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Want Vs Need in Twin Suns

Ezra

Wants: To handle Maul alone to atone and drag Kenobi into his narrative essentially.

Needs: His family and to return to his own story.

Maul

Wants: To kill Obi-Wan, whom he pins as the source of his pains

Needs: To accept that the Empire was the true instigator of his tragedy and his revenge was all for naught.

The viewers

Wants: A grand Maul vs Obi-Wan duel lasting over three lightsaber moves.

Needs: A carefully written script and direction that emphasized a verbal exchange that reveals everything about the two men’s journey in life and a focus on an aftermath rather than the flash of the physical fight.

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First MEA post, wohoo! There will be more, I swear, but mostly content rather than discussions and ass long text posts, sorry about that everyone!! But I have a loooot on my mind I wanted to get out…

So, I don’t often participate in fan discussions, but a friend linked me this post about Reyes Vidal’s body language suggesting he likes control and instantly though it to be an interesting start for a character analysis of Reyes Vidal. Please go read the post because it is very interesting and has come good examples to illustrate their point! 

I want to expand on it below, but rather than looking at Reyes as someone who likes to be in control, I want to suggest that Reyes is someone who is comfortable with being in control, and there is a difference.

Reyes when romanced is indeed most of the time physically leading the interactions with Ryder, taking the active role whereas Ryder responds by following Reyes’ lead. This doesn’t necessarily mean that Reyes particularly desires to be the one leading - but it does tell he as experience leading, and thus feels comfortable leading. And with Ryder being so comfortable following his lead, I think it is natural that this is how their physical interactions will pan most of the time.

Why I want to suggest this doesn’t necessarily mean Reyes likes being in control is because of his reactions when it is Ryder who initiates or takes the lead. It doesn’t happen often, but it happens. We see it when Ryder uses his own line on him (he smiles fondly for a moment, before he turns around to respond. That delay could suggest he didn’t expect it, but he clearly enjoys being surprised. Someone who likes or feels a need to be in control does not like being surprised, I believe). We also see it when Ryder uses a kiss for distraction (once again, a pause then a positive reaction, and more importantly Reyes makes no attempt to take control over that kiss, just responds in kind, taking the situation in stride). I think in the cave, if Ryder flipped them around and took control, Reyes wouldn’t protest. Reyes previous reactions say otherwise, say he might’ve been surprised but that he’s quite capable of following as well as leading, even if he has a tendency for leading.

Ok, I got a bit carried away below, ahaha, trying to analyse Reyes and his motivations. If you don’t mind me going a little academic over all this, please continue.

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anonymous asked:

being urie truly is suffering, he is taking ui's place as furuta's punching bag and subject of really ironic lessons

It’s extra ironic when you remember this panel and realize that Urie actively wished that Bujin could see his father torn apart in pieces by a ghoul after sacrificing himself so the rest of the squad could live. 

Urie and Ui both have really ironic versions of the basic ‘Need vs. Want’ arc. Ui’s not really in this chapter so let’s focus on Urie. Urie’s want is to advance and be praised within the CCG for his strength, and there’s also a twisted want of his where he wants Bujin to understand his suffering, but not through empathy but rather to have hurt inflicted on Bujin the same way Urie suffered. He says at the beginning of the manga that Bujin’s father should have died. 

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About Natsu's (lack of) character arc

So, there are a lot of posts criticizing Fairy Tail thanks to this recent arc. I’m sure there’s someone out there talking about this exact same issue, but I admit I haven’t found that person yet… And in any case, I want to say my own piece about this subject. It’s been awhile since I wrote some sort of analysis here, but this is probably going to be long anyway.

I want to clarify something: I’m trying to be objective here. While my opinions and tastes will show up, what I’m going to focus here is on writing and structure. I want to talk about why Mashima’s writing is so ineffective lately, and why so many people call Natsu a Mary Sue or plainly dislike him. I’m not here to defend Natsu; I love him, sure, but he’s been a victim of terrible, awful writing. I 100% understand why people dislike him or even hate him. They have VERY good reasons to do so. What I want to do is explain why this happens.

Alright, now let’s start.

→ Inability to change.

At the start of the latest time skip I saw the first sign that I should drop any tiny bit of hope that I had for Natsu’s character. I was stupid and I kept that hope alive, sadly, but I really should’ve seen it coming.

Remember when he came back of the one-year-trip he took after Igneel’s death? How he had his long hair, and many people wanted him to keep it that way, but in the next chapter he came back to his usual look? 

