The Kiss -  Robert Graves

Are you shaken, are you stirred
By a whisper of love,
Spellbound to a word
Does Time cease to move,
Till her calm grey eye
Expands to a sky
And the clouds of her hair
Like storms go by?

Then the lips that you have kissed
Turn to frost and fire,
And a white-steaming mist
Obscures desire:
So back to their birth
Fade water, air, earth,
And the First Power moves
Over void and dearth.

Is that Love? no, but Death,
A passion, a shout,
The deep in-breath,
The breath roaring out,
And once that is flown,
You must lie alone,
Without hope, without life,
Poor flesh, sad bone.

No yelling or screaming or blaming or fighting…nothing like the Hollywood portrayals of birth.

“A mother gives birth to her son. This photograph captured a momentous introduction of a mother and baby’s first exchange. The baby is suspended in time, half way inside his mother and the world; being guided out by his mother’s own hands. Photograph was captured by friend and doula of the mother.”

National Geographic Photo Contest, Photo and caption by Tara Garner


Many many people wanted to hear about water birth, so here it is!  Over here at TheMidwifeIsIn we love water birth.  

More resources:

Evidence Based Birth - Water Birth
About Water Birth
American Association of Birth Centers Position Statement on Water Birth
American College of Nurse Midwives Position Statement on Hydrotherapy
Word Document from the British Royal College of Midwives


One thing that really gets to me is the depiction of childbirth in the media and therefore the general idea of what it’s like to give birth - this idea tends to involve screaming and swearing women with scared partners, doctors yelling “PUSH!” while mom is on her back and then babies being whisked away by nurses. But birth does not have to be a traumatizing event.

This birth video is so beautiful and the woman is so relaxed that I would never have guessed her to be in the final phase of birth, ready to push. The process was left entirely up to her body, she knew when to push, she was not lying on her back, and no doctors or nurses were hovering because she knew exactly what to do. And dad was right there involved like a pro, even having skin-to-skin and sharing an herbal bath with babe. All measurements were done right there with mom, baby was never whisked away, breastfeeding was initiated almost immediately. This. This is birth.

This might make you cry:

“You were born in your caul, you swam out between my legs. It was 10.09pm, your Dad watched and told me how amazing it was to watch you come into the water in your caul and watch it float off your face, “Almost like a veil lifting” he said. Teresa encouraged me and coaxed me in my still shocked state to reach down and pick you up as I stated 

I wanted to do this (Your Dad was about to dive in if I didn’t). I looked down and for what seemed like much longer than it really was I saw your gorgeous face looking up at me, eyes open, arms moving slowly. The moment you and I shared staring at each other will always be imprinted firmly in my memory and the overwhelming feeling of love and pure joy as I reached down and brought you up out of the water, into air and into my arms where you took your first breath.”


Between Two Worlds
Photo and caption by Tara Garner

A mother gives birth to her son. This photograph captured a momentous introduction of a mother and baby’s first exchange. The baby is suspended in time, half way inside his mother and the world; being guided out by his mother’s own hands. Photograph was captured by friend and doula of the mother.

Location: Summertown, Tennessee

grapefruits-arebullshit asked:

What is water birthing? Are there any benefits to it? Are there any risks to it? Is water birthing better then regular birthing?

Water birth is awesome!  I love it.  And while this is not a particularly evidenced based argument, you’ve got to know that if I ever have a baby, I plan to try, at least, for a water birth.

Why, you ask?  Well, hot water ends up being this almost mystical pain relief for some people (most people) in labor.  As a healthcare practitioner it is amazing to watch.  Someone could be 100% freaking out, completely overwhelmed by the pain and the consistency of the contractions and you just plunge them into water and they completely collect themselves.  It gives them just as much relief as they need, but not so much that it stops them from being in labor.

What is a water birth?  Once a pregnant person’s labor has been established, they can get into a large tub full of warm water.  While in the tub they can be on hands-and-knees, reclining against the back of the tub, laying on their side, or whatever position is comfortable to them.  Once their cervix has dilated and they have the urge to push, they may do so in the water, as long as they are comfortable.  The baby is born under water, and it will not take its first breath until it is lifted up out of the water and hits air (phew!).  

Here are some facts:

  • Water birth reduces the need for epidural and other anesthesia/analgesia during labor.
  • Water birth reduces the amount of “tearing” of the perineum during the birth of the baby.
  • Water birth has no increase in adverse effects.
  • Water birth has no effect on the overall rate of c-sections or use of pitocin in labor.

