we all have things that we dont talk about

so…. vilde being a lesbian ‘discourse’ is gonna be like the even is bipolar discourse. once again we’re projecting and dont know what we’re talking about bc clearly, CLEARLY we don’t have our own experiences, clearly some of us haven’t been 'a vilde’ before and can’t spot it a mile away, clearly we’re wrong since vilde is so into magnus and is absolutely not faking. honestly do u hear yourselves??? this is exactly why no one would question that she was anything other than heterosexual bc of all the things shes doing right now!!! the only people who resonate with vilde rn are lesbians themselves! bc vilde is doing a good job in convincing everyone else.

anonymous asked:

Disclaimer first - I'm not negative or angry + very pleased will all the lovely TFW we are getting and one thing I'm disappointed in - Is it just me or is Dean/Cas independent! relationship kinda gone-ish, 80% of all the emotional talks are always on TFW as a whole, never just Dean/Cas, even if Sam isnt there. Dean isn't ever refering to Cas in any emotional way singularly anymore (your OUR best, best friend WE've ever had, glad he cares about US, WE dont leave family behind etcetc) and cas too

Yeah, the big declarations have been all like that but having seen the whole “I love all of you” thing, I feel like they’ve been building up to actually have a family first, which is something I guess is way more important as a long term investment.

Something I’m always coming back to is that horrible isolation of Carver era. Well, I’m currently watching season 7 and at that part where they’ve now finally lost everything and it’s just Sam and Dean and not even the car. Like, Hallucifer and hunting and the Leviathan problem are literally the only constants they have from their old lives. Wow. :P

Carver era sort of puts a bit more of a fragile shell around them by giving Cas back, making Crowley a frenemy, and at least has some outside people like Charlie and Kevin even if they get killed off, but then also the wayward daughters characters who survive it, so there are at least some people to hold them accountable… During that time Cas is their only main constant family and even then terrible stuff is always happening to him and he’s always leaving, so he’s not really around except for little hints of what might be, and Cas picks up so much trauma from that too… 

I don’t know, looking at it from as outside a perspective as I can manage, I think with Mary back, and Cas MEANT to be a member of the family but needing serious integration into the family unit (12x03 with that little conversation showing Mary and Cas are struggling with the exact same thing) the show has to actually believably glue these people back together, and even Sam and Dean have huge splits that have barely been addressed (like Dean apologised for the ridiculous “sam hit a dog” grudge they started Carver era with in like, 11x11, I think? Which means they’d been actually on good terms for like maybe 12 episodes when Mary comes back :P) never mind Cas’s ocean of trauma and Mary being dropped among them out of the blue.

There’s been a real theme of teamwork this season in the big confrontation fights - 12x06, 12x07, 12x10 and 12x12 definitely all had teamwork fights taking down one big enemy together, and I may be forgetting some stuff but it’s more than enough for a pattern that they want to show the characters working together as a large and well-functioning unit - and within that, good dynamics, which they’re still working on especially for Mary, who (as we suspected she would) has only really SOLIDLY bonded with Cas because they’re both outsiders - Dean and Sam fight okay with her by their side but they need to work on interpersonal stuff (and I LOVED the shot this episode of Mary and Dean back to back with a wall between them).

To my eyes the TFW (and Mary) dynamic is clearly top priority and really important for the story they want to tell, and I’m loving the fragile way this family is being built and the exploration of the dynamics (now we’re getting later in the season I’ve seen people comment that Mary and Sam got a bad deal, but honestly for the first like 6 episodes of the season I was contemplating devoting my blog entirely to their drama and just forgetting Dean and Cas completely because I was so into what was going on there, and find it really weird people weren’t picking up on that because I thought all the subtext about Azazel coming between them was brilliant use of the characters and it just all suddenly paid off and I probably yelled louder about a Yellow Eyed demon showing up than I did about the whole “I love you” nonsense. :P There’s a part of my soul which is always going to be seasons 1-2 of Supernatural all on their own >.>)