It may seem silly, but to me this was a sign of a bigger problem. Usually, when there’s a time skip it’s expected that character designs change. Not only because it keeps things interesting, but also because people change with time. A change in design tends to reflect this. And I know it sounds stupid to worry about something so “insignificant”, but remember: manga is a visual medium just as much as it is a written one. Visual elements are as important here to tell the story as any other. For example: Lucy, the character who’s allowed to change the most throughout the story, gets a slight change in her design after this time skip. By contrast, Natsu doesn’t.

Following that small sign, we discover that Natsu’s personality hasn’t changed. Like, at all. A year has passed, and he hasn’t changed. Worse than that: He lost Igneel. And. He. Hasn’t. Changed. At. All.

Natsu’s motivation was established in the beginning of the manga: He wanted to find his adoptive father, Igneel, after he disappeared 7 years prior to the start of the story. That motivation was fulfilled in the Tartaros’ arc, followed by Igneel’s death. In one day, Natsu fulfilled a dream he spent seven years (or fourteen, I guess) pursuing… and then he had to see one of his worst fears come true. This is a pretty big thing for any person, but it’s also the culmination for a character arc. The character is at his lowest point, so he’s forced to grow in some way (whether it’s positive or negative).

But… we don’t see Natsu grow. Sure, we see him grieve for… a couple of panels, but that’s all. The chapter before the time skip, we see Natsu smiling and barely reacting to what happened, besides deciding that he has to become stronger. 

We don’t get much insight into him. And after that? A year passes and we don’t get to see Natsu’s struggles or his process of growth. What’s worse: when he comes back, he’s acting like he always acted. And there’s no insight that shows us that no, he changed, he’s just ACTING. We have nothing like that, he just… got better. And we don’t get to see it.

Look, this isn’t about his coping mechanisms or anything. It’s not about whether a person, in real life, can go through a situation like that and appear unchanged by all that happened. No, this is about the writing choices made for a character being utterly ineffective and incompetent. It’s not like we need much, honestly. We don’t need to have Natsu ranting in his thoughts about all the suffering he went through and how he changed. Small changes would’ve been enough. Maybe having Natsu smiling less, or showing sad smiles. Or maybe have him lose some of his will for fighting, at least when it comes to the reckless fights he does for fun. Those things are small, but they are effective.

But, what is Natsu’s character arc anyway? What did Mashima intend for him at the beginning of the story (or what he seemed to intend)? In my opinion, there are two major themes to what should’ve been Natsu’s character arc: Choosing between Igneel and Fairy Tail, and learning to deal with loss. Both of these themes should’ve culminated at the end of the Tartaros arc, but Mashima accidentally destroyed all the moments that lead to this.

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Wants VS Needs (Moving On)

Before the Sides enter Patton’s room, everyone was listening to Logan. It was obvious, mostly because he takes the leader position more naturally than the others - and also because he’s Logic, and you can’t argue with logic.

But then the moment they enter Patton’s room, it seems that something absolutely can argue with Logic.

And that is Emotion - Morality.

Often times, even if something is conisdered to be proven by fact, people will still argue with it because it does not align with their morals.

Cognitive Distortions

We see that the moment we enter Patton’s room… Everyone stops listening to reason and looks to their morals, their wants.

Not their needs.

Which is exactly why I propose that Thomas does know that he needs to get out of there…

But he wants to stay.

It will crush Thomas and all the Sides if he remains there even a second longer. I bet Thomas, and even Patton, are aware of this. Because it blinds them to reality.

Yet, Thomas doesn’t want to leave.

He wants to stay.

Forever.

☾ ☐ ♀ 

Moon Square Venus 

 I think one of the most problematic natal placements is Moon square Venus, it’s almost a romantic red flag to me. It’s no secret that squares create tension, this aspects tension relates to their social and intimate relationships; their emotions will be an active battleground, and everything felt will be intense and moving. Their seemingly continuous conflict between want and need leaves their emotions polarised: “I emotionally need this, but I’m attracted to this”. It’s important to understand that the Moon rules over the home and family; along with emotions and sensitivities. While Venus rules over love, beauty and relationships. The Moon is emotional, while Venus is aesthetic and artistic - so you can see how these two would so obviously clash when they meet so negatively. There is an apprehension about forming close emotional ties because of the responsibilities they bring. They want love, but don’t want the inconveniences brought with it. Their battle of want vs need shines light on a constant conflict: The physical attraction to a partner who does not suit them emotionally, and the lack of sexual attraction to someone they get along with easily. To resolve this dilemma, they should take one of two approaches: either learn to get along with someone they desire, or learn to desire someone they get along with. They may even measure their own success by intimate relationships and the amount of loyalty and devotion they receive. I think it’s important for people with this placement to acknowledge the depth of their feelings - only then can they overcome the tension of the square and open the door to understanding.

