.

k so @kreuzader blocked me which is aight but i’m just gonna say:

if kreuzader had said “i reposted it from buzzfeed and didn’t know it would get notes” i would’ve said “oh ok cool” bc my dumb ass brain last night was thinking they just went to my post n screencapped it…. now that i know it was just lifted from buzzfeed i literally could not care less so sorry for going off!

The Power of Empathy

‘Empathy allows is to see the connections between us, making strangers less strange, foreigners less foreign. When we adopt other people’s perspectives, we do more than step into their shoes - we use their eyes, we borrow their skin, we feel their hearts beating within us, we lose ourselves and enter into their world, as if we were them. I emphasize those words once again because they are so critically important and so often misunderstood. With empathy, we do not step into others’ experience to see it with our eyes - empathy demands that we see it with their eyes. Through that experience we are fundamentally changed, for what we see with a sudden, startling clarity that we are the other. All the good and the bad that we see in them we can also recognize in ourselves. The hurt, the shame, the feat of humiliation, the desire for revenge - these are as much parts of our souls as the quest for honesty, the humble spirit, the forgiving heart.’

- Arthur P. Ciaramicoli, Katherine Ketcham, The Power of Empathy.