But I think there’s still a ton of DeanCas this season, just underneath the main message they’re pushing, all the stuff like Dean and Cas just being prioritised when it comes to stuff like of course when the season starts Cas urgently gets back to Dean immediately and the story starts with them together. Of course Sam waits with Lily Sunder while Dean rushes off to help Cas. Of course Dean gets all weird and pissy about Cas working with Crowley and Sam like has nothing to do with this, at all. Of course when they get out of prison Dean is phoning Cas urgently to come get them, and sits in the back of the car with him. Of course he’s the one having the angry feud about caring too much vs being reckless after Cas invites his cosmic consequences. Of course when Cas is dying Dean is the one who rushes over to check on him and subtly all through that sequence is the one with the most focus on ALL the reaction shots, and the centre of the drama. 

And the little things like of course Dean phones Cas here, asks him to stay for breakfast there, is the one to hand him a beer and pat his shoulder, holds on just that much longer when he and Sam haul Cas to his feet (which I think is the perfect 1 tiny moment to demonstrate the whole thing of Dean just caring that little bit more even though Sam and Cas easily and happily could consider each other family at this point)

It’s like… Even when they’re not strictly telling us a story ABOUT Dean and Cas alone there’s just a little bit extra something going on between them, constantly, like, they just drift next to each other, or end up paying way more attention to each other? Like Dean at the diner in 12x12, Cas’s presence and the Mandy thing ends up this itch he has to scratch, he can’t stop bringing it up - weirdness between Dean and Cas derails the conversation repeatedly, and from both Cas and Mary’s POV we see Dean almost, like, fixated on Cas’s presence, while he’s all brotherly and annoying to Sam vying for attention complaining about the wifi, Dean just snores at him and goes back to I think just trying to get a rise out of Cas. 

I wouldn’t say any of this is really doing anything with them because the emotional arc right now is Family and creating a plausible version of Supernatural where it’s not two lonely angry brothers and sometimes people who help them and peripheral people they love but don’t, like… function in this way. Not in this whole promised dynamic of how that group exorcism went down in 12x06, or how Sam and Mary and Dean took on a Prince of Hell to save Cas (and even Crowley proved he has his own strange seat at this table there)… But they’re certainly keeping a sort of ongoing feeling there, that there’s just something extra about how Dean feels about Cas, and as usual, with 12x10 especially, the story about angels and romantic love is repeated and used between Dean and Cas, like, that’s all still there… I don’t know, every time something ridiculously small happens like Cas shows up and Dean rotates his entire body to face him on instinct, I’m like, yeah, we’re still existing in a story where Destiel is a presence

i hung out with my best friend today and i just wanted to say that i love her so much. 







per•fect    (adj., n. ˈpɜr fɪkt; v. pərˈfɛkt) 

1. Conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type: a perfect gentleman.
2. Being without defect or blemish: a perfect specimen.

Synonyms: Kuroo Tetsurou, flawless, impeccable.

anonymous asked:

I'm sure you didn't have any bad intentions reblogging that last addition to your post, but claiming the feminist movement were seeing in Latin America rn began in Argentina is in very poor taste, to say the least. It erases and ignores the contributions of women in other countries, and our own struggles. Please don't spread that kind of misinformation.

?? the girl who wrote that is chilean. and she was talking about the ni una menos thing, which began in argentina and we argentinian girls are more than happy and proud that the other latino countries joined. we want our girls safe, in all latin america.

anonymous asked:

Are you saying that Steve doesn't have any mental illness/problems just because the writers don't make them as clear as Tony's? Uh..