Venus synastry series! Ur-A-Making me crazy(Uranus⚡️)

* Venus in opposite to Uranus: “i don’t believe we’ve met”
- this love affair is categorized as something on the fringes of being drawn to someone who is on the polar opposite end of you. The opposition here colors this synastry with a constant tug of war of wanting and needing vs aversion and repulsion. From the start be it platonic or romantic you feel a strong undercurrent of electric tension with this person. The Venus person often feels electric and jolted by the energy of the Uranus person but over time may grow to resent Uranus and their more erratic and unreliable behaviors-that being said it can be hard for them to disengage from the emotional aspect despite this. Uranus here may take on the role of the aloof spirit the hot and cold Assailant be it unconsciously and sometimes due to the nature of the opposition a level of awareness might be prevalent here on both ends. You might both know what’s going on and what you’re doing but secretly get off on the discord that is brewed by this connection. So long as both natives involved keep the chaos and back and forth momentum to a minimum so not to exhaust either persons involved this union will have a very distinctive and volt like tension just beneath that will always propel the two into a new level of consciousness.


* Venus in square to Uranus: “something feels inescapable about this”
- Unlike the opposition this love affair has a different energy all together-something draped in intensity and something unconscious and raw. Often times this is seen as the “love at first sight aspect” and the lore behind this still stands! Like with all Uranus and Venus aspects intense attraction is always indicated but! With the square the energy is often so overwhelming and so abundant that it lacks a harmonious outlet to send the various shockwaves-this not only super charges the individuals involved but it also makes it hard for one another to balance their desires. The Uranus person may unconsciously run away from the venus persons love and affection and may miss them terribly once their away. While the venus person craves the Uranus person insatiably so-yet finds it hard to control their over inflated need for intimacy from the Uranus person. They scare one another-be it platonic or romantic. Deep and passionate feelings are aroused in one another and at times it can be hard to just be “normal” you often fly in and out of each others lives and may find that this relationship has hard ons that rage like a roaring flame covering the whole solar system in a brilliant gleam-or it’ll be distant and off like a endless volcanic winter shrouding the entire planet in a cold and dreary atmosphere. The key here is to understand that you both have strong feelings for one another and it’s okay to be scared but don’t project your fear of letting go onto one another! Instead transform the feeling into faith in one another and what you have! It’s okay to not know what the f$ck is going on! That’s part of what makes this so amazing! The ambiguity of it

* Venus in inconjunct to Uranus: “in our last life you were lightning as I was sky”
- Ah this connection is much different you see as the inconjcunt carries a heavy and karmic energy to it-one that resonates from a past interlude of turbulence. This relationship is often a combination of tension and discord. You feel unnerved by one another and often times a feeling of restlessness describes your get togethers. The reason being for this is the uranian energy isn’t displaced evenly-causing a uneasy flow to Venus. Often times the venus person may cling and chase after Uranus after a feeling of needing to “know” and “wanting” while Uranus may not run away but could express their restless and uneasy energy by being cold and sometimes self destructive. The Uranus person has a deep love for Venus but may not be able to easily open up to the idea of vulnerability. While Venus may struggle to easily be affectionate out of fear of rejection. The key here is to open up to one another and communicate! Try messaging first! Try anything that is a bit less in your face as face to face interactions may be a bit overwhelming early on

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Legit Tip #181

or - “Character Want Vs. Character Need”

Characters don’t always have a concrete motivation or goal. But sometimes they do, be it revenge, or money, or power, or the love of the hot princess. 

We’re going to call that goal the “Character Want.” 

However, sometimes when your story is about a Character Want, it’s kind of… well… boring if your resolve the story and they just get it. There’s no conflict there. There’s nothing interesting about that. And what does that tell us, the reader? What does that give us? That’s a story that just goes straight from Point A to Point B. 

And besides, sometimes what you want in life isn’t always what you need. 

Introducing that need - the “Character Need” we’ll call it - as the resolution of your story, the thing that they actually receive as their reward for all their efforts, is far more interesting. And it leads to a much more engaging story, because you show the reader how the character grows and changes as a person from wanting something to accepting what they actually need.

(Now, as an aside, what they need may be good or bad. I’ll get to that in a second when I give my examples.)

So let’s start with some scenarios:

1. A character, Reya, wants revenge for her brother’s death. She gains employ as a servant in the manor house of the Sheriff who ordered him killed. While there she learns that the man is just one small part of a greater plot that threatens the kingdom. 

