Hello! I'll try to answer your question about Johnlock: I think it's just plain intolerance. Johnlockians think they own the show because of the subtext it bathes in since the start. In their opinion, Johnlock is the only legit ship, Adlock, Sherlolly, warstan and so on can go rot, and if you don't see it, you're either stupid, blind, whatever, or simply homophobic. "Homophobic" is a word they use to justify how they treat others. Because if you don't see it, you don't like gays. Logical.
See, anon, that’s what I’m noticing as well. And it’s interesting, because since I’m trash and have seen spoilers and while I don’t find myself fully FULLY immersed in the show, I do enjoy the pre-season guessing and filing away theories, because I enjoy being disappointed and more so, I enjoy when I’m right about certain things because it proves that my degree is still being put to good use.
But the more I scrolled through the sherlock tag, and then the Johnlock tag, the more I noticed just how……….I don’t even know the right word, eccentric? maybe? they are. I’m glad they’re passionate; I really am. I remember being passionate, and then I remember…..when I first watched the show….how much I enjoyed it. But then people were telling me “but if you don’t ship the gays then you’re a terrible person” and it really made me confused. Of course thank goodness season 2 came out and that finale was what made me realize ‘oh shit maybe they really are gay let me fucking rewatch it all’ and then noticed the points people were making. But…..I’ve been fortunate to have my own small 5 person group of Johnlock and Sherlock fan friends so I can usually ignore the fandom as a whole. But I ventured in, a curious little beaver to see what they were making of theories, and the only thing I was greeted with was “ THEY GAY AND IF THEY NOT GAY THEN ITS NOT OUR FAULT ITS NOT MOFTISS BECAUSE THEY’RE GODS AND NO ONE ELSE CAN WRITE WELL SO THEREFORE ITS THE ANTIS. AND ANTIS ARE TERRIBLE AND HOMOPHOBIC AND IF THEY DISAGREE-”
And I had to put my phone down and walk away because never in my life (well that’s a lie) have I been so appalled and confused and taken aback by a fandom as a whole, and a ship sector of fandom that literally is out for blood against anyone that doesn’t agree with them.
I guess I’m a weird semi anti then……who’s hella gay but also hella homophobic.
If we take John’s halfhearted forgiveness scene at face value (and that’s a BIG if, but let’s just say we do), and if we take his burning of the thumb drive at face value (again, a huge if!), this is what that entire scene actually said:
John told Mary that the only thing that mattered was that she keep lying to him. She told him that if he read the thumb drive, he wouldn’t love her any more, and this is him agreeing. In burning it, he is literally saying, “you’re right: I don’t think I’ll love the real you. Our marriage can only work if we both pretend you’re someone else.” That’s the meaning of “is Mary Watson good enough for you?”. It means that it doesn’t matter what her real names are, first or last, because he doesn’t want to know. He tells her in this scene, with these actions, that he believes her that he wouldn’t like who she really is. She started out by lying about absolutely everything to him, and he tells her that the only way their marriage can work at all is if they both go on ignoring her real identity.
Mary gave John the thumb drive because Sherlock had already found out for him that she wasn’t anything like what she’d told him she was. She had no option. Yet she “bravely” handed over this information, which she conveniently just happened to have on her, as though in an act of courageous self-sacrifice. It was nothing of the sort; she’d been found out and backed into a corner. They could have taken it from her at will at any point. But John had already bracketed her with the criminals he and Sherlock usually dealt with, put himself in a group with Sherlock and Mary in a group with the scum and told her they would decide whether they wanted her or not. So she tried to spin the gesture of giving him the thumb drive as some sort of bravado on her part, because gaslighting and mind-fuckery is Mary’s entire game.
And even given all of that, John rejected it. He took her “brave gesture” and put it in the fire and said he didn’t want it.
People usually choose to lower their barriers and reveal themselves to the people that they love and it’s meant to be taken as a gift, an act of trust. John clearly established, by rejecting the “gift” of her information, that no trust can exist between them. It’s too late to start over and try to establish something genuine, something that he can believe in. “Is Mary Watson good enough?” he asked, the “no, don’t tell me who you really are; I don’t want to know” openly implied. He put Mary’s brave gift into the flames and told her to stick to her deceptions because he would rather stomach a mountain of lies than one shred of truth about the real her.
John and Mary’s daughter draws her Uncle Sherlock a card every time they have arts and crafts at play school and nobody ever mentions the way he goes pink and smiles to himself or the fact that his mantlepiece and his bookshelves and the fridge door are covered in pieces of brightly coloured paper