You know what is sexist af and we don’t really talk about? How Supergirl writers view female vs male heroes.
Kara is a hero because she sacrifices in a selfless way for what is important. For others. Over and over again. She sacrifices herself whenever she is put in a dangerous situation, she sacrifices her emotional health, prioritizing others’. She sacrificed her love interest. She sacrificed her career to give people the truth. She is literally always sacrificing parts of her or her life in order to be a hero.
Yet somehow Mon-El is a hero without sacrifice? That is literally the whole plot he had. He did not sacrifice himself by protecting people, in fact, he barely did any fighting and the fighting he did do he was selfish and protected only the one person he wanted to fuck. He refused to find a job that required any type of sacrifice for others. He did not sacrifice himself when Kara was being tortured and he could have stopped it with the only consequences being that he would reveal his lies. He did not sacrifice himself when his parents showed up and he could go on to rule his people in a kinder, better way and free their slaves. He went with his mother to her spaceship, allowing her to kidnap Lena, then proceeded to not sacrifice himself when Kara told him to go, deciding instead to finally listen to what she said unlike all other times because finally, it was something selfish that he would willingly do, leaving Kara behind when he knew Rhea had Kryptonite and she could end up dying. He did not sacrifice anything in the finale, yes his mother died but he didn’t even seem to care much about that, in fact, knowing Kara’s history and loss, he still chose to make her click the button and murder thousands.
So why is he a hero? Why does Kara have to constantly sacrifice herself and what she loves to be a hero yet Mon-El is called one when he did not sacrifice anything in any way?