Not at all! It’s only logical that he would have some mental scarring from all the bullshit he’s gone through. I’m saying that he doesn’t have the same debilitating symptoms that tony exhibits. Tony has basically every symptom of PTSD and we are explicitly shown his struggle. But with Steve we just aren’t. We DONT KNOW how he’s dealing with things aside from what we’re shown; which is Steve functioning extremely well. He doesn’t get panic attacks, doesn’t have nightmares, doesn’t have the extreme paranoia tony shows, or the obsessive behaviour. So whenever we bring up characters with mental illness we REALLY can’t talk about Steve Rogers, because even though it’s logical for him to suffer actual real-world consequences for what has happened to him, it’s never shown. And we have to remember that people react to trauma differently. Just because Steve isn’t as affected by his trauma as tony is, doesn’t mean it’s less valid. So when I say Steve Rogers shouldnt be considered when talking about mental illness I’m not trivialising his experiences. I’m just saying that as we see, he isn’t shown to have any symptoms that affect his life, which is what real-life mental illness does. TONY in the other hand needs years of therapy….

The Originals 4x08 thoughts ( Spoilers )

This episode.. Well I have mixed feelings on it honestly. Firstly yay! Davina is back..ish. Well we got to see her and I loved it and wished that Kol would have got to see her sense Marcel, Klaus and Hayley did. Now don’t get me wrong, I love that we got to see her but honestly didnt like how they portrayed her in this episode. They made her seem like she was the villain even though she obviously was just trying to keep Hope safe and stop the Hollow. They could have talked to her but they banished her back to wherever the hell she is and I honesty did not like that a bit. I didnt like how the writers wrote her and how she was made out to be. And yes, I know, Hope saving Klaus was cute, fine. Okay. But they basically ruined any future relationship between Hope and Davina if Davina were to come back and I just I don’t like it. A lot of people probably have different opinions and that is a hundred percent fine! I just didnt favor the episode or how Davina was put back to us for the first time sense saying goodbye. The only things that salvaged this episode were 1) despite everything we got to see Davina and now we have the possibility of her coming back. 2) Alaric 3) The caroline mention and the hint at possible Klaroline in the future and lastly 4) that ending scene with Marcel talking to Davina. That is all i could say i liked about this episode. A few select scenes. And if you have read my reviews before you know that this is rare of me to say I dislike an episode, actually i dont think i have ever said i did. But, like i said, we got to see Davina and Alaric and got a needed Caroline mention so it wasn’t awful. But i am salty af.

about a month ago i was hanging out with my friend and we were talking about college and life and what we wanted to do next.  i mentioned offhand that i was still considering going to law school, but i followed it up with what i always do. “i’d like to, but i don’t know if i could handle it.  it’s so much stress you know, and i don’t deal with stress well.”  she stopped and turned to me and was like “emma.  come on.  you always say this, but you’re always okay. you always think you won’t be able to handle things, but you’re here, you graduated, you’re at a great college, you’re making friends.  you’re stronger than you think.”

she’s never been too serious of a person, and i was completely floored when she said this to me because i realized how right she was and how i always worry about not being able to get through things, but i’ve gotten through literally everything that’s come my way.  im still here.

Guess who made a TAZkin server on Discord? This gay did! Want to come and suffer with us? Feel free to keep reading.

Pros of it
- it’s double friendly, so you dont gotta worry about being rejected for that
- more friends to be made because we share on blogs on it
- you can share ur art and get sweet validation
- we have a chat for talk about things on the blacklist, so if you dont want to see it, you dont have to

and guess what! all you have to do is reblog this post and say you want to join, or message me about it!

tldr: i love u

i only wanted to say that Huge shoutout @ all the people who has ever tried to befriend me, both here and in other sites

im sorry for not replying to you, im sorry for replying after a week, im sorry for accidentally end up venting to you all my problems when we have just meet, im sorry for stop talking to you for 5 whole years even if we used to talk often

you dont know how much i appreciate all those messages, all those nice things you say about me, all those nice anons here and those anon loveletters in pokeheroes

i remember almost every one of you, i actually screenshot everything because these messages mean so much to me, they always make me happy, after how ppl treat me irl, i cant believe that there are people who actually care about me

maybe someday i will learn to speak and be a better person, i promisse to message you back, and actually send to you all the drawing i have made for you because yall ocs and personas are very cute & i like drawing them

thanks you very much for all this, i will work hard to be  a person you can love and a person that can love back

Confessions to the signs (Scorpio personal experience)

Aries: I find it beautiful when you mess around in a care free way, teasing loved ones with a light in your eyes.

