The thing that’s honestly hilarious about aggressive and moralistic anti shipping movements is that it literally does not matter at all.
Nobody outside of a very niche bubble and a small number of people even remotely gives a shit. They pour all this time and energy into something that absolutely nobody in the real world outside of the Internet gives a flying fuck about. It would be sad if it wasn’t so funny.
nobody is gonna give you a medal or free HRT for acting like a fucking gender cop. the system is not your friend. we’re out here lying to doctors for survival and demanding respect from an antagonistic system and you’re arguing about who is or isnt transgender like some sort of fan club for oppressive medical gatekeeping.
how the fuck do you profit from this. you’re wasting your time and your energy tearing other trans people down when you should have solidarity with them. you should be supporting all trans people, not just the ones whose gender you understand, not just the ones whose gender is respectable and palatable to YOU.
i can’t believe next year louis is going to win his first grammy and harry is going to win his first oscar and they’re going to experience it together and i’m going to be here for both of them because i’m so freaking proud of them both i could just burst
if you really think that by 30 (or other arbitrary age) people should stop having unusual or fun/silly interests like you have and should care only about taxes and briefcases, i hope you can cope with the fact that you’re extremely unlikely to meet that standard when you reach that age (which you will, sooner than you think)
if instead the idea is that by 30 you should be living a fuller life and you really see using tumblr (or whatever else) as incompatible with that, as a drain on your happiness and a waste of your limited time, then stop using tumblr now. live a full life now. there’s no need to put it off.
don’t postpone joy, and don’t expect yourself to become joyless. don’t count on transforming into a wildly different person in the next few years. looking down your nose at people older than you just alienates you from your own future. own your future and yourself, and be who you want to be.
you don’t have to prove that someone is abusive in order to cut them out of your life, if they’re wasting your time and energy, draining you, making you feel miserable, putting way less effort in communicating than you are, blocking your thoughts and opinions, triggering you, making you cry, causing you pain, making you feel awful about yourself - you can cut them off with no further reason needed “I need different things in life right now” is a reason enough.