Care to give me some advice how to stop myself from liking somebody that will never like me back? Its really frustrating to always fall for the wrong person and I always end getting hurt over and over again. It makes me feel i'm never good enough.
You’re more than good enough
You’re beyond good enough
I don’t want to sound really lame, but I do this too and it sucks. And I think what it really comes down to is that quote “we accept the love we think we deserve.”
I think subconsciously maybe you go after people you know it won’t work out with. People who treat you badly and don’t make you feel good enough, because that’s how you feel within yourself and it’s what you think you deserve. People with low opinions of themselves tend to fall into a cycle of being mistreated because they can’t see they are worthy of much more.
And it works the opposite way too. Maybe you’re too good to someone and they don’t think they deserve it. They don’t know how to properly be loved and cared for and treated right, so when someone does do that for them, they don’t know how to react and they get scared and often walk away because it’s not what they’re used to and they don’t feel worthy.
I think if you want this to stop then it starts with you hun. You need to start loving yourself, caring for yourself, being your own inspiration and best friend and supporter. Once you start to care for yourself, you are easily able to notice when people aren’t treating you right and you’ll hopefully lose interest in them because fuck that. I know it’s so much easier said than done, and I’m working on it myself, but I think focusing on you and coming to terms with the amazing deserving person you are is a good place to start.