Taurus: If we live together whilst an apocalypse is happening i swear i cant stand you, your constant moaning and negativity will get us killed, literally. 

Gemini: Sometimes i cant stand your inconsistency and the amount of times you run away yet you seem to run away. But i know you’ll always be back and i love you dearly. 

Cancer: Your so cute when messing around with me and i swear we can play fight and it makes my day just to be children again. I miss you. 

Leo: You can be super annoying, arrogant, stupid, but i love you cause i know i will never find anyone who cares as much as you.

Virgo: I cant get over you, you don’t say whats on your heart and mind but your eyes say it all. And oh god, i could look into those eyes for ages standing this close.

Libra: I can’t believe you got away with lying to me, i loved you and cared about you and all you did was hurt me more than anyone has. I’ve never questioned my life as much as i did after you hurt me, you deserve a round of applause for your ability to lie to me. But i know you were in over your head and you cared and i forgive you, but ill never forget or be the same again.

Scorpio: You love me they way i need, support and let me support you too. You are the life i need.

Sagittarius: Run away with me, lets be children for a while, forget the world. 

Capricorn: You feel like home, safety, I’ve never felt so comfortable with anyone than when i’m talking to you. I crave to be in your presence because I’ve never met anyone like you before so it confuses the life out of me. But you’re taken and too good for me.

Aquarius: Your face and smile was my favorite thing ever, talking to you about crazy things. We could have been something beautiful but you ran away before we had the chance. 

Pisces: You are a baby i feel i need to protect at all costs and your hugs are the best and you are so emotional over everything it is both cute and annoying.

anonymous asked:

what if the baggage that's in aria's file is her killing charlottte & the reason ezra would choose nicole is because aria let ezra become a suspect and let all her friends believe it was him? i just dont know how it would work with jessica being dead and all

Maybe, but I don’t know what her motive would be. I mean we all know Charlotte obviously tortured them, but as far as we know, nothing had happened between Charlotte and the girls when Charlotte was released. I guess the motive could be “better kill her before it starts again” but I dunno…. 

I imagine the thing in her file will have to do with her relationship with Ezra, but the whole “he’ll choose Nicole” thing is weird. I know a lot of people are talking about how it’s maybe to do with Aria being in Radley at some point which could be too. And frankly there are probably a lot of things that the girls did that Ezra doesn’t know about … idk

hickeysandstars  asked:

Dear best friend,

I dont have a best friends so i will go with ex-best friend…

I miss you so much. Jesus i miss you. I miss dropping in at a moments notices and playing scary video games and screaming at eachother in excitement as we ordered taco bell. I miss staying up until 3am and talking about all the shity things that happened to us growing up and watching youtube until we fell asleep. I miss taking tipsy selfies. I miss drawing with you. I miss being able to tag you in every meme on facebook. I miss your aura. I miss having someone that i can be 1000% myself around. I miss you, and i hope one day we can come orbiting back around to eachother, picking up without missing a beat.

anonymous asked:

id been wanting to go to a therapist or smth for my depression and anxiety, but i didnt dare tell my mom. then one day she said i should go, and instead of feeling relief, i had this sinking feeling in my stomach, because it meant that my mom thought there was smth wrong with me. anyway, weeks went by, and we didnt talk about it again. then like a month later, i built up the courage to ask her to get help, and all she said was that we all feel sad and shy sometimes. i dont know what to do.

That’s hard.. but if your mom won’t help you, you have to seek it somewhere else. Maybe your friends know a solution or even better, a teacher or counselor at school. It’s a good thing that you want to get help, it doesn’t mean there’s sth wrong with you at all!

anonymous asked:

Why cant people accept that their favorite (former) ghouls might have acted badly too, dont blame all of this on T. The reason we all know about this lawsuit is cuz of them, not T. We shouldnt know about this. This should have been private, reasons for firing and such. And the biggest thing, for me, is that they were supposed to be nameless so its your own fault for getting so attached to someone you were never supposed to even know. And to attack the new guys is just petty.