Reya, who to this point has been unconcerned about anyone but her own family, needs to let go of her anger and her desire for revenge in order to help unravel this plot and help save the lives of others.

2. Lady Yasmine is in love with Prince Horatio , but he’s already engaged and seemingly perfectly happy with the arrangement. Her want is to win the prince’s hand. Fortunately, the prince’s sister, Princess Cordelia, seems happy to help break up him and his fiancee for some reason. The two work together, but by the end the two have fallen in love. It seems that Princess Cordelia was what Lady Yasmine needed all along. (Okay, this one was a bit cliche, but it was a fun example.)

3. A sorcerer has been cursed because of the dark magic he used to perform and wants to be cleansed. A young witch with the power to perform the cleansing agrees to help him if he helps her find her father. The two work together, but finally the sorcerer realizes that it was because of his dark actions in the past that the girl’s father is now dead. He performs one last bit of magic to switch places with the girl’s father in the underworld, damning himself for eternity.

(Remember how I mentioned that what a character needs may be “bad”? I guess I should clarify. What he receives here is redemption of a sort, so in a way it’s not ALL bad.)

So anyway, as you can see, switching from a want to a need through the course of a story and using that as your conflict is a very effective storytelling device and is a great way to develop plot. I hope you find this useful when it comes to understanding character motivation! 

anonymous asked:

God, I realized there are so many Libras with Venus in scorpio on your blog How would you describe us ?

lmao yeah there are a lot of us! We’re demons that act like angels.

Compared to Libras with other Venus signs, Libra Sun with Scorpio Venus:
-more sassy, more blunt
-dresses down or in darker colors
-cares about their appearance in a much more lowkey way
-sharp gaze, likely to stare
-possibly more shy, less likely to be that bubbly outgoing Libra social butterfly
-still polite but less likely to go out of their way to make friends or try new things
-private, avoids talking about themselves
-lives in their heads
-bored easily
-sensitive, easily offended, takes things personally
-looks at emotional & psychological issues
-can read people well, known their intentions
-wolf in sheep’s clothing
-uses their naive appearance to secretly manipulate people (people naturally assume that they are helpless angel babies and therefore won’t believe we ever do anything wrong)
-clever, cunning
-possibly attracted to dangerous, mysterious people
-angsty!!!!! brooding!!!!!
-feels very contradicted between what they want vs what they need
-needs to form strong emotional bonds and connections with people


*in my personal experience and interpretation*

Wants vs. Needs of the signs in a relationship
  • Aries:
  • WANTS - Someone to show off. Someone who makes you feel passionate and excited all the time. A hot body, a nice face. Someone with smooth moves.
  • NEEDS - Someone patient and forgiving. Someone intelligent and witty. Someone you won't get bored of. Someone who won't run away when things get rough.
  • Taurus:
  • WANTS - A fixer-upper. Nicholas Sparks-type scenes. Lots of gifts. Undying attention. Someone who will agree with you and make you feel desirable and attractive.
  • NEEDS - Someone who shares your views. Someone who respects you. A healthy amount of attention and material gifts. Someone who knows they're good enough for you. Someone who knows you're good enough for them.
  • Gemini:
  • WANTS - A genius. A comedian. A hot mess. In other words, your twin flame.
  • NEEDS - Wisdom to balance out knowledge. Someone with impulse control. Someone forgiving and understanding. Ears to listen...for a while.
  • Cancer:
  • WANTS - A romance-novel character. Lots of hugs, gifts, and reassurance. Someone who won't hurt your feelings. Someone who knows exactly what you're thinking and what you want.
  • NEEDS - Someone to help you lighten up a little. Honesty. Security. Someone extraordinarily patient. Loyalty.
  • Leo:
  • WANTS - Someone to show off to your friends. Someone to make you more popular. Attention out the wazoo. An admirer, your biggest fan. Undying support in everything you do.
  • NEEDS - Someone wise and understanding. Someone you respect, and who respects you. Someone to be straight with you. Loyalty. Forgiveness. Someone who knows the value in the little gestures.
  • Virgo:
  • WANTS - Someone self-sustainable. Intelligence and common sense. Someone who can give you space. Someone who will listen to you and accept your criticism.
  • NEEDS - Someone to light up your life. Someone you never get bored of. A bit of mystery. Someone who knows who they are. Someone who appreciates all that you do.
  • Libra:
  • WANTS - Someone to be romantic with. That cute couple aesthetic. Attention. A pretty face and a brilliant mind.
  • NEEDS - A best friend. A mediator. Someone who won't take advantage of you. Someone you can really talk to.
  • Scorpio:
  • WANTS - Someone who adores you. Submission. Omnipresence in their life. Complete devotion. Control. Passion.
  • NEEDS - A mystery. Respect. A healthy amount of push-back. Someone you know you can trust. Someone you know who will not hurt you. Undying loyalty. Honesty.
  • Sagittarius:
  • WANTS - A travel buddy. A daredevil. Someone spunky and free. Someone "exotic", mysterious, foreign. Someone who isn't interested in textbook romance.
  • NEEDS - Someone who gets you. Someone with common sense. Someone who can forgive your little flubs. Independence. Consistency. Someone you could travel around the world with and not hate them afterwards.
  • Capricorn:
  • WANTS - Perfection. Loyalty. A mystery. A romance that doesn't get in the way of work. Someone like-minded and intelligent.
  • NEEDS - Someone to help you see the best side of things. Imagination and youth. Loyalty and respect. Someone who's okay with being dominated, but not a pushover.
  • Aquarius:
  • WANTS - A mad scientist. A genius. A poet. Someone to share your interests with. A best friend. Freedom.
  • NEEDS - Independence. Trust. Consistent communication. A best friend. A kind of intelligence you don't have.
  • Pisces:
  • WANTS - A fairy-tale romance. A tortured artist. Someone you want to "fix". Someone you view as "the underdog". Someone who's sensitive, artistic, and poetic. Someone who dazzles you.
  • NEEDS - Stability. Honesty. Patience. Someone who walk all over you. Someone who doesn't need you to fix them. Someone who will always wait for you to come back
What you want vs. what you need (look at venus for want and juno for need)

