i think one thing the studyblr community doesn’t talk about enough is how hard it is to do any “self-care” actions while living with strict/abusive parents/guardians.
like when i was in high school, if i was “caught” watching TV or sitting outside in the sun reading a non-school-required book or even talking on the phone with friends, i’d get yelled and lectured at for “wasting” time and i should get back to studying or practicing violin, or if those were done then “great, why don’t you go do the laundry or cook dinner”.
i’m not saying i didn’t want to help around the house and whatnot, but i just… wanted to rest. to recuperate. to take a few minutes to myself to stay healthy. and it was so difficult to do that when my mom thought any second i was not studying or practicing violin was a second wasted and it was going to land me unemployed for life (literally her thoughts). and if i told her anything like “hey i don’t think i have the time for this” she’d just go “well so-and-so is taking these classes and doing these extracurriculars and blah blah blah so why can’t you why are you such a failure” etc etc. and wow.. that hurt.
so even if i did find a chance to rest and relax, i always had that fear and anxiety in the back of my mind that my mom would walk in at any second and start yelling at me.
but i did find times to truly 100% unwind, such as when she was engaged in a long phone call, or had left the house. so it wasn’t all too hopeless…
but yeah, for those of you out there who can relate and understand the reality of “self-care” isn’t always easy to obtain, i just want to let you know that you’re not alone. i understand telling you this doesn’t do anything to alleviate your situation, but i get you, and what you’re going through is awful, but real, and therefore your feelings are valid.
and i will also say that it gets better. if you have the opportunity to move out after employment or when you go to college, your life will become more and more your own. so hang in there <3
100,000 reasons why The Bold Type finale was beautiful, and why you should think so too.
So I’m a couple hours late but, I just finished watching The Bold Type season finale. To say that it was great is an understatement. It was undoubtedly exceptional in every sense of the world. Everything flowed wonderfully, from the subplots to the main. It was amazing to see these characters I’ve really come to love and appreciate as real women and role models, grow as people. My initial thought on Jane’s story this episode was that after deciding on the job at Incite she would recoil and eventually decide to stay at Scarlet. I’m so glad they proved me wrong. Scarlet is what Jane knows and had been her complete and ultimate life goal up until this point, it’s somewhere where she feels safe. She’s surrounded by her friends and supportive co-workers and not to mention an A+ boss as well as finally being in the workspace she desperately wanted. Everything she’s craved is at her fingertips, and she let it go. Seeing that was incredibly liberating, there’s so much pressure especially now to stay where we feel safe, to not branch out in fear of faliure. Seeing Jane being confident in her choice and knowing that she truly had to do this for herself was so important. Not only that but the fact that Kat and Sutton were so supportive and didn’t for one second hold Jane back is amazing. In so many shows we see the girl going back after making a “wild decision” trope and quiet frankly I’m over it. Let us see more girls fighting for what they want, taking risk and accepting the consequences. Not only is that powerful it is what is right. Taking risk shouldn’t even be a phrase in this day and age really. The fact that you’re making a decision shouldn’t be defined into such an elaborate term it should be normal because what your doing isn’t supposed to be thought of ending in a mistake, it should be taken as a positive thing.
Now let’s address the elephant in the room although in reality, it was anything but that. Sexual assault is often seen as a taboo topic in today’s media, it’s something that people don’t want to address. To see that tonight in this show was incredibly powerful Mia’s story is the story of so many others. To have something taken from you that is so precious, to take what is meant to be an act of love and turn it into something so vile, disgusting and inhumane is beyond me. There is no excuse for rape and no person should be allowed to walk free from it, they deserve to pay for what they did. They deserve to be locked up in a cell for doing just that to their victims mentally. For making these women and men feel as if they are prisoners in their own body, screaming for help to no avail. Although I have not personally experienced anything close to sexual assault in my life I do have some advice. I encourage you if you know it to say their name, say it until it’s a blur in your mind, scream it. Let them know that they cannot weaken you, that they do not get to own you in such a way. That you will fight back as hard as you can always. But allow someone every once in a while to hold the weights too.
Jacqueline Carlye is the reason why for the first time in my 17 years of life, I burst into tears while watching a television show.
On the outside Jacqueline seems to be this powerhouse of a woman, strong, graceful, and poised. Which is why it is so unfathomable to me that underneath it all there is a part of her that was taken advantage of in the most obscene of ways. To watch Jacqueline take the weights from Mia and own a part of her she kept hidden so long was powerful and is something that will resonate with me forever. She did not let what happened define her, instead she took it and used it to fuel herself to a position of power, but one that was rightfully earned. It was a beautiful scene.
Let’s talk about Kadena, my two beautiful qwoc and hopeless romantic ladies taking on the patriarchy one plane ticket at a time. LGBTQ+ representation is becoming more pronounced in mainstream media, which is insanely progressive. But the lack of qwoc representation is bar none. To see Kat and Adena be such strong and confident women and be willing to move mountains for each other is so so so important their not afraid to speaking their minds or stand their ground. The very idea of Kadena existing in this atmosphere is riveting and a step on the right path for so many reasons. They are the mouthpiece for women out their who aren’t able to let their voices be heard, to be who they are openly, so (pardon my French) they’re a huge fucking deal. Seeing Kat taking time away to focus on both Adena and herself is amazing, and much needed. Both Adena El- Amin and Kat Edison are two whirlwinds of women and I’m so grateful for their existence.
Sutton’s a badass ray of sunshine, watching Sutton become a true fixture in the fashion department is joyful. Her confidence in her decisions are incredible whether it’s figuring out who her heart belongs to, or choosing between the red or black Gucci bag you’re confident she’ll make the right choice in the end.