I agree to a degree. The lawsuit is public regardless, however it was totally unnecessary for any former member to talk publicly about it, especially since they were always so private, to try to persuade fans to side with them.

It’s the numbers game. 4 against 1, how can multiple people be in the wrong?

But there’s also a lot of ignorance revolving around everything…i can’t tell you how many people I’ve seen say things like “hope you pay these new guys” “pay your band members, T!” yadda yadda yadda, as if they’ve never seen a paycheck and Tobias personally put them out on the streets.

And it’s true, everyone made the choice to learn about the members and get attached. The people i know who aren’t attached and have never had any need to learn of the identities are totally unfazed by the changes. My one friend said “hey as long as they’re good live” he doesn’t see the issue.

Again, if they’re owed lost wages, they should be paid. But there’s still the chance of them being owed nothing, and this entire smear campaign was just to hurt Ts reputation.

anonymous asked:

may I ask you something because you've previously mentioned him before... can you tell anon who exactally paul pretner was? Bc I heard alot about him but dont really know and I heard he did something bad to/with freddie and anon is very concerned

Ok here goes. This is going to be a bit long. I have this to say first.

Now all my info comes from books, documentaries, newspaper interviews. I’ve previously been told I can’t use these as evidence because I don’t know it’s true. And yes, that could be the case, but in this situation, we Queen fans have to go on these things, because otherwise there wouldn’t be anything to talk about, apart from the music. We have to read things about Freddie and interpret them, otherwise what is the point of a fandom?

Ok Paul Prenter was, to the best of my knowledge an assistant for the whole band, and in time became one of Freddie’s assistants. They were sort of partners in crime, because Paul knew where to find the best gay bars and the best drugs. But I think he was a bad influence on Freddie. Freddie obviously had a wild, impulsive side and a proclivity to get himself into dangerous spots – he liked the dirtiest bars. Then I believe, as his behaviour spiralled out of control, Paul Prenter was encouraging it.

Friends feel that when they arrived at a Freddie party, Paul would be in control, that the party was very much his. (I got this info from a book called Is This The Real Life by Mark Blake, and the people being interviewed were an old friend of Freddie and also his roadie Peter Hince). According to them, Paul would be in control of the drugs and was a very confident guy, the life and soul if you will, and Freddie would kind of be on the sidelines. His roadie kind of feels that while Freddie was strong in his working life, that he wasn’t in control of his personal life. There is actually video evidence of this control – in the film of Freddie’s 39th birthday party, as Freddie blows out the candles on his cake, Paul Prenter’s hand comes across to pull him away. From his own cake. There is also a scene where Freddie is dancing with his boyfriend Jim and Paul is there with a sour face, whispering in his ear, and just generally getting in the way. Perhaps he didn’t want to see Freddie happy? Perhaps he was worried the boyfriend would steal some of his influence away?

Freddie’s roadie also witnessed Paul spend about a million (in Italian Lira) on a huge lump of cocaine from the Mafia of all things, and this was with Freddie’s money. Then he proceeded to chip away at it in a rage and snort all the tiny crumbs he’d dropped by mistake…so yeah whilst Freddie himself abused drugs, I feel he was kind of in the clutches of a domineering drug addict.

Mack, Queen’s producer noticed that Freddie was distracted in the recording studio and that Paul would be pacing the floor outside, checking his watch, because he was desperate to get Freddie out and into the gay bars of Munich. Mack feels he was a terrible influence, and as someone who Freddie confided in and allowed to stay with his family, I trust his opinion. This was all said on the Queen documentary from 2011 (the Days of Our Lives one).

The band also disliked him and feel he was an awful influence on Freddie. If a person sticks up for Paul Prenter, then to me, they are throwing away the concerns of Brian and Roger…and are not proper fans. Just my opinion!
According to the aforementioned documentary, Paul was telling Freddie to ditch Brian May because guitars were old fashioned, and was suggesting he didn’t need the band and should make gay club-style disco music instead. He even wanted full control over his creative ventures, or so it seems. Roger Taylor has discussed this in the documentary.