Aries: someone who can keep up with you and maybe out run you.

Taurus: someone who is creative and inspirational in their own way.

Gemini: someone who is always going to be playful in life.

Cancer: someone who isn’t afraid to show their emotions.

Leo: someone who is comfortable in who they are and shows it.

Virgo: someone who likes order and believes in equality.

Libra: someone who is always happy with an infectious laugh.

Scorpio: someone who gives great advice and is fiercely loyal.

Sagittarius: someone who is always honest with you about how they feel.

Capricorn: someone who is always ready to try new things.

Aquarius: someone who notices all the little things you do and like.

Pisces: someone who will love you unconditionally through whatever happens.

anonymous asked:

Good grief, some anons really need to take a screenwriting class or a story & structure class. Jon has been saying "I'm not a Stark" since S1, EP1. He still feels that way now, 7 season later. Jon loves his family yes, but he’s ALWAYS felt like an outsider. It’s a running theme with his character. His character arc though the show is of self-identity. Who is he? Where does he belong? It’s why he joined the Night's Watch, because he he wanted a place to feel like he really belonged. [1/5]

“Where do I belong?” is Jon’s internal central conflict in GOT. (His external conflict is the fight against the WW). In turn, Dany’s internal central conflict is wondering where she belongs, where she can finally find a home. In the books, that is symbolized with her remembering the feeling of being “home” as a house with a red door. In the show, she thought she would have that feeling of home when she returned to Dragonstone, but she didn’t. [2/5]

Jon and Dany both have a “want vs need” in relation to this. Jon has always WANTED to be a Stark, to be Lord of Winterfell. It’s the only thing he ever wanted as he confirmed to Sam in S5. At the end of S6, he not only gets it, but more as KITN. He’s gotten what he wanted, but it hasn’t changed or resolved his “Where do I belong” internal conflict. Just like joining the Night’s Watch didn’t. Dame with Dany. She’s finally in Westeros fighting for the throne but still doesn’t feel “home.” [3/5]

The resolution to BOTH of these internal central conflicts is clearly going to be “I belong with her” for Jon and “My home is with him” for Dany. For Jon, that will not just come from falling for her, but in that she is related to a missing part of himself he’s felt since childhood, which will answer the “Who am I?” internal conflict. He thinks he’s a motherless bastard. The truth however, brings him together with the same thing that will resolve the “Where do I belong” internal conflict. [4/5]

Also I know he technically fulfilled his vows, living and dying as a member of the Night’s Watch, but Dany doesn’t know that. That’s what I was getting at. I’m sorry for the length of this ask. I could have just reblog one of the post and answered it there, but I’m not really ready to bring these types of discussion & thoughts to my own blog just yet. Your blog is great for talking about Jon & Dany, and I really appreciate the time you’re taking in dealing with the load of asks you have. [5/5]


Wow, anon! This is an excellent analysis and a pretty good response to some of the arguments I received last night. Thanks for sending this. I have nothing to add. And thanks for reading my blog and offering your insights :)