Has anyone had a water birth who is willing to share their story?  Please tell us about it!  Did you love it?  Hate it?  We want to know.

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Montana’s Birth
I’ve contemplated whether or not to post this for a while. I find birth to be a very sacred and intimate experience and I wasn’t sure how I felt about sharing my experience with an online community. However, after all of the positive messages I received after sharing my birth story, I decided that sharing my story is important. 
I fully realize that this type of birth is not for every person or situation, but I hope that sharing my experience can help women to have faith in their bodies and realize that labor and birth need not be feared.

“The top ten non-narcotic pain relievers to be used while in labor”

ENCOURAGEMENT. Having people you trust tell you you’re doing great, your baby is doing great, and you’re not going to rip your body in half with the next contraction lessens the anxiety you feel, which takes the edge off the pain.

WATER. While in the shower or submerged in a tub of hot water, pain subsides for most women. Midwives call it the aquadural. In part this is because anxiety lessens. It’s hard to feel tense in soothing water, and in the tub buoyancy also relieves some of the physical pressure.

BIRTH BALLS. Make sure that the place where you plan to give birth has a few of those big, brightly colored balls made of strong plastic that you see in the gym. Straddling them spreads out the pressure on your cervix and flopping on top of one can also massage you as you experience another contraction.

BREATHING. The old childbirth standby from Lamaze classes is short, rhythmic breaths that allow you to focus on something outside your pain. Another technique is long, slow breaths that release the tension that is building inside you as labor progresses, or falls to progress. HypnoBirthing also teaches specific breathing techniques and self-hypnosis to take you into a relaxed state and create your body’s own natural anesthesia.

ACUPRESSURE. Experienced caregivers know just what body buttons to push to relieve your pain. They’ve been trained to seek out and apply pressure to the special spots unique to your body that soothe back labor or ease headaches. If you are planning to give birth without drugs, make sure to pick a caregiver who knows these spots well.

MOVEMENT. Walking, dancing, and swaying from side to side will all help labor progress and distract you from anticipating the next contraction. Even if you have found a comfortable position, you should move every thirty minutes or so to help shift your baby closer to being born.

MASSAGE. A partner or caregiver who knows how to knead your shoulders and neck can knock you into a lovely state of relaxation that will make the moment between contractions deeply restful and allow you to think about something besides the upcoming sensations. You might want to rehearse this before the big day so your partner knows what soothes you and you don’t have to pretend to tolerate a half-assed massage.

HOT PACKS OR COLD PACKS. The numbing effect of cold on the lower back or the soothing effect of a hot compress on the belly, or wherever else needed, works quickly.

VOCALIZING. Women are sometimes shy about making too much noise as they labor. Scream out! Lose your inhibitions! Not all of the vocalizing is screaming. Many women deep within the fugue state of labor let out beautiful deep moans that express how their body is adjusting as the baby moves. Whatever the sound you prefer, feel free to make it. Penn the mouth, open the cervix, and let that baby out!

HIRE A DOULA. These personal labor assistants are trained to support you emotionally and physically, but not to assist you in the medical aspects of birth as a midwife would. They stay with you for the entire birth and are skilled in all of the above techniques, plus they are a calming, experienced presence at times where your partner or family might not be. Studies say that having a doula can cut labor time in half. Many women prefer the hands-on attention of a doula to having an epidural.

—  “Your Best Birth”, by Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein, pages 25-27

anonymous asked:

How soon should a baby cry after birth? I've seen a few videos of waterbirths for example where the baby doesn't cry right away but no one is really concerned about that and the baby seems to be just fine. So is it ok if the baby doesn't cry for a minute or so as long as everything else seems healthy?

Babies do not have to cry after birth as long as we can see other signs that they are receiving enough oxygen.  We look at how tightly they hold their muscles, how pink and flushed their skin is, how quick their heart rate is, how well they are breathing.  As long as all those things seem in shape, the baby doesn’t have to cry.  In fact, a lot of waterbirth proponents point to exactly this fact to say that waterbirth is superior, since it is a gentler transition from womb to world, and babies can do it calmly, without the need for their first moments to be in tears.

Those things I listed above have been easily brought together by Dr. Virginia Apgar into The Apgar Score, for ease of evaluating babies immediately after birth.  Babies are scored at 1 minute of life and 5 minutes of life.  If the first two scores are low, another Apgar will be done at 10 minutes.