Here’s something that’s never been in documentaries, and again people will say they can’t be reliable because the info was gleaned by a journalist via a rentboy…but I have also read allusions to this in a (admittedly bitter sounding) book by David Minns, Freddie’s ex. The story goes that in Argentina 1981, Paul Prenter picked out some guys for Freddie, supplied them with cocaine and allowed them, one by one to perform sexual acts on Freddie before paying them, like he was Freddie’s pimp, and with Freddie being the prize for these prostitutes, who he also paid to do this. According to one of the men, Freddie looked like he was just ‘going through the motions’, and not enjoying it. Seeing as Freddie was under the influence of drugs, this to me, does not sound like consent. Disturbingly, Paul Prenter was watching the sexual acts, fully clothed, like some creepy voyeur. I believe it to be true to be honest. In David Minns’ book, he said he heard the disturbing story from Queen’s manager Jim Beach, and David feels what he got up to was so depraved that surely Freddie must have despised himself for allowing it. But I don’t think he had any control of himself at that point.

Queen, well Roger and Brian blame Paul Prenter for alienating the band from the USA. Or at least contributing to 1/3 of the problem. Here is a quote from Brian:

“We had this guy who looked after Freddie, who was called Paul Prenter, and he got a little too big for his boots I think. The reflected glory of Freddie gave him a lot of power and we’d worked very hard over the years to have a very good relationship with all of the media in the States, and Roger and I worked our asses over every time we played, we would go and do every radio station in town because we cared and we wanted to make that contact with the people. This guy in the course of one tour told every radio station to fuck off, but not just fuck off, but ‘Freddie says fuck off, Freddie says he doesn’t care about you’ and so we sort of lost our relationship with the media at a stroke.”

They didn’t even know this stuff had happened until much later, presumably Freddie apologised to them when he’d got rid of this dude?

So back to my thoughts. I guess when you’re a drug abuser and out of control, the only person who can really change the situation is oneself…so when Freddie appeared to get things under control, after he turned 39, he ditched Paul Prenter. But being a fundamentally decent guy, Freddie allowed him to stay in his flat rent free with money for the Christmas period. I guess he felt bad for sacking him? This information comes from Peter Hince, the roadie again. Anyway Paul trashed the flat. Freddie got rid of him for good eventually, and Paul Prenter screwed him over to the press, revealing his boyfriends and drug fueled escapades, his fears about AIDS and HIV tests he’d undergone. This has also been covered in that documentary, and the book written by his boyfriend Jim, and I think Phoebe Freestone’s book. Obviously Freddie never spoke to him again and didn’t trust anyone after that.

If anyone comes to me and says I shouldn’t speak ill of Prenter because I don’t know his side of the story, well I won’t have it, I don’t want to. He’s a talentless nobody, hell-bent on destroying a genius. I’ve heard more than enough. I support what the band say, and the general consensus is that he was a nasty piece of work, and Freddie shouldn’t have got involved with him, but obviously had impaired judgement.

Sorry that was so long, I have wanted to post something like this for a while.

anonymous asked:

Ok, so whenever I compliment anyone, they always just disagree and say it isn't true. I am the same. Why is everyone like this? You either think of yourself as less than what you are, or more than what you are. I haven't met anyone that's in between.

You know your flaws better than anyone ever will.
(Ex) You think im pretty? Well i have uneven ear lobes so im ugly //deadass so random but you get the point//

We accept less than what we deserve cause we dont believe we deserve anything at all

NOW if youre talking about people who have too much confidence… You get confidence like that by starting to believe the compliments and sooner or later it inflates your ego that you become very confident.

Being confident is not a bad thing. Overly confident? I dont believe there is such a thing. Bullying? Bullies dont have confidence, they put others down to hide their insecurities.

Having confidence is sexy, its enlightening and just great to be around. Looking good and knowing you look good you feel me? Im just rambling now so ill just stop but once that confidence turns into bullying or arrogance, its a different story I guess…

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