I’m so thankful that these women exist, in all the ways that truly matter, as a female looking to plop herself in the journalism field in the next year; these women show me it’s okay to make mistakes, to get your heart broken, to fall in love with the wrong person, with the right person, and to unleash holy hell on anyone who tries to get in your way. These are the women of The Bold Type, and so are you and I.
so whenever i got sick i would binge watch the outsiders tv show on youtube but than i found out there was a movie of the tv show or at least there was meant to be one??? like i’ve been looking for actual years like a weirdo but could never find anything on it. like am i insane and it was all a fever dream since i only watched it when i was sick or does anyone else actually remember/know something about this cause i know for a fact i’m not the only one like come on
Home is the best habitat for these two signs. Taurus is earthy and fixed, like a wooden floor or furniture, while Cancer is watery and cardinal, like the set of doilies bought to go well with the same light pink of the ceramic cups they use for hot chocolate milk. Cancer has a moody disposition, a strong need to give and receive affection, and Taurus loves just that: in every relationship between these two signs, Taurus reliability and loyalty emerge like the main stabilizing force, and set the best environment ever for both signs to live in.
As friends, the one that has the more adventurous Rising or Venus sign gets to start socializing with the other; if they’re both shy types, Cancer will probably take the lead. They’re both tender and slow-paced, two lovers of the cozy feeling of an afternoon spent eating chocolate, covered in several layers of blankets, possibly near a fireplace, watching TV while outside it’s raining. They’re the calm kind of people that only hangs out with responsible, good-humored and amiable friends, someone able of appreciating not only Taurus’ tasty sarcasm but also Cancer’s clingy affection and enthusiasm. They are not that fancy: every place where there’s a quiet atmosphere, relaxing music and good food is their place.
As lovers, Taurus will take a certain amount of time before being convinced that the relationship might work, but once that happens, it could last for years or forever. Both Cancer and Taurus express their love in materialistic ways: cooking, cuddling, buying presents, all the by-the-book classic style romance, and a lot of sex. Given their sedentary and physical nature, they wouldn’t be doing anything but that for a great percentage of their time; their lifetime would end up being equally distributed among workplace, kitchen and bedroom. Some Cancers, especially the ones that have an air dominance in their natal chart, would need to cut out a bit of time just for themselves every once in a while, but that wouldn’t be a problem: a sitting on a comfortable sofa, watching TV Taurus is a soon-asleep Taurus, and Cancer would have all the space he requires. Their lives are usually so full of one another’s presence that even friends would hardly fit in their schedule, although surely they would always be welcome to come dining in their living room.
As enemies, spoilt, evil Cancers could get perfidious and nagging, and that would be a real problem for any Taurus: sure, they are incredible furies when they get angry, but that takes an incommensurable amount of offense to be received, possibly with a quality of directness, before they start flipping tables. The usual Taurus would just opt for an ignoring policy and try not to hear or give a damn about what an enemy Cancer would say or do, but it would still make their level of stress and nervousness rise and make them malcontented. They would end up being bullied and do nothing about it; worst scenario, if their endurance is reinforced by an earthy chart, and if Cancer is part of the family or their partner, they could just go on putting up with them forever. They would need some fiery/airy placement and maybe some external help to get free from the situation.
Robert: I’m more of a ‘Zombieland’ or ‘Shaun of The Dead’ type of guy but I can appreciate the cool effects and effort that goes in keeping a show looking that good for so long.
Brian: I don’t really watch much TV outside of the reality TV I watch with Daisy, sorry
Damien: *He laughs nervously* It’s not that I’m afraid to watch it… I just don’t think it’s my thing..
Mat: Listen okay if I wanted my heart to beat so fast it hurt, I’d drink a galleon of coffee.
Craig: Bro, yes! I hardly have the time to sit and watch it but when I do, I binge whole seasons! I’m hooked!
Joseph: Mary made me sit and watch an episode once, I nearly threw up…
Hugo: Lucien usually comes round to mine to watch it with Ernest, so I’ve caught a few episodes. There’s a good story there, I can’t deny that, but it’s far too gory for my tastes. I end up at Damien’s most of the time.
Jay-Z, photographed for the December cover of BLAZE magazine at a
bodega by Chris Buck on October 6, 1998.
“He’s the man. This is a great example of taking shoots seriously because you never know what can happen. He was already a star at this time, but he’s obviously an icon now. The crazy thing about this is we shot on a large format camera in the Marcy Projects where he grew up. We had a great shoot, and this was by far the best moment. In a way, it doesn’t really look like a lot of my work, but it’s such a magical moment you know he’d never do now … It was the magazine’s idea to photograph Jay-Z spending his time as if he hadn’t become a hip-hop star. The whole idea was what would Jay-Z being doing if he didn’t become Jay-Z? Some of the others included him watching TV outside the projects where he grew up, watching his vehicle get towed, shopping in a corner deli, and working at a chicken joint. It was super fun.”
You are allowed to feel good and give yourself nice things. You’re allowed to walk by a mirror on a good day and think “damn, I’m hot.” You’re allowed to say it out loud, even if you’re out in public. You’re allowed to buy yourself a flower from the guy outside the grocery store just to put it behind your ear. You’re allowed to eat the food you want, not the food Cosmo says you should. You’re allowed to spend your day off cuddled up in bed watching TV rather than outside doing things. You’re allowed to make your own space as safe as you’d like. You’re allowed to ask your crush out on a date. You’re allowed to fulfill OR subvert stereotypes, whichever makes you comfortable. You are allowed to be happy, and you’re allowed to take steps toward that goal.