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“’Health’ is our new ‘beauty myth.’”

“It’s fascinating how we’ve been fooled into feeling like we’re reclaiming power by saying DON’T WORRY ABOUT YOUR SIZE, ONLY YOUR HEALTH! But really, what we’re doing is taking the exact same process of body oppression and giving it a new name. Our “diet industry” has become a “lifestyle change industry.”

“Defining worthiness by health and fitness level is not just about size discrimination. It’s also about classism. Racism. Ableism. And much more.”

“It’s not the individual actions, but rather a pattern of obsession and the inability to function that becomes concerning. And understandably, these extreme behaviors are easy to adopt when you fully believe that your value, worth, and right to exist relies on how ‘healthy’ you are.”

“They know that our beauty ideal evolves with every standard we shatter. They realize that a new one arrives just as we find self-love in a new way. They get that the obsession with proving and glorifying health and fitness is just another way to regulate people and hinder self-esteem.”

- Jes Baker, Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls

These quotes from chapter three were really thought provoking!  The focusing of our social narrative on health seems like a step in the right direction, but when society or culture puts values on certain bodies over others, we have to look deeper. 

A healthy body is good, yes, but not every body is healthy, and not every body can be healthy, and some bodies face institutional,/economic/political barriers to health. 

So suggesting that people strive for health the way we were/are supposed to strive for beauty (an unrealistic, often unreal standard) what are we really asking of people? And why

Discussion Question: Have you noticed our cultural shift to “healthy lifestyles”? What was your first impression, and how do you feel about it now? Do you recognize any similar  narrative techniques in how “health” and “beauty” are marketed?

Join our discussion at @lets-read-about-feminism

Some Hyunsik headcanons

•  Hyunsik loves the way you say his name
•  sometimes he’d be cheeky and get on your nerves just to have you scold him and repeat his name
•  but he also loves the way your name rolls off his tongue
•  he’d have any excuse just to talk about you or mention you during conversations
•  his fingers sometimes linger on your hair as he’s trying to work or recite his lines
•  the fact that your presence makes him forget about his stress is so comforting and he absolutely adores you for that
•  blushes a lot when you compliment his thicc thighs
•  bc he knows you love them
•  but the way your hands always finding a reason to touch them makes him hella flustered
•  tries his hand at cooking with you, and evidently fails
•  only bc he’s so distracted by the way your hands work and the frown on your face when you’re so focused- even if you’re not a great cook yourself
•  definitely will buy you both matching aprons
•  “kiss the cook, babe, or else I’m not letting you in the kitchen”
•  I know I’ve mentioned his eye smile a lot in his dating thing but…
•  HIS EYE SMILE
•  is legit the prettiest thing you’ve ever seen and you’re pretty sure you can hear angels singing whenever he smiles at you
•  his favorite way to fall asleep is to sing you a little melody or a song that he’s written, just before drifting off in your arms
•  for some reason he loves listening to drama ost’s and will blast them in his car when you’re out driving
•  his kisses are lazy, but hella passionate nonetheless
•  his hands are always intertwined with yours to the point of them always sweating
•  comes up with the cutest nicknames for you
•  “here, angel, I made you some toast”
•  “love of my life, can you please get my headphones from the drawer?”
•  “y/n dearest, may I have this dance?”
•  gets really upset when you miss the time to cuddle
•  “jagiiiiii you’re supposed to be here at 5 so we could watch star wars :(”
•  butt slaps bc he’s obsessed with your booty and you’re in love with his bc it jiggles
•  this boy is a heater and he’ll cuddle you to sleep during winter
•  love him and take care of him, he’s a sunshine 💖

Originally posted by defbeoms

anonymous asked:

When my mum lost her big sister she was devastated. My father wasn't at home in that period so I slept with her for a week or so, I didn't know what to say so I just stayed by her side. Now she is more strong than before and I think, I am sure, that Gemma and Harry gonna find the right way to help her and love her more than ever.

💖

Important messages from “Yuri!!! on Ice” to an athlete

1. You don’t have an expiration date. Yuuri is a “late bloomer”, you can be that too.

2. To succeed in your sport, you don’t have to be born with talent - hard work and dedication will bring you far.

3. Rivalry doesn’t exclude the possibility of a friendship.

Originally posted by rirens

4. What works for others might not work for you. You’re an individual and there’s not one correct answer to what will help you improve your athletic performance. Celestino wasn’t the right coach for Yuuri, ballet didn’t work for Otabek.

5. Some days - maybe weeks or months, even - you won’t perform the way you want to and know you can. That’s okay. You’ll figure it out. Everyone falls into a slump sometimes.

6. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you enjoy your sport. It’s supposed to be fun, even though it might seem to be all work and no fun.

7. You don’t have to fight alone . Don’t be afraid to ask for help - it might help you to develop your skills and help you out of a rough patch

Mourning bride: “I have lost all” (and I’m just a tad bit perturbed that the flower is really reminiscent of Shiro’s color scheme)

For the Flower Exchange HERE, for the wonderful Cilan(tuckersfelix) on twitter…I’ve been raring to do some sad sheith stuff for a while now so thanks for PROMPTING me to PROMPTLY finish this wonderful PROMPT you provided to accompany this IMPROMPTU ok I’ll stop now

But I do hope you enjoy

((Please don’t reupload elsewhere thank))

BONUSSSss:

digging that one flag

as a kid I watched her all the time and she was like my biggest idol and I’d say I wanted to be Miley when I’d grow up and now my 13 years old self (I’m 21 now) would be so damn proud now to read this billboard interview, how she decided to give up drugs and smoking and take herself seriously and use her talent right. best of luck for her, so happy to see someone with good heart back on right track, you know what they say life is the climb but the view is great, there’s ups and downs, but you will always find your way back home, welcome back, Miles ;) xx 

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January 14th, 2014. Detectives Peralta and Santiago conducted surveillance from a rooftop at 397 Barton Street. This is where we came the night I won our bet and you fell in love with me.

“Jake…”

“The night that you flirted with me for 20 seconds and I became obsessed with you forever.”

Patience yields focus.
I am lost now
but hold on
my dear.
Do not go out
and look for me.
Just stay.
Stay and wait
for me
with arms like
home
and a heart full
of love.
I will find my way back,
I promise you.
—  Lukas W. // Find my way
If we could somehow find a way to spill out the chaos that lives in our bloodstream, I think we would not be as congested as we are now. I think we could be happier.
—  Lukas W. // Find a way out
How Dan and phil probably broke up #38
  • Phil: *wins all or nothing*
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He’s, doing his best ,